Lingering Shits I Give

This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or go to substack.com and search for the Underlying Issues publication.

Sheri and Matt have a long list of things they expect from each other. Very few of the expectations are demands. Many expectations have developed over time, and many have been earned. But gone are the days when they think they deserve certain treatment, and they’ve both learned that demanding behaviors from another human is harmful, and a waste of time. There is a big difference between expectations and demands. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or go to substack.com and search for the Underlying Issues publication.

She wasn’t happy, and her intuition told her that her marriage couldn’t bring her the joy and fulfillment she knew she deserved. So she fought through her fear that her kids wouldn’t understand, and she divorced her husband despite all outward appearances of the perfect marriage. Karen writes My Midlife Divorce Diary on substack.com. To read more, please click here. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or go to substack.com and search for the Underlying Issues publication.

Sheri and Matt take a ride in the way-back machine and relive the relationship dysfunction of active addiction, the process of finding sobriety, individual growth, resentment processing, and emotional safety. There is no such thing as reattachment, but they talk about finding areas of mutually beneficial connection, and remind listeners that sobriety is a prerequisite and emotional safety has to be consistent to be effective. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

If you could use some help calming your dysregulated nervous system, craniosacral therapy is worth your consideration. Along with other therapeutic practices, and an emotionally safe environment, Jennifer uses craniosacral therapy with impressive results. This lived-experience expert brings valuable wisdom about caring for our mind/body connection, including important reminders about aftercare. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or go to substack.com and search for the Underlying Issues publication.

Sheri feels guilty about things that Matt would never feel guilty about if the roles were reversed. Is it instincts or is it conditioning? Listen to find out. At the end, Matt tries to convince Sheri that there are things she does that deserve some womanly guilt. She doesn’t hold back, nor does she feel guilty, with her reaction. Please go to UntoxicatedSurvey.org to better understand the impact of alcohol and/or emotional abuse on you and your family. Whether you are the drinker or the partner, whether you feel a lack of emotional safety or don’t really know what that means, we can help you feel supported. Take the survey and learn more about our Echoes of Recovery and SHOUT Sobriety programs. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or go to substack.com and search for the Underlying Issues publication.