No is a Complete Sentence

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When do we start to build our legacies?  The answer is today.  Today is the day that we lay down the data that will inform our legacy and will provide the information for those who will eulogize us.   What are you doing today that you want people to talk about after you are gone?

We know that Elijah showed signs of depression, but did you know that also displayed signs of burnout? If you think you are alone in feeling overwhelmed and are ready to cash it in, don't.  Take a listen.  There is hope.

There is a cost to having boundaries, but more importantly there is a greater cost to not having them.  If you would like to speak to me about how you can develop you own boundaries, or if you feel you struggle with the boundary violations of others and want some help with that then contact me at www.focusedlifecoaching.org.   You can also connect with me on Instagram or Facebook, as I will frequently post articles of interest to strengthen you professionally and personally.  My mission is to help professional women bring into harmony their lifestyle (health), livelihood (business), and love (relationships).  To do so, boundaries are necessary.

Are there some roles that you are operating in that are not comfortable for you? Could it be that they are outside your purpose?  It can feel good that people admire you and your abilities, but if it causes you to say "yes" to things that you should be saying "no" to then you are putting yourself and perhaps others in jeopardy.  We become at best ineffective, at worse, abusive when we start to take on things that are outside of our mission, purpose and competence. I referenced a scene in the Little Mermaid, for those unfamiliar with it, you can view it here. You can follow me on Instagram and Facebook.  I hope you will take the time to identify your purpose and role in your important relationships and keep them clear and healthy.

You have a lot to gain if you are able to establish and maintain good boundaries, professionally and personally.  We will explore what you can gain in setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.   Have you been able to identify some positive changes you experienced when you set a healthy boundary?  I would love for you to share them with me on Facebook.  It may encourage other brave souls to take the risk of setting a healthy boundary for themselves.   Let me know what you were able to do and the positive outcome at here.  Also visit me at Instagram and join the conversation. 

I have found "No" to be a powerful word, but it is difficult to say it directly. So I learned to say it creatively. "I appreciate your confidence in me, but I would recommend that you bring that task to X, they have the resources and availability to do it in the way that would serve you best." Just a wordy way of saying "No".  It takes bravery to sometimes just let the power of the word "No" do it's job.  It is worth it if you can handle it and erect some needed boundaries in your life. You can follow this subject on boundaries at my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/focusedlifestrategist/  and see some creative ways  to say "No" on my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/focusedlifecoachingorg/photos/a.2861100943993373/3243677572402373/

They say good fences make good neighbors; well good boundaries make for loving relationships.  This episode explores this further.  This is the first in a series on boundaries.  Listen, share with someone you think needs to hear this and comment on the subject on either my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/p/CNqAhVNBpU4/  or my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/focusedlifecoachingorg What are your struggles with boundaries?

No relationship series would be complete if we didn't address conflict.  In reality relationship can at times be difficult to maintain in a healthy manner.  That is why I did this series.  When there is tension and conflict, instead of trying to find a shiny new relationship, work on the one you are in.  Because all new things eventually get old and will need to be maintained and repaired.  So work on the original, or the one you are currently in.  There are many wonderful resources out there, from relationship skills workbooks, relationship coaches and couples therapists.  You need a couples therapist if there is any degree of domestic violence, or mental illness in either of the partners, otherwise a relationship coach can probably work well with two committed individuals who want to have a better relationship.  If you are not sure which one you need, feel free to contact me through my website for a free consultation.  Be blessed and remember  Ephesians 4:11-13  Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Don't forget to like and subscribe as well as visit my YouTube channel and like and subscribe.

When we think about relationships we think about affectionate connections.  We want that positive feeling that a romantic relationship promises.  However for many the relationship remains minus the feelings of affection.  If you have lost that loving or affectionate feeling towards your mate, here are some ways you can invite it back into your relationship.  I referenced Gary Chapman's book the 5 Love Languages.  For those of you who like to listen (you must, because you are listening to a podcast), but are challenged by the idea of reading a book; this book is on YouTube.  So take a listen and see if it can help you improve your relationship.  Don't forget to like this podcast, or leave me a voice msg telling me what is resonating with you from this series.  My YouTube channel is  Focused Life Coach, please subscribe.