
Why can school feel so overwhelming for some neurodivergent children, and why are their parents so often blamed when they struggle to attend?
In this episode of All Aboard ADHD, Claire is joined by Writer, Educator and SEND mum Jo Clayton and Actor and Filmmaker Natalie Lauren, the writer and producer of Unauthorised Absence. Their powerful short film explores school distress, unmet needs, and the pressures families face when a child can’t attend school.
Together they explore:
📣 “I needed to be heard”: how hundreds of stories from Jo’s years in parent support groups shaped the film.
🎬 A cold email and a shared mission: Natalie’s decade supporting young people outside mainstream education, and seeing the earlier part of their journey for the first time.
🎧 Hearing what children can’t say: how the use of sound helps us experience what’s happening internally for the film’s main character Thea when she can’t put it into words, and the film’s aim to “foster empathy, facilitate understanding, and motivate change”.
📊 “There’s more to this than a bum on a seat”: why a focus on attendance above all else can leave children’s needs unseen and unmet.
🎭 Holding it together at school, falling apart at home: how masking can hide a child’s distress, leaving parents misunderstood and blamed.
💔 When support depends on attendance: why withdrawing help from a child who is already struggling can make things harder.
⚖️ Fines, blame and families under pressure: why the system falls hardest on those with the least, and how “broken systems break people”.
🤝 Responding “as humans first”: trusting your instincts, building bridges, and finding a way forward together.
When a child is struggling to attend school, families can feel unheard, judged and very alone. Rather than receiving the understanding and support they need, parents can find themselves blamed, fined or even prosecuted. The consequences for families can be devastating, deepening the divide between parents and schools, while the child’s underlying needs remain unmet. Ultimately, it’s the child who pays the price.
This conversation offers understanding, validation and a hopeful reminder of what becomes possible when we respond to children and parents with humanity.
Further resources & links
Find out more about Unauthorised Absence - a short film written by Jo Clayton, produced by Natalie Lauren, and directed by Georgia Parris: https://www.mimesic.com/films/unauthorisedabsence
Watch the film online from Tuesday 10 November: https://youtu.be/dn8C7WuGv8g
Find a community screening near you: https://www.google.com/maps/d/viewer?mid=1M7-j6lkokmGGw67toHClV8f8gJ2r_xk&hl=en&ll=54.306518128477215%2C-30.464489099999994&z=4
Follow the film on Instagram: @unauthorisedabsencefilm
Follow the film’s writer Jo Clayton @joclaytonstory
Follow the film’s producer Natalie Lauren:@natalielaurenw
Organisations mentioned:
Not Fine in School https://notfineinschool.co.uk/
Square Peg https://www.teamsquarepeg.co.uk/
Autistic Girls Network https://autisticgirlsnetwork.org/
A Sisyphean Task: a short film about an early career teacher, recommended by Jo: https://directorsnotes.com/2025/11/22/gus-flind-henry-george-malcher-a-sisyphean-task/
ADHD coaching and resources from Claire: https://allaboardadhd.com
Follow Claire on Instagram & TikTok: @allaboardADHD
The views shared in this episode are those of the guests, based on their professional expertise and personal experience. This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, educational, or psychological advice. Please consult a qualified professional for personalised support relevant to your individual circumstances.
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