Not So Innocent Bystander: ADULT Trauma of Caregivers Turning a "Blind Eye"

My kid had a falling out with a very close friend- even I was a little shocked at what happened.But I thought it would just blow over once they played like kids typically do…It didn't. He was still super angry every time their name was even brought up even way after it happened.OMG. I knew that feeling...I was stuck there for decades before healing, and it showed more often than I would like to admit.The PROCESS I wish someone would have taught me at my kid's age that I used to help my own inner child stop hating the world...

Someone said something so wildly inappropriate to me at a family party...holyyyy...Craziest part? I wasn't mad at HIM, but there was someone else I was upset by...and this might be hiding in your past too...We usually think of trauma as the person who DID something harmful to us, right? I didn’t realize the damage of the “bystanders” until this happened…- How to know if you are TRULY healed or not- 2 REAL-LIFE ways to actually release emotions and integrate your shadow aspects (yes, even you friend)...

And we're BACKKKK...it's been a heck of time friend... My kid needed dental work done and was stuck on a waiting list for over a YEARRRR. I could not believe how the Universe was working to get us to where we really needed to be- it's hard to see because it feels so TERRIBLE... How surrendering into everything going "wrong" (especially with everything happening right NOW) is where it all starts going right.

My kid came running out of school crying…over his TEACHER.I have talked a ton about healing, accepting and working through issues with others (especially family!).This recent situation showed me there are times we SHOULDN'T...-What to look for that calls for a different “conscious” approach -HOW to present the issue to be truly heard and helped

We've all been there as parents- your kid is doing something out in public (or with judgmental family) and you want so desperately to make it stop... Usually I'm able to do "something" to at least help the situation, this day I wasn't. Being stuck (and unable to control), had this shadow screaming at me and it came out in a way that I didn't realize I was doing until now... What shame is REALLY about (which helped me feel different about it) Real-life ways to help you process and integrate this shadow so we stop beating ourselves up and dumping it on others.

Out of the mud comes the bloom...I ran into someone yesterday who I had an issue with 2 years ago (I even made a podcast episode about it then!). We had come a long way since.She was going through a really tough moment, and I was EXCITED for her!!Ummmm whattt?? Yep. The faster I have shifted to this (as hard as it was), the faster the good things came to me

"Dammit Christina how do you keep doing that??"A video showed up for me right on Divine time...How shame is connected to the things we say we don't want to do anymore or not doing the things we say we do want to do.And a real-life exercise to help release the programs that keep us stuck and feeling like s@#$.

If you ever walked on eggshells as a kid (umm hi!), almost killed yourself to be perfect (uh hi again!) and/or had to pretend you were ok when you really weren't (well s@#$)... this was probably never done for you growing up. It sounded "woo woo" to me when I first started healing, but I saw recently with my husband how awesome it is when you don't do this... - What "holding space" really means and why it's so important for any relationship especially parenting -A way to see if you are able to -Real-life ways to help you get there even with a trunk of trauma

I have a secret- I have gotten annoyed and even CRINGED at people being close and affectionate…
WTH is that about??(As my ego cringes admitting that…)
A recent (awesomely terrible!) moment shown light on some shadows I was apparently trying to dodge.
-How this shows up from childhood wounds-Real ways to find and work with our shadow so we stop doing unhealed bs 


Always a good time trying to parent differently in front of others (especially family!)My kid refused to share recently and I ALLOWED it...(enter judgement and discomfort)-The surprising move even I was shocked I made to change how it was received -How for many of us, it runs much deeper than it seems connecting to childhood conditioning and traumas-Why and how to help your child AND your inner child when it comes to boundaries and WANTING to share