4 Tools to Fix Triggers

This episode explores how growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature parent can distort your perception of yourself, others, and your worth, and how to reclaim it. Instead of fixating on the parent, we look at the damage that lingers and the path to undo it.Learn why triggers around work, relationships, and self-doubt aren’t personality flaws—they're leftover survival responses from childhood. Patrick shares vulnerable personal stories about being cast as “the dumb one” and how those old narratives showed up in adulthood, even during success.Topics include:How narcissistic parents damage a child’s perceptionThe impact on self-worth, identity, and intimacyHypervigilance, projection, and feeling “in trouble” for existingThree powerful recovery tools:Protecting your inner childWriting a truth statementGiving back what was never yours to carryYou’ll walk away with practical exercises to shift perception, stop living in fear, and reclaim a sense of self that was always yours.-----------------------------Workbook Chapters1 — How to Get Your Inner Adult in Place … 122 — The Built-In Forgetter (Codependency) … 273 — Honoring Our Trauma Responses & Coping Strategies … 384 — Overcoming Magical Thinking … 515 — The Feeling of Being "In Trouble"… 636 — How to Stop Anticipating Criticism … 747 — Childhood Trauma & Physical Energy Issues … 848 — Depression Related to Childhood Trauma … 979 — Processing Childhood Emotional Neglect        (The Things That Didn’t Happen)… 10710 - Processing Childhood Enmeshment with an        Emotionally Immature Parent …11811 - Processing Childhood Trauma-Related Grief … 13112 - Processing Guilt: Recognizing the Family History       Before Low or No Contact … 14313 - How to Recover from a Narcissistic Parent … 153Journal PromptsJournal Prompt #1: How did self-worth get twisted?How did your narcissistic parent create damage around your self-worth and how you perceive yourself?Write a list of ten experiences about lost self-worth due to that parent.ExamplesThat Christmas when my mother made me stand up in front of the entire extended family while she berated me about why I didn’t get any gifts.My father would take any achievement I had and one-up me. I gave up on having self-worth because he was the focus.Journal Prompt #2: Who did they say you are?Write several paragraphs about your struggle with a healthy sense of self and how the narcissistic parent contributed to a poor sense of self. Who did your parents say you were, either through protection, neglect, or supply?ExampleI’ve always guessed at what I like or who I am. My mother had these twisted ideas, or fantasies, that I was going to become an entrepreneur and live a fabulous life in support of her. Did I want that? What even is that? What I know now is if she had a child who was a rich genius, she could have supply and validation—she could tell her friends she raised an entrepreneur. Of course I don’t know who I am.Access the workbook herePatrickteahan.com/workbookKeywords: narcissistic parent recovery, childhood trauma, perception wounds, inner child healing, self-worth repair, intimacy triggers, emotional abuse healing, trauma recovery toolsJoin the Monthly Healing Community Membership

This episode dives into the ways childhood trauma shows up in daily triggers—and how to break free from them faster. Learn how your past shapes present reactions and discover practical tools to release the emotional charge that keeps you stuck.Topics include:Understanding how triggers connect past and presentFour actionable tools for regulating emotional triggersHealing practices for body and mindReclaiming your time, energy, and creativity from traumaJoin us for an empowering conversation on building resilience, calming your nervous system, and supporting your inner child.Keywords: Childhood trauma, emotional triggers, healing tools, inner child work, trauma recovery, nervous system regulationJoin the Monthly Healing Community Membership

This episode explores the ways childhood trauma survivors often feel left out in friendships and social situations, and how those early family patterns show up in adult connections.Topics include:Struggling to “jump in” during conversationsStarting friendships but pulling away quicklyFeeling “too much” or too intense for othersHow family modeling shapes social shameInner child work and dialoguing prompts for healingJoin us for an honest, compassionate conversation on finding belonging and becoming more comfortable in your own skin.Keywords: childhood trauma, social anxiety, inner child healing, friendships, boundaries, CPTSD, feeling excluded, self-worth.Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

In this episode, Patrick sits down with Dr. Ingrid Clayton to unpack fawning, the often-missed, deeply relational trauma response: why “people-pleasing” isn’t what it seems, how power dynamics shape it, and first steps toward taking up space—without turning into someone you’re not.Order your copy of Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find Our Way Back today!ORDER HEREJoin the Monthly Healing Community Membership

This episode explores in-depth how emotionally immature or abusive mothers impact their sons long into adulthood. Keep an eye out for two more parts of this series!Topics include: Feeling triggered by other women - imaginary or realDifferent types of toxic mothersReplicating patterns from our childhood traumaTips for healing and building healthy relationshipsJoin us for an insightful conversation on healing and finding emotional balance. Keywords: Childhood trauma, toxic mother, relationships, healing, self-worth.Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

Toxic Fathers & The Daughters They Leave Behind I hope this episode was helpful and or thought provoking for you. Please like, follow or comment w/questions. For in depth journal prompts, subscribe to my YouTube channel for video versions of these episodes!Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

Why Your C-PTSD Isn't Getting BetterTopics covered: sense of self, childhood trauma, DSO, CPTSD, PTSD, relationship problems, emotional triggers, psychology, assessment, measurable goals, journal prompts, childhood trauma, trauma response, attachment. In this episode I go over Disturbances in Self-Organization, a diagnostic criteria set that separates PTSD from C-PTSD. We can fine tune our healing efforts if we know which of the three DSO ideas affects our functioning the most. This episode also discusses a tool we are developing to measure C-PTSD progress and gives resources such as what therapy modalities might be the most useful for the category that you score the highest in.Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

In this episode I cover the mental health personality of a Star Wars character C-3P0. Other Star Wars mental health mentions: K-2S0, gonk droid, Luke Skywalker, Andor, Mon Mothma, Empire Strikes Back, Luthen Rael, Dedra Meero, Syrill, R2-D2, Darth Vader, Palpatine, Han Solo, Narcissism, Covert Narcissist, codependency, Chewbacca, Emperor Palpatine, Princess Leia, Yoda, Boba Fett, Sith, Star Wars fans. The sound clips used in this episode are owned by Lucasfilm Ltd. and are part of the Star Wars franchise. All rights are reserved by the respective copyright holders. This episode is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only and falls under fair use.Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

Our biggest fear is that we’re failing our children somehow.” If you’re worried—because most parents are—this video will help you approach that fear with compassion and clarity.In this video, you’ll learn:Real-life “no-one-tells-you” parenting stressors, from biting toddlers to boundary-pushing tweens.How to spot and rethink your personal triggers by tracing them back to your own childhood.Practical “reset” tools: what to say to yourself (and your child) when you feel that hot-button reaction.Healthy parenting concepts for responding with patience, even in your most challenging moments.Additional Thoughts:1. If you’re struggling with hitting your children, yes, that causes damage—try to get that issue resolved first.2. I believe that a child needs at least one engaged and loving parent working on themselves. 3. Repairing is discussed in the webinar - it’s never too late to repair and be real about failings. 4. Amplifying situations such as co-parenting with a toxic person are real issues. Try to just focus on your own parenting. A parenting coach can be very helpful in those situations if available. 5. No parent is perfect, but that cannot be used to self-enable or minimize.Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership

Anxiety rarely shows up without a backstory. In this video, I’m diving deep into how childhood trauma — especially experiences rooted in neglect and abuse — can shape the anxiety many of us struggle with today. These issues often get labeled just as anxiety. We'll explore: 1️⃣ The root causes of anxiety tied to our past 2️⃣ How those early experiences can still affect us in the presentI’ll walk you through a list of childhood trauma-related issues that might help you connect some important dots in your own life. These topics can be intense, so please take care of yourself as you watch. This isn’t about blaming the past, but about understanding it — because when we understand where anxiety comes from, we can begin to loosen its grip. I’ll also share my personal thoughts on anxiety, therapy, and how trauma differs from general anxiety. Join the Monthly Healing Community Membership