When shit hits the fan

Jennie Young, creator of the Burned Haystack dating method, joins Shaun to talk about how to stop wasting time on the wrong people and date with way more intention. They get into dating app red flags, boundary testing, bad first dates, manosphere code words, and why filtering harder might actually lead you to the right person faster. Jennie also reviews Shaun’s dating profile live and shares what it felt like to finally meet her own needle.And then, in a bonus post-recording tangent, Jennie has a message for Dan Savage: too many men are misusing “GGG” and “sex positive” to pressure women, and she is absolutely not having it.Timestamps:(00:00) The hidden red flags in dating profiles(00:24) The dating app problem no one admits(03:50) Why Burned Haystack dating took off(07:40) Dating in a small town without settling(17:55) The first boundary test tells you everything(41:35) The first date money debate(42:01) Jenny reviews Shaun’s dating profile live(43:05) The small profile changes that matter(48:28) Your photos might be hurting you(54:19) The manosphere language women should notice(59:32) Charm, banter, or just sexual pressure?(01:01:03) Jenny’s work and where to follow her(01:02:29) Why healthy chemistry can feel boring(01:05:07) Finding love later than you planned(01:05:49) Jennie has a question for Dan Savage about GGG(01:10:23) Wrap up, links, and final takeawaysLinks:Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/9116647515019601/Substack: https://burnedhaystack.substack.comIG: https://www.instagram.com/word_case_scenario/Order the book: https://www.jennieyoung.com/burn-the-haystack-bookReferenced: How to Not Die Alone by Logan UryLove Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-loveConnect with Shaun:Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedriveRead my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

In this solo episode, Shaun shares what life has looked like over the last several months and why this season has felt especially hard. He talks about grief, heartbreak, instability, and what it has been like to live without a fixed home while still trying to keep moving forward.In this episode, Shaun opens up about the death of his father, losing his dog Roger, a romance that stirred up old wounds, and the strange discomfort of living in transition. He reflects on self-doubt, feeling untethered, and the pressure to be doing better when life feels messy and unresolved.He also answers listener questions about regretting the end of a good relationship, the difference between grief and self-forgiveness, fear, freezing, and how to speak honestly about hard things.This one is tender, funny, raw, and deeply human.Timestamps:(00:24) Welcome Back And Name Story(01:08) Recording On The Move(03:21) Episode Roadmap And Pep Talk(06:11) Heartbreak Grief And Losing Roger(14:02) Self Doubt And Finding Home(21:14) Build A Life Proud Of(23:06) Sweet Voicemail And Self Doubt(26:20) Stop Negative Self Talk(28:13) Breakup Regret And Hope(33:58) Crisis Hotline Lessons And WrapSend Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at [email protected]. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Links & Resources:Farewell, Roger Substack postBay Area Women Against Rape (BAWAR)Dan Savage episodeUpcoming Summer Retreat - Love Camp. June 5 -7 at Kripalu Yoga Wellness Center in Western Massachusetts. Learn more and join: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-loveConnect with Shaun:Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedriveRead my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

Dan Savage is officially the first guest of The Love Drive relaunch and it's the perfect way to kick off the relaunch.Dan is a legend in the world of sex, love, and relationships. He is the host of the Savage Lovecast, the writer of the long-running Savage Love advice column, and someone whose work has shaped how many of us think and talk about sex.In this episode, Shaun shares the story of double texting Dan to beg him to be on the show, how he used to refer to himself as the ‘younger and straighter Dan Savage,” and gets into why he downloaded Grindr. They get into herpes stigma, Shaun’s personal experience, Dan’s GGG philosophy, polyamory, age-gap relationships, and the politics shaping modern dating. They also talk about why straight men are often judged more harshly for sexual curiosity, why erections do not always equal arousal, and Dan’s pushback on the Burned Haystack Dating Method.There is also a candid conversation about Shaun’s past work as an erotic masseur in San Francisco, along with detours into Heated Rivalry, sexual openness, and the campsite rule.This one is sexually explicit, very funny, and full of honesty.Timestamps:(00:42) Shaun introduces Dan Savage(04:12) Dan Savage joins The Love Drive(09:36) Herpes stigma and the truth about disclosure(15:54) Heated Rivalry and what straight people can learn(21:33) Why straight sex needs more honesty(25:05) Shaun’s erotic massage story(28:26) Sex work, loneliness, and human connection(33:38) Politics, masculinity, and modern dating(40:46) Burn the haystack or stay open to love(52:39) Why straight men are judged for curiosity(01:09:20) Age gaps, the campsite rule, and leaving people betterSend Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at [email protected]. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Links:https://savage.lovehttps://www.instagram.com/dansavage/Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-loveConnect with Shaun:Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedriveRead my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

I’m both very excited and a tad nervous about relaunching my old podcast, The Love Drive.Excited because I love having conversations about sex, love, and relationships with other experts, thought leaders, and everyday people. Hosting a podcast is great fun, by the way. And I still have so much to learn about the subject.And, nervous because a lot has happened over the past few years, and my confidence in many areas isn’t where it used to be. I’ve also felt a lot of grief since my father passed a few years ago, and I’m feeling more tender and vulnerable ever since. And yet, here we go.Here's a sneak peek of what you can expect this month. New episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays for the month of March. Thanks for being here, and enjoy!

The Love Drive podcast is back: a funny, no-nonsense podcast about sex, love, dating, and modern relationships - for hopeful romantics, love cynics, and everyone in between. Hosted by love coach Shaun Galanos.In this episode:• How this all started: A San Francisco taxi and real conversations about love. Check those out here. • What to expect: Raw, radically honest talks with guest experts, everyday names, and regular people, and solo Q&A episodes.• The vibe: Vulnerability, humor, curiosity, and healthy conversations about love, sex, and dating. Timestamps:(00:00) We're back, baby(02:27) What this show is really about(04:56) Raw truth, healthy masculinity, zero bro-nonsense(05:58) What you can expect(07:18) Call me: your voicemails fuel this show(08:50) Scared + stoked (both can be true)(11:42) Thank youAnd I’m over the moon to have author and sex advice columnist Dan Savage as our first guest. Join us this Thursday. Send me your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email me at  [email protected]. I prefer voicemails and voicememos, but texts/emails are OK too. To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. I love hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen. Relevant LinksRetreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedriveRead my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.comThe Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/Buy me a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

This is a final apology episode for ghosting you all, where you can find me, and a sneak peek of the first episode of my new project, Voicemails to Dad, where, you guessed it, I leave voicemails to my recently deceased father.  You can find my writing on substack here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/ You can find the Voicemail to Dad podcast here: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/podcast Again, thank you all for being here.  Love, Shaun 

Hey friend. Thanks for being here.  Here are the links I promised: Getting Your Needs Met Course: http://www.gettingyourneedsmet.com Trusting Love 2023 Retreat: http://www.trustinglove2023.com In Bloom Love And Relationship Summit In-person tickets: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/in-bloom-a-love-and-relationships-summit-presented-by-real-love-ready-tickets-434006423897?aff=ShaunGalanos Virtual tickets:https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/in-bloom-a-love-and-relationships-summit-presented-by-real-love-ready-tickets-434035199967?aff=ShaunGalanos And, that's it for now. Have a lovely week. 

Nora McInerny is an award-winning podcast host of ‘Terrible, Thanks For Asking,’ speaker, and author of several books, including her new book “Bad Vibes Only.”  Shaun and Nora discuss vulnerability porn, their relationship with social media, and how they feel about posting everything online. What you'll learn (or why you should care): Toxic positivity and “good vibes only” mentality How to love people we deeply disagree with How to accept that people’s lives are not as perfect as we think Where to find Nora Buy her new book “Bad Vibes Only” Listen to her podcast Nora on Instagram Nora's website   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub    Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://www.shaungalanos.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive 

Hey gang, here's a little update for you. ❤️   Application to be my social and course assistant: https://forms.gle/9DWxnXLJYBgazyFE7   Love Camp 2023: www.lovecamp2023.com

This episode guest is Vanessa Bennett, Codependency Expert and Holistic Psycho-Therapist and author of “It’s Not Me, It’s You”. Vanessa talks about what codependency is, if it’s always bad and how we can balance being dependent with another person without being “needy”. Shaun and Vanessa discuss how people have lost connection with their feelings, and offer examples for how to express feelings with someone who might not be comfortable with having such conversations.   What you'll learn (or why you should care): What to do if your partner is following hotties on IG What it’s like dating a therapist as a therapist Chemistry and attraction and their role in relationship building Where to find Vanessa Preorder her new book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” Vanessa on Instagram   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub    Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive