Surfing Lesson #358: Useless Boards and Wetsuits

A coach told me once in middle school that the hardest things in life are STARTING and FINISHING!

Today marks exactly one entire year of DAILY podcast recordings and episodes! And while it may come as a surprise to many, recording and/or going live on the air is the most terrifying thing that I do! There's nothing that seems natural about it to me, and I feel the fear every time I show up. Yet, here I stand with 365+ episodes published over the last 365 days! Boom! Push through YOUR fear and GO AFTER YOUR VISION!

It sucks when the movement stops. In the ocean, the water starts to stink and there's no waves to play with. But when the water is moving and the waves are rolling in consistently, it's PLAYTIME!

Do you enjoy being with yourself, just with yourself, and nothing or no one else to distract you from yourself?

With many people who you think you love, you’re only fooling yourself. WHAT you really love is the thought, the idea, the hope that they will change into the person that you would love. WHO you really love is a bullshit projection of a person who you believe will one day conform to your imprisoning belief system and judgments. It is merely a fantasy, a lie to both yourself and them...aka, "CONDITIONAL" LOVE. I know, I know....this sounds like some crazy shit. And if it does, then YOU are ESPECIALLY one of those ☝🏼️ people. I know because I was the prime example of loving Luci for the person for I hope she would one day be. And when it would get hopeless, as it would often get, I would literally PRAY for God to change her 😅🤦🏻‍♂️. Same with my children. I mean, I look back now and see how self righteous and egotistical and ASSHOLE'ISH I was, but during all of those years stacked upon years of "love", I literally thought I was the most loving and compassionate husband and father around. Is your love for your bride today conditional? Or is it truly LOVE, unconditional and unrestrained? #ruthlesslycommitted

What signs are you ignoring? Life gives you constant breadcrumbs and the gut feelings and intuition that comes with them. Don't ignore them!!

I feel like I'm a badass surfer surfing these big waves. Killing it 1.5x OH waves with a 9'6" single fin longboard. I used to think that was simply someone special. If I'm a great surfer is because I'm special and have some advantages that others don't. Today I realize that the surfer I am today was not born this way, but 100% built through commitment.

I have a bunch of surfboards and wetsuits...thousands of dollars worth of equipment that I skip over and don't really give a crap about because I simply won't do the work to repair them. Your life is full of relationships that don't work and are merely being tolerated because you refuse to do the work required!

At the very edge of what you now consider dangerous is the place where you get to experience your most drastic results in your life!

You can't have courage without fear. Fear is a gift! Experience fear inducing surf to experience the bold, powerful, courageous side of yourself!