#13 From Monastic Life to Sales Mastery: Embracing Integrity and Service | Martin Stellar | TDP

Ever struggled with keeping your screen time in check or worried you can't maintain good habits long term? This episode is just for you! I share four powerful mental strategies that have helped me personally: remembering your 'why,' viewing changes as experiments, celebrating small successes, and managing expectations. Inspired by books like 'Digital Minimalism,' I explain how to make sustainable changes to improve your daily life. Tune in for practical tips and words of encouragement to help keep you on track!00:00 Introduction: Overcoming Screen Time Challenges00:48 Four Key Principles for Sustaining Habits00:53 Principle 1: Remembering Your Why02:18 Principle 2: Seeing Things as Experiments04:15 Principle 3: Celebrating Your Successes05:15 Principle 4: Keeping Expectations in Check06:43 Final Encouragement and ResourcesConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Insight Timer:https://insig.ht/FIJcebjexNbOnline Course: Healthy Tech Use - Overcome Screen Addiction in 7 Dayshttps://insig.ht/EGKAc6QnyNbBook a free 60 min 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://app.practice.do/me/julian-merten/book/discovery-sessionIndistractable (affiliate link):https://amzn.to/49JxJWNDigital Minimalism (affiliate link):https://amzn.to/3BK9gnLSubscribe to the podcast here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-doubtless-podcast/id1739371672Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6oLuTMYmmt2eTzfXhVz2iZYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcastAny other platform: https://tr.ee/3MHHg8X67v Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I open up about my struggles with phone addiction and share effective strategies to regain control over our emotions. We'll explore why emotions trigger our phone usage and discuss practical tools like breathing exercises and physical activities to manage these triggers. By understanding our emotional responses, we can develop healthier coping mechanisms and minimize our reliance on our phones. Tune in to learn how to use your breath to relax, the power of movement, and get ready for the next part of our series on maintaining these positive changes long-term.00:00 Introduction: The Lab Rat Analogy00:36 Understanding Emotional Triggers01:36 The Phone as a Coping Mechanism03:38 The Role of Emotions in Our Behavior05:03 The Impact of Modern Society on Our Emotions06:31 Recognizing and Addressing Phone Addiction07:51 Breathing Techniques for Emotional Management13:17 Physical Activities to Release Emotions16:40 Conclusion and Next StepsConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Insight Timer:https://insig.ht/FIJcebjexNbOnline Course: Healthy Tech Use - Overcome Screen Addiction in 7 Dayshttps://insig.ht/EGKAc6QnyNbBook a free 60 min 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://app.practice.do/me/julian-merten/book/discovery-sessionSubscribe to the podcast here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-doubtless-podcast/id1739371672Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6oLuTMYmmt2eTzfXhVz2iZYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcastAny other platform: https://tr.ee/3MHHg8X67v Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we dive into five powerful tools to help you cut down on phone time and break habitual phone use. We discuss the principle of friction and how increasing it can deter phone use, starting with deleting unnecessary apps. We go on to share personal experiences and introduce other strategies like phone-free zones, eliminating notifications, and setting app limits. Stay tuned for next week's episode on dealing with emotions that drive phone addiction.00:00 Introduction and Purpose01:04 Understanding Friction and Phone Habits03:58 Tool 1: Deleting Unnecessary Apps06:53 Tool 2 & 3: Phone-Free Zones and Times07:43 Tool 3: Eliminating Notifications08:55 Tool 4: Setting App Limits10:27 Commitment and Experimentation12:47 Conclusion and Next StepsConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Insight Timer:https://insig.ht/FIJcebjexNbOnline Course: Healthy Tech Use - Overcome Screen Addiction in 7 Dayshttps://insig.ht/EGKAc6QnyNbBook a free 60 min 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://app.practice.do/me/julian-merten/book/discovery-sessionSubscribe to the podcast here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-doubtless-podcast/id1739371672Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6oLuTMYmmt2eTzfXhVz2iZYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcastAny other platform: https://tr.ee/3MHHg8X67v Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever felt the cycle of wanting change but slipping back into old habits? You're not alone! Join me, a coach & psychologist, in this episode where I share my personal journey of overcoming screen addiction and offer powerful techniques to sustain motivation. Learn