Avoidant Men Series: I Pull Away Right After We Get Close

Most men don't ask for help until they hit breaking point — and it's not weakness, it's conditioning. I sat down with therapist Peter Meades to unpack why men struggle to recognise distress, why anger becomes the default language, and why midlife feels like a reckoning. We get into emotional literacy, the andropause, grief men don't recognise, journaling, avoidance patterns like overworking and withdrawal, and how to reframe midlife crisis as a midlife awakening. If you're questioning the life you've built or shutting down in your relationship, this will help you understand yourself and what to do next as a man. Dr Peter Meades is a seasoned integrative psychotherapist with experience in both the NHS and private practice. A registered member of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), he knows what works in men's mental health, and understands the challenges men face.   Key Topics: ⭐ Men's Mental Health, Therapy & The Barriers to Asking for Help ⭐ Masculinity, Emotional Suppression & The Pressure to Always Be Strong ⭐ Male Identity, Shame & The Fear of Appearing Weak or Incapable ⭐ Emotional Literacy, Anger & Understanding What Men Are Really Feeling ⭐ Midlife Transitions, Andropause & The Psychological Impact of Aging ⭐ Midlife Awakening, Identity Crisis & Questioning the Life You've Built ⭐ Traditional Gender Expectations, Self-Sacrifice & Rediscovering Personal Identity ⭐ Male Body Image, Physical Insecurity & Changing Standards of Masculine Attractiveness ⭐ Grief, Loss & Learning to Process the Different Seasons of Life ⭐ Journaling, Emotional Expression & Practical Tools for Processing Difficult Feelings ⭐ Men's Mental Health Warning Signs, Emotional Avoidance & Destructive Coping Mechanisms ⭐ Vulnerability, Healthy Masculinity & Challenging Cultural Stigma Around Men Expressing Emotions Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Peter Meades:  Peter Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drpeter.notes/ Peter Website: https://petermeades.co.uk/   ___________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity  

I know I should stop being avoidant, but I can't. If that feels true, this final Avoidant Men Series episode is for you.    I share why my relationship crumbled, the 5 reasons avoidant men don't change, and how avoidance hurts you with cynicism, guilt and loneliness, and hurts her with lost years and feeling like the problem. This is about avoidant attachment and avoidant attachment style in men — not theory, but lived experience.    You'll learn 5 steps to change: owning it's not her, shifting your critical eye, letting love in and out, expressing feelings, and getting support to build attachment style healing.    If you want emotional healing, better relationship advice, and real personal growth through personal development and self awareness, watch to the end. We cover attachment theory, trauma healing tools, and how to regulate your nervous system to stay present. Stop repeating the pattern and start building secure love.   ___________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

You snap at her over the rubbish, the dishes, nothing at all. But it was never about the dishes. Psychosexual therapist Charlene Douglas, best known as the couples expert on Married At First Sight UK, has sat with hundreds of arguing couples. She explains why the things men never say come out sideways as displaced anger, how the story you tell yourself about your partner quietly directs everything you do, and why shame cannot survive being spoken out loud. We also get into how couples fight, the scripts men carry about sex and money, and how to say the thing you believe you cannot say.   Charlene Douglas is a UK-based psychosexual therapist, relationship expert, and intimacy coach best known for appearing on the Channel 4 series Married at First Sight UK. Based in London and Essex, Charlene works with individuals and couples across the UK and internationally, helping them strengthen emotional connection, improve communication, and rebuild intimacy in their relationships.   Through her work as a therapist, speaker, and media commentator, she specialises in supporting people navigating intimacy challenges, loss of sexual desire, relationship conflict, dating patterns, and healing after break-ups. Charlene combines psychodynamic counselling, relationship psychology, and psychosexual therapy to help clients better understand the emotional patterns that shape their relationships and develop healthier, more fulfilling ways of connecting. Alongside her clinical work, Charlene is widely recognised as a trusted voice in the media on topics including modern dating, intimacy, sexual wellbeing, and relationship dynamics.   Key Topics: ⭐ Relationship Communication, Conflict Resolution & Breaking Destructive Patterns ⭐ Emotional Intimacy, Physical Closeness & The Impact of Sleeping Separately ⭐ Parenthood, Mental Load & Maintaining Connection After Having Children ⭐ Gender Roles, Unspoken Expectations & Resentment in Relationships ⭐ Empathy, Perspective-Taking & Understanding Your Partner's Emotional Needs ⭐ Childhood Trauma, Attachment Patterns & How Early Experiences Shape Adult Relationships ⭐ Conflict Responses, Fight-or-Flight & Emotional Withdrawal ⭐ Therapy, Vulnerability & Overcoming the Stigma Around Seeking Help ⭐ Sexual Shame, Performance Anxiety & Breaking Harmful Masculinity Scripts ⭐ Premature Ejaculation, Sexual Insecurity & The Psychological Roots of Intimacy Issues ⭐ Self-Awareness, Personal Growth & Taking Accountability in Relationships ⭐ Financial Stress, Self-Worth & The Connection Between Relationship Health and Sexual Functioning Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Charlene Douglas:  Charlene Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlenedouglasofficial Charlene Website: https://charlenedouglas.com/   ____________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 [email protected] 2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page You pull away right after you get close — even when she's everything you want. This episode breaks down why avoidant men go cold after good days, freeze on the next step, and shut down instead of opening up. I share how unconscious fear of closeness drives fault-finding and distance, the damage it does to you, her, and the relationship, plus my own story and a 6-step framework to catch the urge, regulate your body, and choose closeness. For successful men in their 30s and 40s ready to end repeating patterns and build secure partnership with The Authentic Man Podcast. ____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity 

The harder you try to be liked, the faster she pulls away. In this episode, I sit down with Amy to unpack why moulding yourself to please a conscious woman repels her — identity bubbles, trauma wounds, mothering dynamics, and performing fierceness instead of embodied truth. If you're doing everything right yet feeling unseen, this conversation shows what to stop doing and how to build inner spine, self-worth and presence she can actually trust. We go deep on avoidant patterns, Peter Pan energy, and self-responsibility that creates real polarity. Watch to stop performing and start attracting. Stop the act. Amy Ebinger is a trauma and relationship expert who works at the intersection of childhood and transgenerational trauma, feminine identity, and love. For over a decade, she has helped women uncover the root causes of their emotional patterns, behavioural adaptations, and relationship dynamics. Her work explores how childhood experiences, family relationships, and inherited generational patterns and trauma shape feminine identity, emotional capacity, attachment, self-abandonment, and the way we experience love and intimacy. By bringing these underlying dynamics to light, Amy guides women beyond symptom management toward deep, lasting healing at the root - helping them move beyond survival and protective patterns into greater self-understanding, emotional freedom and capacity, and healthier, more fulfilling relationships.   Key Topics:  ⭐ Dating, Self-Worth & The Fear of Not Being Accepted for Who You Are ⭐ Authenticity, Vulnerability & Breaking Free from the Pressure to Perform ⭐ Childhood Trauma, Father Wounds & How Early Experiences Shape Relationships ⭐ Emotional Availability, Avoidant Attachment & The Fear of Commitment ⭐ Unresolved Grief, Past Relationships & Learning to Open Your Heart Again ⭐ Masculine and Feminine Polarity, Trauma Healing & The Difference Between Performance and Authentic Power ⭐ People-Pleasing, Insecurity & The Habit of Changing Yourself to Be Loved ⭐ Projection, Gender Narratives & How Past Experiences Shape Dating ⭐ Overfunctioning, Control & The Difference Between Supporting and Rescuing Your Partner ⭐ Slowing Down, Emotional Awareness & Learning to Be Present in Relationships   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Amy Ebinger:  Amy's instagram @amyebinger Amy's website: www.amyebinger.com    ___________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity  

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 [email protected] 2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page She asks what's wrong — your throat locks and you say "I'm fine." Then you go quiet for hours. If you're in your 30s or 40s and shut down right when it matters most, this Avoidant Men episode breaks down why your body stops you, how silence kills trust faster than conflict, and how you turn solvable needs into terminal verdicts. I share what I learned as a recovering avoidant and from coaching hundreds of men, plus the magic sentence to use when you freeze: name what's happening, say it's not about her, ask for minutes and come back.   ____________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

Every lie you tell her started long before her. In this raw conversation, I sit down with men's coach Craig White to unpack where male lying really comes from — family patterns, shame, and the survival masks we learned as boys. Craig shares how he lied to dodge anger at home then carried it into every relationship, and the relational fitness practices that finally set him free. If you hide, deflect, or shut down when truth feels risky, this will hit home. Watch to learn how to stop hiding and start leading with truth. Key Topics: ⭐ Masculinity, Emotional Masks & The Fear of Showing Your True Self  ⭐ Shame, Dishonesty & Why Men Struggle to Tell the Truth  ⭐ Patriarchy, Male Conditioning & The Pressure to Dominate  ⭐ Vulnerability, Emotional Range & Redefining Strength  ⭐ Toxic Masculinity, Cultural Conditioning & Breaking Generational Patterns  ⭐ Male Leadership, Control & The Need to Always Be Right  ⭐ Intimacy, Sexual Shame & The Shift from Performance to Presence  ⭐ Relationships, Defensiveness & Learning to Take Responsibility  ⭐ Male Loneliness, Emotional Suppression & Reclaiming Authenticity  ⭐ Presence, Self-Regulation & Building Deeper Emotional Connections Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Craig White:  Craig's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/craigwhitementoring Craig's Website: https://craigwhitementoring.com  Craig's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-white-performance-coach/   ___________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity  

Feel like commitment means losing your freedom? You're not broken — your nervous system mistakes closeness for captivity. In this Avoidant Men episode, I break down why move-in talks trigger shutdown, chest tightness and fault-finding, how childhood rules and old relationship evidence keep the trap alive, and the hidden cost of choosing freedom over connection. You'll get the gym analogy that reframes commitment, plus 3 practical steps to stay present, say what you need, and build secure freedom without losing yourself. Join the live workshop below to go deeper. Perfect for avoidant men ready to love without feeling trapped now.   __________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity 

I sat across from a woman raised in a culture where sex was never named — and who now teaches thousands how to unlearn that shame. Karishma Swarup joins me to unpack how culture teaches sexual shame, why South Asian men dating in the West feel labelled creepy, and how men ruin sex by performing instead of connecting. We get into the orgasm gap, porn scripts, the double life of kids raised between two worlds, and what parents must do differently. If you carry shame you didn't choose, this conversation will help you hand it back as a man today.   Karishma Swarup (she/her) has completed a Master's in Public Health in the Social and Behavioral Sciences concentration at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. She is an internationally experienced sexuality educator and advocate who runs a sex ed Instagram page @talkyounevergot. Karishma was awarded "Influencer of the Year 2021" by UK's NHS SH:24 and Brook. In 2023, she received a grant from UNESCO and RNW Media for Digital Sex Ed creators to create a course for other content creators in sexual health. Simultaneously, Karishma also worked at a social impact consulting firm, Dalberg Advisors to design large-scale strategies for global non-profits and multilateral organisations (like the UNDP).   During her undergraduate at Brown University, she volunteered with Planned Parenthood to teach sex-Ed to high-schoolers. In India, she conducts workshops & online webinars with top educational institutions, student groups and young adults.   Karishma is passionate about destigmatizing sexual health, facilitating health communication, and understanding how public health systems can better serve sexual health needs.   Key Topics: ⭐ Sex Education, Sexual Shame & Breaking Cultural Taboos  ⭐ South Asian Culture, Family Expectations & Dating Restrictions  ⭐ Patriarchy, Gender Roles & Redefining Masculinity  ⭐ Consent, Rejection & Why Persistence Is Mistaken for Romance  ⭐ Pornography, Unrealistic Expectations & Sexual Insecurity  ⭐ Male Loneliness, Vulnerability & The Fear of Asking Questions  ⭐ Body Image, Performance Anxiety & Sexual Confidence  ⭐ Communication, Emotional Connection & Being Present During Sex  ⭐ Female Pleasure, The Orgasm Gap & Mutual Satisfaction  ⭐ Colonialism, Religion & The Cultural Roots of Sexual Repression  ⭐ Harmful Dating Scripts, Media Influence & Changing Relationship Norms  ⭐ Comprehensive Sex Education, Digital Access & Empowering the Next Generation Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: [email protected]  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Karishma Swarup:  Karishma Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkyounevergot/ Karishma Website: https://www.talkyounevergot.com/     ______________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 [email protected] 2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page   Feel lonely in a relationship  you actually want? If you're an avoidant man  with voidant attachment , that distance isn't proof she's wrong — it's the pattern. David Chambers breaks why you shut down, create a chasm, and end up feeling like a ghost in your own home — and the damage: sadness, blame, her feeling on the outside, intimacy dying. Learn 5 steps to reconnect: name the moment, trace it to childhood, shadow work, emotional mastery, emotional risk-taking. Stop thinking your way out. Start feeling your way back. Get freebie Why You Pull Away + RELATE workshop details below.   _____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity