Ep. 107 | Forgiveness 101

Love isn't just a feeling — it's a daily choice. In this episode, we continue our series on Paul David Tripp's "Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments," unpacking Commitment 4: giving yourselves to a lifestyle of love. We cover the danger of keeping score in marriage, and simple daily habits that build real, lasting love. Practical, faith-based marriage advice for real couples. Christian marriage podcast, gospel-centered relationships.Get a copy of the book at: ⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com/books⁠⁠Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

Unity in marriage isn't automatic — it's a daily commitment. In this episode, we continue our series on Paul David Tripp's book Marriage, unpacking Commitment #3: building a marriage of unity. We talk about why proximity doesn't equal unity, how the word "why" quietly creates defensiveness in conflict, and what phone passwords and bank accounts reveal about trust.Get a copy of the book at: ⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com/books⁠⁠Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

We're back with Commitment #2 from Paul David Tripp's Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make — making your marriage's growth a daily commitment. We talk weekly marriage check-ins, love languages, and the 4 types of connection every couple needs.Get a copy of the book at: ⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com/books⁠Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

Marriage doesn't expose your spouse — it exposes you. We kick off a new series through Paul David Tripp's book Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make, starting with Commitment #1: a lifestyle of confession and forgiveness. We unpack why "I'm sorry, but..." isn't a real apology, why sex should never substitute for reconciliation, and why forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling.Get a copy of the book at: https://www.marriagepuzzle.com/booksFollow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

Healthy communication is such an integral part of marriage. In this episode, we break down some differences between healthy and unhealthy communication. Practical, honest, and rooted in scripture — real tools for healthy marriage communication.Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

We're answering your real marriage money questions: how to value a stay-at-home spouse's contribution, whether you need "permission" to spend money you earned, and what to do when your wife makes more than you. Plus, the life insurance number most one-income families never think to calculate. Honest, practical, faith-filled money talk for married couples.Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠⁠

In this episode, we dig into one of the most common (and most avoidable) wedges in marriage: finances.If money has ever been a source of tension in your marriage, this episode is for you — and your spouse.Follow the podcast and share this one with a married friend who needs to hear it. Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com⁠

Our 7-year-old daughter taught us more about forgiveness in one bedtime meltdown than any marriage book ever has. In this episode, we unpack the difference between apologizing and forgiving, why pride turns "I'm sorry" into a standoff, and how to set a boundary without creating conditional forgiveness. If this episode helped you, share it with another couple and be sure to follow Marriage Puzzle wherever you listen to podcasts.Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com

In episode 106, the second installment of our Q&A series on pornography and solo intimacy, we dig into some of the toughest questions couples wrestle with but rarely say out loud. Does adult content quietly reshape what we expect from sex with our spouse — and can it chip away at attraction over time? Is pornography a bridge that draws a couple closer, or a wall that keeps them apart? And when it comes to toys or adult content in the marriage bed, are we adding something that enhances intimacy, or inviting an invisible third party into the relationship?We explore the tension between a healthy and unhealthy marriage bed, grounded by Jesus' words in Matthew 5:28 — "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." For a safe, no nudity, environment to check out ways to spice up the intimacy in your marriage, check out our partners Romantic Blessings. Use this affiliate link to receive a special discount on anything you buy.And for more ways to keep your intimacy spicy, check out our partnership with the Intimately Us app via this affiliate link. This app lets you connect directly with your spouse and only your spouse to answer questions, or send spicy messages to one another without the fear of accidentally sending it to the wrong person. If this episode helped you, share it with another couple and be sure to follow Marriage Puzzle wherever you listen to podcasts.Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com

Is watching pornography cheating, a harmless outlet, or a destructive addiction? In this episode, we tackle one of the most polarizing topics in marriage: solo intimacy vs. shared intimacy, and what happens when one spouse initiates and the other rejects.We ask (and debate) the hard questions:Is it healthy to choose solo satisfaction over your spouse when you're in the mood?Does one spouse's rejection of intimacy justify the other turning to solo intimacy or pornography?Why do men and women often experience desire so differently — and what can couples do about the gap?Is there a double standard between how we view male consumption of pornography vs. female consumption of romance novels/media?We also talk through practical alternatives couples can turn to instead — like how you can still spice up your intimacy through a partnership we have with a safe no nudity website (see info below) — and look at what Scripture says about intimacy and self-control in marriage.1 Corinthians 7:2-5 ESV“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”For a safe, no nudity, environment to check out ways to spice up the intimacy in your marriage, check out our partners Romantic Blessings. Use this affiliate link to receive a special discount on anything you buy.If this episode helped you, share it with another couple and be sure to follow Marriage Puzzle wherever you listen to podcasts.Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marriagepuzzle⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage.puzzle⁠⁠⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.com/@marriagepuzzle⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarriagePuzzle⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.marriagepuzzle.com