381: Rejection, Abandonment & Building More Confidence

In today’s episode, we’re digging into the real story behind rejection, abandonment, and the confidence it takes to shut down the negative narratives trying to shape your life.I share how my dad’s early years were marked by abandonment and self-rejection—and how everything changed when he met Jesus. I was raised in love and safety, but that same generational thread still tried to attach itself to my story.If you’ve ever felt like you’re fighting patterns you didn’t choose… this conversation is for you.What we cover:Why rejection and abandonment often feel “normal” in our thoughtsThe moment I realized those same narratives were knocking on my doorHow generational patterns try to repeat themselvesThe choice we all face when negative thoughts show upWhat it looks like to reject self-abandonment and stay connectedHow God actively orchestrates healing, confidence, and freedomConnect with Havilah:✨ ⁠havilahcunnington.com⁠ — Explore Havilah’s books, Bible studies, and upcoming events.📚 ⁠truthtotable.com ⁠— Join our free studies, online courses, and Truth Academy community.🎙️ ⁠havilahsauthorschool.com⁠ — Ready to write your book? Join ⁠Havilah’s Author School ⁠and get the clarity, structure, and support you need to finally finish your manuscript.

God’s voice doesn’t just speak to your present—it calls you from your future. He already sees the life He designed for you, and He’s inviting you to step into it.What does it look like to live a life you actually want to wake up to? How might unprocessed grief or disappointment be holding you back from pursuing your God-given dreams? In this episode, Havilah unpacks the power of Spirit-led living and how to partner with the future God has already written for you.Ask yourself:→ What is my future self trying to tell me?→ When I leave this earth, will I know I’ve fulfilled my God-given potential?It’s time to rise up, shake off the past, and move toward the future He’s calling you into.Stay Connected + Explore More:✨ havilahcunnington.com — Explore Havilah’s books, Bible studies, and upcoming events.📚 truthtotable.com — Join our free studies, online courses, and Truth Academy community.🎙️ havilahsauthorschool.com — Ready to write your book? Join Havilah’s Author School and get the clarity, structure, and support you need to finally finish your manuscript.

This week, I’m wrapping up our series on The Art of Preaching by talking about something that’s so close to my heart: sustainable preaching. After almost 30 years of ministry, I’ve learned that it’s not just about having a great message—it’s about protecting the rhythm of your life so you can last for the long haul. In this episode, I share practical ways to guard your energy, keep your connection with the Holy Spirit fresh, and even raise up others to carry the message with you. If you’ve ever felt the weight of burnout or wondered how to keep preaching with passion decade after decade, this conversation is for you!!

This week on the podcast, I’m diving into what it really looks like to preach like it matters. After decades of communicating, I’ve realized how easy it is to fall into patterns and lose that sense of urgency and purpose. But when I sat with a pastor in Brazil who said, “I preach every message like it’s my last,” it stirred something in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the practical ways we can bring clarity, structure, and conviction to our messages so they actually transform lives—not just inspire in the moment. If you’ve been preaching for a while or are looking for fresh fire in your communication, this one’s for you.

On this episode, I’m talking all about what it looks like to preach without fear. If you’ve ever found yourself holding back because you’re worried about what people might think, or editing your message to make it safer, you’re not alone—I’ve been there too. But the truth is, fear dulls our words and keeps us from carrying the authority God has given us. In this episode, I share my own journey of learning that boldness isn’t about volume or personality—it’s about obedience. My hope is that as you listen, you’ll feel both challenged and encouraged to bring your whole heart to the pulpit and trust God with the rest.Check out Havilah’s Preacher School - https://havilahspreacherschool.com/Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/

This week on the podcast, I’m diving into something that’s been on my heart for all of us who have been preaching for a while—how to find our unique voice again. After 30 years of speaking, I’ve learned that it’s so easy to slip into mimicking others, chasing applause, or just running on autopilot. But borrowed voices don’t carry breakthrough—only authenticity does. In this episode, I’m sharing my own journey of uncovering the voice God gave me, the importance of preaching from identity instead of insecurity, and some practical ways to reconnect to the call that first set us on this path. If you’ve been in the trenches of preaching week after week, this one’s for you.Check out Havilah’s Preacher School - https://havilahspreacherschool.com/Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/

This week, I’m wrapping up our very first season of The Art of Preaching by talking about what it really means to stay in this for the long haul. We live in a culture that loves viral moments and big stages, but God’s call isn’t about one-hit wonders—it’s about faithfulness over decades. In this episode, I share my own journey of preaching in living rooms, group homes, and small youth groups long before stepping onto larger platforms, and how mileage, stewardship, and rhythm have shaped me as a communicator. If you feel called to preach, I want to remind you that success isn’t about the size of the crowd, but about showing up again and again, building a life that carries the Word with integrity and longevity.Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/

In this episode of The Art of Preaching, I’m diving into something every communicator faces but few talk about—what if I bomb? What happens when the mic doesn’t work, the slides are wrong, the room is dead silent, or worse—when you just totally miss it? I’ve had those moments (more than once!), and I’m sharing one of my most humiliating fails and what God taught me through it. We’ll talk about redefining success, the invisible fruit of obedience, and why bombing isn’t the end—it’s part of your formation. I’ll also walk you through a simple activation to turn your fears into faith statements, because failure doesn’t get the final say—God does.Check out Havilah’s Preacher School - https://havilahspreacherschool.com/Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/ + Havilah's Podcast: https://pod.link/1021082134

In today’s episode, we’re talking all about what it means to preach like a human. If you’ve ever felt like you need to sound like someone else to be effective—this is for you. I’m sharing how comparison and mimicry can steal your confidence, and why your quirks, your tone, your pace—your actual personality—are not obstacles, but part of your pulpit. God didn’t call the polished version of you; He called you. We’ll break down why authority flows through authenticity, and I’ll even give you a two-minute challenge to help you start finding your voice today. Let’s ditch the pressure and get real.Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/ + Havilah's Podcast: https://pod.link/1021082134

In this first episode of The Art of Preaching series, I’m sharing the real and raw beginnings of my preaching journey—how I never thought I’d be a communicator, why insecurity doesn’t disqualify you, and how saying “yes” in hidden places is where the real calling begins. Whether you’ve never picked up a mic or you’ve been preaching for years, this episode is for anyone who’s ever whispered, “I think I’m called… but now what?” We’ll talk about starting small, practicing in secret, and trusting that God equips what He initiates. Let’s kick off this series together—right where you are, just as you are.Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/