How to stop caring about what people think

Moved to a new city? As an adult, introvert, ambivert, or anyone in between, it can be hard to make new friends and meet new people.In this video, I talk about how to meet new people and where to meet new people. The possibilities of meeting a really great friend, best friend, or even soulmate are huge! I've met awesome people in all the places that I've lived, and I want to share the tips I've used over the years so that you can meet some awesome people too!In this video: 0:00 Intro1:18 How to meet people standing in line2:01 How to meet people at events2:58 How to meet people at parties3:40 How to meet people at events that have a meal involved4:46 How to meet people anywhere5:14 Where to meet people5:24 Where to meet people with similar interests as you7:06 Where to meet people with similar book interests as you8:29 Where to meet people in your city9:26 Where to meet people in a learning setting10:29 Where to meet people who enjoy trivia11:15 Where to meet people who love to dance12:23 Where to meet people who loved being active13:29 Where to meet people who love serving the community14:06 Where to meet people who love running and hiking14:40 How to meet all your neighbors at once15:30 How to meet new people online16:29 Share the ways you've made friends!******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also a multi-time bestselling author of:Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/cues/) Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/) and I am the creator of People School. This advanced video communication course is for high achievers who want to be confident communicators.My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted or forgotten again.PS - Get our free 60-minute online trainings: https://www.scienceofpeople.com+ Join the party on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards******PS - Join the conversation on social!☞ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/☞ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards☞ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/#meetpeople #makefriends #introvert #ambivert #extrovert #vanessavanedwards #captivate #captivatebook #cues #cuesbook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been speaking with someone when they get way to close? This is a close talker. If you don't like smelling people's breath while they talk to you this video will give you some easy tips to encourage close talkers to back away. Learn more about dealing with close talkers here: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/close-talkers/In this video: 0:00 Hilarious Seinfeld Clip0:48 What is a close talker?0:57 Our new 'model'1:14 Space Zones2:23 The Broken Rule2:42 How to STOP a close talker3:32 Why Hand Gestures Can Save You3:48 Use Angles4:20 The Most Aggressive Tactic******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/) and creator of People School(https://www.scienceofpeople.com/people-school/).My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted or forgotten again.Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/******PS - Join the conversation on social!☞ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/☞ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards☞ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you pitching yourself and your ideas all wrong? What's the secret to the most successful pitches? In this episode of the World's Most Interesting People, I sit down with Hollywood's best pitcher, Brant Pinvidic, who is a producer and the author of the 3 Minute Rule. Brant shares the best ways to lay out a pitch and even helps me dissect and improve my own! You don't want to miss the surprising info he shares!Want more details on the art of the perfect pitch?https://www.scienceofpeople.com/3-minute-rule-brant-pinvidic/Check out Brant's book, The 3-Minute Rulehttps://www.brantpinvidic.com/3-minute-rule00:00 Intro00:50 About Brant01:28 The origins of the 3-Minute Rule04:15 Brant's worst pitch06:52 Tips and takeaways08:45 Vanessa's proposal10:38 The formula for a perfect pitch- the WHAC method11:37 What is it?12:39 How does it work?14:11 Are you sure?18:39 Can they do it?******Want to be in the top 1% of speakers? There is a formula to creating a great presentation. Learn to captivate any audience on stage, on video, and in meetings in this training. I will teach you: How to keep people engaged and captivated How to powerfully open and close a presentation, speech, or toast Crafting a charismatic stage presence How to speak so people listenGet the free preview of the course Powerful Presentations: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/presentation-skills-course/******Vanessa Van Edwards is a national bestselling author and founder at Science of People. She is also a recovering awkward person.She is the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People which has been translated into 15 different languages. Vanessa’s unique approach has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine, USA Today, Today Show and many more.Vanessa shares tangible skills to improve interpersonal communication and leadership, including her insights on how people work. She’s developed a science-based framework for understanding personalities, decoding body language and improving people skills to help people communicate professionally, socially and romantically.Vanessa works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion dollar companies; and has spoken to thousands of audiences at TEDx London, MIT and CES to name a few. Science of People looks at the hidden forces that drive our behavior. It’s mission is to help people achieve their goals faster and understand what makes people tick.👉 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate ******Subscribe to our channel for more human behavior hacks and communication strategies👉 http://bit.ly/37ZWNHSP.S. Make sure to keep up with us by clicking the bell!******✔ W E B S I T Ehttps://www.scienceofpeople.comFollow Us on:✔ I N S T A G R A Mhttps://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards✔ T W I T T E Rhttps://twitter.com/vvanedwards✔ L I N K E D I Nhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards✔ F A C E B O O Khttps://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards#Pitch #Selfpromotion #Selling #VanessaVanEdwards #sales #salestips #salespitch Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I break down President Obama's famous vocal charisma. Did you know the way your face is shaped can change the sounds of your voice? President Obama uses a precise set of vocal tactics to create his signature powerful sound. Let's break down what he does and how this actually changes the quality of his voice. We'll also explore how Alicia Silverstone from Clueless does the opposite.What secret cues are you sending to others? My latest book, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication will teach you how to sound, look and feel more powerful.Pre-order now: https://www.amazon.com/Cues-Master-Language-Charismatic-Communication-ebook/dp/B094Z5QBJ2/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1629478421&sr=8-2I break down the vocal charisma of celebs, politicians, and historical figures so we can learn their secrets. Can you tell when Britney Spears is Lying? What's Lance Armstrong's tell? What power move does Oprah love? I break it all down in Cues. Int his video:0:00 Intro1:50 Barack Obama2:10 Obama's Cue #12:48 Obama's Cue #25:34 Obama's Cue #36:34 Alicia Silverstone6:45 Alicia's Cue #18:28 Alicia's Cue #210:45 How our hands affect our charisma13:05 The difference between Obama and Alicia's cues14:02 The best way to command charisma******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/) and soon to be release Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication.My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted or forgotten again.Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/******PS - Join the conversation on social!☞ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/☞ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards☞ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/#vocalpower #vocalcharisma #cues #vanessavanedwards #cuesbook #charisma #barackobama #aliciasilverstone Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself caught up in something negative someone said about you or to you? Do you care deeply about your reputation and what others think about you to the point that they control your every move and thought?I sat down with the lovely Jodie Cook and we talked about how we can stop caring about what people think about us. You will learn how to focus on your journey, shift your mindset, and ultimately stop caring about what other people think about you!Read more here! https://www.scienceofpeople.com/stop-caring-what-people-think/Check out Jodie Cook's new book: tenyearcareer.comIn this video:0:00 Intro2:09 How to stop caring about what other people think3:57 Clicking with everyone6:27 Be judgment-free9:15 What can you control?11:33 Perspective16:55 See what's really happening18:22 Protect your energy21:32 Remember your why24:30 Final thoughts******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/) and creator of People School(https://www.scienceofpeople.com/people-school/).My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted or forgotten again.Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/👉People School registration is now OPEN! Sign up here: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/train...******Vanessa Van Edwards is a national bestselling author and founder at Science of People. She is also a recovering awkward person. She is the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People which has been translated into 15 different languages. Vanessa’s unique approach has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine, USA Today, Today Show and many more. Vanessa shares tangible skills to improve interpersonal communication and leadership, including her insights on how people work. She’s developed a science-based framework for understanding personalities, decoding body language and improving people skills to help people communicate professionally, socially and romantically. Vanessa works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion dollar companies; and has spoken to thousands of audiences at TEDx London, MIT and CES to name a few. Science of People looks at the hidden forces that drive our behavior. It’s mission is to help people achieve their goals faster and understand what makes people tick. 