#127 - The Real Reason You Have Anxious Attachment (And How to Heal It)

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I break down one of the biggest illusions in modern relationships — the anxious attachment cycle.We’ll dive into why love can feel like withdrawal, how validation becomes a drug, and why so many of us keep mistaking intensity for intimacy. I explore what really happens when your nervous system mistakes fear for love, and how that pulls you into chasing, controlling, and losing yourself trying to feel “safe.”You’ll learn how to recognize when you’ve lost your center, how to reclaim it without shutting down emotionally, and why true security comes from the inside out — not from a perfectly reassuring partner. Most of all, I’ll share the practices that helped me move from dependency to devotion, from needing love to being love.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I break down the five stages every soul moves through on the journey from unconscious existence to divine remembrance — from playing life on autopilot to realizing you are the creator of it all.We explore what it really means to wake up — not as a concept, but as a lived transformation. Why we stay trapped in “NPC mode,” numbing our pain, chasing distractions, and mistaking survival for living. How the human game repeats itself through cycles of illusion, suffering, and healing until we finally remember who we are.You’ll learn how shame keeps you disconnected from your wholeness, how desire and attachment perpetuate karma, and why the final level of awakening isn’t about becoming more — it’s about dissolving the self entirely.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I uncover the hidden trap that keeps so many of us stuck in love with people who never truly existed.We’ll explore why so many relationships feel intoxicating at first but crumble later — because what we were in love with wasn’t the person, but the fantasy we projected onto them. I break down how “projection paralysis” blinds us to red flags, silences our intuition, and keeps us clinging to illusions of “the One” while ignoring the human being right in front of us.You’ll learn how childhood conditioning trains us to idealize others, why the myth of perfection sabotages intimacy, and how to break free from the cycle of falling for ghosts. Most importantly, I’ll show you how real love is born — not in chasing fantasy, but in the courage to see and accept each other’s humanity, shadows, and imperfections.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I confront one of the most anxiety-charged struggles women face in their 30s: the fear that time is running out for love.We’ll break down why age pressure creates desperation, why so many women over 30 settle for partners who can’t meet their needs, and the harsh truth about what it really takes to build a stable relationship after years of chaos.I reveal how chasing chemistry, ignoring compatibility, and waiting for someone to “save you” are the very patterns that keep love out of reach. And I’ll show you why your 30s are not a death sentence for romance. but the perfect mirror forcing you to face the deeper wounds, beliefs, and habits that block lasting love.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I expose the hidden pattern that keeps the kindest, sweetest people trapped in cycles of heartbreak.We’ll dive into why “being nice” so often backfires in dating — why the very instinct to please, adapt, and win approval leads to giving away your power, abandoning your true self, and attracting partners who never really value you.I’ll reveal how people-pleasing isn’t a sign of kindness at all, but of a deeper wound: the childhood imprint of believing you had to become someone else to deserve love. And I’ll show you how this single belief silently shapes every date, every text, every relationship.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I reveal the hidden wound that keeps even the most radiant, successful women stuck in relationships with men who never fully choose them.We’ll uncover why women fall for the player they hope to change, stay with the man who won’t commit, or settle for breadcrumbs from someone emotionally unavailable. I’ll show you how these patterns all trace back to one core childhood imprint: not feeling fully chosen for who you truly were.By the end of this episode, you’ll understand why you’ve been drawn to men who withhold love, how to stop mistaking breadcrumbs for devotion, and what it really means to choose yourself so you can finally attract a man who chooses all of you.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I expose one of the biggest sources of confusion in love: the difference between what women think they want in a man and what they actually desire.We’ll break down why women lose attraction to the “safe nice guy,” why they keep running back to the “a$$h*le" and why both leave them unfulfilled. More importantly, I’ll reveal what women truly crave: a man rooted in truth, strength, and heart, and why this kind of man terrifies them as much as he excites them.By the end of this episode, you’ll have clarity in your body about what you really want in a partner, why you’ve been sabotaging yourself, and how to finally experience both safety and desire in the same relationship.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode, I sit down with Ryan Moresby-White to explore the painful truth most men avoid: how unhealed boys show up in adult relationships and sabotage the very love they crave. Ryan shares his journey of growing up emotionally disconnected, carrying the grief of his family system, and realizing that beneath his achievements was still a scared little boy running the show.We dive into why women pull away when they feel a man’s wounded boy, how unprocessed grief keeps men stuck in cycles of abandonment, and why “being a safe man” has nothing to do with perfection and everything to do with owning your nervous system. This isn’t theory... it’s the lived initiation of heartbreak, shame, and deep inner work that transforms a boy into a man.Ryan's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode I share the biggest realization I have had about sacred union, one that completely changed my marriage and how I see relationships. I discovered that when I brought fear to my wife, she instantly went into survival mode, no matter how carefully I chose my words. When I learned to regulate that fear and come to her with love, ownership, and presence, everything shifted.I also explore why women are unconsciously allergic to male fear, how the feminine expands whatever energy she receives tenfold, and why the greatest gift a man can offer is safety. These lessons did not come from books. They came from my own initiations, mistakes, and hard-won growth.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

If you’re still waiting to be chosen, this one’s for you.Waiting for the text.Waiting for the guy.Waiting for the moment it finally feels like you’re enough.But what if you’ve been waiting for something that was never coming?In this episode, I break down one of the most important archetypes I’ve ever studied on the feminine path: The Wounded Maiden.She’s the version of you that still believes being loved means being saved.That power comes from being desired.That worth is proven by who stays.Using the myth of Persephone, I explore what it actually takes to move from unconscious innocence into sacred womanhood, and why most women never make the leap.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com