The Motivation Mindset with Risa Williams: Cultivating Self-Love - Darrin Kagele

Send us a textDo you struggle with talking to yourself in a loving way? Do you find it's easier to show other people love rather than to give it to yourself? Then, this episode is for you! Risa Williams talks to therapist, Darrin Kagele, about cultivating self-love and learning into lean into self-kindness more intentionally.They discuss:-How kindness is a starting point for learning self-love-Creating a Self-Love Menu to draw from when you're feeling stuck-Why training your brain to form new pathways is so important to do-How self-love is a habit that we need to practice consistently-Risa's tool: The Cartoon Animal from her book, The Ultimate Self-Esteem Toolkit-Darrin's tool: "The Sacred Pause" and how to use it to get past stuckpoints**Stop by and say hello to Risa Williams and Erica Curtis at The San Diego Book Festival on August 23rd at 10am PST! They will be in an author's booth promoting their newest kids book, Max and The Imaginary Tree...as well as their other books!**Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Darrin Kagele, darrinkagele.comSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textDo you avoid trying new things sometimes because your inner critic really holds you back? On this special 100th episode of The Motivation Mindset, Risa Williams talks to podcast host and therapist, Wynn Helms, about how trying new things is so good for you to do - it helps our brains with cognitive flexibility, it engages our curiosity and helps us lean into life-long learning.They discuss:-How managing your inner critic is just part of the creative process and how it happens to everyone-Why new things scare us into self-judgment and criticism-How leaning into our sense of humor and childlike curiosity helps us get over the hard parts of learning a new thing-Why it's important to try new things to avoid staying stuck or becoming too "rigid" in our thinking**A big thank you to all the wonderful guests from the last 100 episodes and all the listeners around the world - we appreciate you!**Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Wynn Helms, wynnhelms.com, @wynn.helms.lmft1Support the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textWhat age were you when you learned how to cook for yourself, organize your home, fix household objects or manage your time? Some of us didn't learn these things from our parents or families, we had to teach them to ourselves as adults! And so what happens now, when we have kids, and we have to teach everyday things we weren't taught as kids? Risa Williams talks to Life Skills expert and Ted Talk Speaker, Katie Kimball, about learning and teaching life skills needed for thriving in everyday life.They discuss:-How to approach teaching life skills with curiosity and encourage collaboration from our kids  -How to avoid teaching life skills in chaos and crisis mode-How learning life skills increases resiliency and confidence -How to delegate tasks when you're at your stress capacity -How everyone these days can benefit from life-long learning of everyday skills**For Motivation Mindset listeners, check out Katie's Life Skills Summer Camp for kids at: kidscookrealfood.com/motivationmindset***Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Katie Kimball, kidscookrealfood.com/motivationmindset, @katiekimballkidscookSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textDo you tend to argue with your partner a lot about clutter? Do you have different "clutter tolerance" styles? Sometimes, one person in a relationship doesn't even see the clutter sitting there, while another is very visually and emotionally triggered by it! So, what can we do? Risa Williams talks to organizational expert and author, Colette Roy, about her new book, Clutter and Couples, which addresses all these things that help couples communicate about clutter.They discuss:-How people have different levels of clutter tolerance that can cause conflict-How we can adapt a "data collection" mindset of discussing clutter  -How praising new organizational habits can be the key to paving new pathways together-What to do when clutter starts to affect your intimacy and starts to create communication conflicts-How carving out "sacred areas" of the home together helps you find harmony while still maintaining "independent zones" for your own styles-Using "pattern disruption" as a way to break out of cluttering habitsHost: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Colette Roy, clutterandcouples.com, @clutterandcouplesSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textDo you find the transition into summer to be really stressful to manage? You're not alone! The first few weeks of summer can often feel emotionally bumpy and chaotic to navigate for both parents and kids. Risa Williams talks to Lori Oberbroeckling about managing the start of summer break in a less stressful way so that you can find your fun as a family again.They discuss:-Why transitioning into summer can often feel so challenging for kids and parents -How kids tend to need some structure and some free time and how to find a balance that works -Why we need to bring our stress down before making plans so we don't wind up "defaulting" to things that didn't work last year-How taking stock of what worked (and didn't) last year is important to review-How making summer checklists can help everyone figure out a better balance between activities and free timeRisa will be speaking on June 16th at Lori's Supermom Summer Camp - a virtual productivity workshop for parents! Get your free ticket at this link, or by visiting https://www.risawilliams.com/writingmedia.Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Lori Oberbroeckling, secretsofsupermom.com, @secretsofsupermomSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textDo you sometimes wonder why you get to the end of the day and you haven't completed all the tasks you set out to do? Well, sometimes it's down to something called "invisible tasks" which are either tasks we don't really acknowledge we're doing each day, or invisible pieces of tasks we haven't even considered! Risa Williams talks to time management expert, Doctor Radio show host, and media psychologist, Dr. Jessica Stern, about the idea of invisible tasks and how they can sometimes lead to procrastination or stuck-points.They discuss:-How invisible parts of tasks might be holding us back because we're not acknowledging that they're really there-How invisible tasks sometimes lead us straight into procrastination -Where we get stuck with perfectionism when it comes to invisible pieces of tasks we need to do-How we can start to observe and collect data to become more aware of all the invisible pieces of tasks we might not even be seeing day-to-dayHost: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Dr. Jessica Stern, drjessicabstern.com, @drjessicabsternSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textAre you feeling stuck and overwhelmed by the small space you're living in? Do you want to get more organized but there just isn't enough room to navigate it all? Risa Williams speaks to organizational expert and Small Spaces coach, Khrystyne Jaspers, about handling living in tight quarters and how we can cultivate gratitude and appreciation for the small spaces we're in.They discuss:-Shifting into a mindset that lets you feel appreciative of what the small space gives you-Leaving empty spaces in rooms, drawers, and spaces to feel more freedom and calmness in everyday life-Learning emotional regulation skills to navigate small spaces together as a family and to bring the stress levels down-What to keep and what to let go of, going back to your values and what's important you in your space and in your life at this timeHost: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Khrystyne Jaspers, khrystynejaspers.com, @khrystynejaspersSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textDo you ever feel unmotivated by the monotony of the work week and wish you could have a little more fun at work? Well, this episode is for you! Risa Williams talks to Dr. Alexis Hope, co-founder of Focused Space, about how to find the fun in your work week again. They discuss different tricks for getting yourself to focus in fun new ways when you're feeling unmotivated and stuck on what you need to do.They discuss:-Risa's Hats Method from Get Stuff Done Without the Stress: How to switch between roles you have to do intentionally to help you be more present in the moment-Alexis' "Foot Bath Method" for focusing on computer tasks that sounds as funny/fun as it is-How connection and body-doubling often help people focus and find accountability in finishing projects and tasks-How working on things with people you like or in positive support groups can give you that fun boost to get through things**Risa often partners with Focused.space to do workshops and talks, check them out for body-doubling sessions!****And if you're in Los Angeles this Saturday, come to Village Well Bookstore in Culver City on May 24th at 6 PM and say hi to Risa! She'll be part of a local authors' night book signing and she'll be signing copies of Get Stuff Done Without the Stress and her new kids' book, Max and The Imaginary Tree!****Congratulations to Stephanie Van Schaick, winner of the double book giveaway contest @risawilliamstherapy - Stay tuned for more giveaways soon!**Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Dr. Alexis Hope, www.focused.space, @focused_spaceSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textDo your kids struggle to sleep and calm down at bedtime? Well, Risa's did too! That's why she came up with a story, Max and the Imaginary Tree, that she told her own kids when they were little to teach them how to relax by taking big deep breaths. Risa is joined by her co-author and friend, Erica Curtis, and they discuss their new kids book, Max and The Imaginary Tree, which is part of a book series they are launching called: The Calm Kids Collection. This collection teaches kids easy mindfulness tools to calm down that they can practice with parents, friends or in school settings.In this episode, Risa and Erica discuss:-Easy ways we can teach kids to use visualization to remember to breathe in and out-Fun ways we can teach kids to calm down using colors they see around them-How learning these skills as parents helps us co-regulate our nervous systems with our kids-Everyday calming down skills we can teach our kids and remember to do ourselves more often!**BOOK GIVEAWAY! Win a copy of MAX AND THE IMAGINARY TREE and Risa's new book, GET STUFF DONE WITHOUT THE STRESS by entering the book giveaway contest on instagram @risawilliamstherapy this week!*****Celebrate today's book launch by picking up copy of MAX AND THE IMAGINARY TREE for kids in your life or by donating one to your local school and library so other kids can read it and learn about these simple tools. Buy at risawilliams.com, amazon, or your local bookstore today!***Hosts: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, and Erica Curtis, therapywitherica.com.Support the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

Send us a textDo you tend to feel overwhelmed by the intensity of your own emotions? Do you feel like your emotions sometimes get out of control? Does fear, rejection, or guilt consume your thoughts to the point where it's very hard to move forward? Listen to this episode on emotional mastery to learn how your own perceptions are causing you to feel certain things, and how you can control these perceptions in practical ways. Risa Williams talks to psychologist and book author, Dr. Christopher Cortman, about his tools for mastering your "emotional dashboard." Dr. Cortman is the author of six books including his latest release: The Guided Imagery Cure: The Best Proven Methods for Quickly Resolving and Healing Trauma.They discuss:-How our own perceptions cause our feelings-How certain emotions can be cues to you about things that are important to you -How to learn to let go of internal blocks that are holding you back-How people tend to self-sabotage themselves and where this stems from**If you happen to be in Los Angeles on May 24th at 6 PM PST, stop by Village Well Bookstore in Culver City and say hello to Risa! She'll be signing copies of her latest. book, Get Stuff Done Without the Stress, along with other local authors at Local Authors Night there. Come get a copy of her book!***Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapyGuest: Dr. Christopher Cortman, srqshrink.com, @drchristophercortmanSupport the showFor info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.