The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses

Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail. It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal. In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually Need, we talk about why so many people struggle to trust themselves, even when they’re capable, intelligent, and motivated, and how constant internal negotiation quietly destroys confidence. This mini episode explores: Why every excuse sounds reasonable in your own voice The difference between a valid reason and a repeated pattern How negotiating with yourself teaches your brain that your word is flexible Why discipline isn’t harsh, it’s relieving and freeing The balance between self-compassion and accountability Why small promises matter more than big goals Self-trust isn’t built through motivation, grit, or hype. It’s built through follow-through. When you stop arguing with yourself, life gets simpler. Decisions feel lighter. Confidence starts to return naturally. This episode is about becoming someone who does what they say, without punishment, drama, or burnout. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with clarity and calm self-leadership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Reset You Actually Need Feeling constantly disappointed in people, in situations, or in yourself is exhausting. In this episode of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why disappointment is rarely about bad luck, and more often about repeating the same patterns, ignoring behaviour, and abandoning your own boundaries often without realising it. This episode explores: Why disappointment is often self-created (and how to stop doing that) How repeating the same goals or relationships erodes self-trust Why listening to words instead of behaviour keeps you stuck The psychology of repeated rejection and loss of control How taking responsibility restores agency (without self-blame) Why self-respect is the fastest way back to emotional stability This isn’t about becoming cynical or emotionally closed off. It’s about regaining control by changing what you tolerate, repeat, and negotiate with. If you’re tired of feeling let down, drained, or stuck in cycles that keep hurting you, this episode will help you reset your expectations, rebuild self-trust, and move forward with clarity. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, raise your standards, and step into the year with calm self-leadership. Episode 217 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sXGur29se1TajjfWjMiNB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 5 – Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: Why Action Changes Identity The Reset You Actually Need – Day 5 So many people believe confidence, clarity, or motivation comes before they act. In Day 5 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why waiting to feel ready is one of the most common (and invisible) ways people stay stuck, and how identity is shaped by action, not intention. This episode explores: Why the brain doesn’t reward planning, it rewards movement How repeated action updates self-concept and confidence The psychology behind hesitation and “I’ll start when…” thinking Why readiness is a byproduct, not a prerequisite How to begin changing your identity through behaviour, not self-talk If you’ve been waiting for motivation, certainty, or the perfect moment before making a change, this episode will help you understand why that moment rarely arrives , and what actually creates momentum instead. This isn’t about forcing yourself or pushing harder. It’s about letting action do the psychological work for you. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move through the year with calm direction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Reset You Actually Need – Day 4 We’re often told to fix our mindset first, to think more positively, feel more motivated, or “get our head right.” In Day 4 of The Reset You Actually Need, we flip that idea on its head and explore why disciplining the body is often the fastest way to change the mind. This episode breaks down: Why changing your physical state contributes to motivation and confidence How physical routines regulate your mood and improve mental clarity Ideas for you that you can start implementing today How small, repeatable behaviours create psychological momentum This isn’t about extreme routines or rigid self-control. It’s about understanding that the brain takes its cues from the body and that mental resilience is often built through physical consistency. This episode will show you why action at the level of the body is the reset you’ve been missing. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move differently through the year ahead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Reset You Actually Need – Day 3 So many people believe their struggles are just “part of who they are.” In Day 3 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack the personality traits people often romanticise - like being chaotic, overly self-sacrificing, emotionally intense, or the crazy party animal, and how these traits quietly sabotage growth, consistency, and self-trust. This episode explores: Why you cling onto certain traits as your armour even though they conflict with the person you are trying to become The psychology behind identifying too strongly with struggle How to evolve your identity without losing your edge If you’ve ever described yourself as “so chaotic,” “bad with routine,” or “a perfectionist,” this episode will help you see where personality ends and self-sabotage begins. This isn’t about becoming boring or losing what makes you you. It’s about upgrading the parts of your identity that are no longer serving your future. Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to reset your mindset, standards, and sense of self for the year ahead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Reset You Actually Need – Day 2 Feeling like you need to change everything to finally feel better? In Day 2 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore why most people don’t actually need a dramatic reinvention they need higher standards for what they allow, tolerate, and repeatedly recover from. This episode breaks down: Why dissatisfaction is often a standards issue, not a life problem How low standards quietly drain energy, confidence Why raising standards isn’t about being rigid or “too much” How to upgrade your internal rules without changing your entire life If you’ve been fantasising about starting over, quitting everything, or becoming someone else, this conversation will help you see what actually needs to change. This is a grounded, psychology-led reset for people who want improvement without chaos. This episode is part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you start the year with clarity, calm confidence, and better self-leadership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonjour 2026! Its that time again where we hit the ground running with a January mini series. For the next 10 days (week days that is) I will be releasing a slightly shorter episode daily to get you into a healthier and more balanced headspace to feel like yourself and on the right path for the year and for any other time. Today I discuss why it is that you can feel so stuck and how that impacts your ability to move forward with problem solving and goal setting, and how changing your state can help move you forward in the calmest way possible. Enjoy my little beans! Sydney Live Show tickets https://www.dyfmpod.com/sydney-live-show Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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