👉 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/capti... ****** Subscribe to our channel for more human behavior hacks and communication strategies 👉 http://bit.ly/37ZWNHS P.S. Make sure to keep up with us by clicking the bell! ****** ✔ W E B S I T E https://www.scienceofpeople.com Follow Us on: ✔ I N S T A G R A M https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards ✔ T W I T T E R https://twitter.com/vvanedwards ✔ L I N K E D I N https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessava... ✔ F A C E B O O K https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards #vanessavanedwards #selfconfidence #confidence #authenticity #entrepreneurtips #selfesteem Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thank you to those who joined me for my first live workshop of 2021!For those that were unable to attend, this is replay will help you set powerful goals for 2021. Learn my new technique for feeling more confident, capable and excited, no matter what 2021 has in store for us. And of course, I share the science of setting achievable goals.I'm also excited to announce the first class of People School in 2021 is now open. You can learn more about People School at 45:49, or visit https://www.scienceofpeople.com/courses/people-school/.*******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also a multi-time bestselling author of:Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/cues/) Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/) and I am the creator of People School. This advanced video communication course is for high achievers who want to be confident communicators.My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted or forgotten again.PS - Get our free 60-minute online trainings: https://www.scienceofpeople.com+ Join the party on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have hard time saying no? It can be very hard to say no because you don't want to upset people. We don't want people to feel bad, or make people think we're rude. With us being social creatures, we are driven to preserve our relationships and so it can be difficult to let people down even if it is the right thing for you.In our weekly Twitter poll, we asked people whether this statement was true or false for them: “I have a hard time saying no.” As someone who struggles with saying no myself, I decided to go in the research lab and learn how to say no without being awkward or damaging relationships. In this video I want to share several hacks that will save your relationships.Want more details on how to say no without being awkward?https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-say-no/-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------This is just the start! If you want to learn how more about human behavior hacks, check out my book Captivate: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/******Hi, I’m Vanessa!You deserve more. More influence, more income, more of what you want. I would be honored to help you. Do you want to be the most likable person in the room? Get my FREE guide now: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/My name is Vanessa Van Edwards and I’m a recovering awkward person. I’m also a multi-time bestselling author of:Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/cues/) Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/) and I am the creator of People School. This advanced video communication course is for high achievers who want to be confident communicators.My goal is simple: Help YOU get to your goals faster. Never be overlooked, interrupted or forgotten again.PS - Get our free 60-minute online trainings: https://www.scienceofpeople.com+ Join the party on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/******Vanessa Van Edwards is a national bestselling author and founder at Science of People. She is also a recovering awkward person.She is the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People which has been translated into 15 different languages. Vanessa’s unique approach has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine, USA Today, Today Show and many more.Vanessa shares tangible skills to improve interpersonal communication and leadership, including her insights on how people work. She’s developed a science-based framework for understanding personalities, decoding body language and improving people skills to help people communicate professionally, socially and romantically.Vanessa works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion dollar companies; and has spoken to thousands of audiences at TEDx London, MIT and CES to name a few. Science of People looks at the hidden forces that drive our behavior. It’s mission is to help people achieve their goals faster and understand what makes people tick.👉 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate ******Subscribe to our channel for more human behavior hacks and communication strategies👉 http://bit.ly/37ZWNHSP.S. Make sure to keep up with us by clicking the bell!******✔ W E B S I T Ehttps://www.scienceofpeople.comFollow Us on:✔ I N S T A G R A Mhttps://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards✔ T W I T T E Rhttps://twitter.com/vvanedwards✔ L I N K E D I Nhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards✔ F A C E B O O Khttps://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards#HowToSayNo #Communications #VanessaVanEdwards Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm excited to teach all new material to help you identify, beat, and prevent burnout. In this fast paced training, I cover:* How to tackle a career plateau, professional rut or dreadful Mondays.* Why you have more control than you may think.* 3 surprising ways burnout changes your brain (and how to change it back).* How to turn anxiety into anticipation, dread to awe, and boredom to capability.* A completely different way to think about your calendar.* Why tackling burnout (and preventing it) is one of the most important things you can do for your success trajectory.* 3 questions you must ask yourself before your next birthday.