No Drive Postpartum, Facetime Sex, and Intimacy Despite Chronic Illness (Answering Listener Questions)

This week's quickie is from J Parker about choosing a lubricant for sexual intimacy. A few lube recommendations: Sliquid Organics Natural Water-Based Personal Lubricant | Married Dance Swiss Navy Premium Silicone Based Lubricant  | Amazon Aloe Cadabra Organic Personal Lubricant | Married Dance (water-based) Sliquid Naturals Silver Silicone Based Personal Lubricant | Married Dance Sliquid Swirl Flavored Lube (they have a lot of flavors, but this variety pack is a good starting place) | Amazon Jo Flavored Lube (taste a little like Jolly Ranchers) | Amazon Aloe Cadabra Flavored Lubes | Amazon Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We welcome back former cohost and fan favorite Gaye Christmus to talk about fostering intimacy in your marriage during the summer months—both the challenges and the opportunities. Sponsor Does your husband want sex more than you do? Or are you the one who is more interested? Preorder Sexual Desire Differences: Understanding and Navigating a Mismatch in the Sheets now! The masterclass will arrive on or around July 1, 2025. From the Bible It was you who set all the boundaries of the earth; you made both summer and winter. Psalm 74:17 Resources The Healthy Life Toolbox - Gaye Christmus's active website 10 Ways to Actually Relax and Enjoy Your Summer Vacation | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 6 Simple Ways to Slow Down this Summer | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 7 Tips for Having Sex at the Parents' House - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways "Hotel Sex" Can Boost Your Marriage | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 29 Fun and Sexy Things to Do with Your Spouse this Summer | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. SEX and the BEACH • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Portable Outdoor Blanket with Waterproof/Sandproof Bottom | Amazon 10 Ways to Keep Cool While Heating It Up This Summer - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Do Children Need This Summer (It May Not Be What You Think!) | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Worship the Lord. Make Love with Your Spouse. – Intimacy in Marriage (Julie Sibert) Men think they're doing their share of housework. They're not. | The Week DREAMCARE Bamboo Sheets Set | Amazon How to Feel Sexy this Summer - and Why It's Worth the Effort! | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Strong Wives - Bonny Burns's website Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor's website Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker's website Gaye's Lipstick: Cover Girl 325 | Amazon Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives And if you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about decorating yourself for sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.

On this podcast, we’re not focused on just having sex. We want wives to experience great sex. But how do we define that? Today, we’re diving into what makes for great sex in marriage and how to get there. Sponsor Get 25% off any Share the Soap lotion or hydrosol in the month of June with our coupon code: FCWSummer. Let soothing touch and scents for your sheets spark deeper connection. Turn bedtime into bonding time with Share the Soap massage lotions and hydrosols. And preorder our new Table Talk Masterclass on Sexual Desire Differences: Understanding and Navigating a Mismatch in the Sheets NOW! Dropping on or around July 1, 2025. From the Bible But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3–4 I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. 1 Timothy 2:1–2 (just a comparison of the same word in Greek translated quiet, also translated sometimes as tranquil) Resources Episode 195: Explaining Women’s Sexual Response Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay (only $5 for a limited time!) Be His Porn Star? Here's the Problem... | Intimacy in Marriage (Bonny thought it was J, but it's from the other Julie!) He Wants a Wild-Cat in Bed. That's Not Me. • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Love (and Sex in Marriage) Is Not Self-Seeking - Hot, Holy & Humorous Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar Replay (only $5 for a limited time!) Episode 43: Dealing with Sexual Baggage Dealing with Sexual Baggage | The Forgiven Wife Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade Episode 186: Speak Up! (Quickie) Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Thoughts to Feel Great About Yourself and Improve Your Sexual Interest • Bonny's Oysterbed7 One Step Forward | The Forgiven Wife Healthy Marriage, Healthy Sex Life (the One-Another Series) • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Healthy Marriages Start with Healthy People - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with the last of her kegels series about connecting with your body after trauma. You can find the first two quickies of the series here: Episode 215: Kegels and Sexual Pleasure (Quickie) Episode 219: Kegels and Climax (Quickie) Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.

Sex can feel weird for many wives. We talk about why and how to get past the awkward to better sexual intimacy. Sponsor We’d love your support … and to give you perks! Check out our new page at Patreon and partner with our ministry. From the Bible Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17 Resources A Shaded View of Romance | The Forgiven Wife Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? | The Forgiven Wife As Bad as Porn? | The Forgiven Wife Common Myths of Romance Novels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Isn't Sex Like What You See in Movies? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 154: Why We’re Against Porn and Erotica Understanding Your Sex Drive Webinar (only $5 for a limited time!) Where Purity Culture Got It Wrong, Let's Get It Right - Hot, Holy & Humorous Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Thoughts to Feel Great About Yourself and Improve Your Sexual Interest • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture Rabbit breeding video (in which the buck falls over) Better Help - get matched with a therapist What we didn't know about male anatomy | Diane Kelly TED Talk Orgasm Webinar (only $10 for a limited time!) The Wonderful Way Babies Are Made by Larry Christenson (out of print now, but you can get a used copy) Episode 25: Sex Is Funny Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives And if you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about the sexual benefits of exercise. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! You can support this podcast by joining us on Patreon.

We welcome Francie Winslow of Heaven in Your Home to talk about why and how to integrate body and soul for better sexual pleasure and intimacy. Sponsor Calm your mind, reduce stress, and elevate your mood while nourishing your skin with Share the Soap's organic aloe and goat milk lotion scented with essential oils. Experience true body-soul integration as this luxurious lotion soothes your skin and harmonizes your emotional well-being. Aroma skincare at its best! AND buy any size lotion and get a your-choice, FREE lip balm through May 31 using code FCWMAY. Put both items in your shopping bag, and the lip balm will show FREE. Visit Share the Soap From the Bible  Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Genesis 2:25 So God created mankind in his own image,     in the image of God he created them;     male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 For it pleased the Father that in Him should all fullness dwell, and having made peace through the blood of His cross, by Him to reconcile all things unto Himself — by Him, I say, whether they be things on earth or things in heaven. Colossians 1:19–20 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. Psalm 139:14 (NKJV) Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. John 13:3–5 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:38–42 Resources Francie Winslow's website Heaven in Your Home Podcast – Francie Winslow The Romantic Vineyard | Debi & Tom Walter The Gospel in the Bedroom – Hot, Holy & Humorous What Is Lusting? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 193: Making the Most of Your Five Senses Essential Oils Roller Balls | Amazon Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Great Are You Lord- All Sons & Daughters Lyrics | "It's your breath in my lungs" Episode 182: Pray About Your Sex Life (Quickie) Betrayal & Sexual Addiction with Bonny Burns – Heaven In Your Home Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://www.patreon.com/c/ForChristianWives And if you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns  Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor  Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker  

This week's quickie is from J Parker about how to find support and wisdom to help your sex life. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We tackle some tough listener questions today, with a biblical perspective and authenticity. Learn what we have to say about a lack of desire postpartum, a husband who wants to engage sexually through Facetime, and maintaining intimacy when chronic illness makes it difficult. Sponsor Healing from betrayal and sexual wounding is possible. Sexual Clarity for Christian Women: Reclaiming Your Sexual Identity After Betrayal, helps you know you’re not alone in wanting to have better understanding of healthy, godly sexuality and sexual experience! By the end of this course, you’ll stand tall and take the wheel of who you are sexually as a Christian woman empowered and filled with peace. Also don't forget about J's new book, The Higher Desire Wife! It's on sale wherever books are sold, but you can get the best deal through Baker Books or order through Amazon to give us a small affiliate commission without any additional cost to you. From the Bible And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:25 (ESV) Resources Motherhood and Libido • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Q&A with J: Baby's Here, But Sex? Not So Much. - Hot, Holy & Humorous After Baby Comes Along | The Forgiven Wife How Having Kids Depleted My Sexual Desire - Knowing Her Sexually (written for husbands) Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy - Knowing Her Sexually (written for husbands) Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Sliquid Soul Coconut Oil Personal Lube - Married Dance Amazon Fresh, Organic Virgin Coconut Oil (for personal lubricant, use virgin/unrefined coconut oil) When My Sex Life Sucked - Part 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous When My Sex Life Sucked - Part 2 - Hot, Holy & Humorous Better Help (use code 4CW to get 10% off your first month) Why I Took My Breast Implants Out - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sex Advice for Wives with Chronic Illness - Honeycomb & Spice Dealing with Erection Problems | The Forgiven Wife Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program - Married Dance Penis Sleeves and Strokers - Married Dance  Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn’t Possible by Chris Taylor – WORTHY Bible Studies Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 - Honeycomb & Spice Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - Honeycomb & Spice Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker