280. Your Calendar Will Reveal If You're in a Doer or Leader Identity (And the Subconscious Beliefs That Are Keeping You There)

You've tried the productivity hacks, the better to-do lists, the habit stacking and none of it has helped you overcome procrastination for longer than a week, right?That's because procrastination is not a discipline problem. It's a self sabotage behaviour being run by your subconscious beliefs about who you are.So in today's episode, I'm going to talk about why "I'm a procrastinator" is one of the most damaging limiting beliefs you can carry in your business and what actually happens in your brain when you make procrastination part of your identity. I'm giving you four procrastination tips that go beyond surface level strategies because they work with your subconscious, not against it.If you've been wondering how to stop procrastinating and everything you have tried isn't working, this is the identity work that changes everything. Plus, I'm sharing a mind blowing stat about what happens every time you break your focus and how long it takes you to fully recover the depth of focus you had before.Topics covered on Overcoming Procrastination:Why "I am a procrastinator" is a limiting belief disguised as a personality traitThe difference between being a procrastinator and doing procrastination and why that one distinction is the start of all identity workWhat your subconscious beliefs are doing behind the scenes every time you drift away from a taskWhy willpower, habit stacking and better planners will never out-discipline a self sabotage behaviour that's running on autopilotThe mind blowing stat about broken focus that will make you rethink every procrastination habit you've normalisedLearning how to stop procrastinating starts with becoming the observer of your own behaviour, not fighting it4 procrastination tips that work with your subconscious instead of against itConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:209. Subconscious Basics: Subconscious Reprogramming Through Language

Your calendar is full. Your days are packed. You are grafting. And yet your business still feels like it's running you instead of the other way around. That's not a time management problem. That's your leader identity trying to get your attention underneath a pile of doing.In today's episode, I'm breaking apart the doer identity, the part of you that was built to be the reliable one, the one who got things done, the one who never let anything slip, and why that same part is now the ceiling you keep hitting. I'm talking about the subconscious beliefs that made "busy" feel like "worthy" and why no amount of discipline will fix what is actually an identity shift waiting to happen.I'm also sharing exactly what your calendar is revealing about your CEO mindset right now (whether you like it or not, it's basically your subconscious document) and I'm giving you four things to do this week, starting with how you open your laptop tomorrow morning, that start building your CEO identity in real time.This one's going to land. And it might sting a little.Topics covered on Leader Identity:What is your calendar telling you about your leader identity right nowThe subconscious beliefs that made "doing more" feel like the only way to be valuedThe difference between a doer who fills every gap in their calendar vs a leader who protects CEO space on purposeHow to start building your CEO identity even if you don't have any team membersThe one identity shift that changes how you show up to your business every single dayWhy your CEO mindset is measured by intention, not by how many tasks you completedConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:277. Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging Your Business Success (The 3 Subconscious Handbrakes)

You've been waiting for the proof... the consistent months, the sold out programme, the income that finally feels like enough, the moment you can see exactly how it's going to work before you fully back yourself.And every time you get close - something shifts. The goalposts move, you explain it away and you go back to waiting.In this episode, I break down exactly what is happening in your subconscious when you wait for proof and wait for the how and why both of them are the same pattern keeping you exactly where you are. You'll learn why your RAS is actively filtering out every piece of proof you already have, what the proof is actually supposed to give you that no external result ever will, and what actually has to happen first before everything changes.This episode ends with four subconscious prompts to help you work through the proof pattern yourself, so make sure you have a quiet moment to sit with them before you close the episode.Topics covered on Why Waiting for Proof is Keeping You Stuck:What the proof pattern actually is and why waiting for the proof and waiting for the how are the same subconscious moveThe Reticular Activating System, why your brain is actively filtering out the proof you already haveWhat you actually believe the proof is going to give you and why no external result can ever deliver itWhat actually changes everything - the subconscious decision and identity shift that makes the proof and the how finally arriveFour subconscious prompts to help you identify and start shifting your own proof patternConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:[ep.132] Harnessing the Reticular Activating System to Turn Dreams into Reality [ep.263] How to Make Your Subconscious Believe What You Consciously Want For full show notes visit https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-waiting-for-proof-is-keeping-you-stuck

You've probably seen the stat shared on Instagram. A coach drops it in their sales page. Someone quotes it on a podcast. Ninety five percent of your behaviour is driven by your subconscious mind and everyone nods, shares it, repeats it. But here's the question nobody is actually answering, what does that mean for your real life? For your business? For the pattern you keep finding yourself in despite knowing exactly what you should do?In this episode, I go deep on the mechanics of the 95% problem. The actual mechanism, what your subconscious is doing, why your conscious mind keeps running out of road, and why the gap between what you want and what you do isn't a discipline problem, a strategy problem, or a you problem.This is the foundational episode of the Under the Surface series and if you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same place despite everything you know, this one is for you.Topics covered on The 95% Problem:Why the 95% stat gets thrown around and what the research actually saysThe iceberg model - what the conscious and subconscious minds are actually doingThe prefrontal cortex - the brain's executive centre and why it's the last part to developThe three things your subconscious is doing simultaneously without your awarenessWhy your subconscious patterns are protection, not punishmentThe gap, why conscious effort alone will never create lasting changeHow to tell in real time whether you're operating from your 5% or your 95%Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:277. Why You Keep Self Sabotaging Your Business Success (The 3 Subconscious Handbreaks)Read the full show notes at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/what-is-the-subconscious-mind-really-doing-the-truth-behind-the-95-stat

You had a strong month, the best one yet and instead of letting it land, you exhaled, went quiet, and within weeks you were barely talking about your offers again.Or you wrote the post. The one that actually said what you think and then you read it back, decided it was too much, and posted the safe version instead.Or you sat down to finally work on your own business, the thing that would actually move the needle and within ten minutes you were back in your client's messages.This is the subconscious handbrake and it shows up in three specific places in high achieving women's businesses, every single time.In today's episode I'm introducing the IVL Method for the first time, the framework I've been using with my clients for years and have finally given a name to. I'm breaking down exactly what's running underneath the income handbrake, the visibility handbrake and the leadership handbrake at a subconscious level, where each one comes from, what it looks like in real life, and the digging prompts that will help you start to see which one is yours.Topics covered in this episode:What the subconscious handbrake actually is and why it doesn't feel like sabotage when it firesThe income handbrake - what it looks like, what your subconscious relationship with money has to do with it, and the digging prompts to find yoursThe visibility handbrake - why this isn't a confidence problem, what your subconscious has stored about being seen, and the prompts to go deeperThe leadership handbrake - why overdelivering feels impossible to stop, what your subconscious decided about putting yourself first, and how to start seeing itIntroducing ALL IN, the three month container built around the IVL MethodResources mentioned in this episode:ALL IN is open now - we start 20th April: www.rebeccahaydon.com/all-inConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

You have a groove. A neural pathway your brain has been running so automatically, so invisibly, for so long, you've started to mistake it for your personality.In this episode, I breaks down one of the most powerful concepts in neuroscience, neurons that fire together wire together and what it actually means for the patterns showing up in your business right now.Why you keep returning to the same income level, why the good months don't stay, why something pulls you back every single time expansion arrives.By the end of this episode that pattern has a name and once you can name it , everything changes.Topics covered in this episode:Why some women hit their next level and stay there and why others keep returning to the same familiar placeWhat neurons that fire together wire together actually means and why it matters for your businessHow your brain builds grooves from past experiences and runs them automatically every time expansion arrivesWhy the going quiet, the backend retreat, and the pulling back are not character flaws they are a sequenceWhy willpower, positive thinking and surface level behaviour change cannot override a subconscious grooveWhat actually changes a deep subconscious pattern and why the work has to happen at the level it was builtQuestions to help you find your own groove and understand how deep it runsConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

You published that post. You felt that instant gratification rush. And then three minutes later you were already refreshing the app to see how many views you got. That rush is not just a habit anymore. It is actively rewriting your subconscious beliefs about what is possible for you in your business, and it is happening way beneath your conscious awareness.Every time you check and find nothing, your brain files it as evidence. Evidence that it is not working, that results do not come easily to you, that maybe you are just someone who has to work harder than everyone else. And the worst part? That self sabotage behaviour is being supercharged by your brain's own dopamine loop, repeating itself multiple times a day without you even realising it.In today's episode I am getting into exactly what is happening in your brain when you expect instant results, why the self punishment that follows is one of the most damaging things you can do for your next level, and three things you can start doing right now to change your habits around this pattern and start building the right evidence in your subconscious programming instead.Topics covered on Instant Gratification:Why that instant gratification rush you get the moment you hit post is setting you up for a self sabotage cycle you do not even know you are inWhat your brain's dopamine loop is doing every time you refresh the app three minutes after postingWhy your subconscious beliefs about success are being written in real time without your conscious mind having any sayThe role of emotional intensity and repetition in subconscious programming and why it works against you just as powerfully as it works for youThree things you can do right now to change your habits around result checking and start filing the right evidence insteadWhat identity work has to do with your brain's prediction system and where the real shift happensHow changing your identity at the subconscious level is what finally makes the instant gratification cycle lose its gripResources mentioned in this episode:Obviously, I Can Hold The Next Level: https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/obviously-i-can-hold-the-next-levelConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

Sign Up to My Free Live Event You are doing all the things. Showing up, creating, working with clients, building something so amazing and still there is this little voice underneath it all, the sense that you are not fully in it yet.Half in half out feels like playing it safe and it is actually the most exhausting thing you can do. Because full commitment takes less energy than the negotiation happening inside you every single day.In this episode, I break down exactly what is running that negotiation at a subconscious level and how it's your brain's three most sophisticated filters working together to keep you exactly where your current map says you belong.You will learn what deletion, distortion and generalisation actually are, how they show up specifically in the way you create content, price your offers, and move through your days, and the three step process to start catching them, interrupting them and rewriting the map entirely.Journalling prompts from this episode:Deletion - catch what your brain has been filtering outIf you knew your brain had been filtering out proof of how capable you actually are, what would it have been hiding from you? What results, moments or feedback have you filed away as not quite enough to count and what would change if you actually let them count?Distortion - find where you have been bending reality.Think about the last time something didn't go the way you wanted. What story did you make it mean about you, the real story, the one underneath the one you told out loud. What is the most accurate, most generous and most true interpretation of what actually happened?Generalisation - break the rule that became a life sentence.What is the rule you are living by right now about what is possible for you? Where did it come from? And what does the version of you who wrote that rule need to know now that she could not have known back then?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:Ep 267. Your Identity Shift Feels like Sh*t? Good, Keep Going!

Secondary gain is the reason you keep pulling back every time things start working. Not because you're lazy. Not because you don't want it. But because your subconscious is getting something from keeping you exactly where you are.In today's episode, I'm walking you through the exact process I use with my 1:1 clients to find what causes self-sabotaging behaviours, the NLP techniques I use to uncover subconscious patterns running underneath, and the four prompts that will help you figure out what your secondary gain actually is.I'm also sharing a personal story from when I was a kid doing song and dance competitions that I only recently connected to why I pull back from visibility in my business.If you've ever asked yourself, "why do I self-sabotage when things are going well," this episode is going to hit differently. Grab a pen. You're going to need it!Topics covered on Secondary Gain:What is secondary gain?Why do you self-sabotage when things are going well even when you've done so much work on yourself?The subconscious patterns I recently discovered underneath my visibility behaviour.How to find the exact moment your secondary gain kicks in using NLP techniques.What causes self-sabotaging behaviours after a wave of momentum?The four-step process to uncover your self-sabotage patterns, secondary gain behind them, name it and start to shift it.Journal prompts on Secondary Gain:1. Find the patternWhat is the exact moment it happens for you?What was going right before you pulled back?Find all the journal prompts at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/your-self-sabotage-has-a-payoff-that-you-dont-know-about-heres-how-to-find-your-secondary-gainConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:199. What Are You Gaining from Staying Where You Are?132. Harnessing the Reticular Activating System to Turn Dreams into Reality117. Moving Out of Victim Mentality

Every single boundary in business I ever broke, I could justify. I told myself I was being responsive, being committed, being a good coach... But underneath all of that? I was terrified. Terrified that if I wasn't always available, people would leave. That if I said no, I wasn't valuable. And those people pleasing tendencies didn't start in my business. They started way before that, in a subconscious programme I picked up before I was seven years old.In today's episode, I'm walking you through my own boundary journey, from answering client messages at ridiculous hours to scaling a business by 70% the year I had my daughter Ivy, all in roughly 24 work hours a week. I'm sharing with you why your subconscious is literally wired to trample your own boundaries, why you keep saying one thing and doing the opposite, and the five types of boundaries with clients and in your life that actually allow you to hold more without burning out.If you keep stretching and stretching and wondering why something always breaks, this episode is for you! Ready to learn how to set healthy boundaries? Tune in now!Topics covered on Boundaries in Business:Why your people-pleasing tendencies are the real reason your business boundaries keep crumblingWhat your brain has to do with why you can't hold boundaries in business (and no, it didn't start with your last client)How I went from answering messages at ridiculous times to scaling a business by 70% on less than 24 hours a weekWhy every boundary in business you break is actually teaching your subconscious that you can't be trustedThe five types of boundaries you need if you want to scale without your sanity jumping out the windowHow to reprogramme your subconscious mind what business boundaries mean to you so holding them stops feeling terrifyingWhy your clients will actually respect you more when you learn how to set healthy boundaries, not lessThe one small thing I want you to do today if you're ready to set boundaries for yourself and actually hold them this timeConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipThe Subconscious InstituteCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:188. How I’m Using Hypnotherapy to Build a 7-Figure Business119. Setting Boundaries vs Holding Boundaries