Friendships and Secrets

Secrets can be tasty, delicious, and enticing. Knowing other people's secrets can give us social standing and make us feel important. Spilling the tea can give us a form of exaltation in the moment. But how do we rightly discern when to keep a secret and when to bring something to the light? How do we grow as women of discretion? Are we good 'secret-aries' for our husband, our friends, our children? Tilly and Abigail talk all about secrets and the temptations that come with them.

Abigail and Tilly talk about immodesty, particularly the attitude of heart that is loud and shouts, "Look at me!" What is the connection between a sinful fearfulness and immodesty? In our current cultural moment, there is no opting out of battle over how women should dress and present ourselves. Our clothing, hair, and presentation has become a war of ideologies, so that even a discreet woman will be noticed because she is set against the zeitgeist of cross-dressing and gaudiness. Yet God still sees the quiet heart and regards it as very precious.

In this episode, Abigail and Tilly talk about the perverse desire--the desire for the impossible. Do women have a unique ability to desire and even demand things that are logically incompatible? What does this look like on the ground? How does it affect marriage, spiritual life, and vocation? What does Scripture have to say about desire?

Tilly Dillehay and Abigail Dodds, in this episode of Home Fires, answer Micheal Foster's question: Should women work outside of the home? The two give their thoughts on what true biblical and feminine work looks like inside the home and outside of the home. And what that means for women who are searching for careers.

Tilly and Abigail continue answering questions from listeners. First they talk about whether and how daughters should be raised with vocational training, particularly if it's similar to men's vocational training. What should an unmarried woman do in terms of a career (or not)? They touch on the invisible weights husbands carry and how learning to see these invisible weights can help a wife respect her husband and do her part. They also answer a question about how to build character into your children as they grow.

In this episode, Tilly and Abigail answer questions from the last few months. But the questions were such big topics they only got into about three: miscarriage, encouraging reluctant daters, and parenting toddlers (and teen sons). Too much to talk about; will likely get into more questions next time so feel free to submit questions in the interim!

In this episode, Tilly and Abigail talk about fashion vs. substance. They spend the first 20 minutes or so talking theory, jumping off from an article by Clint Manley on our desires being mediated by the sight of another person enjoying something. Then they move into the idea of trends, as they relate to clothing, food, worship styles, and culture building. Are trends good, bad, or neutral? How do they work in the church? Are we imitating Christ when we set trends? Who are we looking to ultimately, to discover what is attractive and enjoyable? https://dc.swosu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=3341&context=mythlore

In this episode, Abigail visits with Rachel in Moscow, Idaho. They talk about common temptations for young women, sentimentalism, and facing difficult times as a mother with courage and faithfulness. Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Tilly interviews Janet Aucoin, a pastor's wife, mother, and grandmother who has many years of experience in Biblical counseling. They talk about the Biblical counseling movement, discipleship in the church, being the "taste" to others without trying to be the "feast" for them, and living the Christian life with unfulfilled longings. Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Abigail and Tilly discuss self-care and connect it all back to (again) marriage. What does self care even mean? What are some principles of sabbath rest and body stewardship that are worth discussing, if we reject worldly claims about self care? What does all this have to do with marriage? They also discussed the very subtle ways we try to control our husband's behavior, and the fears that might lie behind those attempts. How do you build relational capital in a marriage so that your input is actually helpful and functional? Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/