Crossroads Self-Care

Do you think of yourself as "broken" because of your trauma? What about "wounded"? My sister Chie and I discuss how the language we use to talk about our trauma intersects with our healing. This episode is an invitation to investigate the hidden meaning that some words might be holding for us. I used to think of myself as broken but gradually shifted away from that term as I healed because I realized that for me personally, it implied irreparable harm or uselessness. Chie has very different experience of the word and we share stories that might help you ask yourself some important questions. Chie  has a BA in Somatic Psychology. She is a harpist, Championship Irish Dancer, and singer. She and her partner live in the Midwest with their two puppies.Questions I encourage listeners to ask themselves at the end of the episode:1. What words do I use to talk about my pain or trauma?2. Do these words have any hidden implications that I might not have considered?3. How does my culture interact with broken things? 4. How did my family or the people who raised me interact with broken things when I was growing up?5.  How do my own experiences or medical history impact the way I think about the words, "broken" or "wounded"?6. Do the words I’m using to talk about my trauma keep me in an old thought pattern?7. Are the words I’m using to talk about my trauma healthy or useful to me? Do they need to change?8. What body system do I most relate to and why? Learn more about the history of Kintsugi and see a Master at work:https://traditionalkyoto.com/culture/kintsugi/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9LMKGte0UUPodcast Websitehttps://www.finding-ok.com/Letters for the Fire is a listener participation project and an invitation for communal catharsis and healing. Listeners are invited to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. At the end of the Season all the letters will be read and then burned in a special episode. Learn more about how to participate here: INSERT LINKHecate's Linkshttps://linktr.ee/FindingOKJoin the Patreon!https://www.patreon.com/HecateFindingOKDonate to Finding OKhttps://www.finding-ok.com/support/Thank you so much for listening! BLM. Take care of yourself <3Support the show

This is the last episode of Season 3! Today I'll be taking some time to thank everyone who made this season possible, updating you about my plans and exciting new content during my break, as well as letting you know about some changes moving forward with Season 4!New episodes will resume 7/5/22. Just because there aren't new episodes doesn't mean there isn't new content! I'm taking the time during break to do lots of new and exciting things!I'm a Twitch Affiliate and you can hang out with me there all the time! New Finding OK  Q&A livestreams will be starting there soon as well! Ask me questions about your favorite episodes, suggest subjects for Season 4, and talk about the things that matter to you.I'm a variety streamer that loves Sims, Indie games, ASMR, Art, Tattoo, and Among Us. I'll be very present on Twitch during my break and I hope to see you there!https://www.twitch.tv/hecate_findingokVisit my website to get a link to join my Discord server! Join watch parties, chat, read articles, share memes and pictures of your pets! It's whatever we want it to be!Join my Patreon to gain early access to an episode that will be dropping over break, and also to the video episodes I'll be sharing as I teach myself how to edit video over break! Check it out here: https://www.patreon.com/HecateFindingOKSupport the show

We all experience Death/Rebirth Cycles in our lives, periods of profound transformation and growth. These cycles are often painful and difficult. In this episode I share something that has helped me to better keep my balance and move more gracefully through these times in my own life. Finding OK has a Patreon! Join for access to exclusive posts, pics, clips, and even the occasional video episode! Listener contributions are what keep Finding OK alive <3https://www.patreon.com/HecateFindingOKSupport the show

Letters for the Fire is an invitation for survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. It is one of the deepest honors of my life to hold this space. I want to find more ways to help facilitate healing, to help survivors find their strength, and to help them feel connected, seen, and held. Letters for the fire feels like a part of that and if it feels right for you I hope you’ll entrust me with your letter.Include instructions in the subject of your email- "Read in episode", I will read your letter aloud in an episode of the podcast.- "Read and burn", I will read your letter to myself and burn it.- "Burn unread", I will burn your letter without reading it.Visit the podcast website to contact me.https://www.finding-ok.com/There are now membership options via BuyMeACoffee! By becoming a member you help support the podcast and gain access to exclusive behind the scenes extras!https://www.buymeacoffee.com/FindingOKSupport the show

Finding OK will be finishing Season 2 at the end of this month and I will be taking a break before returning with Season 3 in late May! There are lots of new and exciting things happening with the podcast and new ways you can connect with me! Finding OK is now the #1 Mental Health Podcast in Jamaica!Support the show

Kim and I discuss some of our experiences with lucid dreaming and share some tips that might help you. I share my struggle with nightmares in the past and a revelation in therapy that gave me insight into a reoccurring theme.Tw/Cw: PTSD, trauma, substances, nightmares, death, decay, brief mention of psych wardSupport the show

In this episode I talk about why it's so important to find a way to release tension after prolonged periods of stress, and then I discuss our growing use of the word"toxic" to describe people and relationships and how it might be clouding our ability to identify and call out abuse.Tw/Cw: PTSD, abuse, and domestic violence.Articlehttps://cerebral-sexuality.com/2018/07/31/toxic-relationships-vs-abusive-relationships/Why Does He Do That - Bookhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/224552.Why_Does_He_Do_That_Support the show

This is a support and self-care episode for the 2020 Election. For survivors this is a time of extreme anxiety, triggers, and symptom flare-ups. It is ok to not be ok! That said, lets talk self-care. At the end I share one of my favorite Buddhist mantras and lead you in some deep, healing breaths.Medicine Buddha Traditionalhttps://www.google.com/search?q=tibetan+thangka+medicine+buddha&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwjj-Yv4sersAhXLT98KHbHXBT0Q2-cCegQIABAA&oq=tibetan+thangka+medicine+buddha&gs_lcp=CgNpbWcQAzIGCAAQCBAeOgQIIxAnOggIABCxAxCDAToFCAAQsQM6AggAOgQIABBDOgcIABCxAxBDOgQIABAYUOfUBFjkhgVgyogFaABwAHgAgAFLiAGwD5IBAjMxmAEAoAEBqgELZ3dzLXdpei1pbWfAAQE&sclient=img&ei=02ejX6PEHsuf_Qaxr5foAw&bih=937&biw=1920&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS922US922&safe=off&hl=en#imgrc=lMRvX7Y8aDwkmMMedicine Buddha - Contemporaryhttps://www.google.com/search?q=medicine+buddha&safe=off&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS922US922&sxsrf=ALeKk034mX61XuIhLlRxA0gJA1_TBbzVpA:1604544169594&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwif5ITqsOrsAhUJmuAKHY-lDcYQ_AUoAXoECBwQAw&biw=1920&bih=937#imgrc=wgSs7zBL9RmquMSuicide Prevention Hotlinehttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Sexual Assault Hotlinehttps://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotlineResource and Supporthttps://www.nami.org/Support-Education/Publications-Reports/Guides/Navigating-a-Mental-Health-CrisisSubstance Abuse https://americanaddictioncenters.org/rehab-guide/alcohol-drug-hotlineSupport the show

This episode takes a look at the negativity we can direct at ourselves, the false beliefs about ourselves that our abusers can leave behind, and how important it is to take notice and root those beliefs out. Y'all better stop talking trash about yourselves. I mean it!New Webpage!https://www.podpage.com/finding-ok/Support the show

How can you tell if returning to your place of trauma will be beneficial? I discuss my own experiences with returning to my place, and share a list of actions you can take to make your return a healing and helpful one.Tw/Cw: Mention of sexual assault, abusive relationships, trauma, PTSD, dissociation, and panic attacks. Support the show