how I identified the negative impacts, created a compelling vision for my life, and discovered the tools that helped me regain control over where I spend my time. Ready to break free from your phone's grip? Tune in now!00:00 Introduction: The Struggle with Change00:56 Understanding Motivation and Sustaining Change01:42 Personal Story: A Turning Point in Peru03:44 Identifying Negative Consequences07:53 Creating a Vision for Positive Change10:08 Imagining Your Ideal Day15:02 Conclusion and Next StepsConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Insight Timer:https://insig.ht/FIJcebjexNbOnline Course: Healthy Tech Use - Overcome Screen Addiction in 7 Dayshttps://insig.ht/EGKAc6QnyNbBook a free 60 min 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://app.practice.do/me/julian-merten/book/discovery-sessionSubscribe to the podcast here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-doubtless-podcast/id1739371672Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6oLuTMYmmt2eTzfXhVz2iZYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcastAny other platform: https://tr.ee/3MHHg8X67v Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel like your phone is taking over your life with endless scrolling and constant notifications? Tune in as a psychologist guides you through the maze of screen addiction and introduces BASE, a powerful framework for better phone habits. This episode is all about self-awareness: track when you grab your phone, the apps you can't resist, and the emotions behind it all. Discover how to identify your phone habits and emotional triggers to start transforming your relationship with your devices. Ready to reclaim your time and focus? Let's get started!00:00 Introduction: The Phone Habit Dilemma00:45 The Impact of Screen Addiction01:16 Psychological Insights and Personal Journey02:18 Introducing the BASE Framework03:10 Step 1: Awareness and Boot Up08:42 Step 2: Application Usage10:03 Understanding Your Screen Time10:52 The Role of Emotions in Phone Usage11:19 Tracking Your Emotions11:56 Coping Mechanisms and Habits13:07 The Importance of Tracking14:13 Preparing for Change15:54 Action Steps and Homework17:42 Final Thoughts and Next StepsConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Insight Timer:https://insig.ht/FIJcebjexNbOnline Course: Healthy Tech Use - Overcome Screen Addiction in 7 Dayshttps://insig.ht/EGKAc6QnyNbBook a free 60 min 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://app.practice.do/me/julian-merten/book/discovery-sessionSubscribe to the podcast here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-doubtless-podcast/id1739371672Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6oLuTMYmmt2eTzfXhVz2iZYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcastAny other platform: https://tr.ee/3MHHg8X67v Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Julian on the Doubtless Podcast as he chats with Terry, an extraordinary former hostage negotiator and motivational icon who's faced life's toughest battles, including cancer. Discover Terry's journey from the intense world of negotiation to redefining his life's purpose. Through compelling stories, they explore how embracing challenges can lead to resilience, courage, and a focus on significance over success. And there's more—Terry teases his new book, diving deeper into impacting others' lives despite personal struggles. Ready to redefine your life's purpose? This episode might just inspire you to choose significance over success!Terry Tucker is a passionate speaker, author, and international podcast guest on the topics of mindset, motivation, and self-development. He is the Founder of Motivational Check LLC. Terry has a Bachelor of Science degree in Business Administration from The Citadel and a Master’s degree from Boston University. Among his many diverse roles, he has been a college basketball player, a marketing executive, a hospital administrator, a SWAT Hostage Negotiator, a business owner, and for the past 12 years, a cancer warrior. He is the author of the book Sustainable Excellence, Ten Principles To Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life, and the co-author of the new book, Perspectives On Cancer, Stories of Healing, Hope, And Resilience. 00:00 Introduction01:23 Welcome to the Doubtless Podcast01:52 Meet Terry: A Life of Diverse Experiences03:00 Living an Uncommon Life03:21 The Four Types of People05:36 Hostage Negotiation Stories12:43 Lessons from Negotiation to Life18:33 The Importance of Trust and Communication26:09 The Role of Social Media in Modern Life38:29 Finding Purpose Through Adversity42:12 Living with Cancer: A Journey of Resilience47:28 Harnessing Energy and Motivation50:57 The Power of Hope and Resilience54:14 Overcoming Mental Barriers56:48 The Importance of Empathy and Service01:05:24 Navigating Change and Fear01:16:43 Finding Purpose and Significance01:20:24 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsConnect with Terry:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terry-tucker-9b5605179/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/motivationalcheckX (Twitter): https://mobile.twitter.com/terrytucker2012Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sustainableexcellenceauthor/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl2CUA6R1zP2ZcjzhzGKWkQSustainable Excellence, Ten Principles to Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life - Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08GLGVTVSConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Insight Timer:https://insig.ht/FIJcebjexNbOnline Course: Healthy Tech Use - Overcome Screen Addiction in 7 Dayshttps://insig.ht/EGKAc6QnyNbApply for 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://forms.gle/Sc3wTWRLtFnQqyje7Subscribe to the podcast here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-doubtless-podcast/id1739371672Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6oLuTMYmmt2eTzfXhVz2iZYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcastAny other platform: https://tr.ee/3MHHg8X67v Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Evie and Julian to delve deep into the complexities of ADHD. They discuss common myths, personal experiences, and practical advice for managing ADHD symptoms. Evie shares her journey of creating a YouTube channel focused on ADHD and productivity, and they explore the nuances of attentional dysregulation, the impact of societal expectations, and coping strategies. Join them for an insightful conversation aimed at fostering understanding and compassion for those with ADHD.Evie somehow managed to live in 5 countries and yet spent 10 years in Academia. She has a psychology degree, a bit over 3 years of coaching experience, and was diagnosed with ADHD. Evie creates content that combines theory, practice, and personal experience into something useful but, maybe even more importantly, relatable. People don't always need to hear yet another tip or solution. Instead, they need to feel seen and understood. I care to give that whenever I can.00:00 Introduction to ADHD and Attention Dysregulation00:58 Welcome to the Doubtless Podcast01:27 Evie's YouTube Journey and ADHD Focus07:16 Understanding ADHD: Types and Misconceptions15:35 ADHD in Relationships and Gender Differences20:55 Debunking ADHD Myths and Neurological Insights38:07 Navigating Self-Consciousness on Camera39:36 The Impact of COVID on ADHD41:40 Challenges of ADHD in YouTube Content Creation42:56 Embracing Imperfection and Finding Purpose47:15 Tips for Managing ADHD Effectively51:53 Self-Esteem and ADHD01:02:57 Medication and Personal Choices01:05:59 Final Thoughts and EncouragementConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://forms.gle/Sc3wTWRLtFnQqyje7Subscribe to the podcast here:https://tr.ee/3MHHg8X67vWatch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of the Doubtless Podcast, host Julian, a coach and psychologist, interviews Martin, who spent 12 years living as a monk. Martin shares his journey from monastic life to becoming a sales coach, emphasizing the importance of integrity, listening to life, and how selling can serve others. He reveals how his time in the monastery shaped his approach to helping others and discusses the challenges and revelations along the way. The conversation delves into how service-based professionals can sell their services with authenticity and care, maintaining a balance between guiding clients and respecting their autonomy. Tune in for insights on navigating professional life inspired by deep values and mindful practices.Martin is a recovering introvert, who helps nice people sell more. He's a lifelong student of psychology, who loves learning people. In his day-to-day, he coaches and consults on ethical selling, especially fond of working with technical founders. Polyglot, speaks fluent Nerd. 00:00 Coming up...00:44 Introduction to the Doubtless Podcast01:17 Martin's Journey to Monastic Life06:56 Struggles and Realizations in the Monastery11:07 Overcoming Personal Challenges17:59 Applying Monastic Lessons to Everyday Life32:13 The Power of Focusing on Others41:51 The Stories We Tell Ourselves42:25 Technical Glitch and Continuation43:04 Understanding Judgments and Projections46:19 The Role of Values in Sales48:01 Lessons from the Monastery49:56 Effective Communication and Leadership52:20 Sales as an Act of Service01:05:12 Manipulation and Influence01:09:48 Connecting with Like-Minded Entrepreneurs01:14:47 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsConnect with Martin:https://martinstellar.comhttps://sales-for-nice-people.transistor.fm/https://SalesFlowCoach.appConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://forms.gle/Sc3wTWRLtFnQqyje7Subscribe to the podcast here:https://link.chtbl.com/doubtlessWatch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of The Doubtless Podcast, host Julian sits down with a counselor and therapist, Eric, who shares his