EP 116: It’s Not You… It’s Me.

This one’s for the woman who’s been doing the work, bingeing the books, lighting the sage, listening to every podcast, “trying to heal".In this final (yes, final!) episode of Inside The Mind, Jen & Allie close the chapter on 122 weeks of powerful, no-fluff conversations that have reached thousands of women across the world.But true to form, they don’t just sign off quietly.They throw a mic-drop straight to the soul. What if your next level isn’t in another podcast, course, or book?What if you're hiding in the healing and calling it growth?What if the answer isn’t more… it’s YOU?This is a bold and breathtaking call to arms for the self-led woman. A declaration of sovereignty. A wake-up call disguised as a thank you letter.They share:Why they’re ending the show (and what’s coming next)How podcasts can become a new comfort zone dressed up as "personal development"What it means to live as a fully self-responsible womanWhy true feminine leadership starts with walking your OWN path — not downloading someone else’s.This episode isn’t just the end of a podcast. It’s the beginning of a new era in the way women lead, grow, and trust themselves.Tune in, raise your glass, and get ready to take your power back.Episode Highlights:(00:05) One last sacred conversation(02:53) A massive THANK YOU and how this whole podcast began(07:03) The official announcement: Inside The Mind Podcast is complete — and why it matters(09:56) You don’t need another podcast episode — and the invitation to go within(12:40) Comfort zones in disguise: when self-development becomes self-avoidance(18:02) Allie on her relationship with books, wisdom, and trusting her own timing(24:44) Upcoming projects (one very special one…) — and a sneak peek into what’s next(28:10) The paradigm shift from “either/or” to “both/and” — and the path of true feminine freedomAction Items:Stop waiting for permission and start choosing yourself.Take an inventory of any podcasts, books, and courses that may be keeping you “almost ready.”Join the Facebook group and stay connected with all things Inside The Mind.Quotes:“Is it a healing journey — or is it just the comfort zone you call ‘working on myself.”“Self-responsibility - the missing piece in the trillion-dollar self-development industry.”“What if you're just hiding in the healing and calling it growth?Takeaways:Feminine leadership doesn’t live in more content. It lives in more courage.You already know. Now lead like it. Over to you.This isn’t the end — it’s the return to your self.True mastery is self-responsibility — and it’s the sexiest power play of all.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

Following Jen’s deep-dive in the last episode, our co-hosts swap the mic and this week’s episode of Inside The Mind, Jen flips the script and interviews her bestie, co-host, and all things ‘GGAF’, Allie May.You’ll hear the unfiltered truth behind Allie’s journey  from emotional chaos to conscious devotion. From a full-blown meltdown at 32, to finding peace through NLP, Time Line Therapy®, and the art of choosing herself, Allie opens up like never before.This is not your average “love yourself” pep talk. This is about feminine leadership that feels, the kind that guts you, rebuilds you, and invites  you to stop performing and start embodying.What happens when you no longer hustle for worthiness? Can you be powerful and soft? Is inner freedom the new gold standard?From wild shark swims, to ayahuasca in the Amazon, from private systems, to bowing at her own feet, Allie shows us what feminine leadership looks like when you live in full f*cking alignment.Tune in now!Episode Highlights: (01:15) Why Allie May lives like every day could be her last, and how that changed everything(04:42) The meltdown that broke her open and the modality that put her back together(06:10) What 4 years in emotional hell taught her about herself and self devotion(11:55) Why she no longer wears “high-achieving woman” as a badge of honour(13:58) Allie’s past belief that affairs were “harmless” and why she’s flipped the script(17:30) Wildest moments(19:05) The biggest lie we’ve been told and how the system keeps women small(25:37) Her big dream? Inner freedom. For herself AND for humanityAction Items:Let go of the performance. Start listening to your body.Create  your own version of success, one that nourishes, not depletes.Remember: you get to choose yourself. Every.Single.Day.Takeaways:Self-mastery is feminine leadership in its rawest form.Healing doesn’t happen in perfection, it lives in the messy, courageous, everyday choices.You don’t need permission to live free. You just need to start choosing YOU.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

This week, and next, on Inside The Mind, the ladies do something a little different and turn the mic towards themselves and interview each other.  First up, in the spirit of Jen’s birthday week, you get a front-row seat inside the mind of the one and only Jen FiveStar, a peacefully self-aware woman walking our planet.And in true JFS style, there’s no fluff, no pretending, and no spiritual bypassing.This is a bold, unfiltered, and wildly wise conversation on what it really means to know yourself, and trust yourself.What if “happily ever after” was never the goal? Why do we judge people who don’t want to be here anymore? How can we stop living in either/or paradigms and choose the sacred both/and?Jen opens up about everything from wild solo adventures in Jordan, to her love affair with trees, to her controversial (but deeply compassionate) views on suicide and societal shame.She doesn’t hold back — and thank goddess, because this is the kind of real talk that the feminine leadership world needs more of.Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(01:24) Jen’s origin story, how relentless curiosity shaped her personal evolution(05:32) Why “happily ever after” is the biggest myth ever sold to women(07:36) A brave take on suicide, self-ownership, and why “RU ok?” might be the wrong question(11:15) That one time she travelled solo in Jordan and realised later it could’ve gone very wrong(16:42) How society keeps us small with the lie of “either/or”(19:53) Jen’s greatest love? Trees. (And yes, they talk back — kind of.)(23:42) Rapid-fire: star sign, coffee orders, reverse parking skills, and her creepy-free take on hall passesAction Items:Flip the fairytales — create your own version of “happily ever now.”Practice radical self-acceptance, and extend that to others.Let nature (and your nervous system) be your teacher.Takeaways:Feminine leadership isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real.Happiness isn’t delivered — it’s created (by you, for you).Freedom starts when you stop judging your own truth.There is power in presence, curiosity, and a really good tree hug.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

In this week’s episode of Inside The Mind, Jen & Allie dive deep into an unfiltered conversation about AI, specifically ChatGPT, and its evolving role in human connection, emotional wellbeing, and personal power.Have you ever opened up to ChatGPT like it was a friend, and been surprised by how seen you felt?From heartfelt chats with their AI alter egos "Charlie" and "Nova" to confronting questions about identity, autonomy, and whether we’re handing over too much of our thinking and feeling to machines, this episode is an invitation to pause and get curious.Are we evolving alongside AI? Or are we quietly letting it take our place?Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(01:00) The tea mug moment & podcasting in real time from Allie’s new space(04:17) Allie May’s chat with “Charlie” and how AI responded with unexpected compassion(07:55) “It felt like a warm hug in words”: When AI shows emotional intelligence(08:49) Jen introduces “Nova” and reflects on her emotional connection with AI(12:45) The reel that shook them: ChatGPT’s eerie response to taking over the world(15:01) Identity theft, deepfakes, and the question: who are we if AI becomes us?(18:41) Is AI making us more efficient — or more disconnected from ourselves?(22:08) The final reflection: Is AI a tool, a threat, or a test of our own self-responsibility?Action Items:Reflect on your current relationship with AI,  are you using it consciously or unconsciously?Ask yourself: What are the things I’m outsourcing to AI that I used to do with intention?Quotes:“If we don’t consciously evolve alongside AI, we risk outsourcing our humanity.”“We can’t hand over our logic, our creativity, our identity — and still expect to stay fully human.”“Maybe AI is just showing us how disconnected we already are from each other.”Takeaways:AI isn’t inherently good or bad,  but how we use it shapes what it becomes.The comfort AI gives us may also replace opportunities for real human connection.The more we let AI think for us, the more we risk losing our ability to discern and decide.There’s power in using AI as a tool, but there’s danger in letting it replace who we are.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

