229: Lower the Bar

Before you plan next year, look at the ways you might be keeping yourself stuck without realizing it. I cover the quiet patterns, like saying “I’m good,” researching instead of starting, and turning down help, and what each one protects you from having to feel.Show notesIn this episode:The ways we get in our own way at work, with money and in relationshipsWhat each pattern keeps us from facingHonest answers to “How are you?”“There’s nothing to defend”: how to actually hear feedbackHomework: one goal, the story you told about it, and what you did nextBetter Goals: This Time, Differently, live Sunday, Dec 6 at 7 p.m. ETRegister: [LINK]Bring Your Work: [LINK] · Substack: [LINK] · Instagram: [LINK] · myleik.com

Everybody wants community, but are we willing to do the work of building it?In this episode, I'm talking about the difference between access and belonging, why showing up isn't always enough, and what it actually takes to build meaningful relationships. I'm also sharing a few practical ways to be more intentional about finding your people.LINKS MENTIONED:Myleik & Mommas CommunityOwning Our Struggles by Minaa B.What Is Community, Anyway?  by David Chavis and Kien Lee, Stanford Social Innovation ReviewLife Audit Workshop Replay: [link]

A catch-up from Cabo on making things too complicated, being seen, and why rejection is rain.Plus: Does your life match what you say matters to you?Join my LIVE Life Audit—Sunday, October 25, at 7 PM ET.

We live in a time where answers are everywhere, and while language can be incredibly helpful, there's a trap hiding inside all that learning. In this episode, I'm talking about the gap between knowing and doing. Why so many smart, self-aware people can explain exactly what's holding them back and still feel stuck. Why implementation is often less about strategy and more about fear, support, visibility, identity, and consistency. I also share the four things I think most people actually need. - I'd love for you to ask yourself one question: What do I already know that I'm ready to act on? And if the answer is, "I know what to do, but I don't want to do it alone," come join us in BYW. That's exactly why I built it. - Summer School This summer we're bringing in experts to help us think differently about work, money, entrepreneurship, visibility, identity, and growth. Upcoming classes include: Finding Your Breakthrough in Entrepreneurship with Ken Burkeen Understanding Your Numbers with Harquin Personal Brand & Being Seen with Kisha Maldonado Madrid Turning Income Into Real Wealth with Kaya Ladejobi Available live and by replay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I respond to a listener letter about growing up with a parent who started things and didn’t finish them, and how that pattern now shows up in her marriage, her business, and her fear of burning out. This is a conversation about self-leadership, honest accountability, and building a different relationship with time, effort, and completion. Resources mentioned: Atomic Habits by James Clear Atomic Habits Workbook Myleik's Live Coaching Community Want to write in?Send your anonymous listener letter to: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m thinking out loud about why so many of us feel stuck, especially at the start of a new year. I talk about information overload, trying to fix too many things at once, making our goals too big to sustain, and why showing up (especially in relationships) matters more than being “ready.” I also share how living by a code, asking for support, and making things smaller has changed my life. As always, take what you need and leave the rest. Mentioned in this episode: Love Is Not a Luxury (Substack essay) Episode 112 — my conversation with Ryan Holiday on living by a code Need support beyond the podcast?I created Bring Your Work, a live group coaching space where you bring the real thing you’re stuck on and we work it through together.$99/month • cancel anytimeLearn more at myleik.com → Coaching Want to write in?Email me at [email protected]  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my most honest end-of-year episode. I’m talking about what it really costs to stay open, why silence isn’t maturity, and how I’m learning to trust myself as the narrator of my own experience. I share what I’m seeing in my work, why hard work still matters, and what people are actually looking for when they say they want more. If something in your life doesn’t feel fine, this episode is an invitation to stop pretending it is. Connect With Me Website: myleik.com Instagram: @myleik Community: Myleik & Mommas Newsletter: Sign up here Substack: Read it here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As summer fades and fall begins, I’m sharing three tools to help you finish the year steady, clear, and grounded. This isn’t about cramming in last-minute goals or chasing copy-paste routines. It’s about stripping back to what’s essential and moving with intention. Fall reminds us that letting go makes space for what’s next. Do the work now, so you don’t drift into chaos later. 🔗 Learn more and join my Money & Worth Workshop here: myleik.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the midpoint of the year, and I’m not chasing anything. I’m choosing joy on purpose. In this seasonal episode, I’m inviting you to slow down, savor small pleasures, and say no to freezing in anyone’s emotional weather. I share my “Summer Punch Card” to help you feel even 2% more alive, offer reflections on urgency vs. presence, and tell you why some of the most powerful things I’ve built in my life happened slowly. Also: My fall coaching books reopen mid-July. If you’ve been thinking about working with me, this is your moment. Resources Mentioned: DO. SEE. EAT. DRINK Substack myleik.com + @myleik on social Email me: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’m inviting you to lower the bar—not because you’re incapable, but because perfectionism is stalling your progress. I’m breaking down the difference between high standards and paralysis, why “good enough” matters, and how showing up honestly (even in process) is what moves you forward. In This Episode: Why perfectionism is fear in a Gucci belt :) The difference between high standards and creative paralysis What it really means to “lower the bar” without lowering your vision How to release your work even when it’s still “working” A new definition of progress you can actually feel good about Mentioned in this episode: The Creative Act by Rick Rubin – https://amzn.to/3YQS4W5 My updated website: https://myleik.com Join my private community: https://www.myleikandmommas.com Take Action:🔴 Share this episode with someone who needs permission to begin.🔴 Tag me @myleik with your favorite takeaway.🔴 Subscribe, rate, and review the podcast wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices