Male Suffering Under Patriarchy with Jacob Tobia, Age Is Just A Number, and Fibromyalgia

Gabe and a friend got lemon tattoos. A listener writes in asking about whether they are supposed to make up with their friend's partner who has become disrespectful to the friend. Then, Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein join the show to talk about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, their book Real Skills For Real Life, and what tactics we can use to emotionally regulate and get out of painful patterns. In hypotheticals... geese! And finally, Allison has some thoughtful questions about Gabe's writing on bottom surgery for trans men.Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oops! Lots of relationship advice. Would you be in the wedding of the boyfriend who cheated on you with your best friend -- and now they're getting married? A woman forgets her friend is divorced and sends an awkward text. Why do people want to tell Allison and Melisa their life stories? Spaghetti dog closes us out! Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Allison's pregnancy update! Then, we answer a listener's question about if age is just a number (when she, younger, approached him, older). Next, they're joined by author Jacob Tobia comes by to speak about their book "Before They Were Men" and the rhetoric around men being co-survivors of patriarchy instead of solely beneficiaries. Finally, Gabe discusses some more information he’s uncovered about his ongoing chronic illness. Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

First, middle school boyfriends. R/sipstea brings us cute and funny coming out stories. Is it justified for a woman to not want to buy a house for her fiance and put his name on it? A man’s ex wife marries her affair partner and they make their combined last name her ex husband’s full name. Can you be a juice sommelier? Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gabe and Allison answer a listeners question about how to handle her emotions about her changing body as she ages. Then investigative reporter Alleen Brown joins the show to discuss environmental justice and the lawsuit against Greenpeace by Energy Transfer (the company behind the Dakota Access Pipeline) which is meant to bankrupt the organization. And finally, do we love or hate PR couples? Bennifer, Traylor, Sydney Sweeney etc etc. And how Gabe believes he could have married Christian Slater…. Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Allison's very go-with-the-flow about her forthcoming baby. An OP writes about stealing items from a bully who had lots of expensive things and made everyone at school feel like shit. The choice had long-term consequences. A woman dumps her boyfriend because he won't stop moving forward on starting a business with her abusive ex. An apartment dweller wants a neighbor to stop making his place smell like weed. Is a note a good idea? Melisa's neighbor plays loud music and she only changed her mind when they played this one song. Allison's neighbor double parks in front of her driveway and then wants a thank you for moving it. How old is the oldest person each of the three would date? r/shittymoviedetails brings endless clever joy. What does Reddit think about water?Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Gabe has a new overnight job and Allison has too many questions. They then answer a listeners question about how much she should push her husband who suffers from terrible anxiety outside his comfort zone for his own good. Then, harpist an recipient of the 2025 Doris Duke Artist Awards, Brandee Younger joins the show to talk about jazz, the importance of instruments in schools, and the spirituality of live music. She teaches the duo how to listen to jazz! And finally, what do Gabe, Allison and Melisa keep for sentimental reasons?Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Allison is deep into “Sally” TikTok. Gabe has lost faith in humanity because of one subreddit Allison proposes, but learns to love it again from another. More politicians should quit. R/AmITheAsshole brings us an OP who wants to ask her sister to wash her hair before being a bridesmaid in her wedding. A guy on R/ThatHappened keeps bragging about wild sex stories, among other unrealistic events. Gabe cleanses the palate with r/RandomActsOfKindness and two tales of contact lenses. How do we feel about Christmas?Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Note: Gabe was having some audio issues at the beginning of the interview.A listener writes in asking what to do now that her friend got quickie married to someone with a lot of internalized misogyny. Then, psychotherapist Jessica Baum joins the show to talk about healing attachment wounds from a trauma-informed lens. And finally, Gabe shares what it’s been like dealing with brain fog during his chronic illness. https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We don’t get into the Reddit articles until waaaaay into the episode, but first, a very good conversation about word usage and the divide between the LBT and the G communities. Then, a Redditor posts screenshots between her partner and a new girl on his team discussing how the girl questioned OP’s relationship with his kids. An OP explains how a local family they know is getting horribly scammed by an “international currency investment.” How are we going to avoid being duped by AI? Allison shares some nature facts — some true, some questionable. Gabe has a theory about Ginger from the Spice Girls. Check out all of our content on Patreon, Ad Free! Watch the full episodes of TLDRI, listen to the full episodes of The Variety Show, watch the International Question and Topix videos, join us for a monthly livestream, PLUS MORE:https://www.patreon.com/justbetweenusThis has been a Gallison ProductionProduced by Melisa D. Monts and Diamond MPrint ProductionsPost-Production by Coco LlorensProduction Assistance by Melanie D. WatsonOur Sponsors:* Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Check out Rosetta Stone and use my code TODAY for a great deal: https://www.rosettastone.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/just-between-us/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy