Catching up with JASPER

Jasper returns to The Lesbian Peep Show for the conversations about dating trans men that we’re usually having behind closed doors. We talk about wanting to be pursued, being read as a cis man in sapphic spaces, and what happens when assumptions about masculinity get in the way of tenderness and mutual desire. You can find Jasper here.You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

Were lesbian feminists really anti-sex killjoys, or have we inherited a convenient story about women who disagreed? Dr. Wendy Mallette, author of Lesbian Feminist Killjoys, joins me to talk about born-again lesbianism, trans women’s place in lesbian history, and our enduring obsession with deciding who counts as a lesbian. We get into the pleasure of finding yourself, the politics of getting everyone else correct, and what our messy queer histories can teach us about living together now.You can find Wendy's book here.You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

Our resident astrologer ET Shipley is back to talk Venus retrograde, exes resurfacing, and whether unfinished business actually needs another conversation. We get into exes showing up in your dreams, the fantasy of finally understanding each other, and finding peace without breaking no contact. Plus: flirting with women, letting yourself want things, and why pleasure takes a little practice.You can find ET here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

Sex and relationship therapist Yana Tallon-Hicks joins me to talk about her book Redefine the Relationship and the relationship rules we inherit without ever choosing them. We get into monogamy, polyamory, jealousy, what happens when one person wants to open a relationship, and why “no feelings allowed” gets complicated fast. Plus: lesbian bed death, separate bedrooms, and making it safe to say the things you’re afraid to bring up.You can find Yana here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

Dr. Kaila Story joins me for some lesbian discourse: dating women won’t magically erase patriarchy, our spaces shouldn’t have to be perfect to survive, and apparently everyone online has opinions about who gets to call herself a lesbian. We get into masc/femme expectations, the King Princess controversy, gold stars, and the difference between community and policing each other. Plus, a deeply necessary conversation about Bette Porter.You can find Dr. Story here.You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

McKenzie Goodwin of Two Dykes and a Mic joins me to talk about writing and directing Meeting Marsha and making lesbian movies that let us laugh. We get into lesbian reality TV, our queer movie canon, and why being messy on television shouldn’t make you responsible for an entire community’s reputation. We also talk honestly about online harassment, the pressure to get everything right, and what happens to queer art when creators are afraid to make it.You can watch Meeting Marsha here.You can find McKenzie here.You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

This week, I’m talking about the Cornell 7 allegations and what it feels like to watch the response as a woman with your own history. I also get into the backlash around a lesbian bar’s proposed mask optional night, King Princess, and the way we turn every disagreement into a public verdict. After a rough few weeks in my own comments, I’m asking how much of the internet we really need to take in. xoYou can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

Women are taught extensively about how to be desired and almost nothing about discovering what or whom we desire. I’m talking about the years I spent trying to enjoy what was wanted from me, fighting to have my no respected and performing sex from a creative brief built around someone else’s pleasure. And the revolutionary question I finally learned to ask: What do I want to say yes to?Content note: This episode includes discussion of sexual assault, coercion and trauma.This episode is the audio edition of part three of Who Does She Think She Is, my wildly personal curriculum on heteronormativity, desire and the sapphic gaze.You can find the substack here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

Lesbian porn star Ophelia Fay joins me to talk about what lesbian porn actually looks like when the women making it are queer, why authenticity and pleasure aren’t necessarily at odds with performance, and what it means to build a career without compromising her lesbian identity. We get into everything from scissoring and chemistry with co-stars to sex work, the male gaze, and why “lesbian porn is made for men” is a much more complicated claim than people make it out to be. Plus, Ophelia breaks down how to find and ethically support porn made by and for queer women... and why what we watch, pay for, and get loud about directly influences what gets made.You can find Ophelia here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month

Tiffany Watts is back on The Lesbian Peep Show to talk about building SapphicCon, a new creative festival centering sapphic culture, art, community, and connection. We get into why queer life needs spaces beyond the internet, the often-invisible history of sapphic people in ballroom, and what happens when women create spaces specifically for themselves. Plus: the Sapphic Ball, Original Sin, and why sometimes you have to stop asking whether everyone is happy with what you're building.You can find Sapphic Con here.And Tiffany here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month