fascinating journey of combining martial arts and psychology. They discuss the deep impact of addiction and mental health recovery through the lens of martial arts principles. Eric opens up about his personal experiences, including a life-changing stint in New Zealand for a spiritual emergency and his evolving views on unity, self-control, and self-love. Tune in to hear Eric's insights on the role of balance, emotional regulation, and understanding our thoughts and actions in overcoming addiction and fostering mental well-being.Eric is a Canadian-certified counselor with over 13 years of professional experience and specializes in working with people experiencing trauma, addiction, depression, ADHD, grief, anxiety, and relationship concerns. You can find him biking on pathways in local parks, hiking near and far, writing (currently penning his second book), and enjoying meeting new people.00:00 Understanding Unity and Self-Love01:02 Introduction to the Doubtless Podcast02:19 Exploring the Concept of Self-Acceptance05:37 The Tyranny of Shoulds06:52 Martial Arts and Addiction08:00 The Role of Balance in Life and Recovery16:41 Self-Control and Discipline in Martial Arts25:16 Mindfulness and Addiction28:05 The Power of Ideas in Recovery30:39 Journey into Addiction Work31:16 Entering the World of Home Visits and Clinics31:30 Facing the Medicaid Billing Challenge32:01 Transition to Chemical Dependency Complex33:04 Learning and Growth in Addiction Treatment35:16 Medication and Its Role in Treatment41:16 Exploring Holistic Approaches42:20 Spiritual Emergency in New Zealand47:56 Lessons from New Zealand58:02 Understanding Addiction and Shame59:19 Tools for Overcoming Addiction01:01:07 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationConnect with Eric Fisher:www.recoveryartscounselling.comwebsite with blog, resources, and mediaLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/eric-m-fisher-5b83724aIG: https://www.instagram.com/recoveryartscounselling/FB: https://www.facebook.com/RecoveryArtsCounsellingNew Book - "The Martial Art of Recovery: Self-Mastery Practices to Subdue Addiction and Achieve Mental Wellness." -https://linktr.ee/ericfisherauthorConnect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://forms.gle/Sc3wTWRLtFnQqyje7Subscribe to the podcast here:https://link.chtbl.com/doubtless Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join host Julian on the Doubtless Podcast in an intriguing episode featuring Klaus, whose search for deeper meaning led him from a privileged life in Denmark to diverse subcultures, and eventually, seven years of monkhood in India. Discover Klaus's profound realizations on happiness, the significance of meditation, and how service can shape a fulfilling life. Klaus also shares simple steps for incorporating meditation into daily life and discusses his transition to the tech industry, highlighting AI's potential to enhance mental well-being. Tune in for an insightful journey toward inner peace and balance.A former tech founder, ordained monk and spiritual master. Was on track to become a guru when he decided to leave the order and pursue building a self-realised AI to help people improve their quality of life. Also work with founders and CEOs to manage their mind and find purpose and happiness. Helps run a food bank for homeless people in London.00:00 Introduction 01:28 Mindfulness and Preparation01:47 Introducing Klaus and His Journey02:30 Life as a Monk04:42 Exploring Subcultures and Finding Happiness08:50 The Turning Point09:21 Journey to India10:37 Philosophical Insights and Becoming a Monk15:15 Happiness and Service41:10 The Power of Thoughts46:04 Mind Control and Spiritual Realization46:21 The Role of Thoughts and Reality47:01 Compassion Through Suffering47:42 Eastern Practices for Integration48:07 Handling Aggression and Personal Attacks50:04 Daily Practice and Immediate Benefits50:33 The Struggles and Progress of Addicts52:48 The Power of Surrender and Humility56:06 The Dangers of Misusing Knowledge01:01:36 The Importance of Compassion and Care01:08:16 Practical Tools for Self-Improvement01:11:32 The Benefits of Meditation01:12:18 Mantra Meditation and Its Effects01:14:29 Personal Experiences with Meditation01:23:22 The Power of Consistent Practice01:28:24 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsConnect with Klaus Nielsen:https://klausmnielsen.com He works with founders and CEOs to clear their head and find purpose and happiness.Connect with Julian:https://www.linkedin.com/in/julian-merten/Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Julian:https://forms.gle/Sc3wTWRLtFnQqyje7Subscribe to the podcast here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-doubtless-podcast/id1739371672Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6oLuTMYmmt2eTzfXhVz2iZYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDoubtlessPodcastAny other platform: https://link.chtbl.com/doubtless Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.