Episode 353: When Cues Become Conversations

What makes some riders succeed where others stall out? In this episode, Stacy Westfall unpacks Tony Robbins’ model of state, story, and strategy and shows how lasting progress comes from more than just finding the right plan. She explains how success often depends on the unseen layers that shape choices in the arena and beyond. Key takeaways: – Chasing strategies while ignoring state and story leads to frustration and stalled progress – The story you tell yourself directly colors how you interpret and apply strategy – Your emotional state sets the tone for both your ride and your horse’s response – Shifting state and story first allows the right strategies to actually work This episode examines how the interplay of state, story, and strategy influences both horse training and personal growth. Strategy gives you the steps, story gives you the meaning, and state gives you the power to use them.

When riders add layers of communication, the line between offering support and making a correction can blur. In this episode, Stacy Westfall shows how the same physical aids—pick up, guide, release—can create very different experiences for the horse depending on the rider’s intent and timing. Key takeaways: – What makes steady support feel so different from a late correction – Why the same aid can either build confidence or create tension – How horses reveal whether they’re guided or corrected – What riders must notice to make guidance clear This episode explores how horses interpret the difference between guidance and correction, and what that means for riders who want to communicate with more clarity, reduce tension, and build trust.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall explores how a simple cue system can evolve into a conversation with your horse. Through real examples from her own riding and her students, Stacy shows how anticipation, contradictions, and “mistakes” often signal effort and learning rather than resistance. Key takeaways: What looks like a problem may actually be proof your horse is trying to apply what you’ve taught Anticipation isn’t something to eliminate, but a tool that can reveal missing pieces in your cue system Strengthening one cue often exposes weaknesses in another—this is part of balanced communication Viewing feedback from your horse as part of a loop transforms training into a two-way conversation This episode examines how shifting your perspective—allows you to recognize effort, guide balance, and deepen the connection with your horse.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall explains how survival riding develops, why it often goes unrecognized, and what keeps riders stuck in that cycle. Drawing on stories from her own childhood as well as patterns she sees in adult riders, Stacy reveals the two main roots of survival riding and why avoiding the uncomfortable work only makes the problem grow. Key takeaways: – Survival riding often begins with not knowing what you don’t know, leaving riders unprepared for escalation – Guilt and fear in adult riders can keep them from practicing the very skills that would prevent runaway moments – Short-term safety choices can mask long-term gaps in communication and control – Building advanced skills creates readiness and dissolves the need for “white-knuckle” riding This episode examines how survival riding shows up, why it persists, and how skill-building replaces scraping by with confidence. It’s especially relevant for riders who recognize moments of barely holding it together and want to move toward deliberate, prepared riding.

When things are “kind of working,” it’s tempting to stay the course—even if you’re not fully satisfied. In this episode, Stacy Westfall explores the hidden resistance that keeps riders from making changes, even when they know it could improve safety, connection, or performance. Drawing from examples across different riding levels, Stacy reveals why rocking the boat feels harder when nothing is terribly wrong…and why that’s exactly when change matters most. Key takeaways: – Feeling dissatisfied but resisting change often comes from fearing the discomfort it will create—both for you and your horse – Small, untracked “1% improvements” can mask backward steps if you’re not measuring progress over time – Avoiding disruption at home can lead to bigger problems when surprises happen on the trail or in the show ring – Off-season is the best time for deliberate skill-building, even if it temporarily disturbs your “polished” picture This episode examines the mental and emotional side of choosing change—especially when it means creating short-term resistance for long-term gain. It’s for riders who want to move beyond “good enough” and step into deliberate, measurable progress with their horses.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall offers three distinct ways to think about how horses learn to handle surprise. Drawing from her experiences with horses like Willow, she explains how layered training builds connection, responsiveness, and the ability to recover quickly when the unexpected happens. Key takeaways: A horse’s recovery depends on the quality of connection already built through shared attention What may feel like micromanagement at first becomes the seamless responsiveness of an experienced team Rhythm teaches predictability, but random prepares the horse for real-life surprises Horses can be trained to handle inconsistencies—not by avoiding them, but by making them part of the conversation This episode examines how training shapes a horse’s response to the unexpected—and how your mindset, habits, and choices all play a role in what unfolds next.

Most riders only think about safety after something goes wrong. But what if the most effective way to feel secure—and actually be safe—is to prepare before a problem ever shows up? In this episode, Stacy explains why proactive riding builds not just safety, but also clarity, emotional stability, and dependable habits that hold up under pressure. Key takeaways: – Waiting for a problem before you teach a skill puts both you and your horse at risk – Practicing “the answer” ahead of time builds clarity – Emotional tone during training shapes long-term rider and horse behavior – Safety is not reactive—it’s the result of consistent, intentional preparation This episode demonstrates how teaching the answer before it’s “needed” can transform your confidence, your horse’s trust, and your ability to respond clearly when the unexpected happens. It’s a practical reminder that true safety comes from preparation—not luck.

If you’ve ever hesitated mid-ride, wondering how to acknowledge your horse without losing momentum, you’re not alone. In this episode, Stacy Westfall explores the often-overlooked skill of pausing in motion—a subtle shift that turns mechanical movements into a connected dance between horse and rider. Key takeaways: – Long pauses work in early training, but can unintentionally disrupt rhythm and clarity – A well-timed pause within the movement builds engagement and subtle responsiveness – Push and pull energies are essential, but the space between them creates true connection – Learning to pause without stopping allows your horse to stay mentally present and curious This episode examines the art of timing and suspension across groundwork, trailer loading, and collection. It’s designed for riders who want to move beyond mechanics and create seamless communication through feel, timing, and the power of a purposeful pause.