Episode 114: Write a Letter

This week we are discussing a cocktail of topics — including gratitude in relationships, understanding vs judgment, and providing value. Relationships can end anytime, so choosing and appreciating your partner daily is important. Do you think the idea of soulmates diminishes the value of relationships by implying destiny instead of conscious choice? Relationships require effort and finding new ways to love as individuals evolve. A conversation Lana has with her grandmother highlights the importance of empathy and understanding over judgment. Everyone is a student of life, and should constantly be seeking improvement. Asking those in our lives how we can be better for them fosters open communication and nurtures valuable relationships. When was the last time you asked those closest to you how you can be better for them? Thank you for listening! ❤ Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcast Podcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.com Lana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedez Lana’s Website: lanamercedez.com

This week we are discussing quality over quantity, the benefits of therapy, the importance of being aware of our own needs & feelings, and how to be kind to ourselves. Don't just try to do more things, but focus on doing the things that are most important to you and that will make you feel good. Therapy can help you learn coping mechanisms and strategies for managing your mental health, but it's not a cure-all. You'll need to continue to practice these skills and make lifestyle changes in order to maintain your mental health. Taking a step back to try and see the world from others’ perspectives will help you to be more empathetic and understanding of others, which can improve your relationships and overall well-being. What do you do for fun? What makes you feel good? How easy is it for you to resist self-shame and instead forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes? Remember, mental health is just as important as physical health. By taking care of your mental health, you can improve your overall well-being and live a happier, more fulfilling life. Thank you for listening! ❤ Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcast Podcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.com Lana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedez Lana’s Website: lanamercedez.com Friendship Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/5GKabm6E9VZawuOyeNaSdu?si=Tk20divzQz-vuAmrR8Mtow Introverts & Extraverts https://open.spotify.com/episode/78Y4A8YvXtMUhStZtGsMKz?si=16VoqKN8TrCo2sfsY6z5AA Introverts & Extraverts, Part 2 https://open.spotify.com/episode/7oBUCTpOStlnCtgY4iEDfy?si=diiDTNfmSxOUjpmFlb3FcQ Introverts at Work https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Zg5fi2RGezR2IDSwFBBOu?si=A-dJ0dPbT_CgyajkHswHXg Finding a Therapist https://open.spotify.com/episode/1U1L9IaXgBWp2vMOglC1E9?si=6qUi_bkVQRyFRMOOC-3sIg

Let's begin 2024 with discussing perspectives that will help us live a happier and more fulfilling life. Topics include: saving money, letting go of embarrassment, not judging others, and standing up for what you believe in. Do you notice the state of your home affecting your mood? How do you handle toxic relationships? Do you find it easy to distinguish between fear and intuition? Thank you for listening! ❤ Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcast Podcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.com Lana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedez Lana’s Website: lanamercedez.com Resources: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5GKabm6E9VZawuOyeNaSdu?si=Tk20divzQz-vuAmrR8Mtow

For the final episode of 2023, Lana is sharing the top downloaded episodes, new platforms, her ask for the listeners, unpopular opinions that you all shared, and two individuals’ concerns regarding their love languages. We cover the top five episodes with guests and the top three solo episodes. What podcast platforms are going away and which new ones are we on? What do you want to hear on the podcast? Which guests would you like us to talk with? We are gathering more unpopular opinions! Please share them in the review section of Apple Podcasts. Thank you so much to the Reddit users that gave us permission to share their posts, and thank you all for joining us every week as we discuss human behavior on the Whiskey & Lemon podcast. We wish you peace, happiness, and safety. Thank you for listening! ❤Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana’s Website: lanamercedez.comResources:www.reddit.com/r/LoveLanguages/s/gyHsQxh8iwwww.reddit.com/r/LoveLanguages/s/RcIIwM9wsQ

People who are well-informed but lack self-awareness may overestimate or underestimate their abilities. This is because they may not be able to accurately assess their strengths and weaknesses. Self-awareness is the ability to understand and recognize one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires. It is crucial to have self-awareness in order to make accurate assessments of one's abilities. Intellectual humility is a mindset that governs our intellectual behavior and entails acknowledging and accepting our intellectual limitations. It is important to have intellectual humility in order to learn and grow. We can better comprehend our knowledge and abilities by reflecting on our experiences and abilities and seeking feedback from others.Thank you for listening! ❤Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana’s Website: lanamercedez.comResources:https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/17439760.2021.1975155https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29966822/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3835346/

The Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias that causes people to overestimate their knowledge or ability. It is most common in people with low ability, who mistakenly believe that they are wiser and more capable than they really are. This can lead to problems such as poor decision-making, failure to learn from mistakes, and conflict with others. It is crucial to be aware of this bias so that we can avoid its negative consequences.Here are some specific examples of the Dunning-Kruger effect:A student fails a test but believes they got a good grade because they "knew all the answers."A person makes a lot of mistakes at work but believes they are doing a great job.A politician makes promises that they cannot keep but believes that they are the best person to lead the country.The Dunning-Kruger effect can be overcome by being open to feedback, learning from mistakes, and being willing to admit when we don't know something. It is also imperative to be critical of our own beliefs and to be open to the possibility that we might be wrong.Thank you for listening! ❤Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana’s Website: lanamercedez.comResources:2021 Study

Lana breaks down the classifications of friendship, the meaning behind each, and the vast benefits understanding them provides us. We review Aristotle’s categories of friendship and how each term is defined. Lana discusses the stages of friendship, what we look for in friends based on our life points. We see how the evolution of friendships has significantly changed in modern times, with social media playing a major role. Lana explains the major differences in the 3 classifications of friend groups, the clear boundary that separates them, and implementing this practice keeps us from being spread thin. In addition, Lana covers how having these classifications help us to properly divvy up our time and effort and keeps us protected. If you find yourself having trouble with placing friends in the correct category and always being let down, also exerting way more effort than that one friend, how do you address it? What key things can we look for in a friendship? What is the difference between being a confidant and a “yes” friend? Thank you for listening! ❤Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana’s Website: lanamercedez.com

This week we discuss the importance of being open to learning from others, creating a healthy and positive environment, and being a good leader. We emphasize the need to be approachable, celebrate improvement, set high expectations, and do what you say you will do. To facilitate meaningful connections, we must be decisive, do things with passion, express emotions, admit fault, and hold one another accountable. Thank you for listening! ❤Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana’s Website: lanamercedez.com

Letters are a great way to express yourself, connect with others, and share your thoughts and feelings. They can be written for a variety of reasons, such as to thank someone, to apologize, to express love, or to simply stay in touch. Thank you for listening! ❤Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana’s Website: lanamercedez.com

On today’s episode, we discuss how to combat the world being more judgmental, which harms relationships and mental health. To be less judgmental, separate the action from the person, give the benefit of the doubt, recognize biases, sit with feelings of being judged, and assess impact. We can make the world more accepting by being less judgmental. Thank you for listening! ❤Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana’s Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana’s Website: lanamercedez.com