When Your Past Shows Up In Your Marriage with Dean & Jill Berg

When your spouse shares a problem, simply asking "do you just want me to listen, or do you want solutions?" can transform how connected you both feel. This one small question helps you meet your partner's real need instead of accidentally making them feel dismissed. _______________ We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dean and Jill Berg have spent years helping other couples build stronger marriages, but their own story was shaped by two very different pasts colliding. Now married for 37 years and working as marriage coaches, they open up about the struggles that forced them to confront what they had carried into their relationship and what was really underneath the conflicts they couldn’t seem to resolve. Listener Question: There's one argument my wife and I have had at least a dozen times over the years and we still haven't cracked it. What's an argument that took you a while to resolve and how have did you learn to manage disagreements in a timely manner? Jill and Dean are in the Atlanta, Georgia area - https://deanandjillberg.com/ Marriage Academyhttps://www.daveandashley.com/the-marriage-coaching-academy Explore Free Marriage Courses: https://xomarriage.com/courses __________ Submit your questions to Dave & Ashley: http://nakedmarriagepodcast.com Download our FREE 31 Day Marriage Devotional: https://bit.ly/3ZxsLZd We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Childhood trauma can silently shut down your ability to emotionally connect with your spouse, but restoration begins the moment you choose honesty over self-protection. You can't be healed from something you're not willing to be vulnerable about – and your marriage is worth that first brave step. _______________ We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After 26 years of marriage, Jason and Elizabeth Settle are facing something they never imaged when they first promised "in sickness and in health." The Southlake-based faith counselors have spent years walking alongside couples through difficult seasons, but Jason's sudden cancer diagnosis has brought those words much closer to home.They share how this season is reshaping their understanding of vulnerability, surrender, and what it looks like to trust God when you don't know the outcome. Listener Question: We avoided talking about our combined debt for the first two years of marriage because it felt too shameful. What's a money conversation you dreaded having but were glad you finally did?Learn More About Settled Co.: https://settledco.com/counselingExplore Free Marriage Courses: https://xomarriage.com/coursesJimmy Evans on Money Mindsets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPGtPPQgLPg __________ Submit your questions to Dave & Ashley: http://nakedmarriagepodcast.com Download our FREE 31 Day Marriage Devotional: https://bit.ly/3ZxsLZd We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jason and Rosalind look back on more than 30 years of marriage, from getting married with little preparation to facing conversations that challenges how well they really knew one another. In this episode with Dave and Ashley, they open up about the hidden struggles, conflict, communication, and the changes in intimacy that come with different seasons of marriage. Listener Question: My spouse and I are in our early 50’s, been married a good long while. My spouse and I haven’t had sex in years: no touching, no kissing in years. It makes me feel so lonely and not wanted. All other areas of marriage are pretty good. I’ve considered having an affair to have my needs met, but I haven’t gone through with it because I know it’s wrong. I love my spouse but it has ruined my self esteem and I think I resent them. What can I do to help this or open up safe conversations to find a solution? Jason and Rosalind's Podcast: https://jasonandros.com/love-letters-with-jason-and-ros-podcast/ Marriage Academyhttps://www.daveandashley.com/the-marriage-coaching-academy __________ Submit your questions to Dave & Ashley: http://nakedmarriagepodcast.com Download our FREE 31 Day Marriage Devotional: https://bit.ly/3ZxsLZd We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When life's roles of spouse and parent take over, it's easy to forget that your first covenant is with God, not each other. Rediscovering that your marriage exists to glorify Him can restore the purpose and focus your relationship was always meant to have. _______________ We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dave and Ashley are back with the second half of their rapid-fire Hot Topics round, tackling more of your biggest questions and the culture's most talked-about marriage debates. They cover why smart, capable people suddenly act helpless about finding a babysitter, why couples should choose to have kids (and why fur babies don't count), why forcing your spouse into a sexless marriage is a form of infidelity, why rolling your eyes at your spouse is one of the most accurate predictors of divorce, why empty nesters are divorcing at higher rates, why our culture spends so much time and money on grooming, and whether permanent birth control like vasectomies is biblical. This one's honest, a little spicy, and packed with wisdom. In case you missed Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3uIK_TOKbpI Explore XO Marriage's free digital courses: https://xomarriage.comThe Four Laws of Love by Jimmy Evans: https://store.xomarriage.com/collections/books/products/the-four-laws-of-love __________ Submit your questions to Dave & Ashley: http://nakedmarriagepodcast.com Download our FREE 31 Day Marriage Devotional: https://bit.ly/3ZxsLZd We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

According to Dr. John Gottman's research, rolling your eyes at your spouse is one of the most accurate predictors of divorce because it reveals deep-seated contempt – the #1 predictor of divorce. Before the eye rolls come the negative thoughts, so guard your mind, choose honour, and bring your struggles before God to protect your marriage. _______________ We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this first-of-its-kind episode, Dave and Ashley tackle a rapid-fire round of the most-asked and most-provocative questions from listeners and the culture right now. They cover the line between a preference and a fetish, what to do in a sexless marriage, how the "manosphere" is shaping men's view of marriage, the "de-centering your marriage" trend among women, why couples who combine their finances are statistically less likely to divorce, why there's no such thing as "ethical" AI porn, why sex robots still count as adultery, and why God allowed polygamy in the Bible. Buckle up — this one's spicy. Don't miss Part 2 next week. This is Part 1 of a two-part series. Download the free 9 Days to Great Sex eBook: https://daveandashley.comFight the New Drug (porn research/resources): https://fightthenewdrug.org __________ Submit your questions to Dave & Ashley: http://nakedmarriagepodcast.com Download our FREE 31 Day Marriage Devotional: https://bit.ly/3ZxsLZd We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many couples find themselves in a sexless marriage, but it often doesn't happen overnight. Here's the hard reality: if you don't have a medical reason for withholding sex from your spouse, you may be unknowingly starving your marriage. Sex is what separates a friendship from a marriage, and both of you have a responsibility to protect that intimacy and seek solutions together during difficult seasons. God gave us this special gift for a reason; let's honor it. _______________ We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices