172. How to actually feel more secure

How often have you asked yourself: Am I too much? Is texting twice too much? Is initiating seeing them again too much? Do you often worry that being open and honest about your feelings means you’re ‘too much’? If so - this episode is for YOU!Mentioned in the episode:Find out about coaching with Rebecca - email: [email protected] the your free Self Esteem Building Kit - HERE

We’ve all been told a thousand times that our thoughts create our realities...But when life feels hard, our partners seem uncaring, or the world feels like a hopeless place… it can be an easy thing to forget.So in today’s episode - I want to help you understand exactly how your brain shapes and distorts your experience of reality...So that you can start to notice the impact of it in your own life, and start calling bullsh*t on the narratives that are keeping you stuck.Ready? Let’s dive in!Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca - get the details

Maybe it’s a friend you've known for years - and you feel like you’re the one always reaching out to check in or arrange plans. Or maybe it’s someone you’ve been on a few dates with and you feel like it’s always you confirming the next date night. Or perhaps it’s a family member who always calls you to vent about their problems, but the minute you need support and want to talk - they’re suddenly unavailable. Whatever the relationship - we have ALL experienced some form of one-sided relationship.So in today’s episode, I’m going to be outlining 5 uncomfortable truths about one-sided relationships that no one will be straight with you about...AND I’m going to help you manage your mind in whatever situation you’re facing, so you can approach the relationship as your most secure self.Mentioned in the episode:Secure Reframes Guide - FREEEnquire about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

If you’ve ever experienced betrayal in a relationship - you’ll know first hand how painful it can be.And I’m dedicating today’s episode to talk about it. Covering things like:Handling the shock of betrayalWhy the brain obsesses over needing to know every detailThe meaning we make about ourselves and the futureShould you stay or leave?How trust is rebuilt (and why self-trust matters most)Mentioned in the episode:Processing Emotions MeditationEnquire about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

Think more positively. Your thoughts create your reality. Just don’t sweat the small stuff.All great advice - but hard to implement when you’re in the habit of feeling like a victim to your brain and the stories it tells you.So in today’s episode I’m going to help you shift from being in the passenger seat, to being back in the driver’s seat of your brain...So that you can create the kind of experience of your relationship and life that you truly want to have.Mentioned in the episode:Download my Secure Reframes Guide HEREEnquire about 1:1 coaching spots for March

Do you ever wonder if you and the person you’re dating are actually just incompatible? Maybe you know you have some mind drama and insecurities to clear up - but also question if… maybe I’m just with the wrong person?If so - this episode is for you!March 1:1 coaching spotsEmail me directly at [email protected] to get all the details and book a free 30 min consult!

Are you terrified of being cheated on? If so - today’s episode is for you. I’m talking all about the deeper beliefs fuelling the fear of being cheated on.Some will resonate with you, others won’t. But if the fear of being cheated on is something that keeps you up at night - this episode is going to help you truly understand why that is. And what needs to change to overcome it.Mentioned in this episode:Get in touch about 1:1 coaching opportunities - [email protected]

Most of us are familiar with what it’s like to feel insecure. And you may find yourself wishing or saying out loud that you want to work on feeling more secure.Most of us go about creating feelings of security all wrong - which is why it doesn't work.So in today's episode I'm talking about:Where people go wrong when they try to feel more secureWhat being more secure actually meansAnd the one thing to work on to build genuine feelings of securityMentioned in the episode:Secure Connections 101 - 12 week group coaching programme detailsSign up for Secure Connections 101 NOWEmail directly to ask questions or enquire about 1:1 coaching

I want to give you a little insight as to what coaching can look like for real life people - with real life relationship struggles. And so I’m using the example of a past client of mine who felt triggered when she found out her partner watches porn.Even if you can’t relate to that specific anxiety - I encourage you to listen anyway...Because you're going to learn how to:Separate facts from storiesClean up your own fears and insecuritiesAnd show up to relationship triggers as your most secure, intentional selfMentioned in the episode:Sign up to my 12 week group coaching programme / Get more detailsUse discount code 'SC10' for 10% off before midnight GMT on Friday 23rd!Find out more about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with people that are hot and cold towards you - while ignoring the people that are consistently available and there for you?Do you feel like your romantic relationship or even friendships are the focus of your entire world - and if there could be a problem in one of them - it’s like your entire world is crumbling and you can’t focus on anything else?Do you often feel jealous and on edge in relationships? Like your brain is just scanning for signs that you’re about to be rejected?If so - you’re likely stuck in the validation cycle - and I’m going to talk about why it’s happening and how to finally create a different experience of relationships.Mentioned in the episode:Overcome Your Fear of Rejection - Free masterclass12 week group coaching programme - DETAILSContact me directly about 1:1 coaching opportunities