Episode 349: Control the Inner World - Featuring Curtis McKee

In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin sits down with Curtis McKee, a recent graduate from Class 003 of the Tribe, for a grounded, powerful conversation about what real change actually looks like. Curtis is a traveling boilermaker from Canada, spending long stretches of time working remote camp jobs across northern British Columbia and Alberta, and he brings a rare combination of blue-collar practicality and deep inner development to the table.Curtis shares how his journey began with a single concept that hit him so hard he had to pull his truck over on the highway just to absorb it: buffering. Not the surface-level distractions themselves, but the deeper reason men reach for them. Like many men, Curtis thought he could numb stress and frustration with a drink or a dopamine hit, but he kept finding the same truth - it never works. And what shocked him most wasn’t just that buffering was happening, but that no one had ever taught him how the mind actually functions.This episode dives into the difference between trying to control the external world and learning to control what you actually have power over: your internal experience. Curtis explains how mind management gave him something he hadn’t felt in years - stability, clarity, and choice. Not because life became easier, but because he became more conscious. He describes a shift from drifting through life to taking ownership of his thoughts, emotions, and decisions, using the Model of Alignment to label what’s happening inside and create intentional change.Kevin and Curtis also unpack something most men don’t realize until later in life: this work must be taught, and it must be practiced. You don’t just listen to a podcast and get fixed. You don’t read one book and suddenly become unstoppable. Real transformation requires repetition, feedback, coaching, and community. Curtis shares how even one hour per week of meaningful conversation with like-minded brothers created a foundation of growth, especially when his everyday world was filled with surface-level talk and isolation.The conversation expands into Curtis’ experience in the Tribe - why he chose to commit, how he balanced long workdays with intense study, and how he discovered something deeper about himself: he’s called to guide others. The episode ends with the story of the Class 003 gathering in Mexico, including ceremony, reflection, challenge, and initiation - culminating in an ice bath that nearly broke him, and a plant medicine experience that revealed something simple, undeniable, and unforgettable:Everything he was seeking was already within him.If you’re tired of drifting, tired of reacting, and ready to take ownership of your inner world, this episode will land.

What if the “alpha” you’ve been chasing was never something you had to become… but something you had to remember?In this interview-season episode of the Alpha Male Coach Podcast, I sit down with a brother who’s close to my heart: Salu “Lu” Smith - a fellow Projector, a long-time student in the Academy, a graduate of Tribe Class 002, and a mentor who returned to support Tribe Class 003. This is not a surface-level conversation about tactics, dominance, or performance. This is an initiation story. A seven-year transformation. A real example of what happens when a man stops outsourcing his power and starts listening to the voice inside him that already knows the truth.Lou takes us back to the beginning: 2018 in California, a relationship that exposed the “nice guy” conditioning, and the pressure he felt to become harder, stronger, more masculine - not from alignment, but from insecurity. Like a lot of men, he got pulled into the mainstream “alpha male” content and the idea that being an alpha was about getting women, gaining status, and proving something. But underneath that drive was something deeper: a craving to finally feel enough.That search eventually brought him to this podcast and to the Model of Alignment - the simple but life-changing understanding that your circumstances don’t create your results… your thoughts do. Lou shares how he would come in and out of coaching at first, trying to “figure it out” on his own, until life humbled him into a deeper commitment. And that commitment became the turning point: not because the answers were outside of him, but because having a coach helped him see what he couldn’t yet see in himself.We go deep on what it really means to invest in your inner world - especially when money fear, doubt, and ego resistance rise up. Lou explains how the leap always feels risky in the moment, but once the decision is made, reality starts rearranging around it. The money figures itself out. The mind quiets down. The path opens.From there, we talk about Tribe - not just as coach training, but as a high-accountability brotherhood container where men hold space for each other to grow, awaken, and lead. Lou shares what it was like to experience Tribe first as a student in Class 002, then to return as a mentor in Class 003. Watching other men rise didn’t just inspire him - it expanded him. It sharpened his understanding. It brought new layers of wisdom online.And then we go to the hardest question of all: How do you explain “the lights being on” to someone who’s never had the lights on before? How do you describe awakening to a man still living inside the program?Lou’s answer is simple and profound: you don’t convince the mind. You invite the feeling. You listen for resonance. You trust the signal. And you take the leap - even when it scares you - because that fear is often the ego trying to keep the old identity alive.If you’ve been feeling that pull inside you… this episode is for you.Elevate Your Alpha.

In this powerful interview episode of the Alpha Male Coach Podcast, host Kevin sits down with Josh, a recent graduate of Tribe Class 003, for a deep, honest, and grounded conversation about awakening, inner work, and what real confidence actually is.Josh’s journey begins in a place many men will recognize. On the outside, life looked successful: business ownership, family, responsibility, momentum. But internally, something felt incomplete. Despite appearing confident, Josh shares that much of what he projected was a persona rather than an embodied truth. A quiet dissatisfaction, particularly around confidence and relationships, eventually led him to search for answers. That search brought him first to the Alpha Male Coach website, then to the podcast, and finally into the deeper work of the Academy and Tribe.What unfolds in this interview is not a story of quick fixes or surface-level transformation. Instead, Josh articulates the difference between chasing external validation and cultivating internal alignment. He explains how confidence is not created through appearance, status, or approval, but through remembering one’s own completeness. As Josh describes it, the shift happens when a man stops trying to become something and starts getting back in alignment with who he already is.Throughout the conversation, Kevin and Josh explore what the work actually looks like in practice. Daily models of alignment, consistent self-inquiry, meditation, and a willingness to do what the mind resists are all part of the process. Josh speaks candidly about how challenging it can be to hold intention day after day, especially when life continues to unfold with its usual demands. Yet it is precisely this sustained commitment that led to profound changes in his relationships, leadership style, emotional stability, and overall sense of joy.A central theme of the episode is the distinction between happiness and joy. Josh shares how happiness, when sourced from external conditions, is fleeting, while joy arises naturally from within once the layers of conditioning begin to fall away. This internal joy becomes untouchable by circumstance and is felt not only internally, but by everyone around him.The episode culminates in a deeply reflective exchange around a timeless question: how do you explain awakening to someone who hasn’t experienced it? Using metaphors like seeing color for the first time or discovering a jewel that was always in your pocket, Josh offers a grounded and humble answer. There is nothing broken. Nothing missing. Only something forgotten.This conversation is an invitation for men who feel the pull toward something deeper but may not yet have the language for it. It is a reminder that the work is not about becoming better, but about remembering who you are, and then living from that place with intention, clarity, and purpose.If you are drawn to self-mastery, conscious leadership, and authentic inner confidence, this episode offers a rare and honest glimpse into what that path actually looks like.

In this episode, Kevin opens the year with a powerful transmission on relationships, masculinity, and what it truly means to live - and love - from the Alpha state. This is not a dating tactics episode. It’s a foundational teaching on consciousness, polarity, and why relationships exist in the first place.Kevin begins by grounding the listener in Universal Truth: circumstances are neutral, out of our control in the moment, and separate from the meaning we assign to them. From there, he revisits the Model of Alignment and the beta condition - automatic thought-feeling-action loops that shape our experience of reality. This sets the stage for a deeper exploration of how relationships, especially with women, act as mirrors for our inner world.As the episode unfolds, Kevin introduces the three worlds framework: the outer world of circumstance, the inner world of thought and emotion, and the energetic world that subtly governs how we move through life. He explains how most men try to navigate relationships from the bottom up - seeking validation, approval, or completion - while remaining unconscious of the deeper energetic and intentional forces at play.From a top-down perspective rooted in unity consciousness, relationships are reframed entirely. They are not about getting something, fixing someone, or proving worth. They are the universe loving itself awake through form. Every approach, conversation, attraction, and conflict becomes an invitation to notice where we are still operating from ego, identity, and conditioning.Kevin explores the masks men often wear in dating and relationships: the savior, the wise sage, the wounded hero, the chameleon. These personas may work temporarily, but they ultimately collapse because they are rooted in separation rather than truth. When the mask falls, the relationship reveals what is actually being worked through - unmet needs, unexamined beliefs, and unconscious patterns seeking awareness.A central teaching of the episode is masculine polarity as containment. Masculine energy is space. It holds. It does not chase, fix, or collapse. To be in the Alpha state is to hold space for all three worlds at once: the external interaction, the internal reactions, and the subtle energetic field connecting everything. From this place, connection becomes effortless, honest, and grounded.Kevin also shares his personal mythology around reincarnation, choice, and remembrance - not as doctrine, but as a lens through which to understand love, suffering, and awakening. In this view, we are not here to atone or be punished, but to remember, again and again, who we are through relationship.This episode closes with a simple but profound invitation: enter relationships not to complete yourself, but because they are in front of you. Hold space. Watch. Wait. And see if remembrance arises.If you want to understand relationships beyond strategy - if you’re ready to embody grounded masculinity, conscious presence, and real connection - this episode lays the foundation.

Welcome to 2026, brother. In this foundational episode of the The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin opens a new chapter by returning to the core principles of awakening, alignment, and conscious leadership - while introducing a new format that will shape the year ahead.This episode sets the tone for what’s coming next. As Kevin prepares to summit Mount Kilimanjaro, upcoming episodes will feature conversations with brothers who have completed the Tribe coach certification and graduated through the Academy. These men represent living examples of what happens when awakening stops being an abstract idea and becomes a lived, practical experience.At the heart of this episode is a reset to fundamentals. Kevin breaks down awakening not as a mystical or “woo” concept, but as a grounded, functional process for becoming more effective in life, relationships, and purpose. Awakening, as he frames it, is not about becoming something new - it’s about remembering who you already are beneath conditioning.The episode introduces the Alpha/Beta framework and clarifies the Beta condition as a mental program: conditioned thought patterns shaped by upbringing, culture, biology, and repetition. This program filters reality, creating fear, doubt, and reactivity. The Alpha state, by contrast, is the observer - the one who watches the program, rewrites it when necessary, and restores proper cause-and-effect in life.Using the Model of Alignment, Kevin explains how thoughts create feelings, feelings drive actions, and actions produce results - and why separating thoughts from facts is the first and most essential step in reclaiming authority over your life. When the outer world stops being the cause of your inner world, you move from reaction to intention, from victimhood to authorship.From there, the episode expands into a deeper integration of three interwoven domains: the outer world (environment and circumstance), the inner world (thoughts and narratives), and the energetic world (your unseen blueprint). Kevin shows how mastery comes not from escaping these realms, but from integrating them - like piloting a ship with multiple control panels working in harmony.This framework is applied directly to real life, including dating and relationships. Kevin dismantles common misconceptions around attraction, confidence, and masculine presence, emphasizing that true connection begins with awareness of your own inner and energetic states - not manipulation, performance, or trying to read someone else’s mind.The episode also introduces Human Design as a practical tool for understanding energetic mechanics beyond traditional psychology or astrology, while reinforcing a timeless truth: you will never fully know another person’s inner world. Your work is to know your own.This is a return to the basics - but at a higher altitude. A call to clean the window, reclaim authorship, and step into 2026 grounded, awake, and aligned.Until next week, brother - elevate your Alpha.

Welcome to 2026, brothers.This episode is a return to the foundations. A reset. A reorientation to what this work has always been about.As we move into a new year, it’s easy to get pulled toward advanced concepts, elevated language, and high-level spiritual ideas. But real mastery doesn’t begin at the top. It begins at the beginning. And in this episode, we go back to the core principles of cognitive mastery, awakening, and the Alpha State.At the heart of this conversation is a simple but profound framework: the three worlds. The outer world, the inner world, and the energetic world.The outer world is the physical world. It’s the world we all share. Bodies, money, relationships, environments, circumstances, results. It is neutral. It is dense. It is obvious. Science understands this world well because it is observable and measurable.The inner world is the mental world. Your thoughts. Your feelings. Your narratives. Your conditioning. This world is private. No one has access to it but you. And yet, this inner world is the cause of how you experience the outer world. Your thoughts generate feelings. Feelings drive actions. Actions create results. And those results reinforce the thoughts. This is the universal truth. This is the Model of Alignment.The energetic world is the most subtle of all. It’s your aura. Your spiritual blueprint. The field you move through and leave behind as you interact with people, places, money, opportunity, and life itself. Most men have very little conscious access to this layer, not because it isn’t real, but because it is quiet. Subtle. Working behind the scenes.In this episode, I explain how all three of these worlds are happening simultaneously. They are not separate. They are integrated into one unified human experience. And above all three is the Alpha State. The watcher. Consciousness itself. The unified awareness that sees all three worlds clearly without being trapped inside any of them.This is where awakening begins.Not by becoming something new. Not by self-improvement or self-judgment. But by remembering what you’ve always been.The first step in this process is kindergarten-level simple and lifelong profound: separating thoughts from facts. Over and over again. Until it becomes second nature. Until you can clearly see the difference between the neutral outer world and the stories you’re running about it.This is why the Brotherhood exists. It is the entry point. The foundation. The place where men begin the awakening process by mastering the basics: buffering, relationships, money mindset, and the Model of Alignment. This is where you learn to see the program you’ve been running and consciously choose a new one.In this episode, I also introduce what’s coming in 2026, including deeper work inside the Academy and my own Impossible Goal for the year, which I’ll be updating throughout the podcast as it unfolds.This episode is an invitation.An invitation to remember who you are.An invitation to step into the Alpha State.An invitation to begin again—properly, deliberately, and consciously.Welcome to 2026, brothers.Elevate your Alpha.

