Singles Series: I'm in a YES Season (Meet Paaton)

I am SO EXCITED that today my new book Relationship Skills officially releases into the world!! Because I believe that healthy relationships are not found, they’re built – I invited Levi and Sabrina to join me on today’s episode to discuss some of the concepts in Relationship Skills and how to apply them to this season of marriage. After welcoming their rainbow baby 9 months ago, they find themselves dealing with more conflict and tension in their relationship than usual...and they need some hacks to help them better navigate the conflict when it comes up. We dive into some of my favorite conflict hacks, and I teach them how to practice the skills necessary to get through conflict feeling more connected than they started. Relationship Skills is officially available anywhere books are sold, and I cannot wait to share it with you!! So grab a copy and start building the skills you need to take your relationship to the next level! Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you ● in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation ● in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself ● in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict  ● in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors...

When kids take over the house, marriage can easily go to survival mode - and suddenly the relationship you love feels like one more chore on the to-do list. In this powerful Couples Therapy episode, Lenny and Letty open up about the invisible ways parenting, exhaustion, and unresolved patterns are draining their connection. With three kids, room-sharing, chronic sleep disruption, and years of putting everyone else first, they have reached a point where intentional connection is nonexistent. Debra helps them uncover what is really happening underneath the bedtime battles. What starts as a conversation about kids in the bedroom becomes a deeper look at motivation, avoidance, emotional timing, and the patterns that keep couples disconnected even when they still love each other deeply. If you’ve ever felt like your marriage is getting lost under the demands of parenting, work, and fatigue, this episode will hit home. It’s honest, hopeful, and full of practical wisdom for couples who want to move from barely getting by to building something stronger on purpose.Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a thriving relationship. Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Pre-Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself  in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict  in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session...

We’re BACK with the most popular series of the year: COUPLES THERAPY! And we hit the ground running in this heated episode with Curt and Lindsey.They’ve been dating for quite some time, moving toward marriage, yet they still don’t see eye to eye about some of their boundaries in the relationship. Curt feels uncomfortable with some of Lindsey’s decisions and interactions, and Lindsey feels like Curt is not able to understand her perspective, nor trust her to make good choices. Is this an issue of healthy boundaries, or is this an issue of control? Debra helps them get to the root of what might actually be going on underneath their conflict, and the deeper feelings and needs that each one of them need to communicate. This conversation gets a little tense, which is exactly why healthy relationships require us to have the skills to navigate difficult topics and stay engaged. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a healthy relationship that lasts! Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Pre-Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation  in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself  in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict  in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started...

Today we’re closing out our Singles Series with Brittany from deep east Texas! One of my favorite parts of getting to know Brittany was learning about her heart for God’s word and memorizing scripture, ever since she was young. We talk about the power that God’s word has had on her life and how it’s informed so much of who she is and how she chooses to live, and how growing up in a large family shaped the way she sees life, her leadership abilities, and her communication skills. It’s a conversation about faith, family, spiritual leadership, unexpected heartbreak – and personal growth – and I know you’ll be inspired by Brittany, and want to get to know her! Single guys, reach out to Brittany and say hello on Instagram or via email. **A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion. Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Pre-Order Now! Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflic in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of nine books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances...

Today I'm chatting with Paaton from South Dakota, who's in a season where she's taking a personal challenge of saying YES to as many things as she can – to unexpected dates, to new friendships, to pickleball and burn bootcamp, to new friends, to adventure, to trying new things, and everything in between. She's in a season of transition, but she's leaning into the lessons of this season and trying to steward it well. You'll love this conversation and getting to know Paaton Karel, so follow up with her and connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paaton **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

Today I'm chatting with Rob, a single man from Las Vegas, who is here to let you know that the Vegas stereotype is not always what you expect. He's an entrepreneur that moved to Vegas a few years ago, and has stayed there to pursue his career and invest in his community there. He's passionate about health and wholeness - spiritually, emotionally, and physically, and he really believes that real love does exist. He wants to keep growing in every area of his life. His dating journey has been discouraging thus far, but he believes that he will find love and have a family someday. Ladies, take a minute to start a conversation with Rob by connecting with him on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/itsrobanderson **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

Today on the podcast I’m introducing you to Leah from Arizona, an amazing single woman whose life has taken an unexpected turn as a health and wellness influencer over the past few years. Leah went on a health journey of losing over 200lbs naturally and started sharing about her health journey on social media – which quickly gained attention. She’s in a season of stepping into all the things God has for her - and hopes and prays that this journey will include a husband one day as well. We also spent some time talking through her “not my husband list” – the list of things that she considers a major turn off in the world of online dating…she wants to know if her list is reasonable, or unreasonable! It’s important for us to know our NEEDS vs our PREFERENCES when it comes to dating, and this conversation will challenge you to take a second look at your list as well. You’re going to love this conversation as well as Leah Mancuso, so reach out to her and make a connection! Email: [email protected] **A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

The Singles Series continues with Malachi from Texas, who processes the journey of carrying past pain into relationships, and how it just bleeds into the next relationship, and the next one –  if you don’t take the time to heal. In trying to run from his pain, he prolonged it and caused more pain along the way that led him down a path of addiction. But the past few years have ushered him into a season of intentional healing, facing the past, and healing from his past trauma as well as his past mistakes. He’s desiring to do relationships in a way that honors God, and he’s committed to staying faithful to the calling God has on his life for ministry. Not only that, but now he leads a freedom ministry, helping others get set free as well. He’s moved from heartbreak into healing, and he’s praying for a woman who can walk with him along that journey. Ladies, give Malachi a shout out and introduce yourself by contacting him at:  Email: [email protected]  or Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/malachiburden_ **A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

The Singles Series continues with Lauren from Indiana, who is learning to make the most of singleness, while she trusts God with her hopes for marriage. She just finished her degree to become a counselor, and she has a deep love and compassion for people. Not only that, but she’s in a season of really enjoying her people – a strong community of friends that she’s built around herself to do life with. We talk about how she’s built community, and the importance role community, friendship, and intentional relationships has in her life. Then I process with her why a lack of community as a single person would actually be a red flag, as she’s looking for someone to date and match her life and values. This is a really inspiring conversation if you’re single, to encourage you to make sure you’re really making the most of life. Gentleman, reach out and connect with Lauren Creek by starting a conversation with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/llcreek or Email: [email protected] **A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

The Singles Series continues with Devon from Florida, who has learned the value of leaning into the hard conversations instead of avoiding them. Devon is pastor, coach, and single dad who has intentionally embarked on his personal healing journey, increasing in his emotional awareness, his conflict and communication, and his desire for authenticity. His past relationship history showed him his tendency to hide from hard conversations, and with the help of God and good counseling, he’s taking the opposite approach in this season of life, which is to embrace the hard conversations with the people he cares about. We talk about how conflict can lead to deeper intimacy, why it’s important to master relationship skills in dating, and what he’s looking for in a woman. Single ladies, if you love Jesus, dimples, and hoop earrings (you’ll have to listen to get that joke), send Devon Daniel a message and start a conversation:   Instagram: Instagram.com/Devon_Daniel Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devon.d.daniel/ Email: [email protected] **A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.