194: How to Deal with Difficult People and Difficult Times with Mark Goulston on the TalentGrow Show with Halelly Azulay

Gratitude is a feeling that is key to happiness and it is most definitely not something to save for one day (or week) per year, like Thanksgiving. We really must raise our experience of gratitude all year round.  Don’t fret, we’re here to help! On this rebroadcast solo episode of the TalentGrow Show, Halelly will give you a couple of science-backed reasons why gratitude is good for you. Then, we’ll look at how you can get goodness out of gratitude in different ways. She’ll help you (re-)discover that gratitude can be experienced and expressed in every context of your life. And then, Halelly will share five actionable gratitude-enhancing practices you begin to implement right away.  Also, in the new intro, a big announcement… Take a listen, weigh in with your own opinion, and share with others!  Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode201 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

Employees who have a best friend at work are seven times more engaged than those who don’t. What’s behind this staggering statistic? And why are workplace friendships still considered objectionable by many? On this episode of The TalentGrow Show, Halelly chats with author, keynote speaker and leading expert on friendship Shasta Nelson about how to cultivate a healthy approach to friendships in the workplace and reevaluate harmful taboos on the topic. According to Shasta, the workplace, by default, provides a fertile ground to grow meaningful connections, and leaders should be encouraging this potential in our teams. Learn healthy relationship skills to benefit your entire workplace, discover the three requirements at the foundation of every relationship, and find out what you can do as a leader to help spark positive friendships in your workplace and maximize engagement seven-fold. Plus, get Shasta’s advice for staying connected in today’s ‘epidemic of loneliness’ brought about by the COVID-19 pandemic! Listen and be sure to share this episode with friends.   Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode200 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

This is a fast-moving conversation with a funny, clever, and wise man so hold on to your hat! I just had to rebroadcast my episode with guest and one of my favorite mentors, Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is an award-winning and sought-after coach, author, and speaker. We talked about his best-selling book, The Coaching Habit. Michael wants us leaders to learn to stay a little more curious a little longer and rush to ideas and advice a little more slowly, which will ultimately let us be more effective and work less hard. He teaches us three of the seven coaching questions from his book that will help you have better coach-like conversations that take 10 minutes or less. We discuss the neuroscience of engagement, ways to help people get more ‘Ahas’ to cement their insights and learning, and the kind of question we should all try to avoid. I loved his concept of the Advice Monster (which is the topic of the latest bestselling book which Michael published after this episode first aired, titled The Advice Trap). Finally, as in every episode of The TalentGrow Show, Michael shares a highly actionable piece of advice to help you upgrade your leadership skills right away – this one in answer to a listener’s question. Listen and please share with others! Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode199 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Amazon Music: http://bit.ly/TalentGrowShow  Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

We have two different but complementary mindsets, according to Brian Levenson--- one for preparing effectively, and one for performing. Brian is the author of Shift Your Mind and the founder of Strong Skills, an organization that provides coaching, speaking, and consulting to elite organizations, performers, and leaders. On this episode of The TalentGrow Show, Brian joins Halelly to discuss nine mental shifts that will allow you to thrive in preparation and in performance. Discover why we don’t have to be -- and in fact shouldn’t be -- the same person in preparation and in performance, why authenticity is “elastic, not rigid,” and what strategies you can use to develop your two complementary mindsets and achieve maximum results. Brian shares actionable tips you won’t want to miss, including what he calls “having a grandma in your back pocket,” so be sure to tune in and share this episode with others! Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode198 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Amazon Music: http://bit.ly/TalentGrowShow  Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

Receiving feedback is an important leadership skill that we can all develop, and it’s not just up to managers to give it – it’s something we all can and should do more of (and ask for!) and improve our skills in doing so. In this rebroadcast episode of the TalentGrow show with Halelly Azulay, Sheila Heen, CEO of Triad Consulting and best-selling author of Thanks for the Feedback and Difficult Conversations, shares some of her best insights on the art and science of receiving feedback. She explains what the three different kinds of feedback are (including why we need all three, but different amounts of each at different times), what the three kinds of triggered reactions we can have from feedback are, and the best way to receive vague or negative criticism. She also gives a fantastic (and highly actionable!) tip on how to ask for feedback: she warns of a common pitfall and offers a smarter way of asking that not only makes the other person more comfortable but helps to ensure that the ensuing feedback will be relevant and useful. This is an excellent episode for improving your communications skills as well as your inner-processing and emotional clarity. Listen and please share with others! Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode197 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Amazon Music: http://bit.ly/TalentGrowShow Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

What allows a workplace culture to survive, adapt and thrive in the face of change? That is the crucial question so many leaders are (or should be) asking themselves today. On this episode of The TalentGrow Show, leadership training expert Esther Weinberg joins Halelly to tackle this issue and present the unique leadership framework she calls The Ready Zone. To operate in The Ready Zone as a leader means to measure and elevate six Zone Performance Indicators (ZPIs) that provide leaders with a practical means to reframe, refocus, and realign in the face of challenge and change. Tune in to discover the six ZPIs, learn how to develop what Esther calls your visibility quotient (VQ), and get actionable advice for unifying, inspiring and empowering your workplace culture. Listen and don’t forget to share this episode with others!   Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode196 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

Do you invite people to be open with you, and to push back on your thoughts and ideas? And when you have “fierce” conversations, do you deepen your connection or push people away as a result? This week on the TalentGrow Show, we’re rebroadcasting Halelly’s conversation with Susan Scott, best-selling author and leadership development architect, to explain what fierce conversations are and why we NEED to have more of them. Susan shares a common obstacle we all face when having these types of conversations – both at work in our personal lives – and how to overcome it. She also talks about how to be open and more transparent and invite this kind of openness from others (and what some of us might be doing to hinder that). Susan and Halelly explore why she thinks careful conversations are almost always failed conversations and the concept of radical transparency, which Susan advocates, and the difference between fierce leaders and other leaders. And of course, Susan shares one actionable suggestion that will help you upgrade your leadership and will make a HUGE difference in the quality of your conversations and your relationships. You should really begin doing it, today! Listen and don’t forget to share with others.  Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode195 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

We all know at least one person who knows just how to push our buttons. Staying poised and not ‘losing it’ in the face of difficult people -- and difficult times -- is an especially important skill for leaders to cultivate. On this episode of The TalentGrow Show, Halelly chats with author and former FBI and police hostage negotiation trainer Dr. Mark Goulston about how to improve your outcomes dealing with difficult people and what it takes to be a strong leader during difficult times. Mark shares a dramatic courthouse story from when he served as an advisor to the prosecution on the O.J. Simpson trial, and draws valuable lessons from it that you can take with you to the workplace. Plus, discover the one thing people look for from leaders during times of crisis or uncertainty. Tune in and be sure to share this episode with others! Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode194 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

Do you need to tend to your personal brand? What is a side hustle and is it for you? Even if you’re not an entrepreneur? Yes. It’s been a good idea for professionals for a while. But during these uncertain times of the coronavirus pandemic and WFH, it’s even more important than ever. No worries - in today’s rebroadcast episode of The TalentGrow Show, Dorie Clark, best-selling author of Entrepreneurial You: Monetize Your Expertise, Create Multiple Income Streams, and Thrive, shares some of her best insights on personal entrepreneurship and the ‘side hustle’. She warns us against a common personal branding mistake, says what she thinks is the easiest and most low-risk point of entry into side-hustling, and shares an actionable tip that can make the early days of building your brand (when the finish line seems far, far away) much easier. She also shares several cool real-life stories and distills the entrepreneurial lesson from each of them. If you’re interested in expanding your career success and broadening your value-proposition to employers or clients, you don’t want to miss this episode! Listen and don’t forget to share with others. Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode193 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo

Trustworthiness may be the most important quality a leader can have. Interestingly, recent studies show us that there has been a dramatic decline in trust from previous generations to now. Trust in other people, in the media, and in the government, are all at all-time lows, and this inevitably feeds into the workplace, too. In this episode, trust expert, keynote speaker and author of The Book of Trust Dr. Yoram Solomon returns to The TalentGrow Show to share his new model of trust and to help leaders build their trustworthiness. You’ll discover the seven laws and six components of trust according to Yoram’s model and learn seven actionable steps you can take to build trust and be trusted. Plus, drawing from his experience as a former Israeli Defense Forces paratrooper, USAF CAP pilot, and a professor, Yoram shows us in what way trust is relative and situational, and why it’s so important to recognize this. Tune in and be sure to share this episode with others in your network!   Shownotes: http://www.talentgrow.com/podcast/episode192 Apple Podcasts: http://apple.co/1NiWyZo Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=62847&refid=stpr Google Play Music: Google Play Music: https://play.google.com/music/listen#/ps/Ijwlgz7lklnxqnfzjna7gcr65be  iHeartRadio Podcasts: http://www.iheart.com/show/263-The-TalentGrow-Show-Gr/ Soundcloud:   https://soundcloud.com/talentgrowshow Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2CpgIk1  TuneIn: http://tun.in/pjuHL Download the free guide: 10 Mistakes Leaders Make and How to Avoid Them http://www.talentgrow.com/10mistakes Don't forget to LEAVE A RATING/REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS! http://apple.co/1NiWyZo