Good sex is reciprocal with Dan Savage

Dan Savage is officially the first guest of The Love Drive relaunch and it's the perfect way to kick off the relaunch.Dan is a legend in the world of sex, love, and relationships. He is the host of the Savage Lovecast, the writer of the long-running Savage Love advice column, and someone whose work has shaped how many of us think and talk about sex.In this episode, Shaun shares the story of double texting Dan to beg him to be on the show, how he used to refer to himself as the ‘younger and straighter Dan Savage,” and gets into why he downloaded Grindr. They get into herpes stigma, Shaun’s personal experience, Dan’s GGG philosophy, polyamory, age-gap relationships, and the politics shaping modern dating. They also talk about why straight men are often judged more harshly for sexual curiosity, why erections do not always equal arousal, and Dan’s pushback on the Burned Haystack Dating Method.There is also a candid conversation about Shaun’s past work as an erotic masseur in San Francisco, along with detours into Heated Rivalry, sexual openness, and the campsite rule.This one is sexually explicit, very funny, and full of honesty.Timestamps:(00:42) Shaun introduces Dan Savage(04:12) Dan Savage joins The Love Drive(09:36) Herpes stigma and the truth about disclosure(15:54) Heated Rivalry and what straight people can learn(21:33) Why straight sex needs more honesty(25:05) Shaun’s erotic massage story(28:26) Sex work, loneliness, and human connection(33:38) Politics, masculinity, and modern dating(40:46) Burn the haystack or stay open to love(52:39) Why straight men are judged for curiosity(01:09:20) Age gaps, the campsite rule, and leaving people betterSend Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at [email protected]. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Links:https://savage.lovehttps://www.instagram.com/dansavage/Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-loveConnect with Shaun:Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedriveRead my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

I’m both very excited and a tad nervous about relaunching my old podcast, The Love Drive.Excited because I love having conversations about sex, love, and relationships with other experts, thought leaders, and everyday people. Hosting a podcast is great fun, by the way. And I still have so much to learn about the subject.And, nervous because a lot has happened over the past few years, and my confidence in many areas isn’t where it used to be. I’ve also felt a lot of grief since my father passed a few years ago, and I’m feeling more tender and vulnerable ever since. And yet, here we go.Here's a sneak peek of what you can expect this month. New episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays for the month of March. Thanks for being here, and enjoy!

The Love Drive podcast is back: a funny, no-nonsense podcast about sex, love, dating, and modern relationships - for hopeful romantics, love cynics, and everyone in between. Hosted by love coach Shaun Galanos.In this episode:• How this all started: A San Francisco taxi and real conversations about love. Check those out here. • What to expect: Raw, radically honest talks with guest experts, everyday names, and regular people, and solo Q&A episodes.• The vibe: Vulnerability, humor, curiosity, and healthy conversations about love, sex, and dating. Timestamps:(00:00) We're back, baby(02:27) What this show is really about(04:56) Raw truth, healthy masculinity, zero bro-nonsense(05:58) What you can expect(07:18) Call me: your voicemails fuel this show(08:50) Scared + stoked (both can be true)(11:42) Thank youAnd I’m over the moon to have author and sex advice columnist Dan Savage as our first guest. Join us this Thursday. Send me your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email me at  [email protected]. I prefer voicemails and voicememos, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. I love hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Relevant LinksRetreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedriveRead my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

This is a final apology episode for ghosting you all, where you can find me, and a sneak peek of the first episode of my new project, Voicemails to Dad, where, you guessed it, I leave voicemails to my recently deceased father.  You can find my writing on substack here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/ You can find the Voicemail to Dad podcast here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/podcast Again, thank you all for being here.  Love, Shaun 

Hey friend. Thanks for being here.  Here are the links I promised: Getting Your Needs Met Course: http://www.gettingyourneedsmet.com Trusting Love 2023 Retreat: http://www.trustinglove2023.com In Bloom Love And Relationship Summit In-person tickets: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/in-bloom-a-love-and-relationships-summit-presented-by-real-love-ready-tickets-434006423897?aff=ShaunGalanos Virtual tickets:https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/in-bloom-a-love-and-relationships-summit-presented-by-real-love-ready-tickets-434035199967?aff=ShaunGalanos And, that's it for now. Have a lovely week. 

Nora McInerny is an award-winning podcast host of ‘Terrible, Thanks For Asking,’ speaker, and author of several books, including her new book “Bad Vibes Only.”  Shaun and Nora discuss vulnerability porn, their relationship with social media, and how they feel about posting everything online. What you'll learn (or why you should care): Toxic positivity and “good vibes only” mentality How to love people we deeply disagree with How to accept that people’s lives are not as perfect as we think Where to find Nora Buy her new book “Bad Vibes Only” Listen to her podcast Nora on Instagram Nora's website   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub    Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://www.shaungalanos.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive 

Hey gang, here's a little update for you. ❤️   Application to be my social and course assistant: https://forms.gle/9DWxnXLJYBgazyFE7   Love Camp 2023: www.lovecamp2023.com

This episode guest is Vanessa Bennett, Codependency Expert and Holistic Psycho-Therapist and author of “It’s Not Me, It’s You”. Vanessa talks about what codependency is, if it’s always bad and how we can balance being dependent with another person without being “needy”. Shaun and Vanessa discuss how people have lost connection with their feelings, and offer examples for how to express feelings with someone who might not be comfortable with having such conversations.   What you'll learn (or why you should care): What to do if your partner is following hotties on IG What it’s like dating a therapist as a therapist Chemistry and attraction and their role in relationship building Where to find Vanessa Preorder her new book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” Vanessa on Instagram   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub    Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive 

Oh boy. Here's a stream of consciousness about the importance of spark, chemistry, and attraction when meeting a potential partner. 

Our guest is dating and love coach Damona Hoffman, who's been coaching people for over 15 years on online and offline dating. In this episode, Shaun and Damona share their best online dating practices, what to ask on a first date, and how to best screen for people who are a good match. Shaun and Damona answer some rapid-fire questions, including What are guys looking for during the first date? Who pays for the first date? What to do if he's a nine but follows 1000s of Instagram models? What you'll learn (or why you should care): Does sex on the first date change things?  Why guys who have dogs in their dating profiles get more matches How to make long-distance relationships work Where to find Damona Damona on Instagram Listen to Damona's podcast    Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub    Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive  Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter