EP. 348: Oliver Mann: How Journaling Helps You Discover Your Truth and Break Self-Judgment

In this heart-to-heart Q&A, we move through themes of self-trust, relationships, courage, + the quiet strength of asking for help.I talk about what it means to ground yourself in hard moments, how to shift from self-critique to self-compassion, and why the question “What can I do to make things easier on myself right now?” can change everything.I share honest stories from my own life: navigating relationship values, differentiating wants from needs, the tenderness of vulnerability, the discomfort of asking for support, + the deep work behind my upcoming book The Truth in You Knows.This episode is both practical and soulful — a reminder that personal evolution isn’t about perfection, but about presence, clarity, and courage.TAKE THIS WITH YOU:Self-trust is built moment by moment, especially in the hard moments.Values > wants — alignment is a compatibility of consciousness, not convenience.Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s an entry into real connection.Asking for help is uncomfortable… and profoundly strengthening.When things get heavy, return to the question: What would make this easier right now?⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses.

Some truths arrive as whispers. Some arrive as wounds that teach. Some arrive as a reminder: you were never meant to fit… You were meant to be.In this intimate Q&A episode, I answer your questions on misunderstanding, boundaries, and creative resilience — pulling from the decades I’ve spent writing my way into my values, my voice, + mySELF.We explore how being misunderstood can become a kind of spiritual armor — not the hard kind, but the sacred kind that forms when you stand rooted in who you are, even when others can’t comprehend you yet.I share stories from my 20s + 30s, the seasons where I had to choose between belonging to others or belonging to myself. Journaling became my sanctuary, my mirror, my extraction process — the place I met the real Roxanne.We go into boundary-setting with the people you love, why resentment is a poison, what it means to make a “true move,” + how to keep showing up for passions that feel heavy but holy.This episode is a love note to your inner compass — the one that always knows.TAKE THIS WITH YOU:Understanding your values is the foundation of every boundary you’ll ever need.Being misunderstood often signals depth, integrity, + evolution.Boundaries are uncomfortable AND necessary — love doesn’t cancel self-respect.When passion feels hard, alignment becomes your stamina.Journaling clears the fog so you can hear yourSELF again.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses: 

I sat down with Oliver Mann — 30+ years deep in the journaling world, a keeper of stories, a guide for the brave — to explore the REAL reason journaling works.Spoiler: it’s not the pen. It’s not the page.It’s YOU. Your courage. Your SELF-honesty. Your willingness to stop hiding from your own reflection.This conversation is an initiation into radical authenticity — the kind that doesn’t perform, doesn’t pretend, doesn’t negotiate its OWN truth.We go into masculine + feminine energies, the myth of “doing it right,” the lies judgment tells us, + the liberation that comes from writing what you’re REALLY thinking.If you’re ready to stop performing + start becoming, this episode is your invitation to write yourSELF free. Write your truth. OWN your truth. Become the one who transforms your OWN life — word by word, breath by breath, page by page.SOME WORDS ARE GIFTS:Journaling is a TOOL — but YOU are the transformation.Authenticity requires dropping judgment, masks, + performance.Self-awareness means nothing without action to match it.Masculine + feminine energies are FLUID — not fixed — and learning your inner rhythm creates inner harmony.Your humanity is not a flaw… It’s the curriculum.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFIND OLIVER ON:IGWEBOLIVER'S 5-DAY WRITING CHALLENGE: ⁠https://www.shadowjournaling.com/new-story-challenge⁠CHECK OUT: My Beautiful Guided + Illustrated Journal YOU ARE THE PATH: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal My Upcoming Self-Directed Journaling Webinar: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/webinarFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses.

This powerful clip is from episode 336In this raw + illuminating microsode, I sit down with Christine Hassler to explore the invisible threads between childhood wounds, creativity, + the way we show up in our adult lives.We talk about the moments when expression felt unsafe — when you learned to silence yourSELF to be accepted — and how that suppression becomes the breeding ground for suffering.We discuss what it means to meet your inner child again — not with blame, but with compassion. This episode is for anyone ready to stop repeating the same emotional cycles + start integrating the lessons they’ve already earned. Because healing isn’t about erasing your past — it’s about responding differently this time.KEY REVELATIONS:• Your suppression wasn’t protection — it was survival. But your expression? That’s your liberation.• The inner child isn’t a metaphor — it’s the map to your healing.• Familiar doesn’t mean safe. It just means known. Choose differently this time.• Integration is the practice of becoming who you already are beneath the conditioning.• Healing happens when you stop performing and start feeling.Missed the Full Episode? Check it out here:LISTEN TO EP 336 ON APPLE PODCASTLISTEN TO EP 336 ON THE SPOTIFY PODCASTWATCH EP 336 ON YOUTUBE⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBETWITTERTHREADSFIND CHRISTINE HASSLER ON:IGPODCASTFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses: 

I say your emotions aren’t your enemy—they’re data. They’re messages from your body + your soul, guiding you toward your truth. This episode is your framework for learning how to feel it all without losing yourSELF in the process.Through my 5-step Emotional Agility Framework, we dive into the art of self-awareness, emotional discipline + integration—because emotional mastery isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence.Maybe you’ve been trying to stay “strong” by avoiding the mess. But what if the mess is your teacher? What if self-mastery begins where emotional honesty lives?If you’ve ever felt ruled by your emotions, consider this your invitation to transmute them into wisdom. Because when you master your inner world, the outer one starts to follow.Consider these love notes for your evolution:You can’t control life, but you can master your state. That’s real power.Emotions aren’t weakness—they’re wisdom. Learn to decode them before they own you.Self-awareness is your superpower. Without it, you’re just reacting to life instead of creating it.Discipline is love in action. It’s how you honor yourSELF when chaos comes knocking.Challenges aren’t punishments—they’re portals. Each one refines your strength + evolves your consciousness.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses.

In this episode of The Roxanne Show, I sit down with the unapologetically raw Ellina Abovian — journalist, storyteller + woman in the wild process of BECOMING. Together we dive deep into the art of self-discovery, the courage to walk away from what no longer fits, + the beauty of rebuilding yourSELF from truth, not expectation.They say certainty is safety. I say uncertainty is where your SPIRIT starts breathing again.Ellina opens her heART about the moment she chose HERSELF — ending a 16-year marriage to step into the unknown + rewrite her story. We talk intuition, self-trust, + the bold act of standing in your authenticity even when the world doesn’t understand your evolution. This is a conversation for anyone standing at the edge of change — scared, curious, + ready.Take this with you:There’s no “right” path — only the one that feels most like YOU.Self-trust is built inch by inch, choice by choice, day by day.Your rebirth will ask you to let go of who you were to become who you’re meant to be.Vulnerability isn’t weakness — it’s your greatest form of power.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFIND ELLINA ON:IGPODCASTFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses:

In this Q&A episode, I flip the script on ambition, surrender + SELF-TRUST — showing you why letting go might be the most courageous move you’ll ever make.They say success is about pushing harder, but the truth is that vitality comes from releasing what no longer serves you + trusting your HEART to lead the way.This isn’t about settling. It’s about EVOLVING. It’s about building standards rooted in your VALUES, not in the “shoulds” society tries to sell you.So if you’ve been grinding yourself into exhaustion chasing someone else’s version of success, here’s your permission slip to stop. To trust. To surrender. To choose a life that feels FULL from the inside out.Maybe you needed to read this today:Letting go doesn’t mean giving up — it means clearing space for your DREAMS.Your values are your compass. When you honor them, your standards RISE.Self-trust is built one BRAVE decision at a time.Not everyone is your teammate. Align with those who amplify your SOUL.Your heart isn’t just emotional — it’s STRATEGIC. It’s the most powerful guide you have.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses: 

In this microsode, we’re breaking open the heARTwork of self-intimacy + the rebel truth about living in coherence with yourSELF.This isn’t about fluffy self-love quotes or another “be yourself” pep talk. This is about building a SAFE inner home—where you can be raw, real, + non-judgmental with yourSELF.Casey, a master at guiding people back to their core values, joins me to explore what it really means to live in alignment. We go deep into dismantling the inherited beliefs + unconscious scripts that quietly run the show in your life.We’re talking about the DEATH of false identities—the shedding of borrowed values—so you can finally organize your inner world around what’s truly yours. Because that’s where authenticity lives. That’s where peace lives. That’s where YOU live.KEY REVELATIONS:Misalignment isn’t random—it’s your soul waving the red flag.Most “shoulds” aren’t yours—they’re hand-me-down beliefs.Self-intimacy is the permission slip to meet every part of yourSELF.Coherence between your values + your actions is emotional freedom.To truly belong, you have to first belong to yourSELF.Missed the Full Episode? Check it out here:LISTEN TO EP 327 ON APPLE PODCASTLISTEN TO EP 327 ON THE SPOTIFY PODCASTWATCH EP 327 ON YOUTUBE⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBETWITTERTHREADSFIND CASEY STEVENS ON:IGWEBFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses: 

If you’ve ever felt torn between being real and being marketable, this episode is going to hit home.In this raw + unfiltered conversation, I sit down with Kyle Creek — aka The Captain — to talk about the addictive nature of writing, the tension between art + commerce, and the challenge of staying true to yourself in a world that rewards clicks over authenticity.Kyle shares what it’s really like to walk away from a comfortable career in advertising to carve out a life as a full-time writer — one that’s both liberating + brutally exposing. We dive deep into the pitfalls of personal branding, the pressure to perform online, and why Kyle refuses to bend to AI-driven content trends.This episode is for every creator, writer, or human trying to reconcile their need for self-expression with the demands of a noisy, fast-moving digital world.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFIND KYLE CREEK ON:IGWEBFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses:

This is not another pep talk about “faking it ‘til you make it.” This is about the kind of courage that moves you across the country with no safety net. The kind of self-trust that makes you leave a perfect-on-paper career to follow your SOUL.In this raw + unapologetic conversation, I’m breaking down why courage does the heavy lifting that confidence gets glorified for—and why TRUST is the bridge to both. I share the moves that scared me most, the moments my intuition screamed louder than logic, and the decisions that rewrote my entire reality.If you’ve been waiting for the confidence to show up before you make your next bold move—this is your wake-up call: choose courage first.MAYBE YOU NEEDED TO HEAR THIS TODAY:Courage is the REAL catalyst—confidence is just the proof you made it through.Your highest timeline will never be built on betraying your HEART.Intuition isn’t reckless—it’s your soul’s GPS.Every bold choice reinforces your ability to trust yourSELF.Freedom requires risk. Playing safe is the fastest way to suffocate your dreams.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFREE RESOURCES:🖤 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making. 🖤  Download Your WHAT TO DO NEXT Guide to start moving through life with Self-trust, not Self-doubt: 🖤 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge. 🖤  Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event and special bonuses.