#114 - Stop Testing Love: How You're DESTROYING Your Relationship Without Realizing It

So many of us confuse love with proving. We fall into the trap of making the person we love jump through hoops to earn what should be freely given. Why? Because a part of us doesn’t feel safe. A part of us still believes love will disappear, and we’d rather control it than risk losing it.In this episode, I expose how “testing love” is often a trauma response in disguise. I walk you through the psychology of abandonment wounds, the shadow that fuels mistrust, and why your nervous system might be sabotaging the very thing your soul is craving.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

This episode is for anyone who has ever asked themselves, am I being loved for who I am or for what I do?In this episode, I sit down with Sacred Thomas to explore the invisible weight we carry when we tie our worth to performance. We talk about growing up in survival mode, the pressure to succeed, and the fear of being a burden. We unpack avoidant and anxious attachment, the wounds we bring into love, and the path to feeling safe enough to stay open.If you are building something that matters, in your work or your relationships, this episode will meet you where you are. It is a conversation about healing, creating, and becoming the kind of person who can hold what you are asking for.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

This episode is for anyone who’s ever found themselves in a fight with the person they love most — and walked away wondering, why did we just do that?You’re not trying to hurt them. You’re trying to protect yourself. But in that moment, something deeper takes over — a wounded part of you that turns love into a battlefield. And suddenly, it’s not about connection anymore. It’s about being right. About not losing.In this episode, I break down the Warrior Lover — an archetype that lives in all of us. The part that’s willing to fight for the relationship, not against it. I share the painful moment that led me to this realization, what it taught me about masculine presence, and how the ego quietly hijacks even our most sacred connections.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt the weight of love start to slip through their fingers, even when everything should be working.You’re in love. You’ve chosen each other. But something keeps pulling you apart. The arguments feel meaningless. The distance feels unexplainable. And no matter how much you talk about it, the same patterns keep showing up.In this episode, I explore the deeper spiritual mechanics behind relationship disconnection. From karmic loops and family trauma to anxious and avoidant patterns, we dive into why so many sacred unions are tested just before they expand. I also share my own story, and how I had to face the hidden wounds that kept recreating the pain I swore I’d never repeat.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt the weight of love start to slip through their fingers, even when everything should be working.You’re in love. You’ve chosen each other. But something keeps pulling you apart. The arguments feel meaningless. The distance feels unexplainable. And no matter how much you talk about it, the same patterns keep showing up.In this episode, I explore the deeper spiritual mechanics behind relationship disconnection. From karmic loops and family trauma to anxious and avoidant patterns, we dive into why so many sacred unions are tested just before they expand. I also share my own story, and how I had to face the hidden wounds that kept recreating the pain I swore I’d never repeat.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

In this episode, I’m pulling back the veil on one of the most painful — and illuminating — experiences we can have in love: being entangled with a narcissist.We’re taught narcissists are just selfish and manipulative, but that’s only the surface. The truth? A narcissist is a wounded child hiding behind a mask of power — and empaths, in their deep sensitivity, often mistake that mask for strength.This episode is a raw, unfiltered exploration of the empath–narcissist dynamic: why we attract it, how we mistake charm for love, and what it really takes to break free.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode, I’m diving into one of the most misunderstood truths about love: neediness isn’t weakness — it’s misdirected truth.For most of my life, I thought having needs made me unlovable. So I hid them, twisted them, performed around them. But every time I chased validation, pulled away to get closer, or fished for love in subtle ways... I wasn’t being needy. I was being unseen — mostly by myself.This episode is a raw exploration of what happens when we stop apologizing for our emotional needs and start owning them without shame. I unpack how unspoken needs become manipulation, how childhood wounds shape adult relationships, and why expressing what you really want is the most courageous thing you can do in love.If you’ve ever felt too much for wanting closeness — or not enough when you need space — this conversation will show you the path to intimacy that actually heals.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most seductive lies in the spiritual and dating space: the idea that you need to “be more feminine” or “more masculine” to attract real love.I used to believe it too. I studied the books, practiced the polarity scripts, tried to become the perfect masculine man. But the more I performed, the emptier I felt. Until I realized: the real reason it wasn’t working wasn’t because I wasn’t doing it right. It’s because I wasn’t being me.This episode is a raw, unfiltered reflection on how sexual polarity has become another spiritual costume. I share the truth I’ve lived into: that love doesn’t come when we master roles — it comes when we drop them.If you’ve ever felt like you had to become someone else to be loved... this episode will bring you home to yourself.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

In this episode, I go deeper than I ever have. I finally uncovered the root cause behind why we keep attracting the same partners and repeating the same pain, no matter how much trauma work or therapy we do. It's not just about childhood wounds or inner child stories.It's about the illusion of identity itself. I share how I broke free from the ego, what it means to become pure awareness, and how realizing "I am nobody" changed everything in love, in life, and in how I see the world.If you’re tired of chasing healing but still attracting chaos, this is the truth you’ve been waiting for.———————00:00 - Intro01:01 - Why therapy awareness alone doesn’t heal you03:34 - The energetic pattern behind failed relationships06:49 - The ego is the character you believe is real09:32 - Consciousness is the blank screen behind the story12:19 - You are not real, only awareness is13:52 - The ego creates your karma16:00 - Escaping the matrix means realizing you don’t exist18:37 - Karma dies when you realize there’s no you21:04 - What it means to become God22:20 - Silence is louder than thoughts23:38 - Becoming divine changes how you treat others25:14 - Psychedelics show the ego is not real26:56 - Why depression is just a story28:25 - The ego can’t survive in the present moment30:02 - Burn karma by staying in the now33:07 - Even sparring is a mirror of unity35:34 - Why empathy is telepathy36:43 - Give grace a chance38:35 - The ego is the devil, awareness is the light40:49 - You are God, when you stop adding stories46:14 - Final thoughts———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com

In this episode, I break down why I believe the highest form of love requires sobriety.I explore how alcohol and drugs don’t just numb pain, they block us from healing the trauma that keeps us separate from love.I share my own journey through addiction, the illusions it fed, and why real love only became possible when I stopped running from myself.This is a deep, controversial, and honest reflection on what it means to be fully available for love, with nothing to hide behind.———————00:00 - Intro01:01 - Why the highest love demands sobriety03:26 - Alcohol as the silent killer of relationships05:13 - What love really is: unity, not a feeling07:16 - Mental stories that separate us from love08:38 - My abandonment trauma & anxious thinking12:22 - Karma is just recycled thinking13:52 - How to find peace from the mind15:13 - Addiction is spiritual avoidance16:23 - My years of drug-fueled identity20:48 - What makes a man truly safe in love24:38 - Suppressed trauma becomes abuse27:29 - You can’t unify while numbing30:29 - Why alcohol is a portal for darkness33:17 - Spiritual possession & blackout behavior36:22 - Our culture is possessed too37:40 - The illusion of “harmless” weed40:03 - If you take Adderall, you're a crackhead42:06 - Psychedelics won't get you to heaven46:58 - Why sober couples grow faster56:36 - Final thoughts———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if this episode resonates with you. I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!Lucas Salame: www.instagram.com/lucas__salame/ | https://www.new-age-sage.com