What Happens When You Can No Longer Lie to Yourself?

I’ve been struggling with self-care since becoming a mom, and not just finding the time for it, but actually knowing what to do with the time when I have it.In this episode, I’m sharing what’s been coming up for me as I navigate this new season where I technically have space for myself — two full days a week — and still find myself feeling lost, overwhelmed, and honestly; busy doing nothing.This is a real-time reflection on what it looks like to relearn myself, to stop defaulting to what self-care should look like, and to finally ask a much more honest question: what actually nourishes me?This episode is for the mom who finally gets a moment to herself; and freezes. The one who feels like she should know how to take care of herself, but doesn’t anymore. And it’s a reminder that maybe nothing has gone wrong — you’re just being asked to meet yourself in a completely new way.Highlights:The unexpected struggle of having time for yourself and not knowing how to use itThe pattern of being “busy doing nothing” and what’s actually underneath itWhy typical self-care (gym, yoga, errands) wasn’t truly filling me upThe difference between self-care and real, system-specific nourishmentHow using my voice became the most energizing and regulating practice for meYou’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.Support the showFind me at alexcantone.com and at Parenting By Design on Substack

I’m recording this sitting on the floor of a half-finished room. My house is a mess, laundry everywhere, dishes in the sink, toys scattered across every surface, and everything in me is telling me I should go clean it up before I let myself do this.But I didn’t. I pressed record anyway.This episode is really about that moment, the one where you choose to tend to yourself even when everything else feels like it’s asking for you first.In this episode, I talk about what it’s actually like to move through motherhood as a Projector in a life that constantly requires you to respond.I share the tension between wanting to slow down and feeling like I’m always being pulled into doing, fixing, managing, and tending. I unpack a concept that used to trigger me deeply: “Projectors aren’t designed to be parents.”Now that I am a Projector Parent, how do I feel about that concept?If you’re a Projector mom who feels stretched thin, overstimulated by the mess, and quietly guilty for not having endless energy to give, this episode is for you. When we stop forcing and start listening, our kids will show us exactly where we’re meant to meet them.Highlights:Why motherhood can feel especially draining for Projector energyHow I’m learning to do less with my kids (and why that actually works better)Creating independence in the home to reduce constant demandsWhat it looks like to wait for my children to invite me into their worldHow my kids are showing me, in real time, the kind of mother they need me to beLetting go of the idea that everything needs to be “in order” before I can show upYou’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.Support the showFind me at alexcantone.com and at Parenting By Design on Substack

In my first episode back after a three-year hiatus giving birth and raising my babies, I open up about what it actually feels like to come out of the postpartum fog. After two back-to-back pregnancies, suddenly I don’t fully recognize my life, or myself, anymore.There’s a moment in life no one really prepares you for. The moment where everything you ever wanted is finally here. The love, the partner, the babies, the home, the life you spent years dreaming about, and yet, somewhere inside of it, you feel like you’ve disappeared.This is a conversation about identity. About nervous system truth. About the difference between a life that looks good and one that actually feels good.If you’re a mother who feels stretched between who you used to be and who you are now, if you’ve built a life that “should” make you happy but something feels off, if you’re craving a way back to yourself, your voice, your energy — this episode is for you.Highlights:The disorienting “waking up” after survival modeLosing yourself in love, motherhood, and the life you thought you wantedThe pressure to be grateful when something doesn’t feel rightThe quiet resentment that builds when you ignore your body’s cuesAnd the truth so many women are afraid to say out loud: just because you’re good at something… doesn’t mean it’s meant for youYou’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.Support the showFind me at alexcantone.com and at Parenting By Design on Substack

This one's for you if you've found yourself in a space where you're seeking recognition beyond follower counts and likes. Or if you've stumbled upon Human Design and come to the realization that maybe the people you surround yourself with don't actually see you in the way you desire them to. Wherever you're at on your journey, allow these words to support you in finding the recognition you're designed for.Support the showFind me at alexcantone.com and at Parenting By Design on Substack

Let's face it - as Projectors, we LOOOOOVE to feel helpful. But how do we have boundaries when it comes to offering what we *know* to those around us? As a guide I believe I am here to direct people back to their own inner awareness. And not just anyone, but those who invite me to do so. Here's my take on the difference between being a guide and offering unsolicited advice.Support the showFind me at alexcantone.com and at Parenting By Design on Substack

Not feeling as productive and energetic as the rest of the world? I feel you. Here's a little boost to support you in understanding how you are designed to show up in a way entirely different than those around you. Support the showFind me at alexcantone.com and at Parenting By Design on Substack

I want to reintroduce my partner, Chris to the show as he's going to be around here more! Chris and I recorded an episode this past summer right before we found out I was pregnant. Needless to say our surprise pregnancy journey has shifted our dynamic A LOT. I decided to put this throwback episode on display before Chris makes his next appearance on the pod. If you're curious about Projector - Generator dynamics in partnership, this episode is a great listen!Support the showFind me on Instagram @alexcantone

I absolutely adore Kip and all of the wisdom he offers simply by being and expressing himself out in the world. As a fellow 6-Line Self-Projected Projector, Kip and I share many similar outlooks on life and Human Design. I hope you enjoy listening to this conversation as much as I enjoyed facilitating it!Follow + Support KipInstagram @humandesignsystemproWebsite https://hdspro.paperform.co/Support the showFind me on Instagram @alexcantone

Don't we all love an opportunity to hear Vaness Henry speak? Join me for a conversation with my good friend to eavesdrop on how we view going out into the workforce vs. digital entrepreneurship. This one will leave you contemplating how your deconditioning has impacted how you see and relate to life's "rules" as well as how you use your resources, including your own energy levels.Follow + Support VanessInstagram @vanesshenryWebsite https://www.vanesshenry.com/Support the showFind me on Instagram @alexcantone

I meant to record a solo episode reflecting onNovember but instead I told the entire story of my business since 2018! Enjoy :)Support the showFind me at alexcantone.com and at Parenting By Design on Substack