What to Do When You "Bump Into" Differences in Your Relationships

Released March 2, 2021 Susan Reyland returns to the show to talk about what you can expect from therapy. Susan is a clinical and developmental psychologist with an international practice, as well as a fellow Internal Family Systems practitioner and Somatic trained therapist. She's been a guest on the show several times, discussing topics such as attachment styles, resiliency, childhood development and the autonomic nervous system and couple communication the problem is not Communication — it's Regulation Subscribe to The Therapy Spot on iTunes Or visit bethrogerson.com for more articles and podcasts. To subscribe with your regular podcast player, use the RSS feed.

This month, I am joined once more by fellow Internal Family Systems practitioner and clinical psychologist Dr. Susan Reyland. On this episode, our goal is to help you be a better communicator and connect better with your partner. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

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I know I've talked to you before about curiosity, and specifically about being curious towards your sad and vulnerable parts. Today, however, I want you to get curious towards the hater part, the one who resists your sadness, or tries to push it away. This part definitely won't show up in a vulnerable way! But just like all of our parts, it is only trying to help. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

Spring has come to the northern hemisphere and I'm excited to bring you a new episode of my podcast. In the spirit of new beginnings, my guest this month is Tammy Sollenberger. Tammy has just launched her new podcast, titled "The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems Podcast for Anyone Looking to Find Balance and Harmony." Today on the show, we'll discuss her journey into IFS, and her podcast goals. For more, visit bethrogerson.com

I have many new exciting interviews planned for the coming months, so let's have a quick refresher course on IFS! Then, I'll answer some questions about IFS and Self compassion sent in by a listener. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

As a bonus this month, I am reissuing my interview with Martha Sweezy, Ph.D., from May of 2017. Martha weighed in on important issues at the core of shame, such as: What is shame and why is it important? How do we learn to shame ourselves and others? How can criticism and blame help us, and how do they hurt? Where can we begin to relate to ourselves differently on the inside? Does shame have an antidote? For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

My guest today is Kristy Arbon, the Founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training. Her work revolves around supporting people in their practice of self-compassion, mindfulness, somatic awareness, and shame resilience. Among her many other talents, she is an excellent mindful Self compassion coach and teacher. On today's episode, she'll introduce us to the concept of somatic Self compassion.

I'm excited to share with you today my conversation with Dr. Susan Reyland. On this episode, we talked about the autonomic nervous system. Your autonomic nervous system plays a huge role in how we physically and mentally react to threats. Don't worry — this isn't a vocabulary lesson, and you won't have a quiz at the end! You will, however, learn a few things about yourself, such as how and why you react the way you do to certain situations. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

I recently spoke about the IFS model of therapy at Google's week of Inclusion and Diversity. While you may not think that has much to do with your daily life outside of work, the tools you use to relate with others are useful in all sorts of situations. So for this month's episode of the Therapy Spot, I'd like to talk about how we can use IFS when we have differences with people. This can be family, friends, or a romantic partner — anyone you share an aspect of your life with. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com