644 Kindness or Control? | The Hidden Layers of Codependency

I am so excited to welcome my science girl crush, Leah Elson, to the show to talk about a variety of things: her book, There Are No Stupid Questions in Science, why she's so passionate about being a public science communicator, her pivot from sportscasting into this field, and how she is working to give herself more grace and place less pressure on herself.  If you're a fellow high-functioning codependent, I really think this is one you'll relate to! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/649

Do you believe that setting boundaries means being confrontational? Do you wish you knew how to cut someone off nicely, especially if it involves a professional relationship? Are you tired of confiding in others only for them to make your own pain into something about them? Or have you wondered if it’s ever okay to “jump in and fix things” for someone who is struggling? These are just some questions I’m answering about boundaries and high-functioning codependency in this episode. Let’s dive in. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/648

I am so excited to have my pal, best-selling author and speaking expert, Ashley Stahl back on the show to talk all things public speaking! Whether you want to give keynote speeches, give a presentation at work, or pitch a crucial project, Ashley's tips will help you shine. We talked about the aspects of viral speeches, from the title to the opening and structure, as well as stage presence and the power of pausing. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/647

Does it feel like if you don’t fix problems or move things forward, no one will? Do you feel overly responsible, like everything will fall apart if you don’t do all the things? Do you just find yourself saying, “It's just faster/easier/more efficient if I do it myself”? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I am talking about the five traits of high-functioning codependency (HFC), the cycle of codependency I often see my clients go through, and how to shift from over-doing and over-giving into more balance and less exhaustion. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/646

I am thrilled to welcome world-renowned grief expert, David Kessler, to the show to talk about his new workbook, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief Workbook: Tools for Releasing Pain and Remembering with Love. Unresolved grief is so common, and I love the way David makes this topic so accessible. During this conversation, we talk about ALL kinds of grief, because it's not just about losing someone you love. It's also about endings and abrupt changes.  David is such a kind soul and no matter what loss you've experienced, I think you'll find comfort and hope in his message. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/645

Do you automatically accommodate others because it’s the “nice” thing to do? Do you consistently overthink how your actions will impact others? Are you always on the lookout for how you can help people or solve problems? If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between codependent, caring, or controlling behavior, this episode is for you.  I’m breaking down the distinction by discussing a little-known aspect of codependency, sharing real-life examples to clarify, and providing tips on how to shift from codependency to healthy giving. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/644

I am so thrilled to welcome Hospice Nurse Julie to the show to talk to us all about end-of-life care: what to expect, what actively dying looks like, why it's so important to normalize discussing death, and what inspired Julie to start posting on TikTok and write her book, Nothing to Fear: Demystifying Death to Live More Fully. If you're afraid of dying, or even thinking about death, this conversation might just be the one you need to hear. Julie's content went viral on TikTok just after 4 days which speaks to the need for education around death and dying. And getting educated often reduces our fear around it, so I hope you enjoy this conversation with Julie as much as I did. CW: a large portion of this conversation focuses on death and dying, and Julie talks about what actively dying looks like at the 22 minute mark. If you're sensitive to this, please consider skipping that section or this conversation. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/643

Do you find it hard to open up to people, especially when you’re struggling? Is it hard for you to ask for or allow help? Have you ever had a crisis where you kept what was happening to yourself because you didn’t want to worry anyone?  If you’re nodding yes, today’s video is for you because I’m sharing the high-functioning codependent (HFC) behaviors I noticed in myself as I navigated a recent health scare.  I’m also talking about the hidden cost of not asking for help.  By sharing my story, I hope to inspire you to care for your health and let other people show up for you. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/642

I am so excited to have my pal and one half of The Astrotwins, Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about her and Tali's new book, The Astrology Advantage: Use Your Horoscope for Personal and Professional Success.  It’s a new way of looking at your birth chart to figure out which archetype you are: Innovator, Authority, or Maven. Ophira dives into what each type does best (we're both Innovators!) and how she and Tali created it.  We also talk about how Ophira got into astrology, how she got me into it, and how it can be a useful tool in your life. I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/641

Have you ever wondered whether you’re too close with your family of origin? Does it feel like your life kinda revolves around them? Or are you guilted and shamed by them for wanting to pursue your own thing? Then this episode is for you because it’s all about family enmeshment: what it is, five signs to identify whether you grew up in this type of family system, the impact it has on us as adults, and how to begin thinking about setting healthy boundaries with your family. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/640