Who's Really in Charge in Your Bedroom? (And Why It Matters)

Send us Fan MailNobody told us what to do with them. Sex ed skipped them entirely. And somewhere along the way, women just... stopped thinking about them. Until now.Three women sit down and go fully, honestly, hilariously there — what we actually find attractive, what we've been getting wrong, and the moves that will genuinely change what happens in your bedroom tonight.We're getting into:Why so many women are low-key intimidated by them (and how to fix that)The grooming conversation nobody's having — including the Nair tipHow to know he's close without asking a single questionThe cupping trick that speeds everything upWhat we actually want to call them (drop it in the comments👇)This is the conversation your sex ed skipped. Men — take notes. Women — you're welcome.Watch my episode on Ball Busting: https://youtu.be/TIISg3f-O2oJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailThe Praise Kink episode was one of my biggest videos ever — and your comment section proved you're ready to go deeper.I pulled five questions I kept seeing and I'm giving you the real answers. Research, specifics, and the stuff I didn't have room for the first time around.✔ What to call her when "good girl" doesn't fit — honorifics, worship titles, and why they work ✔ Can you flip the praise kink and use it on men — and what does that look like inside the kink ✔ How to actually build a verbal vocabulary when you've been silent your whole sex life ✔ Why praise kink might be the most powerful tool for women in menopause ✔ How to introduce praise kink — whether you've been together two months or twenty yearsListen to Praise 5 Praise Kink Moves Part 1 Here: https://youtu.be/HW5PQANI09YJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailShe Stopped Wanting You & The Orgasm Gap Is Why (Here's the Fix!)She didn't lose interest in sex. She lost interest in sex that never worked for her. Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons — award-winning psychologist, Emory University professor, and author of Good Sex — breaks down the real data behind the orgasm gap, why it slowly kills a woman's desire, and exactly what closes it.Why 75% of women have faked it (and what that's really costing you)The script both men AND women buy into that kills her desire over timeWhy lesbians are finishing at 88% — and what straight couples can learn from itThe mental load connection nobody talks aboutHow mutual masturbation rewires the whole dynamicWhat to do tonight to start closing the gap for good📖 Good Sex: Stories, Science & Strategies for Sexual Liberation — available now  Find Dr. Hargons: https://www.instagram.com/dr.candicenicole/ https://www.drcandicenicole.com/My Guide to Best Couple's Sex Toys For Mutual Masturbation: https://talksexwithannette.com/the-best-couples-sex-toys-for-mutual-masturbation/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithanChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailIt's Masturbation May — and I'm giving you the practice that will upgrade your sex life more than any new position, any new toy, any new technique.Mutual masturbation. Touching yourselves at the same time, in the same bed, watching each other.It removes the pressure to deliver an orgasm. It builds the connection most couples are missing. It shows you exactly what works on each other's bodies. And it lets you both discover new pleasure together.What you'll learn: ✔ Why this practice fixes the orgasm pressure problem most couples have ✔ The exact words to suggest it without making it weird ✔ The starting position that makes it feel intimate instead of exposing ✔ The face-to-face position that builds connection most couples are missing ✔ The hand-on-hand technique that teaches your partner's exact pressure and rhythm ✔ How to use this practice to discover new types of orgasms togetherMy Guide to Best Couple's Sex Toys For Mutual Masturbation: https://talksexwithannette.com/the-best-couples-sex-toys-for-mutual-masturbation/Pair this with my 365 Days of Orgasms series for full tutorials on G-spot, A-spot, blended orgasms, and every other technique I reference: Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/Choose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailPlease stop fucking us hard. Seriously. That's the message — and if you heard it in Suzanne Noble's voice during this episode, you already know why it hit so hard.Suzanne is the host of Sex Advice for Seniors — nearly 200K followers, 180+ episodes, and the most unfiltered voice on intimacy and aging out there. She and I got into everything: why your arousal pattern changes after 50 and what to do about it, what men in their sixties are getting wrong in bed (and the one thing they could change tonight), why women who spent decades having duty sex are now retiring from it entirely, the swinging scene from a queer woman's perspective, dating younger men, and why the women having the best sex of their lives right now are the ones who finally stopped performing.If you're over 50, send this to a friend. If you're under 50, send it to yourself for later. Desire doesn't retire — unless you let it.Find Suzanne on Substack at: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/Check out her website at: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Choose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

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Send us Fan MailThere are one night stands you forget before you've brushed your teeth — and there are one night stands you're still thinking about years later. Today we're breaking down the difference.Zachary Zane — author of Boy Slut, Men's Health sex columnist, and Grindr's official sex and relationship expert — joins me to map out exactly how to have a one night stand that actually lives up to the fantasy. From the mental prep most people skip, to where to find the right person, to what happens in the room that makes it unforgettable — we're covering every stage.We get into: → The honest conversation you need to have with yourself before you go out → Where to find casual sex based on your gender, orientation, and vibe → How to communicate what you want without killing the momentum → Why one night stands can be MORE intimate than relationship sex → The aftercare that turns a hookup into a core memory instead of a regret → Safety tips every woman needs before leaving with a strangerPlus — we both share our own one night stand stories, because we've been there. A lot.🔗 Find Zachary: @zachary_zane_ on Instagram | Substack: Boy Slut | Book: Boy Slut: A Memoir and ManifestoWebsite: https://www.zacharyzane.com/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Choose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailYou watched How to F*ck Slower. You tried it. Then you lost your erection and panicked. This is the fix.Slowing down is the single best thing you can do for her pleasure — but nobody talks about what happens to you when you do it. Your brain speeds up, your body gets nervous, and you lose the one thing you need to stay in the game. This episode breaks down exactly how to stay hard, stay present, and become the man who can go slow without flinching.What you'll learn: ✔ Why slowing down triggers erection loss — and how to override it |✔ The metronome technique that keeps you steady and hard ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and how to start treating it like one ✔ The tech I personally use and recommend for erection qualityUse code ANNETTE15 on the Tech Ring and Ring Mate : https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti🔗 Watch first: How to F*ck Slower — and Leave Them Craving You for Days https://youtu.be/5Wid_oqJPLk🔗 Watch the FirmTech C-Ring Review https://youtu.be/n9nCYX3VAZ4🔗 Watch the RingMate Review https://youtu.be/xKAvZPN3EXE📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Choose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailMost couples stumble into bed hoping their bodies will figure it out. They don't. Because nobody's talking about who's leading, who's surrendering — or whether you're both fighting for the same role.Today's guest is Sarah Perry — certified somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and founder of Haven Space Coaching. She holds a master's in psychology and a background in women, gender, and sexuality studies. Sarah works with people through the body to help them understand what they actually want in bed without the shame.We're breaking down:What dominant and submissive energy actually means (hint: it's not what you think)How to figure out your default — and why it changes with different partnersWhy "feminine energy = submissive" is killing your sex lifeThe 5-minute game that'll tell you exactly who you are in bedHow to stop the awkward bedroom guessing game for goodFind Sarah Perry: Instagram: @havenspacecoaching Website: https://www.havenspacecoaching.com/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Choose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailYou've been misreading her in bed. The loudest sounds she makes? Those aren't for her. Research shows the majority of women vocalize to speed up his finish — not because they're in pleasure. Meanwhile, the sounds that actually mean she's deep in it? Most men miss them completely.In this episode, I break down the five real sounds she makes during sex — what each one actually means and the exact move to make when you hear it. This isn't theory. This is a playbook.🔥 What you'll learn: → The "sound" most men mistake for boredom (it's the opposite) → How to tell a real moan from a performance → The one gasp that means you found something — and how not to lose it → Why her going silent is the best sign, not the worst → The only sound you can't fake and can't force — and what to do when it happensDrop LISTEN in the comments if you want the full sequence — how to take her from sound one to sound five.📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Choose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!