351 | You’re Not Insecure — You’re Just Unclear: 5 Steps to Confidence, Clarity & Creating the Life You Want

After the wild freedom of summer — travel, late nights, looser schedules — September has a way of calling us back to structure. But getting back into a rhythm isn’t always easy. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling “off” after a season of fun, this episode will help you ease into a grounded, feminine reset. In this episode of Feminine + Ambitious, I’m sharing six neuroscience-backed habits that will help you reset your routine, strengthen your discipline, and prepare for the cozy, intentional energy of the Winter Arc. We’ll cover: ✨ Why your brain craves structure after a free-flowing season ✨ How dopamine and habit stacking can make routines feel rewarding again ✨ The role of planning in preventing decision fatigue ✨ Using environmental cues to wire your brain for success ✨ Pairing “resistance habits” with pleasure to stay consistent ✨ Why repetition, not perfection, is the secret to long-term success This is your invitation to get grounded, reestablish rhythm, and set yourself up for a radiant winter season. 💌 Mentioned in this episode: 💫 Join the Manifestation Queen Academy If you want to go beyond listening and actually live this transformation alongside other powerful women, Manifestation Queen Academy is your home. We’re a sisterhood where glow-ups become reality. 👉 Join here ⭐️Soul Aligned Success : 21 days to end the struggle with self-sabotage 💰 Soul Aligned Wealth : 21 days to heal your relationship with money  ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my FREE weekly personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta 👉 Shop my favorites in books, spirituality & skincare       

✨ What New Orleans Taught Me About Living Intentionally ✨ New Orleans is a city with soul. Its rich history, resilience after Katrina, the music spilling into the streets, the food meant to be savored, and the magic of second line parades—all of it carries lessons on how to live life more fully. In this episode, I’m sharing my most recent trip to the French Quarter and the four powerful lessons New Orleans reminded me about intentional living: Presence is everything. Go with the flow. Say yes to the unexpected. Honor your roots and stories. Whether you’ve been to New Orleans many times, or have never set foot there, these lessons are ones you can carry into your everyday life. From savoring your morning coffee to saying yes to something new, my hope is that this episode inspires you to slow down, romanticize your life, and let the ordinary become extraordinary. 🎧 Listen in for soulful stories, practical takeaways, and a little New Orleans magic. 💫 Join the Manifestation Queen Academy If you want to go beyond listening and actually live this transformation alongside other powerful women, Manifestation Queen Academy is your home. We’re a sisterhood where glow-ups become reality. 👉 Join here ⭐️Soul Aligned Success : 21 days to end the struggle with self-sabotage 💰 Soul Aligned Wealth : 21 days to heal your relationship with money  ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my FREE weekly personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta 👉 Shop my favorites in books, spirituality & skincare   

Are you unknowingly sabotaging your manifestations? In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about spiritual bypassing, toxic manifestation advice online, and the five “good girl trauma” habits that quietly drain your power and block your desires. You’ll learn how emotional intelligence is the missing piece to manifestation — not bypassing, not “good vibes only,” but actually becoming the kind of woman who is resilient, emotionally intelligent, and magnetic no matter what life throws your way. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✨ What spiritual bypassing really is — and why it’s hurting your manifestation practice. ✨ The 5 most common “good girl trauma habits” that sabotage your manifestations. ✨ Why mainstream manifestation advice keeps you fragile (and stuck). ✨ The four core skills of emotional intelligence you need to cultivate. ✨ My 4-step framework for manifesting without bypassing your emotions. ✨ How to build resilience in love, friendships, money, and everyday life. This episode is packed with powerful takeaways and tools you can use to stop shrinking, stop apologizing, and start manifesting from your most authentic, emotionally intelligent self. Resources mentioned in this episode:  💫 Join the Manifestation Queen Academy If you want to go beyond listening and actually live this transformation alongside other powerful women, Manifestation Queen Academy is your home. We’re a sisterhood where glow-ups become reality. 👉 Join here ⭐️Soul Aligned Success : 21 days to end the struggle with self-sabotage 💰 Soul Aligned Wealth : 21 days to heal your relationship with money  ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my FREE weekly personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta 👉 Shop my favorites in books, spirituality & skincare       

What if the best way to glow up in your 40s wasn’t about fighting age but fully embracing it? In this episode, I’m sharing six controversial things I do to look and feel my absolute best as a 44-year-old woman. From drinking coffee first thing in the morning (just like my grandmother did), to skipping high-intensity workouts in favor of lifting heavy weights, to proudly saying my age online—I’m opening up about the choices I make that go against mainstream “anti-aging” advice. I’ll also share why I take a hot bubble bath every single night (despite what experts say), why I refuse to let my mind go negative about aging, and how choosing confidence over Botox and fillers has completely shifted the way I move through midlife. This is your permission slip to embrace your age, your beauty, and your power—without apology. ✨ Want to take this even deeper? My course, The Goddess Glow Up, is designed to help women in their 40s (and beyond) reset their bodies, reclaim their radiance, and reignite their lives. If you’re ready to glow from the inside out, this workshop is for you. 👉 Join me inside The Goddess Glow Up and learn the exact tools, rituals, and lifestyle shifts that will help you feel vibrant, confident, and magnetic at any age. ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my weekly FREE ebooks & personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta 👉 Shop my favorites in books, spirituality & skincare   ✨ Join me inside my Manifestation Queen Membership : A community of spiritual women 

What if the reason you’re feeling stuck, uninspired, or overwhelmed isn’t you — it’s your home? In today’s episode, I’m sharing how the energy of your home directly impacts your health, relationships, money, and overall happiness. When I started taking my home as seriously as I did my workouts, nutrition, and mindset, everything in my life began to shift — my business grew, my health improved, and my love life blossomed. We’ll dive into the 5 biggest ways your home’s energy could be sabotaging you right now and, more importantly, what you can do to fix them: ✨ Why clutter is silently draining your confidence and productivity ✨ The overlooked spots in your home that block abundance ✨ How your décor choices may be keeping you stuck in the past ✨ Why your bedroom setup could be affecting your love life ✨ The simple shifts that turn your home into your #1 manifestation tool By the end of this episode, you’ll see your space in a completely new way — and you’ll feel empowered to start aligning it with the life you’re ready to create. If you’re ready to go deeper and completely transform the energy of your home, I’d love to invite you into my signature course High Vibe Home. This is where I guide you step by step to clear energy, style with intention, and create a home that actively supports your dreams, manifestations, and well-being. 👉 Learn more and join here: High Vibe Home workshop Resources and Blog Posts Mentioned: 19 relaxing bedroom nightstand styling ideas 15 clever ways to kill clutter with baskets 9 feng shui tips to manifest love   ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my weekly FREE personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta 👉 Shop my favorites in books, spirituality & skincare 

f you’ve ever wished for a personal assistant who actually understands your life, your goals, and the mental load you’re carrying — this episode is going to feel like a breath of fresh air. Today I’m sharing the five exact ways I use ChatGPT every single week to run my business, manage my home, and stay in alignment with my manifestations — without the stress and overwhelm. I’ll walk you through how I’ve replaced my old paper planner as my taskmaster (and turned it into a space for journaling, visioning, and manifesting instead), and how ChatGPT now keeps my schedule, ideas, and goals organized so I can focus on what matters most. You’ll learn: How to plan your week like a CEO and a homemaker without burning out The brain dump method that clears mental clutter instantly How to build a balanced calendar that includes work, home, and rest My go-to prompts for aligning big projects and business goals The manifestation practice that keeps my energy tuned to my dream life Plus, I’ll give you real ChatGPT prompts you can copy and paste today to start creating more time, clarity, and alignment in your own life — especially if you’re a busy mom, a self-employed woman, or in your midlife glow-up era. ✨ Ready to try them all? You can grab the full list of prompts in the blog post linked below. 📌 LINKS & RESOURCES 💫 Join the Manifestation Queen Academy If you want to go beyond listening and actually live this transformation alongside other powerful women, Manifestation Queen Academy is your home. We’re a sisterhood where glow-ups become reality. 👉 Join here Read the corresponding blog post here.  ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my weekly personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta 👉 Shop my favorites in books, spirituality & skincare    ***WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY*** 📝 Book a private SELF CONCEPT Life Coaching Session  🦋 Book your Soul Purpose Birth Chart Reading with me here ***START YOUR GODDESS JOURNEY HERE***  ✨ Manifestation Queen Membership : A community of spiritual women  🏠 High Vibe Home : Elevate your Environment to Amplify your Alignment 💎 Soul Aligned Self : 21 days to your highest vibration & personal alignment ⭐️Soul Aligned Success : 21 days to end the struggle with self-sabotage 💰 Soul Aligned Wealth : 21 days to heal your relationship with money  🌹 The Feminine Frequency : Secrets of the divine feminine 

If you’ve been feeling the pull to stop playing small, own your desires without apology, and step into your most magnetic, unapologetic self — this episode is your guide. After my episode 6 Habits to Awaken Your Dark Feminine Energy became my most downloaded episode ever (with three times more downloads than any other), I knew we had to go deeper. And in our 40s, the dark feminine isn’t just an archetype — it’s an initiation. In this episode, I’m sharing 7 powerful steps to help you reclaim your dark feminine energy as you transition into your most sovereign era. We’ll explore: ✨ What dark feminine energy really is — beyond the TikTok trend, and why it’s so potent in midlife ✨ How to acknowledge your shadows so they empower you instead of controlling you ✨ Why your desires are divine instructions (and how to stop apologizing for them) ✨ An innovative practice called Energy Draping to consciously choose the frequency you radiate each day ✨ How to use your Lilith placement in astrology as a map to your unique dark feminine blueprint ✨ The role of mystery, boundaries, and bold action in becoming magnetic ✨ My top book recommendations to deepen your embodiment of this energy Whether you’re brand new to the concept of the dark feminine or you’ve been walking this path for years, these steps will help you fully embody your power — not in a way that’s aggressive or performative, but in a way that’s deeply rooted, magnetic, and unapologetically yours. Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 📚 Books to Explore Women Who Run With the Wolves — Clarissa Pinkola Estés Pussy: A Reclamation — Regena Thomashauer Set Boundaries, Find Peace — Nedra Glover Tawwab The Art of Seduction — Robert Greene Sacred Woman — Queen Afua 🔮 Free Astrology Chart Calculator (find your Lilith placement): Astro.com or Cafe Astrology 💫 Join the Manifestation Queen Academy If you want to go beyond listening and actually live this transformation alongside other powerful women, Manifestation Queen Academy is your home. We’re a sisterhood where glow-ups become reality. 👉 Join here   ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my weekly personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta   ***WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY*** 📝 Book a private SELF CONCEPT Life Coaching Session  🦋 Book your Soul Purpose Birth Chart Reading with me here ***START YOUR GODDESS JOURNEY HERE***  ✨ Manifestation Queen Membership : A community of spiritual women  🏠 High Vibe Home : Elevate your Environment to Amplify your Alignment 💎 Soul Aligned Self : 21 days to your highest vibration & personal alignment ⭐️Soul Aligned Success : 21 days to end the struggle with self-sabotage 💰 Soul Aligned Wealth : 21 days to heal your relationship with money  🌹 The Feminine Frequency : Secrets of the divine feminine 

Your glow-up isn’t just about skin, style, or fitness — it starts in your mind. In this episode of Feminine & Ambitious, I’m sharing the exact glow-up habits for the mind that every woman over 40 needs to feel sharp, sexy, and magnetic. You’ll learn how to wake your brain up from autopilot, keep it alert and adaptable through neuroplasticity, and create a daily lifestyle that fuels mental clarity, confidence, and creativity. I’ll walk you through: The two powerhouse supplements for brain health and energy after 40 (Creatine + CoQ10) — and why no one’s talking about them for women. How to dopamine detox and break free from stimulation overload. The “No Phone First Hour” ritual that protects your mood, focus, and nervous system. My favorite brain workout habits — from Audible books to learning something new every day. Why saunas, red light filters, and breaking your routine are essential for mental beauty. Because here’s the truth: a woman who invests in her mind is magnetic at every age — and unstoppable in her 40s. If this conversation speaks to you, you’ll love my course Goddess Glow Up — the signature method to reset your hormones, reclaim your radiance, and reignite your life. It’s your midlife beauty blueprint for your mind, body, and soul. 💻 Enroll in Goddess Glow Up here ***WELCOME TO MY WORLD*** 💌  Receive my weekly personal development love letters  💻 Read my blog: ashlinakaposta.com 📖 Check out my my collection of e-books 🎥 Watch my videos on YouTube 👋 Connect with me on Instagram @ashlinakaposta   ***WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY*** 📝 Book a private SELF CONCEPT Life Coaching Session  🦋 Discover your Soul Purpose Birth Chart Reading  ***START YOUR GODDESS JOURNEY HERE***  ✨ Manifestation Queen Membership : A community of spiritual women  🏠 High Vibe Home : Elevate your Environment to Amplify your Alignment 💎 Soul Aligned Self : 21 days to your highest vibration & personal alignment ⭐️Soul Aligned Success : 21 days to end the struggle with self-sabotage 💰 Soul Aligned Wealth : 21 days to heal your relationship with money  🌹 The Feminine Frequency : Secrets of the divine feminine   

Feeling stuck, unsure, or low on confidence? You’re not alone — but here’s the truth no one talks about: You’re not insecure… you’re just unclear. In this powerful end-of-summer reset episode, Ashlina guides you through a transformative 5-step clarity framework to help you reconnect with who you are, what you want, and where you’re going — so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start leading your life with confidence and purpose. Whether you’re navigating a life transition, craving more alignment, or just feeling “off,” this episode is your permission slip to get clear and take your power back. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn: Why confidence is a byproduct of clarity The 3 “seasons” of your life and how to honor the one you’re in How to define your personal values and let them guide your decisions A journaling exercise to unlock your deepest desires How to create daily rituals that anchor your self-trust and momentum Join us here inside the Manifestation Queen Membership Download my FREE ebooks + receive my weekly love letters Read the blog here Find me on TikTok & instagram @ashlinakaposta     

Are you tired of overcommitting, people-pleasing, and feeling resentful about the way your time and energy are spent? In this episode of the podcast, we’re diving deep into how to say no with confidence and clarity — so you can reclaim your energy, protect your peace, and live in alignment with your truth. (Download my FREE ebooks full of helpful resources here) Whether you struggle with setting boundaries, feel guilty when you prioritize yourself, or simply want to feel more grounded and in control of your time — this episode will give you the mindset shifts, language, and organization tools to say no unapologetically and mean it. 🌿 Inside this episode, you’ll learn: Why we say yes when we really mean no (and how to shift that pattern) How to organize your life and calendar to honor your energetic capacity What a “NO LIST” is — and how it helps you set empowered boundaries Real-life scripts you can use to say no lovingly and clearly How to schedule spaciousness and create margin in your week Nervous system regulation tips to help you feel safe and grounded while setting boundaries Personal stories and practical examples that bring this all to life This episode is packed with high-value guidance for high-achieving women, soul-led entrepreneurs, coaches, and creatives who are ready to step out of burnout and into deep alignment, ease, and sovereignty. 💌 Ready to go deeper? If this episode resonated, you’ll love being inside Manifestation Queen — my signature membership where each month we activate your magnetism, healing, embodiment, and aligned success through monthly audio drops, coaching tools, and inspired rituals. 💎 Doors are open now. Learn more here! 📲 Loved this episode? Screenshot this episode, tag me on Instagram [@ashlinakaposta], and share your favorite takeaway. I’d love to hear how this landed for you. 💫 Leave a 5-star review if you felt seen, heard, or shifted by this episode — it helps more women find this work and say YES to their truth.