As 2025 comes to a close and we step into a new year, this episode is both a reflection and an initiation. In this conversation, Kevin brings the last threads of recent, more esoteric teachings together and grounds them into something practical, lived, and immediately accessible. This is an episode about awakening, but not awakening as mythology, fantasy, or spiritual spectacle. This is awakening as presence. Awakening as now.Kevin introduces The Brotherhood, a new entry-level community designed as the starting point for men ready to do this work. Not someday. Not when life slows down. But right here, in the middle of ordinary life. The Brotherhood is where fundamentals are restored: separating thoughts from facts, recognizing the beta condition, learning to observe the mind instead of being consumed by it, and returning again and again to the present moment. This episode explains why group coaching, witnessed awareness, and shared observation are some of the most powerful accelerators of real transformation.From there, the episode deepens. Kevin explores the question that has driven seekers, mystics, and philosophers across history: What is it? Drawing from lived experience, not dogma, he unpacks what teachers across traditions have pointed toward when they say “everything is love.” Not love as emotion, sensation, or sentiment - but love as unity, consciousness, and the underlying force animating all things. Light and shadow, fear and desire, form and formlessness are not opposites to be eliminated but movements within the same field.A central theme of the episode is presence. Kevin dismantles the idea that enlightenment is dramatic or supernatural. There is no transfiguration, no escape from life, no removal from the human experience. Awakening is simply remembering. Being here. Watching yourself think instead of being trapped inside thought. Observing perception instead of naming and categorizing reality. Presence is enlightenment, and enlightenment is available in every moment.The episode also weaves together relationship and unity through a powerful reflection often attributed to Rumi: “When I forget who I am, I’m serving you. When I remember who I am, I am you.” Kevin explains how forgetting ourselves places us in the beta condition, where unconscious behavior serves others by triggering what they need to see. Remembering ourselves restores unity, dissolves separation, and reveals every relationship - human, object, circumstance - as the universe loving itself awake through us.This is not a destination. Awakening is not permanent, fixed, or owned. It is remembered, forgotten, and remembered again. But once seen, it cannot be unseen. And once unity becomes the foreground of life, everything else - work, responsibility, identity - falls gently into the background.This episode is both an invitation and a reminder. Nothing needs to be added. Nothing needs to be escaped. Everything is already here. Everything is now. Everything is love.

In this powerful episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin takes you deep into the core confusion of the human condition: the hallucination of separation. Broadcasting from the Yucatán, Kevin explores why your consciousness feels different depending on your environment, why “I” is the most misunderstood word in the human language, and how the illusion of being a separate ego is the root of all suffering.Kevin opens by distinguishing monism - the experiential recognition that all is one - from the far more common dualistic worldview most humans live in without question. He breaks down how the ego creates a false center of identity, a shadow-self imagined as a commander behind the eyes, and how this hallucination leads to fear, conflict, resistance, and misalignment across every dimension of life.Drawing on wisdom from Alan Watts, spiritual psychology, and his own Alpha philosophy, Kevin reframes humanity’s relationship to nature, purpose, money, and each other. You are not an isolated observer placed “into” the world, he argues - you emerged from the world, just like an apple emerges from an apple tree. You are not a stranger in an indifferent universe; you are the universe becoming aware of itself.This episode explores:Why the ego believes “I am in here and the world is out there,” and why this premise is falseHow the belief in separation leads to fear, anxiety, loneliness, and conflictWhat monism reveals about your relationship to nature, your purpose, your emotions, and other humansWhy artificial intelligence is not consciousness, not intelligence, and never will beHow your environment is an extension of your body, not something separate from youHow shifting from dualism to unity transforms your thoughts, emotions, actions, and results through the Model of AlignmentKevin also offers practical embodiment tools to dissolve the hallucination of separation, including active meditation, breath practices, body-based inquiry, and applying the Model of Alignment to reveal whether your identity is operating from ego or from Alpha unity consciousness.Ultimately, this is an episode about awakening - about remembering your true nature as the field of consciousness expressing itself temporarily as a human being. The end of suffering doesn’t come from controlling life, resisting emotion, or conquering the world. It comes from recognizing that I and life are not two things. When separation dissolves, fear dissolves with it. What remains is flow, power, presence, and freedom - the Alpha state.Brother, you are not separate from nature, from God, from humanity, or from your purpose. You are the expression of the infinite in human form.

