048 - Red Flags, Green Flags + Trauma Bonds

In this episode, Kate and I explore how the stories that feel most dangerous to tell -- the ones rooted in trauma, shame, and silence -- are exactly the ones the world needs. We talk rage, repression, archetypal alchemy, and why the body is the terrain where real power is reclaimed - and so much more. I absolutely loved this episode and I think you will too.Kate is a somatic book coach who offers transformative body-based coaching for visionary creative women who know their body is the final frontier to their wholeness—beyond which anything is possible. She helps them birth their bodies of work and tell their stories, transforming their life experience into profound wisdom to be shared, in service to collective liberation. I think you're going to love her as much as I did!Follow Kate on InstagramVisit her website Register for The Altar, October 8th at 7pm EST (it's free!)Free Download: GROUND (Kate's guided embodiment grounding practices)

In this episode, we explore how love languages can help — and how they can quietly limit us or loop us in complacent patterns. I’m unpacking the shadow side of relying too heavily on “this is just how I love,” how our primary love language may be connected to what we didn’t receive growing up, and why real intimacy requires emotional range.We’ll also explore alternative love languages — like emotional safety, repair, consistency, and autonomy — and how to become the kind of partner who stretches beyond their defaults.This isn’t about throwing love languages out. It’s about evolving how we use them.Get into Loving Without Losing Yourself for $97 Thanks so much for being here!

Today I’m joined by the incredible Karla Maree for a rich, expansive conversation on identity dissolution, going all-in on your dreams, alchemizing the shadow, and learning how to truly receive — and hold — wealth.Karla is the creator of the 7 Figure Business Blueprint, an AI-powered tool that bridges astrology and human design to give you an accessible business and life coach right at your fingertips. This blueprint supported me so deeply in organizing and mapping out my business that I knew I had to bring her on — to explore her wisdom and share her super accessible offerings with you.If you’re ready to bring your magic into the world in a more aligned, powerful way, this conversation is for you.Grab your 7-figure business blueprintClient Magnet ContentLow Ticket Love AffairKeep an eye out for her upcoming offer, launching really soon Empire by Design! (link will update once it's launched)

What’s the difference between emotional intelligence and trauma conditioning? And how can you tell if you’re in a trauma bond — or just mistaking intensity for connection?In this episode, we break down the red flags and green flags in relationships, the subtle signs someone thinks they’re emotionally intelligent (but isn’t), and how trauma responses can masquerade as empathy, self-awareness, or strength.You’ll learn how to assess your own emotional patterns, spot survival-based behaviors in yourself and others, and understand the difference between anxiety-driven attachment and true emotional regulation.If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this love — or is this my nervous system?” this conversation is for you.Get into Loving Without Losing Yourself - the 7 week self paced course for just $97

In this episode, we dive into the science of relationship breakdown — including the Four Horsemen identified by the Gottman's — and what actually keeps couples together long-term. We talk covert protective responses, the role of the nervous system in conflict, and why repair attempts matter more than being right.If you’re tired of looping the same arguments or feeling the slow burn of unspoken resentment, this episode offers real tools for softening armor and rebuilding connection.Love isn’t sustained by perfection. It’s sustained by repair.Get into Loving Without Losing Yourself, a 7-week self-paced course to radically shift your relationship with yourself and others $97

This episode is about the discomfort of completion, the grief of outgrowing old identities, and the power of integrating who you’ve been before becoming someone new. We talk ritual, nervous system cues, and the descent that happens between chapters. This is an episode about giving yourself permission to hold on as long as you need to, and that life is less about letting go and more about integrating and transforming through love.Get into Loving Without Losing Yourself, a self-paced 7-week course to radically shift your relationships. It's only $97!

In this episode, we explore the difference between armor and true boundaries, how to discern in your body when something doesn’t feel clear, and why setting boundaries can feel terrifying (especially if belonging once meant self-abandonment).We talk nervous system cues, resentment as a messenger, communicating needs without blame, and how to hold your edges without closing your heart.Get into Loving Without Losing Yourself! It's only $97 because I do not want to gatekeep the wisdom to help you remember you have everything you need inside of yourself to cultivate the relationships you desire.Thank you for the love and the privilege it is to be in your ears!

Integration isn’t about becoming someone new — it’s about relating to your story differently. In this episode, we explore what it means to re-narrate your story from both the wound and the wiser self, and how doing so allows the past to inform you without defining you. This is a conversation about identity, authorship, and choosing who you are becoming.Get into Loving Without Losing Yourself for only $97

This is a simple, human-to-human love note for anyone navigating heartbreak or the quiet death of who they used to be. I’m in it too. No teaching, no fixing — just honesty about identity unraveling, grief, and the strange sacredness of becoming someone new.Loving Without Losing Yourself : a 7-week self-paced course that I poured my heart into in service to you cultivating deep long lasting relationships rooted in Truth)

Valentine’s Day can activate more than romance — it can press on the loneliness wound. In this episode, we explore the origins of the holiday (they'r surprising) and unpack why feelings of being unchosen, unseen, or alone can feel amplified this time of year. Learn how to sit with loneliness and explore the initiation and learning to be alone - while holding your heart open for love.Read more about my course, Loving Without Losing Yourself - it's only $97, and will guide you to fully choose yourself in life and love.