#85: I’m Not Ashamed to Love Masculine Men

Send us a textIn this extra juicy episode, I am joined by sex and intimacy coach Sam Charles for a very hands-on dirty talk masterclass. What starts as a playful lesson turns into a real-life demonstration of navigating boundaries, expressing desire, and negotiating a spicy scene in real time.I open up about my own edges when it comes to using words during sex, and Sam creates a beautifully safe space to explore those vulnerabilities. Together, we co-create a scene that goes from light flirting to full-blown cock worship—sharing authentic erotic energy along the way! You’ll learn:Four practical structures to build your dirty talk confidenceHow to use sound, breath, and tone to express desireWhat it looks like to communicate boundaries while staying sexyWhy asking for what you want can feel vulnerable—and how to do it anywayThe power of names, roles, and real-time feedback in turning fantasy into realityContent Warning: This episode includes real-time erotic role play and authentic sexual energy. If you're not in the headspace for sexy content today, feel free to skip or come back later.Resources Mentioned:Follow Sam on Instagram (@sexcoachsam), Fetlife (@SexCoachSam), or visit samcharlescoaching.comWorkshop co-developed with Lessey  Wentworth, Erotic Liberation & Relationship Coach: body-witch.comIf you loved this episode… Share it with your partner or bestie and try the exercises together! Want more support navigating your own erotic edges? Book a coaching session with Harley via harleyrabbit.comWant to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textIn this episode, I’m sharing some honest reflections from my recent trip to Brisbane—where I pushed through some big travel anxiety to have one of my favourite rope scenes yet.I open up about what it’s like to manage anxiety while trying to do the things you really want to do, and how I’m learning to meet that part of myself with more compassion. I also talk about the rope scene I did with Deadmaxis (who we had on the show on episode #87), and what made it feel so safe and connected—even with power dynamics in play.This episode is pretty raw. I recorded it while everything was still fresh. But I hope it helps normalise the behind-the-scenes struggles that don’t always get talked about. If you’ve ever felt like you’re too anxious to explore kink, I hope this gives you a bit of encouragement and a reminder that you’re not alone.Mentioned in this episode:#87 The Love Language of Rope - with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey #89 Kink in a Small Town, and Finding my Brave (thoughts leading up to this trip)#54 I had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened (episode about my not so great experience last year)Body Worlds Exhibit -Brisbane @_deadmaxis on InstagramScene photos on my FetlifeWant to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textWhat if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes?In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink: attunement.We explore:🔹 What attunement is 🔹 How to attune to yourself and how to attune to others 🔹 Why attunement is crucial for both Doms and subs 🔹 What gets in the way of staying present during play 🔹 How attunement makes scenes hotter, deeper, and more emotionally fulfilling🎁 This episode includes TWO free guided exercises you can use to start practising attunement today—either solo or with a partner. These are powerful tools to help you tune in, connect, and get more out of your kink scenes right away.Whether you’re brand new to kink or have been in the scene for years, this episode is a powerful reminder that technique means nothing without genuine connection.Mentioned in this EpisodeEpisode #89 Kink in a Small Town and Finding My Brave1) Self Attunement Exercise Set a timer for 5 minutes.Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes.Gently scan your body from head to toe.What sensations do you notice?Are there any areas of tension, warmth, pressure, openness, tingling?Pick one sensation that stands out. Stay with it for a minute.Does it shift? Intensify? Fade?What emotion might be connected to it?Ask: What does this part of me need?A breath? Movement? A hand placed there?Respond with a small, compassionate action.2) Attuning to a Partner ExerciseSit facing each other. Set a timer for 5–10 minutes.Choose one person to be the "noticer" and one to be the "receiver."The noticer silently observes the receiver’s body—posture, breath, expression, energy.Ask internally: What do I notice? Offer your observations gently (e.g., “I noticed your shoulders softened when I smiled.”)Swap roles. At the end, reflect:What was it like to be seen that way?What did you learn about your partner?Want to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textI’ll be honest, I used to think pony play sounded… a little silly. But after discovering Rapidash’s stunning photos and hearing the depth of feeling behind his scenes, I realised there was a whole lot more to this kink I didn’t understand. It's actually incredible! In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by a very special guest: Desmond—also known in the kink world as Rapidash. Desmond is a passionate pony player who generously opens up about his journey, the beauty of pony play, and what it means to fully embody an alter ego with power, grace, and heart.We explore:🔹 What pony play is (and what it isn’t) 🔹 The difference between cosplay and full pony embodiment 🔹 Asexual kink and why eroticism isn’t always the goal 🔹 The psychological state known as “pony headspace” 🔹 What it feels like to transform into Rapidash 🔹 Tack, hooves, and creating a beautiful visual aesthetic 🔹 Types of scenes – from carting and dressage to solo play and bondage 🔹 Finding community and navigating rare kinks in AustraliaDesmond’s description of pony play as a living work of art—and Rapidash as a grander, more majestic version of himself—will stay with me for a long time. Whether you’re totally new to this kink or simply intrigued, this heartfelt, vulnerable conversation is a beautiful window into an often-misunderstood world.🐴 Follow Rapidash:FetLife: -Rapidash-Intagram: @-rapidash_1📚 Book recommendation: The Human Pony by Rebecca Wilcox🔗 Mentions & Resources:Cpony.com – A detailed educational site about pony playEtsy – For custom hooves and pony gearWild Gas Masks, Bob Basset, Fury Fantasy – Gear creators mentionedHorseLand (AU) – Mainstream horse supplies that double as tackFetLife Pony Play groups – Great for community, education, and connectionWant to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textIn this solo episode, I share a very personal update from my kinky life. I’m four years into a deeply loving dynamic with my Dom, and while I feel supported and safe, I’ve also been feeling stuck. Living in a regional town means fewer opportunities to explore kink in the ways I crave—and that’s pushed me to make some scary (but exciting) decisions about what comes next.You’ll hear about:The beautiful and frustrating reality of being a regional kinksterHow my dynamic with Slade is evolving after four years togetherWhy craving more doesn’t mean something’s wrongWhat we’ve been experimenting with using bamboo polesReclaiming independence as a submissive—and why it’s complicatedThis is a soft, honest look at what happens when your kink journey keeps growing—and you're not quite sure where it's going to take you.Mentioned in this EpisodeBody Words ExhibitionWant to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textThis week, I’m giving you a special sneak peek into my Aftershow—a members-only video series where I share behind-the-scenes content for those who want to go deeper after the podcast. Normally, this content is exclusive to my SubscribeStar supporters—but today, I wanted to give you a little taste! 💜In this episode, I’m coming to you from my bedroom for a playful age play show and tell. From Harry Potter pyjamas to unicorn storybooks and pacifiers, I share some of my favourite little items—and how my relationship with age play has evolved over the years.🎁 You’ll hear about: – My very first age play item (still in rotation!) – The soothing power of sucking (yes, that kind too 😏) – Slade’s soft, nurturing daddy energy – Magical bedtime rituals, complete with star projectors and plushies – Why age play feels more comforting—and less taboo—than ever before🖤 Want to see the full episode—and unlock all my Aftershows? Join me on SubscribeStar for full video access and even more bonus content you won’t hear on the main show.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textIn this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined once again by the incredible DaddaG—event organiser behind KangaCon and long-time member of the ABDL community. With over 20 years of experience as both a diaper lover and caregiver, DaddaG brings a deep, compassionate perspective to the world of age play.We explore:🔹 Different age play roles – AB, DL, Daddy, and switching 🔹 Consent, boundaries, and what to ask before your first scene 🔹 How to approach a partner about your age play desires 🔹 Emotional connection in caregiver/little dynamics 🔹 The importance of balance, realism, and self-care 🔹 How KangaCon is evolving—and what’s nextDaddaG shares personal stories from his decades in the community, including what it means to see someone fully relax into their little self, how to read cues in a scene, and why honouring vulnerability is at the heart of good caregiving. Whether you’re brand new or deeply immersed in this world, you’ll find plenty to reflect on in this thoughtful and heartwarming episode.🌐 Follow DaddaG on FetLife: @DaddaG (Daddy/Caregiver profile) @ToddlerBoyGis3 (Little side profile)📚 Book recommendation: Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb – Sexologist and author supporting ABDL and age players in embracing who they are and overcoming shame. Check out her books 'You're Not Broken' and 'No More Hiding' 🔗 thediaperdoctor.com 🔗 Mentions & Resources:KangaCon – Australia’s first age play conventionCapCon, Tomcat, TeddyCon – Community ABDL eventsDark Age Play – A growing area of interest for future events. You can find an excellent description here. Want private coaching with Harley? Visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textIn this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by Deadmaxis and Aura Grey—partners in life, kink, and the art of rope. Known for their stunning suspension performances at events like Hardbeat Byron and Berlin’s Dark Circus, this couple brings over a decade of love and a deep connection to their rope journey.We explore:🔹 How they went from a vanilla marriage to exploring kink together 🔹 The emotional and psychological impact of rope in their relationship 🔹 Developing trust through suspension—and what it takes to play at the edge 🔹 Performing vs. private scenes – how intention and connection shift 🔹 Why rope isn’t just beautiful—it’s physically intense, deeply intimate, and always evolving🌐 Follow Deadmaxis & Aura Grey: FetLife: @Deadmaxis | @AuraGrey Instagram: @_deadmaxis | @isee.grey🔗 Resources & Mentions:Hardbeat Byron – Australia’s underground kink rave & performance eventBRLN Dark Circus – A European style vent blending fetish, art, and performanceYugen Studio SM MagazinePolysecure - by Jessica FernThe War of Art - Steven Pressfield Want private coaching with Harley? Visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textWhat happens when your birthday brings up more than cake and candles?In this raw and personal episode, Harley opens up about what it’s like to navigate aging as a sexual woman in a culture obsessed with youth. From noticing lines in the mirror to feeling like time is running out for certain fantasies, this episode is a vulnerable look at the internal stories we carry—and how kink can help us rewrite them.You’ll hear:Why the sex Harley has now is so much better than what she had in her twentiesHow fantasy, age play, and Core Desires can help you stay connected to the younger part of yourselfWhat men can do to genuinely support and desire women as they ageThe powerful role kink plays in transcending physical age and reconnecting with play, innocence, and turn-onWhether you're in your 20s or your 60s, this episode is a celebration of growing into your sexuality—not out of it.🔗 Links + Resources✨ Vote for Turns Out I’m Into It in the Australian Adult Industry AwardsRecommended listening: #83 What if you Could be Anyone? The Magic of Kink PersonasRecommended listening: #47 Australia's First Age Play Convention Kangacon! Interview with DaddaGJournaling / Discussion PromptsWhat age do I feel when I’m having sex?How has my sex life changed in the last 5–10-20 years?What do you, or could you find attractive about older women, if you look beyond the cultural lens?🌟 If you loved this episode, don’t forget to rate, review, and share it with someone who needs to hear this today.Want private coaching with Harley? Visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Send us a textIn this episode, I explore the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity—and why I’m tired of pretending that being attracted to masculine men is something to be ashamed of.Inspired by a scene in Beastars (an anime on Netflix), I unpack what it means to celebrate masculine power without excusing harm. We talk about violence, tenderness, emotional maturity, and why the sexiest men are often the ones who could fight—but don’t need to.From MMA rings to Formula One tracks, this is a heartfelt and primal love letter to healthy masculinity—and an invitation to let men be tigers again!📚 Resources Mentioned:Beastars – anime series on Netflix (Season 1)Men, Women & Worthiness by Brené Brown (short audiobook on Audible)@harley_rabbit on Instagram – DM TIGERBITE to join my close friends circleSubscribeStar After Show – for bonus reflections and behind-the-scenes thoughtsWant private coaching with Harley? Visit harleyrabbit.com and book a free Connection Call today.xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram SubscribeStar Visit my website harleyrabbit.com