How To Like Someone Without Losing Yourself

Welcome to Louisa's most vulnerable episode yet.You know Louisa as the person she is today, but what you see is the result of eight years of healing, growth and a lot of inner work.In this very special episode, she's taking you back to where it all began, pulling back the curtain on a chapter of her life she's never shared so openly and giving you an unfiltered look at the reality of her life before she got sober.And who better to help tell that story than the man who witnessed it all? Her dad, Julian.Together, they revisit a chapter of Louisa's life she's never spoken about so openly. From her struggles with addiction and the impact on her family, to the boundaries her parents had to learn, the support that changed everything, and what it actually takes to pick up the pieces and rebuild a life you're proud of.But this episode isn't just about addiction. It's about love, resilience, second chances, and the fact that none of us are too old or too far gone to change.They dive into Julian's own colourful life, from navigating divorce and becoming a single father of three, to finding love again in his late 30s and what he's learnt from more than 30 years of marriage. Plus, a healthy dose of unsolicited fatherly wisdom. Naturally. Enjoy!

Ever started liking someone and suddenly your entire happiness revolves around whether they've texted you back? Your plans are on hold, your needs have gone out the window and that confident, independent version of you has seemingly packed her bags.In this episode, Louisa unpacks why anxious attachment, fear of abandonment and people-pleasing can turn a perfectly lovely crush into a full time emotional occupation.From taking people off pedestals to managing relationship anxiety and recognising when you're abandoning yourself, you'll learn how to build healthy, secure relationships without losing yourself in the process.Work with Louisa: ⁠https://www.unlearnwithlouisa.com/coachingprograms ⁠Book a free discovery call: ⁠https://www.unlearnwithlouisa.com/book-a-call⁠Follow Louisa on socials: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/unlearnwithlouisa/⁠Tik tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@unlearnwithlouisa ⁠Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]

Why are you obsessed with the person who barely texts back, but getting the ick from the one who actually likes you?In this episode, Louisa unpacks why we’re often attracted to emotionally unavailable people, how childhood attachment patterns shape who we choose, and why chemistry isn’t always the green flag we think it is.Anxious and avoidant attachment, hot and cold dating, nervous system familiarity, situationships, and how to stop confusing anxiety with attraction. Plus, how to retrain yourself to actually want the safe, secure love you keep saying you want.Annoying? Slightly. Empowering? Very.Work with Louisa: https://www.unlearnwithlouisa.com/coachingprograms Book a free discovery call: https://www.unlearnwithlouisa.com/book-a-callFollow Louisa on socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearnwithlouisa/Tik tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unlearnwithlouisa Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]

In this episode, we’re unlearning the “low maintenance” mindset the one that convinces you that needing less will make you easier to love. Spoiler: it won’t. Hello boundaries.Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠⁠⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected]

If you know you’re someone who gets easily triggered in relationships and spirals into an anxious state, save this episode as your next lifeline. This is for when you’re in the thick of it when you want to find sanity, come back to yourself, and swim to safety without drowning in the anxiety or creating a huge mess along the way.Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠⁠⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected] 

Found yourself in a situationship? Has it lead to a few late night convos with ChatGPT? My thoughts are with you. However, let's make it, so it works for you, rather than against you. Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠⁠⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected] 

Do you have a deep fear of missing out? Do you fear living alone? Or do you always end up in a relationship even when you intended to stay single? Deep down you may have a fear of being alone, and what that would mean for you. In this weeks episode we build awareness around what that fear is and learn, how to unlearn it! Happy listening.Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected]

Do you have an energetic attachment to that one person? Your ex? An old flame? Or that half relationship that never went anywhere? This is the episode where you find freedom from those gut wrenching fantasies for goodSocials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected]

Having doubts about your relationship? This episode helps you unlearn “I should stay” and get curious about what you actually want. Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected]

Welcome to 2026! It's time to get defensive about making this your best year yet, beyond that January high motivation period. Unlock the key to making lasting change in this episode. Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠Coaching Questions & [email protected] Questions & [email protected]