* How to hit the reset button on your life and feel less stuck.And then as promised, at the end I open our next class of People School! Woohoo!People School is now open! Enroll today:https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/I hope to see you in People School soon! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this video, I'm going to show you the signs of boredom and how to snap someone out of it. It can be difficult to overcome boredom but you can use non verbal communication and read body language to know if someone is bored. One challenge is that the more smart and socially adept a person is, the better he is at hiding boredom.ScienceofPeople.com presents a lab chat about spotting and hunting down boredom body language. For more tips, visit:http://ScienceofPeople.com/influence00:00 Intro00:40 Body Language Signs of Boredom01:26 How to Fight Boredom******If you’re ready to level up your charisma, check out our flagship online course, People School: http://bit.ly/2yUf0WRPeople School is a 12 step video based training program designed to increase your interpersonal intelligence. If you want to learn how to rapidly build trust, spark excitement, develop meaningful connections, stand out from your peers, and finally achieve all of the things you know you’re capable of, People School was created for you.With 12 modules – each one built around a unique human behavior law – People School is the only science-based training program that provides you with actionable lessons to learn the skills you need to succeed.Step-by-step, People School will teach you how to create authentic and meaningful connections with anyone… and accelerate your success. People School has already helped thousands of smart, driven, people from all over the world go from feeling “stuck” to leapfrogging their peers, landing clients, and becoming top performers at places like Google, Hertz, Microsoft and many more.👉People School registration is now OPEN! Sign up here: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/train...******Vanessa Van Edwards is a national bestselling author and founder at Science of People. She is also a recovering awkward person.She is the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People which has been translated into 15 different languages. Vanessa’s unique approach has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine, USA Today, Today Show and many more.Vanessa shares tangible skills to improve interpersonal communication and leadership, including her insights on how people work. She’s developed a science-based framework for understanding personalities, decoding body language and improving people skills to help people communicate professionally, socially and romantically.Vanessa works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion dollar companies; and has spoken to thousands of audiences at TEDx London, MIT and CES to name a few. Science of People looks at the hidden forces that drive our behavior. It’s mission is to help people achieve their goals faster and understand what makes people tick.👉 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate ******Subscribe to our channel for more human behavior hacks and communication strategies👉 http://bit.ly/37ZWNHSP.S. Make sure to keep up with us by clicking the bell!******✔ W E B S I T Ehttps://www.scienceofpeople.comFollow Us on:✔ I N S T A G R A Mhttps://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards✔ T W I T T E Rhttps://twitter.com/vvanedwards✔ L I N K E D I Nhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards✔ F A C E B O O Khttps://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards#Boredom #BodyLanguage #VanessaVanEdwards Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you need a new headshot? You do NOT have to hire a professional photographer or go to a studio. You can take a great headshot in your own home AND have it look professional. Did you know the word 'photography' means "writing with light"? Photography is an art, and it involves lots of variables that can get overwhelming--especially at home on your iPhone! Join Vanessa and special guest, @MaggieKirkland , as they review all the ways to make your at-home pics look professional. Read more at https://www.scienceofpeople.com/home-photo-shoot/Find out more about Maggie at maggiekirkland.comAnd links to Maggie's favorite gear: https://www.maggie365.com/resourcesLearn more in Maggie's course: https://www.maggie365.com/offers/RFJ6V2Up/checkout?coupon_code=TAKEBETTERPHOTOS99Check out her amazing instagram: https://instagram.com/maggiekirklandphoto0:00-2:43 Introduction2:44-3:47 Find a Good Location3:48-13:12 Find Best Lighting13:13-17:58 Prepare Yourself + Your Space17:59-24:52 Take Your Photos24:53-25:44 Use a Tripod25:45-26:16 Use a Ring Light26:17-29:36 Filters + Editing29:37-32:06 Posing Tips32:07-33:59 Summary******Science of People is a human behavior research lab. We will teach you what makes people tick. Come play in our lab and pick up a copy of our best-selling book, Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People for even more on decoding, communication and personality. 👉 http://amzn.to/2xM4tiO ******PS- Like, Share, and Explore the Science of People:☞ Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/☞ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/☞ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards☞ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/#maggiekirkland #photography #profilepic #headshot #iphone #homephotoshoot #vanessavanedwards #captivate #captivatebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices