In Threatening Conversations, Listen and Ask “Why”?

In this episode 262 you will learn the following:   Maria’s journey as a Step Daughter Maria’s journey as a Step Parent Maria’s journey adopting her Step Daughter What to look for in a potential spouse who has a biological child from another person   #stepchild #stepparent #adoption #podcast #divorcepodcast #amicabledivorce   Maria Natapov Bio   Stepparenting Expert and Trusted Advisor to Divorce Professionals, Financial Advisors, and Parenting Coaches Maria offers a caring and playful coaching approach where clients feel energetically held and empowered to joyfully and confidently blend their families.    Through her signature 4-step energy-focused process combined with Rapid Resolution modality, Maria helps families transition from chaos to harmony. She enables stepparents to strengthen their values, foster partner alignment, create trust with stepchildren, and enhance community with birth families by building on their existing skills, experiences, and strengths.    Maria has helped numerous blended families foster more harmonious family dynamics through her VIP Stepparenting Breakthrough support model and her podcast, Synergistic Stepparenting. To learn more about how to work with Maria, visit her website at SynergisticStepparenting.com.   Email: [email protected] Phone number: (617) 419-0878 Website: www.SynergisticStepparenting.com Podcast: www.SynergisticStepparenting.com/podcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/synergisticstepparenting Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maria.natapov

In this episode you will learn the following:   Communication is the key in exercising control in a divorce Speaking up for yourself is an ongoing process How to keep control in your co-parenting role   #communication #control #victim #co-parenting #divorce #mediation #childsupportservices #roleplay #toneofvoice #mediator #lawyer

In this episode, you will learn the following:   Your emotional attachment to money   The way in which money defines you; your money type   The way in which money affects you   Why your spouse may argue over having to pay child support   Why your spouse may resist dividing assets   How you can navigate around your spouse’s resistance to not paying child or spousal support, and resistance to dividing assets   #money #emotionalintelligence #wealth #ego #fear #gratitude #childsupport #spousalsupport #alimoney #trust #gratitude #attachmenttomoney #selfimage #moneytype #divisionofassets   Kaki Perdue Biography   Kaki Perdue is a CPA and a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™. She spent 12 years as a CPA in public accounting and 6 years as a Chief Financial Officer for a tech company before launching Look Both Ways Financial in 2023. Why financial planning? Kaki strives to meet clients where they are, with no judgment. Kaki is on a mission to teach her clients to feel safe, strong, and secure managing their own money. She embraces the “Less is More” approach to both life and financial planning.  Kaki prefers outdoor fun – hiking, skiing, gardening, & camping.   www.lookbothwaysfinancial.com [email protected] (24) Kaki Perdue, CPA, CFP® | LinkedIn Kaki is also the host of the Look Both Ways Financial podcast – available wherever you find podcasts.

In this episode you will learn the following:   You are not a failure because you’re getting divorced. Everything we experience in life is a learning lesson. It’s how we change as a result of our experiences that matters.   If you believe you are the one who eroded the marriage and divorce is now inevitable, you can change the emotional trajectory of the divorce by apologizing. Apologize without putting any blame on your spouse.   After the apology, change your behavior to whatever it needed to be in the first place.   If we look at life as a learning experience, and that our learning experiences are growth experiences, we will never be victims. Life will always be fair. Life will be fair because through our trials and tribulations we will accept them as tailor-made growth experiences that can challenge our will to live, test our ability to succeed, and drive us to accomplishments we never fathomed before we were tested.   Let’s make art out of what we might call failure. Let’s trust the universe that whatever we need for growth will come to us. Let’s align ourselves with truth so that we can see how to change a challenging situation to a new level of understanding of ourselves.   #failure #trust #personalgrowth #challenges #apologize #emotionaldivorce #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #blame #spouse #amicabledivorce #victim #victimize #success #life #fair #growth

In Episode258 you will learn the following:   Honesty is good for emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health.   Divorce is fraught with dishonesty to mask fear, hurt, and possibly the knowledge that people have knowingly chosen to marry the wrong person.   Divorce can be the event that forces people to self-correct and turn fear into the most truthful and honest conversation they’ve ever had.   Once people have the courage to speak honestly, and the commitment to be authentically truthful, their lives are fueled by positive energy and they align with the universe in such a way that everything right for them comes to them.   #truth #honesty #authenticity #communication #truthfulness # divorce #marriage #fear #trust #hurt #emotionalhealth #mentalhealth #physicalhealth #spiritualhealth #dishonesty #mediation

In this episode you will learn the following:   In the world of divorce, communication - what you say and how you say it - either helps or hinders how you and your spouse get through the process.   The Three Key Elements in successfully handling threatening communication with your spouse:   Listen.  Listen without Interrupting.  Listen to Learn. Ask “Why?” Address his/her Reasons for the Threats   People threaten and become unreasonable because of Fear.   #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast #communication #fear #anger #hurt #marriage #toneofvoice #words #attorney #divorceattorney #trust