In this powerful episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin takes brothers deep into the heart of awakened relationships - what he calls Alpha relationships - and reveals why most modern partnerships are built on misunderstanding, incompleteness, and unconscious need. Broadcasting from Tulum, Mexico, Kevin opens with reflections on the land, the energy, and the sense of peace that reconnects him to a timeless part of himself. From that grounded presence, he pivots into the core teaching of today’s episode: what happens when two awakening beings encounter one another in relationship.Kevin explains the fundamental distinction between beta relationships - rooted in lack, need, codependency, and the ego’s belief in incompleteness - and alpha relationships, which arise from wholeness, recognition, and conscious connection. Most people aren’t falling in love, he explains; they’re falling into need. They’re entering relationships trying to fill a void within themselves. Two half-filled cups pouring into each other, emptying and refilling, never realizing the fullness must first come from within.But when two alphas meet - two awakening individuals who know who they are, who have remembered their true nature - everything changes. Alphas do not need each other. And it is the absence of need that creates the presence of true freedom, genuine intimacy, effortless communication, and deep mutual respect.Kevin reveals how awakened communication differs from ego communication: alphas aren’t defending positions, playing games, or seeking validation. They’re playing, exploring, listening, and learning from each other. They can fully disagree without conflict because neither identifies with the mind or its opinions. Silence becomes meaningful. Differences become invitations to expand. Mystery becomes celebrated rather than controlled.The episode dives into emotional mastery within awakened relationships - why alphas don’t create drama, don’t cling, don’t possess, don’t manipulate, and don’t collapse into fear of abandonment. Kevin reminds us that only children and animals can be abandoned. Adults cannot. An alpha knows he is whole, complete, and unbroken - no matter what another person chooses.Kevin then explores physical intimacy, describing the spiritual and tantric depth that emerges when two alphas meet in sexual connection - not for validation, conquest, or escape, but as a conscious dance of awareness, play, and presence.He also speaks about conflict, growth, generosity, separation, and the natural rhythms of coming together and moving apart. In awakened relationships, there is no clinging. Space is not a threat. Change is not fear. Love is attraction and freedom, breath in and breath out.Ultimately, Kevin reminds brothers that after awakening, life still looks the same on the outside - chop wood, carry water - but the inner world transforms completely. Relationships don’t change; the one who is in the relationship changes.This episode closes with the profound truth: when two alphas recognize each other, a field of consciousness is created that affects everyone around them. A relationship becomes not two separate beings in love, but love recognizing itself.Elevate your alpha, brothers.

In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, we nerd all the way out on one of the deepest truths of your spiritual journey: time is always now. Brother, we go right into the heart of what it means to live in a “limited reality” and why your true power only exists in the present moment.I start by introducing The Brotherhood, a new program coming in January 2026 that serves as a half-step into the Academy for Consciousness Expansion - a place for you to step into community, coaching, the Model of Alignment, and eliminating buffering from your life. From there, we move straight into the here and now: why the past and future only exist in perception, why time and space are illusions, and how your consciousness is always operating in the eternal present.We explore monism: there is no separation between inner and outer, mind and body, you and your environment. Your consciousness and your environment are one unified hologram. That means reincarnation is not some linear “next life” in the future - it’s about lessons, games, and the spiritual journey. Your consciousness can incarnate “forward” or “backward” in historical time, because it’s all the same eternal now.To ground this, we dive into Star Wars - Obi-Wan, Qui-Gon Jinn, Yoda, and the living Force - as metaphors for your awakening. Being “mindful of the future” is useful, but not at the expense of the moment. When your mind is trapped in anxiety about the future or guilt about the past, you lose access to the Force. You lose access to action.So I give you a five-step practical process to return to the now and reclaim your power over flesh:Pause & Elevate Your Alpha – Stop and observe your mind. Where is your consciousness - past, future, or present?Run a Model of Alignment – Put it on paper, in a notebook, on your phone, or even using a tool like ChatGPT. Get your model out of your head so you can see your conditioning.Return to Presence & Feel – Bring your mind into your body. Feel the vibration, the emotion, the energy in motion. Let it move.Look Again at Your Environment – Open your eyes and truly see what’s around you - whether it’s trees, traffic, or office walls. It’s all you. Your environment is your consciousness.Practice Your Intentional Model & Energy Mechanics – From presence, think deliberately. Run your intentional model and experiment with how you manage and move your energy.This episode is an invitation to stop living as a prisoner of time and start operating as a conscious Jedi in the hologram - aligned with the Force, rooted in the now, and fully engaged in your spiritual transformation.