You ‘re not the boss of me

Have you ever heard this expression--possibly from kids but sometimes said in another way it is the sentiment behind adult push back. In this episode, Alvean and Doug dissect the meaning behind that expression and why it is an important indicator of control issues that may be working behind the scenes.  For a full transcript, click here: LL24-You're not the Boss of Me

Conventional wisdom suggests the answer is yes, but is that really true.  In this episode Alvean and Doug take on the question with some surprising insights int what makes for a lively and rich relationship.  For a full transcript, click here:  LL23-Do Opposites Attract

Arguably, jealousy is one of the most toxic emotions, one that can destroy any relationship.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about its roots in insecurity and poor ideation of the self.  They offer some thoughts about how best to counter it and create an environment that in wholesome, and transparent.  For more click here: LL22-Jealousy

Can you go back?  Do failed relationship work on a second try or is the damage too profound to ever repair.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug offer their thoughts on the pitfalls and possible benefits of a second chance.  For a full transcript, click here:LL21-Getting Back with Your Ex

Maybe you have had the experience or perhaps heard about such situations.  When a relationship ends it is often more than painful emotionally, some partners go that extra step to inflict even more pain, emotionally, financially, or in other ways.  How does one handle such a situation and even more pertinent, how does one avoid it in the first place.  Listen to what Alvean and Doug have to say in this episode: LL20-Vindictive Ex's

If there is a human trait that matters more and least understood, it is empathy.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about why empathy is at the core of all durable relationships, ib life, work and love.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL19-Empathy is a Lost Virtue

It takes a secure person to open themselves up to others but it is only through vulnerability that true emotional connection can flourish.  Alvean and Doug explore this paradox in this episode and offer vivid examples from their own experience.  For a full transcript, click here: LL18-Vulnerability

Philosophers and everyday men and women alike wrestle with the question, what is my purpose in life?  What actually matters--and how do we discover the answers?  In this episode, Alvean and Doug take on these pithy questions and offere their own experience and insights in response.  For a full transcript, click here: LL17

It sounds counter-intuitive but Alvean and Doug would tell you that some of our most painful experiences are also incredibly important teaching moments.  Although no one seeks out suffering, especially where relationships are concerned, emotional pain, loss and grief take us to places where we can look at ourselves and our lives in a more objective perspective and emerge--either through one's own devices or with help into a better and healthier life.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here:LL16

Can we truly deceive ourselves?  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about the ways we obfuscate, pretend and misdirect our intuition and intellect when matters of the heart are concerned. For a full transcript, click here:LL15