231 - Navigating ADHD in Relationships: Compassion, Connection, and Understanding

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseAre you wondering how ADHD can impact intimate relationships and what unique challenges couples face when one or both partners have ADHD? Are you curious about the difference between character traits and neurological wiring when it comes to forgetfulness, time blindness, and emotional connection? Want to learn concrete ways to cultivate compassion and create systems of support in relationships touched by ADHD?In this insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome special guest Alex Romo, LMSW and therapist, to dive deep into the lived experience of ADHD within relationships. Drawing from both his professional expertise and personal journey with adult ADHD diagnosis, Alex sheds light on how neurodivergence shapes communication, emotional intimacy, self-esteem, and day-to-day interactions between partners. The conversation thoughtfully unpacks misconceptions about ADHD as a “character flaw,” instead reframing it as a neurological difference that deserves curiosity and compassion from both partners.Whether you’re newly navigating an ADHD diagnosis, suspect your relationship is impacted by undiagnosed ADHD, or simply want to foster greater empathy and understanding, this episode offers relatable stories, practical advice, and powerful encouragement. Discover how both partners can move from judgment to acceptance, create supportive systems together, and find empowerment in their unique strengths. Listen now to find out how ADHD can be a source of connection, growth, and deeper intimacy—not just frustration—in your relationship!Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseHow do your early childhood attachment experiences shape your physical and emotional intimacy as an adult?What common challenges do couples face when trying to communicate about sex and intimacy?Which actionable steps can partners take to break free from old patterns and foster a more secure, fulfilling connection?In this powerful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin unpack the fascinating connection between attachment styles developed in childhood and the complexities of adult intimacy. Drawing on real-life examples—as well as their own personal journeys—they demystify the challenges so many couples face in the bedroom and beyond. From anxious and avoidant dynamics to the lasting impact of family messages around sex, pleasure, and boundaries, EJ and Tarah provide valuable insight, practical guidance, and hope that lasting change is possible.Whether you’re struggling to express your needs, longing for deeper emotional connection, or simply curious how your past might be affecting your relationship today, this episode is packed with psychoeducation, self-reflection questions, and encouragement. Don’t miss the expert tips, relatable stories, and actionable strategies to help you and your partner create more freedom, safety, and satisfaction in your intimacy. Tune in now and take your next step toward a healthier, more connected partnership!Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseHow can couples create long-term systems that encourage honest, open communication—even during tough times?What are practical ways to maintain intimacy and connection amidst parenting, work, and life’s chaos?How do Leanne and Aaron navigate differences in desire and emotional needs while building a secure relationship?In this candid and heartfelt episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome their first-ever couple to the hot seat: Leanne and Aaron. From their acro yoga-inspired first encounter in a Tucson park to twelve years of marriage, Leanne and Aaron open up about the real systems and intentional practices that keep their relationship thriving. Dive deep into their journey as they share how open communication, weekly check-ins, and constant growth have helped them face everyday challenges together, including the highs and lows of intimacy, balancing autonomy with connection, and supporting each other’s growth as individuals and as partners.Whether you’re newly partnered or a seasoned couple, this episode offers relatable stories, actionable strategies, and refreshing honesty about what it takes to build a deeply connected relationship. Hear how Leanne and Aaron navigate parenting, work, and the ebbs and flows of intimacy by staying committed to full transparency, forgiveness, and structured support. If you’re looking to strengthen your bond, move past avoidance, or simply find reassurance that you’re not alone in the struggles of love, this episode delivers both inspiration and real-life tools you won't want to miss. Listen now to discover practical ways to create your Relationship Renovation!Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseAre you and your partner feeling more like roommates than lovers?Struggling to find time for meaningful connection amidst career, kids, and daily responsibilities? Wondering what practical steps can help rebuild intimacy and create space for your relationship, even when life feels overwhelming?In this insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin confront the all-too-common challenge of being “spread too thin” in modern relationships. Drawing on both their personal experiences and years of working with couples at their counseling center, they delve into why so many couples end up on autopilot—juggling endless to-dos, technology distractions, perfectionism, and societal pressures—while their relationship quietly slips down the priority list. Tarah and EJ vulnerably share the hidden costs of this lifestyle, from fading intimacy and mounting resentment to a sense of loneliness, and what that looks like in real-life partnerships.But this episode isn’t just about naming the problem—it’s packed with practical, actionable advice to help you start reclaiming time for each other, no matter how busy life gets. Learn how “micro connections,” daily emotional check-ins, tech boundaries, and saying “no” more often can restore deeper intimacy in your relationship. If your partnership could use a reset, tune in for encouraging, down-to-earth strategies that can transform your connection, one intentional moment at a time. Don’t just survive the busy seasons—listen now to learn how you and your partner can thrive together.Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How do our deepest vulnerabilities and fears relate to our "core gifts" in both emotional and sexual intimacy?What powerful questions can couples (or individuals) use to uncover and share their sexual core gifts with their partner?How can couples move from surface-level connection to deeper, more fulfilling intimacy using practical tools and rituals?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome back renowned psychotherapist and Deeper Dating podcast host Ken Page founder for an intimate Part II conversation on uncovering your sexual core gifts. Building on Ken's transformative framework for meaningful love, the trio dives even deeper, exploring the ways our most shameful or tender places hide our greatest capacity for connection, especially in the bedroom. With practical, heart-opening questions and real-world examples, you'll learn how to identify what truly makes you feel safe, moved, and excited during intimacy, and why discovering (and sharing) these core gifts can reignite your relationship on every level.Whether you’re single and seeking soulful love or in a long-term relationship eager to deepen your connection, this episode is packed with actionable insights, vulnerable stories, and even a step-by-step guide to the Tantra-inspired “Tantric Hug” ritual. Ken, Tarah, and EJ dismantle myths about sexual vulnerability and show how small, intentional practices can move you and your partner from disconnected routines to genuine, loving closeness. Tune in for inspiration, practical advice, and the emotional permission you need to claim the intimacy you truly deserve. Don’t miss this heart-centered roadmap to the core of your sexual and relational self!Learn more about Ken Page and the Deeper Dating PodcastVisit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What are "core gifts," and how can recognizing them transform your relationships?How do our most vulnerable and sensitive parts impact intimacy and connection with our partners?What actionable steps can you take to identify, embrace, and communicate your core gifts to strengthen your relationship?In this powerful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with renowned psychotherapist, author, and Deeper Dating podcast host Ken Page to dig deep into the transformative concept of "core gifts." Ken shares his personal journey from feeling chronically single and disconnected to discovering how our most tender, sensitive, and sometimes shame-covered traits hold the key to authentic intimacy. Through heartfelt storytelling and practical insights, you'll learn how embracing your unique vulnerabilities can not only heal past wounds but also spark a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.Whether you're looking to rekindle joy, break down emotional walls, or simply understand yourself better, this episode offers a roadmap for nurturing both self-compassion and true partnership. Ken reveals a simple but profound framework for identifying your core gifts, shifting the way you view your insecurities, and gently guiding your partner to do the same. Tune in to discover actionable tools and a compassionate mindset that will empower you to transform your relationship—and perhaps even your life—by honoring the most authentic parts of yourself. If you want a relationship filled with emotional safety, deeper trust, and revitalized intimacy, you won’t want to miss this episode!Learn more about Ken Page and the Deeper Dating PodcastVisit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you unknowingly making relationship mistakes that could be sabotaging your connection with your partner?What are the most common pitfalls couples face, and how can you move from frustration to real solutions?How can you and your partner grow together and reignite intimacy, even through life’s biggest transitions?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin break down the five biggest mistakes couples make—and, more importantly, how to overcome them. From lack of communication and emotional avoidance to taking each other for granted, unresolved conflict, neglecting intimacy, and not growing together, this episode is packed with relatable stories, expert insights, and practical solutions. EJ and Tarah share their personal experiences and proven strategies on transforming everyday challenges into opportunities for deepening connection and trust in your relationship.Whether you’re looking to enhance communication, resolve lingering resentments, or rediscover intimacy, this episode will inspire and equip you with actionable tools. Plus, find out how their “Relationship Renovation at Home” program can help you and your partner create weekly habits for more meaningful conversations and emotional closeness. Tune in and start making small changes that add up to the awesome relationship you deserve!Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Ever wondered how understanding your Enneagram type could transform your relationship?Curious which enneagram pairings are most common—and what makes them tick?Looking for fun, accessible ways to deepen emotional and intimate connection with your partner?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with Christa Hardin, renowned therapist, author, and founder of Enneagram and Marriage. Christa dives deep into the power of the Enneagram as a tool for couples’ growth—unpacking how knowing your type, and your partner’s, doesn’t just explain your quirks but opens the door to more compassion, stronger communication, and real healing. Whether you’re new to the Enneagram or already a type enthusiast, Christa shares actionable insights, intriguing stories from the therapy room, and relatable examples of how the Enneagram fast-tracks understanding and connection.Listeners will walk away with a clear overview of all nine Enneagram types, practical first steps to begin their own Enneagram journey, and surprising tips for applying these insights in everyday life and even in the bedroom! Christa’s approach is warm, research-based, and refreshingly down-to-earth, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking fresh hope and new tools for a thriving partnership. If you’re ready for more connection, less conflict, and a better understanding of both yourself and your partner, hit play on this episode—you’ll want to share it with every couple you know!Enneagram and MarriageVisit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you tired of conflicts with your partner escalating and leaving you both feeling disconnected?Curious about a proven system that helps couples pause, self-regulate, and return to emotional safety—even in the heat of the moment?Want to model healthier conflict resolution for your kids and transform the dynamic of your entire household?Tarah and EJ Kerwin take you deep into the transformative power of the “code word” system—a real-world tool that has enhanced their marriage and countless others. Discover how couples can use a simple, playful word to hit the pause button before arguments spiral out of control. The hosts share step-by-step guidance on identifying when you’re outside your window of tolerance, negotiating how long to separate, and what to do during your break so you return to the conversation more grounded and connected. Plus, they address the science behind emotional dysregulation, practical tips for using code words with kids around, and the importance of healthy reconnection after conflict.Loaded with relatable stories, actionable exercises, and heartfelt encouragement, this episode will motivate you to create new, healthier patterns in your relationship, whether you’re struggling with frequent arguments or just want more emotional safety and intimacy. Ready to learn the code word approach that Tarah and EJ have used for nearly a decade? Tune in and start transforming the way you and your partner handle conflict. You’ll walk away with a concrete, science-backed system for building a stronger, more connected partnership—and maybe even some new ideas for your personalized code word!Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How do you know if a close friendship has crossed the line into an emotional affair?What are the warning signs and root causes behind emotional affairs in a relationship?How can couples heal from emotional affairs and prevent them from happening in the future?In this honest and insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin dive deep into the complicated world of emotional affairs. Drawing directly from their extensive experience working with couples and real-life questions, they tackle the common dilemma of defining emotional infidelity versus friendship and shed light on the subtle boundaries that can get blurred. The hosts break down key signs of emotional affairs, including secrecy, emotional intensity, and prioritizing another person over your partner. They also discuss why emotional affairs can feel just as damaging—if not more—than physical ones, and why so many people unknowingly slip into these situations.If you’re seeking practical guidance to strengthen your relationship, this episode offers actionable strategies to address unmet needs, create emotional safety, and establish healthy boundaries. EJ and Tarah share hope-filled insights, including statistics on recovery and tips on building stronger emotional connections with your partner. Whether you’re concerned that an emotional affair may be happening, experiencing it firsthand, or want tools for prevention, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to build trust and intimacy in their relationship. Don’t miss out on this essential guide to understanding and healing from emotional affairs—tune in now!Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands