A Better Way To Money

Take The Attachment Quiz Join The Coaching Call On Friday 11/13 Yana's Website Why does sex sometimes get more complicated the longer we're together? In this episode, sex therapist Yana Tallon-Hicks joins us to explore why intimacy can start to feel predictable and how couples can bring back excitement and desire. We talk about breaking out of familiar sexual routines, getting more comfortable talking about sex, and what monogamous couples can learn from non-monogamous relationships. Plus, we share practical ways to be more intentional about your relationship and keep your connection strong over time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy How often does an innocent text message set off a surprisingly intense emotional reaction? When we operate outside our window of tolerance, ordinary interactions are quickly misinterpreted as threats. In this episode, we unpack how to recognize nervous system dysregulation, identify personal triggers, and communicate with clarity rather than react from self-protection. Main Talking Points: Window Of Tolerance Hyper Versus Hypo Arousal Emotional Logic Balance Identifying Personal Triggers Vulnerable Relational Communication Creative Conflict Resolution Remaining inside your window of tolerance doesn't require eliminating emotional intensity or retreating into detached logic. True security grows when partners stay connected, curious, and collaborative—even in the middle of relational friction. Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do so many couples feel like they are constantly speaking two different relational languages, especially when switching between emotional discussions and physical intimacy? When partners occupy the same role, either as a double pursuer or a double withdrawer, across both emotional and sexual domains, it can amplify feelings of disconnection and mutual exhaustion. In this episode, we talk about unpacking these overlapping dynamics to replace reflexive blame with genuine curiosity, vulnerability, and grounded connection. Main Talking Points: Dual Dynamic Overlap Empathy Bridge Gaps Sexual Cycle Triggers Responsive Desire Shifts Curiosity Over Judgment Regulated Disengagement Timing True relational intimacy doesn't require moving at the same baseline pace; it relies on the shared willingness to slow down, listen beneath protective reactions, and appreciate the underlying bid for connection. Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Check out Thrive's Grief Group Try Relationship Academy for Free Get the opportunity to meet other grievers Get education on how grief presents during the holiday season, prompts to explore your own grief experience, tangible tools for integrating grief during the holidays An activity would be creating your own holiday grief web - helping clients create a visual representation and understanding of how the death of a loved one creates many other grief experiences that change the way we approach the holidays Best suited for clients who have experienced the death of a loved one and may be feeling nervous about the upcoming holiday season or those wanting more tools to better navigate the holidays without a loved one. Takeaways - gaining an understanding of how and why grief can be intensified during the holidays. Walk away with tools for integrating grief and your loved one into your holiday plans experience. Gaining confidence to create a plan for the holidays that best suits wherever clients are in their personal grief journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy How do you distinguish between standard relational friction and a truly toxic, abusive environment? In this episode, Colter Bloxom and Cayla Bozovich sit down with Dr. Jamie Star, founder of the STAR Network, to unpack the critical differences between a partner's protective moves in a negative cycle and characterological patterns of abuse. Dr. Jamie shares his personal journey through relational trauma, breaks down how childhood attachment styles shape codependency, and offers a path toward reclaiming safety. By shifting focus away from diagnosing a partner and toward trusting your body's somatic wisdom, this conversation helps you replace blame and confusion with internal clarity and grounded boundaries. Main Talking Points: • Differentiating Relational Cycles • Defining Toxic Dynamics • Unpacking Childhood Trauma • Trusting Somatic Signals • Reparenting Through Consistency • Regulating Emotional Safety Healing from relational trauma isn't about fixing an unresponsive partner; it's about anchored self-awareness and cultivating environments where you feel consistently safe, seen, and supported. True recovery begins when you stop looking outward for validation and begin honoring your own internal boundaries. Connect with Dr. Jamie Star: Dr. Jamie Star's Website: https://drjamie.com STAR Network:'s Website: https://starnetwork.org Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do we judge a partner’s apparent inaction while feeling entirely overwhelmed by our own stress? When everyday household friction erupts into an argument, the conflict is rarely about time management—it is a cry to have our unseen emotional burdens recognized. In this episode, we unpack the hidden internal loads partners carry and explore how shifting from quick assumptions to compassionate curiosity transforms relational strain into deep connection. Main Talking Points: Uncovering Invisible Emotional Loads Assessing Individual Daily Capacity Replacing Assumptions With Curiosity Validating Unseen Relational Strain Respecting Varying Nervous Capacities Connecting Beyond Full Understanding You do not need to fully comprehend every detail of your partner's internal struggle to offer meaningful relief. Relational safety grows the moment you pause, validate their experience, and acknowledge the weight in each other's backpacks. Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Can a marriage survive when love remains, but genuine likability has eroded? In this episode, marriage and family therapist and author Jonathan Van Viegen joins us to explore why restoring mutual likability matters far more than obsessing over chore division or endless interrogation. We unpack how shifting from scarcity-driven "needs" to open "wants"—and balancing radical maturity with forgiveness—can transform relational injuries into lasting connection. Main Talking Points: Loving Versus Liking Curiosity Over Resentment Radical Behavioral Maturity Navigating Forgiveness Journeys Eliminating "Why" Interrogations Reframing Needs To Wants Rebuilding a thriving partnership isn't about perfection or scorekeeping; it's about showing up with the willingness to choose each other every day. Real connection unfolds when you trade defensive interrogation for curiosity and work together toward mutual abundance. Connect with Jonathan Van Viegen: Jonathan Van Viegen’s Book: Choosing Us https://jonathanvanviegen.com/book Jonathan Van Viegen's Website: https://jonathanvanviegen.com Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order!  Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order. *If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our live coaching call tomorrow at 3pm EST for Relationship Advice listeners! Click here to sign up. Today is the last day to get in at the founders rate! Check out Monica's Masterclass Follow Monica on instagram Stop trying to “find the one” — focus on becoming the one.A strong relationship starts with knowing yourself: your values, purpose, patterns, and who you want to become. The danger is expecting a partner or marriage to somehow complete your growth for you. The right relationship should help you become more yourself, not less.Monica’s Michelangelo vs. Golem distinction is probably the strongest concept in the episode: a healthy partner helps reveal a version of you that you also want to become. An unhealthy dynamic tries to sculpt you into the person they want you to be. Relationship satisfaction has a lot to do with how we interpret our partner.Early on, we naturally magnify the positive; later, we can start magnifying the negative. Healthy relationships require intentionally cultivating appreciation, challenging our assumptions, and reframing what’s happening instead of automatically concluding, “My partner is the problem.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices