Amelia and the Very, Very Expensive Month (A No-Buy Update)

Amelia had a painfully costly month. Emily bought Crocs that look like Big Bird’s feet. But in the end, they find the true meaning of No Buy / Low Buy.Links:Danger zone (food safety)Innocence (Opera composed by Kaija Saariaho)Dyslexie FontThe Big Short (film)

For every personality trait, there is a shadow. Emily and Amelia discuss Shadow Work and do just a touch of dream analysis.Links:Carl JungJungian archetypesMapping Your Emotional Floor Plan:A comic by Erika Moen based on Come TogetherJaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions⁠ (interview)Monica's Secret Closet | FriendsFSP Season 2, Episode 22: The Magic Trick of TranscendenceLocus of controlStepmomming Made Easy (preorder)No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzWeRateDogsRebecca Dupas - HOW TO SLAY A DRAGON (youtube)(this is the poem at the end of the episode.)

Emily confesses to a migraine induced mullet. Amelia discusses Hidradenitis Suppurativa and effective strategies for going to a medical provider with a hypothesis and being taken seriously.(Much like the dizziness episode, we’d love to hear from you if learning about HS helps you understand something that is affecting you)Links:Hidradenitis suppurativaMast cell activation syndromeBringing HS (Hidradenitis Suppurativa) Out Of The Dark | Jackson Gillies | TEDxSantaBarbaraFSP Season 2, Episode 14: Introduction to Food and Body AwarenessFSP Season 2, Episode 18: Introduction to Food (and Body Acceptance)Season 2, Episode 20: Food Again. This Time, It’s Personal?Hidradenitis SuppuraDIVAS - Podcast (Apple Podcasts)FSP Season 1, Episode 18: The New HotnessTwins (1988 film)FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101Piloerection

Emily’s been confronting just how dizzy she is all the time. Emily and Amelia discuss brain stems, car accidents, and disability. If you experience some of the same issues as Emily, please drop us a line at [email protected]:Dizziness Handicap Inventory (PDF)Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS)FSP 2025: The Car Accident ExperienceIntermittent claudicationLindy HopVestibular MigraineOrthostatic intoleranceMinnie VanBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress CycleFSP 2025 contact form

Amelia has thoughts about the costs (and benefits) masking, as well as being a vestigial toe.Links:Unmasking for Life by Devon Price (Recommended)InteroceptionAlexithymiaThe Autistic Burnout Workbook by Megan Anna Neff (Recommended)Extraordinary Attorney WooJaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions (interview)A rad comic about emotional floor plans by Erika Moen(Based on Emily's book, Come Together.)A Black Lady Sketch Show: No Makeup (Youtube)Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle (By Emily and Vestigial Toe)FSP Episode 34: The Madwoman

Turns out twin siblings can learn something new about each other after forty-plus years. Amelia isn’t sure if they’re allowed to go to Pride. Image: What it looks like to nap during a parade.Links:Non-binary (gender identity)Agender (gender identity)Mercury Stardust: The Trans Handy Ma'amSweet Honey in the RockHow To Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom by Johanna HedvaUnmasking for Life by Devon PriceWoodworking by Emily St. James

This week, Emily talks to Dr. Donna Oriowo about Donna's new book, "Drink Water and Mind Your Business." Donna will change your life.tl; dr: Other people may have more than you, but they are not WORTH more than you.Drink Water & Mind Your Business:A Black Woman’s Guide to Unlearning the BS & Healing Self-Esteem by Dr. Donna OriowoBuy Donna's book from:AmazonBarnes & NobleSourcebooksLoyalty BookstoreJoin Donna's In My Black Feelings groupFollow @dr.donnaoriowo on:InstagramTikTokYouTubeLinks:"Time is an illusion. Lunchtime doubly so.""Let It Burn" from Paradise Square the Musical featuring Tony Award Winner Joaquina KalukangoSunrise on the Reaping by Suzanne CollinsExtraordinary Attorney Woo Good Sex by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons(Amazing book!)My Pronouns are Dr. T-shirt by Dr. Lexx Brown-James(Dr. Lexx rules) RaQuel Hopkins, Capacity Expert  (instagram)Centering (and Studying!) Black Women's Pleasure, a conversation with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe

Transcendence! (Or as we call it, “The magic trick.”) It’s for everybody. Unless you’re not ready. Emily and Amelia discuss.Come Together (by Emily) Chapter 12: The Magic TrickAudiobook on AudibleSigned paperbacks at Book MoonThe Neurobiology of “We” by Daniel J. SiegelEntrainment“The Mere Co-Presence: Synchronization of Autonomic Signals and Emotional Responses Across Co-Present Individuals Not Engaged in Direct Interaction” by Yulia Golland, Yossi Arzouan, and Nava Levit- Binnun via PubMedThe Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan HaidtDead Poets SocietyMurmuration (swarm behavior)Aristotle’s Rhetorical Triangle“The Field” - see Come Together page 276No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzOut Beyond Ideas by RumiFSP Live: turning down your pain sensors (Amelia on Youtube)Transcendental MeditationCatching the Big Fish: Meditation, Consciousness, and Creativity by David LynchMaslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs

Emily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well as other books and therapy to help with recovery.Let's talk about neuroplastic pain and the stress response cycle.(Do you subscribe to Emily's newsletter? ⁠You can sign up here for free⁠.)Links:FSP2025: We’re Stronger Than the FireApple Podcasts • Spotify • YoutubeIn an Unspoken Voice by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. Complete the stress response cycle - See chapter 1 of BurnoutSomatic experiencingFriendly’s No Bad Parts by Richard SchwartzEmily’s newsletter post about neuroplastic painThe Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon ZivExplain Pain Supercharged by G. Lorimer Moseley & David S. ButlerCurable app

Emily and Amelia talk food: Episode 3. This time it’s about food restrictions and why you might choose not to eat certain foods. No Sith were Revenged in the making of this podcast.  tl;drMake the best choices you can with the resources you have.You’re absolutely allowed to try restrictions on your food, to find out what works for you. You're also absolutely allowed not to restrict your food.Recognize that since we’re all making the best choices we can with the resources we have available, as your resources change, be responsive to those changes and develop the skills to make changes flexibly.And always remember that you don’t have to judge yourself. You’re doing your best.Links:Green Dot Bystander InterventionAnnie's Organic Dijon MustardPolar Seltzer