In this episode you will learn the following:   Childhood development starts in the womb and is critically important until age 2 to set the foundation for who your baby can possibly be.   Your baby is communicating with you through every sound they make. The parents’ role is to communicate back.   The games parents play with their newborns each have a learning function to them.   It’s important that parents discuss what is priority to them in how they raise their child before having children.   Consistency provides a safe and secure environment for children. Each parent’s daily routine is important when there is co-parenting in two households due to divorce.   Don’t Compete! Each co-parent is different and each co-parent has value in what they can provide to their children.   The Oliiki app is designed to create daily interactions with children up to 24 months old that explain the developmental skill the baby is learning.   Oliiki is grounded in science.  UCL Institute of Education carried out a randomised controlled trial on the Oliiki app and found that parents using the Oliiki app after only 4 weeks had higher parental self-efficacy, (more confident in their parenting) compared to the active control trial. This is significant because high parental self-efficacy is connected with low post-natal depression, low infant mental health issues and high home learning environments.   #coparenting #parenting #education #play #communication #divorce #podcast #divorcepodcast  #amicabledivorce #prenatalcommunication #childhooddevelopment #Oliikiapp #therapy #consistency #newborns #familytherapy @ClareStead @JenJackson About Clare Stead Clare Stead, Creator and Founder of the Oliiki app is an e-Learning specialist, Education researcher and primary teacher. She is passionate about helping parents and careers build their baby’s brains from conception onwards, so the children reach their full potential and fly. Supporting parents early gives them the confidence to know they’re doing the very best for their baby, developing knowledge and skills in play-based learning for our youngest child helps them ensure they thrive, right from the start.    https://www.linkedin.com/in/clarestead-oliiki/ www.oliikiapp.com Download the Oliiki app here https://www.instagram.com/oliiki/ https://www.facebook.com/Oliiki   Oliiki app blurb   The Oliiki app is an app for parents and parents-to-be of babies in the first 1000 days, from conception to two to build their babies brain and spark their parenting confidence one play activity at a time.   Jen Jackson   Jen has accumulated 18 years of experience in the healthcare industry and currently serves as an ambassador for healthy youth development within managed care organizations. Her primary professional focus involves identifying innovative approaches to promote youth’s mental health and effectively communicating product differentiators that impact the health and well-being of members.   Jen initiated her career as a mental health therapist, providing services to children, teenagers, and families in various settings, including acute care, county mental health agency, and private practice. She holds a master’s degree in social work from Temple University and is a Licensed Clinical Social worker in the state of Utah. In 2005, Jen earned credentials as a Registered Play Therapist.   www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferannjackson [email protected]

In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert you will learn the following:   What is behind the co-parenting relationship   Accepting that there are predispositions to challenges in intimate relationships   How healthy are any of us in our determinations for the right spouse for us   What is Fair and Unfair in relationship challenges that confront us   How to negotiate for money without using the word “fair”   Parental Alienation Advocates; Family Disappeared Podcast; 12 Step Support Group to help divorcing people self-reflect and assume responsibility for their part in the divorce   The importance of taking responsibility for their decisions from the choice to marry a certain person, to why the marriage isn’t working out   Communication is the center piece to a healthy relationship, even a divorced relationship   It takes two to form a productive relationship   Parenting without access to the children is a form of being engaged without disrupting the co-parenting relationship   To determine the Family System issues is one of the most important concerns in helping a co-parenting relationship   The Family Tree has roots in our growth   #communication #coparenting #parentalalienation #relationships #supportgroup #marriage #fair #unfair #FamilyDisappearedPodcast #parenting #guilt #familysystem #12stepprogram #acrimoniousdivorce #Dr.AmyBaker #petcustody #children #adultchildren #mediation #systemicchange   Lawrence Joss Biography   Founder and Director at PA-A.org   Lawrence Joss is a remarkable individual who has spent a lifetime dedicating himself to entrepreneurship, healing, and the service of others. With over three decades of successful entrepreneurship under his belt, Lawrence's journey has taken a profound turn towards supporting and empowering families facing complex challenges in their lives.   [email protected] www.PA-A.org   "I know what I do, but I don't know what I do does"-Solnit       - [email protected]   - https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss - Website:  https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/   - Linkedin - Lawrence Joss  - Family Disappeared Facebook Group

In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following:   The definitions of anger   Where anger fits in the seven Stages of Divorce Grief   Types of Anger   The importance of therapy and self-reflection to deal with anger.   The three types of Anger, and what is good anger.   Examples of using good anger to advance the divorce in a positive way.   The benefits of being able to control anger.   #anger #control #emotions #therapy #communication #communicationskills #communicationtechniques #divorcegrief #badanger #benefitsofanger #forgiveness #acceptance #self-reflection #self-awareness #mediation #lawyers #co-parenting

I. Mediation is an opportunity to compromise. To create a settlement that works for everyone. It’s not an argument. It’s not therapy.   II. People should know the law going into the mediation, and be prepared to work around the law for a compromise that benefits both spouses.   III. Typical Mediation Challenges and How to Handle Them Spousal Support (alimony) is a non-starter. Separate Property Money (inheritance or savings) became community property money. I will only accept a 50/50 custody. I’m not addicted to drugs. I just take them recreationally. I’ll do what I want on my co-parenting time. I’m going to be working less; I’ve been wanting to enjoy life more. (And there’s child and spousal support to pay.) If you leave me I’ll take you for everything. Lose my last name. I have no money. What to do when one or both spouses are angry, or one spouse is crying.   #mediation #angry #spousalsupport #alimony #childcustody #coparentingschedule #substanceabuse #inheritance #compromise #divorcesettlement #therapy #separateproperty #drugs #anger