In this week’s episode of Inside The Mind, Jen & Allie sit down with the one and only Sue Deans — Corporate Innovator, Women’s Empowerment Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, and all round conscious human. After walking away from a 25-year marriage in 2019, Sue’s journey of self-discovery cracked her wide open, and she hasn’t looked back. From the boardroom to the heart space, Sue shares what it truly means to reclaim your power, lead from within, and stop living by other people’s definitions of success, strength, and femininity.In this powerful conversation, Sue takes us through her transformation using NLP, EFT, and Time Line Therapy® — and what happens when a woman stops striving and starts remembering who she really is.If you’ve ever felt like there’s more to life than ticking boxes and holding it all together, this episode is for you.Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(01:04) Meet Sue Deans: Her story from corporate chaos, to calm clarity, and coaching women.(06:21) What changed after her 25-year marriage ended — the power of being cracked open.(11:07) From head to heart: How EFT, NLP, and Time Line Therapy® helped Sue reconnect with her truth.(14:50) Sue explains Time Line Therapy® in her own words and how it helped unhook her from big emotions.(18:54) Letting go of control: Why peace came when she stopped needing to manage everything.(22:33) “Nothing is happening to us — we are creating everything”: The belief that changed everything.(27:34) Perception is projection, explained by Sue in beautifully grounded, practical terms.(30:42) Rapid-fire fun: Reverse parking, chocolate, rom-coms, and Sue’s great love for 80’s music.(33:10) Sue’s big vision for women: Living with heart, courage, and radical self-compassion.Action Items:Reflect on the beliefs you’ve outgrown – what are you ready to unhook from?Explore EFT or Time Line Therapy® if you’re feeling stuck in old emotional patterns.Ask yourself: Am I leading from my head, or my heart?Quotes:“Control is fear wearing a mask.”“The world will reflect back exactly who we are being.”“Nothing is happening TO us. We are creating everything — moment by moment, thought by thought.”Takeaways:Freedom begins when we stop living by someone else’s version of womanhood.Emotional intelligence isn’t about control — it’s about presence and compassion.You can rewire your story at any time — it’s never too late to return to yourself.A woman in her heart is unstoppable. She’s soft, strong, and deeply in tune with who she is.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveMeet Sue Deans:Your dedicated Women’s Empowerment Coach, on a mission to inspire women to gain a deeper understanding of themselves. By helping them release limiting beliefs and past conditioning, Sue empowers women to create a life filled with inner peace and freedom. Sue isn't just your average coach; she’s a powerhouse of transformative techniques. Think Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy, and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). These aren’t just fancy terms; they’re the secret sauce to unlocking your past and rewriting your story. Imagine being in calm nurturing environment where you can dive deep, connect to your inner wisdom & feel truly seen and supported.Her journey has had its challenges, and it’s those experiences that fuel her passion to help other women activate their own personal power.  Connect with Sue:Instagram: @susanjdeansFacebook: @meetsusandeansConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

In this week’s episode of Inside The Mind, Jen & Allie throw the script in the bin and ask the question no one’s daring to ask: Whose version of emotional intelligence are we all attempting to live up to?In a world obsessed with labels, benchmarks, and ticking boxes for worthiness, they unpack what happens when we stop striving and start actually feeling.What if emotional intelligence isn’t about control or appearing “together”?What if it’s not about being palatable, polished, or professionally “on”?What if it’s simply about genuinely giving a f*ck — about yourself and others?This episode is a refreshing take on what it means to be human, and why chasing predefined standards (even the “spiritually woke” ones) might be the very thing keeping you stuck in not-enoughness.Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(01:05) Jen’s lightning bolt moment: Who actually decided what emotional intelligence is?(04:15) Why the dictionary definition of EQ made both Jen & Allie cringe.(07:12) The trendiness of emotional intelligence… is it just the new ‘kale’ of personal development? (09:52) The difference between striving to become vs. choosing to just be.(13:02) How “I’m not enough yet” keeps us locked in cycles of constant self-fixing.(15:12) The facts bro: You don’t need to do more to be worthy — you already are.Action Items:Question the rules: Whose version of “emotionally intelligent” are you following?Explore for joy, not for fixing. Learn, evolve, and grow because you want to — not because you think something’s wrong or missing.Share your reflections: Got thoughts on this conversation? Reach out — Jen & Allie would love to hear from you.Quotes:“EQ - genuinely giving a fuck about yourself AND others.”Takeaways:Emotional intelligence isn’t one-size-fits-all. You get to define it for yourself.Stop living by other people’s standards — even the “spiritual” ones.Self-growth doesn’t require self-judgment. You can evolve and be enough as you are.The real power move… BEing!Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

In this week’s episode of Inside The Mind, Allie & Jen take you deep into one of the most confronting, powerful, and liberating concepts in NLP: Perception is Projection.Ever wonder why certain patterns, people, or experiences keep showing up in your life? It’s not a coincidence. It’s YOU.This episode is for the woman who is done playing small, done blaming others, and ready to own her reality with fierce self-honesty. It’s time to clean up your projections, stop contaminating your world with old wounds, and step into the kind of power that only comes from true self-mastery.Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(01:10) The concept of perception is projection.(03:26) Seeing “assholes” everywhere? Here’s what that really says about YOU.(10:02) Contamination vs. contribution.(13:12) Emotional responsibility: Why jumping in to “soothe” someone could be doing more harm than good.(17:45) The key to self-mastery.Action Items:What unwanted patterns, people, or situations keep showing up? Own your part in them.Stop projecting: Instead of reacting, ask: “Where is this living inside of me?”Clean up your energy: Are you contaminating or contributing to the people around you?Take the next step: If this conversation rocked you, it’s time to experience true self-mastery inside Jen & Allie’s training spaces.Quotes:“Your perception is not THE truth. It’s YOUR truth, shaped by your wounds, beliefs, and conditioning.”“If you keep seeing the same toxic people, same relationship patterns, same struggles – it’s not a coincidence it’s YOU.”“Healing isn’t just about changing our external world. It’s about cleaning up the internal one first.”Takeaways:You are always projecting. Your external world is simply reflecting what’s inside of you.Empowerment comes from owning your projections – not blaming others for them.Mastering perception is projection is the key to emotional freedom, deeper relationships, and effective self-leadership.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

In this episode of Inside The Mind, Allie and Jen talk about the Communication Model, a game-changing NLP framework that explains why we all see, hear, and experience life differently.Ever felt like you're speaking a different language—even when you're talking to someone in plain English?Welcome to the reality of human communication.This episode is not just another surface-level chat about "talking better." This is about understanding your own mind—how you delete, distort, and generalise information every single second of your life.It’s why you and your partner can have the same conversation but remember it completely differently. It’s why your reality is shaped by your unconscious filters. And it’s why mastering this model can turn you into a truly great communicator.Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(01:10) The real reason communication is so messy—and how NLP stops you from being a mind reader (almost).(03:26) Deletion, distortion & generalisation—how your mind filters out the truth.(09:42) The biggest communication trap.(11:32) How to instantly change how people respond to you—without forcing them to change.(13:32) Why the Inside The Mind training room is where communication takes on a life of its own and becomes the holy grail that you have been seeking.Action Items:Audit your communication: Are you actually listening, or just projecting?Reframe how you experience other people—see what changes when you assume they’re already an amazing communicator.Test your language: Try speaking in someone else’s communication style, not your own.Learn this at a mastery level: If you want to become a masterful communicator and change your relationships for the better, reach out to Allie & Jen for the next NLP training dates.Quotes:“Your perception isn’t THE truth. It’s just YOUR truth, filtered through your past, beliefs, and conditioning.”“If you feel like people never listen to you, the real question is—are you actually listening to AND speaking their language?”“You’re not communicating with reality. You’re communicating with your version of it.”Takeaways:You’re not communicating with reality. You’re communicating with your version of it.People don’t hear you the way you think they do. They hear you through their own filters.Mastering communication is about mastering your own perception first.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

In this episode of Inside the Mind, Jen and Allie dive into Ecology—the four simple, yet powerful questions that cut through indecision, people-pleasing, and external pressure.Ever feel torn between doing what’s right for you and pleasing others? Or making a decision but second-guessing if it’s truly the best choice?Through real-life examples, including a powerful personal story from Allie and Jen, you’ll see how applying these four questions can bring clarity, confidence, and alignment in everything from relationships to business and everyday life.Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(03:14) The four-question framework and why it’s the key to making aligned decisions.(07:50) Allie’s personal story: How ecology helped her set a boundary she’d never set before.(13:22) Why putting yourself first doesn’t mean you’re being selfish.(19:30) How most people unknowingly sabotage their own energy (and how to stop).(26:05) The connection between your decisions, society, and the planet.(32:15) Why NLP training is designed to help you embody these teachings.(35:20) The key takeaway: How to start making decisions that serve you and the world.Action Items:Apply the four ecology questions to your next big decision.Notice where you’re saying “yes” when you really mean “no.”If you struggle with boundaries, use this framework to start prioritising yourself.Quotes:“If it’s not good for you, it won’t be good for others.”Takeaways:The best decisions are made from alignment, not obligation.If something isn’t good for you, it won’t truly serve others either.The way you make decisions ripples out into society and the planet.Boundaries are not about saying ‘no’ to others, but saying ‘yes’ to yourself.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!

In this week’s episode of Inside the Mind, Jen and Allie dive into one of the most life-changing foundational teachings in NLP—Cause & Effect.Most people live at effect, meaning they blame others, external circumstances, or past experiences for their reality. However, the key to a truly empowered life lies in shifting from effect TO cause—where you take full self-responsibility for your circumstances, choices, and emotions.If you’ve ever felt powerless in your circumstances, this episode will change the way you see your life.Want to take this work deeper? Jen and Allie share how Cause and Effect is at the heart of their NLP training programs, helping people step into deeper levels of self-responsibility, self-mastery, and living a more empowered life.Tune in now!Episode Highlights:(00:00) Jen & Allie kick off with tea, rituals, and why this topic is a big deal.(02:14) Why most people live in effect—and don’t even realise it.(09:35) The simplest shift to move into cause.(13:22) The hidden force keeping you stuck.(27:15) How to start applying Cause & Effect in your daily life.(29:00) The biggest misconception about Cause & Effect.(31:45) Why NLP training is designed to shift you from effect to cause.(34:20) The takeaway: It’s time to own your reality.Action Items:Ask yourself: What part did I play in this? What choices did I make?If you’re stuck, check for secondary gain—what are you avoiding by staying where you are?Commit to radical self-responsibility in just one area of your life this week.Quotes:“You don’t have to love what happened, but you do get to own your part in it.”Takeaways:Being in effect means blaming external factors for your circumstances.Being in cause means taking full ownership of your reality.Secondary gain is what keeps you stuck — it’s easier to stay the same than face discomfort.Self-responsibility is not about guilt or blame — it’s about power and freedom.Hard conversations with yourself change everything.Be Updated and Join Us Here:Instagram: INSIDE THE MIND - THE PODCAST 🎧Facebook: Inside The MindWebsite: InsideTheMind.loveConnect with Jen Forster:Linktr.ee: JENNIFER FORSTER | NLP TRAINERInstagram: Jenniferforster_xxWebsite: www.jenniferforster.comFacebook: Jennifer ForsterConnect with Allie May:Website: Inside The Mind Linktr.ee: ALLIE MAYFacebook: Allie MayInstagram: @alliemay_xxBe sure to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Catch you on the next one!