220: Tully O'Connor - Can we thrive in the glorious burden of fatherhood?

Award-winning filmmaker Ky Dickens is best known for her acclaimed documentaries that shift public policy and culture. She’s been hailed a storyteller at the intersection of film and complex social issues - demonstrated by receiving the Focus Award for Achievement in Directing and the Change Make Award for influencing social change through art and film. Ky’s fifth film, SHOW HER THE MONEY, featuring award-winning actors Elizabeth Banks and Sharon Gless, was ranked as one of the top financial films of the decade by US News and World Report and won three Jury Prizes for “Best Documentary,” including from the Los Angeles International Film Festival. Though Ky is primarily known for her work as a documentary filmmaker, she recently ventured into the world of audio storytelling with her latest project, The Telepathy Tapes podcast. The podcast investigates the widespread claims of telepathy within the nonspeaking community, raising broader questions about the consciousness and the potential of human beings. The podcast has been hailed as “groundbreaking” and “paradigm-shifting” and was recently ranked among the Top 5 podcasts on the planet. This podcast will be developed into a feature film in 2025. Her 2021 Film, #TimeToCare premiered at SXSW and then for the United State Congress. #TimeToCare goes behind the scenes with social influencers whose surreal caregiving journeys made them TikTok sensations. Her film ZERO WEEKS (Amazon), about America’s paid leave crisis, premiered its trailer at the White House Summit on the United State of Women, hosted by Oprah & Michelle Obama. Her 2019 film, THE CITY THAT SOLD AMERICA (Freestyle Releasing), is about Chicago’s crucial place in American consumer culture and modern advertising. The film is a sequel to Emmy-award-winning ART & COPY. Her groundbreaking film, SOLE SURVIVOR (CNN FILMS), profiled lone survivors of otherwise fatal plane crashes. From 2019-2021, Ky rolled out a series of award-winning short films about Americans dying of curable diseases due to the Medicaid Gap (CRITICAL CONDITION, ON THE EDGE & LEFT BEHIND). She just directed her first narrative film, IN THE JUNGLE, slated to be released in 2024. Collectively, her films have won more than 20 audience choice, best film, or best-directing awards. In addition to her feature film work, Ky directs commercials for some of the biggest brands in America. Her clients include Netflix, Google, Facebook, TikTok, and Johnson & Johnson.  She’s an active member of Film Fatales Los Angeles and a member of the Directors Guild of America. Having a brother on the spectrum, Ky’s been active in the special needs community her entire life, starting in high school, where she spearheaded the district’s inclusion program. She graduated with Magna Cum Laude honors from Vanderbilt University and lives in Los Angeles. Check out her podcast, The Telepathy Tapes, here: http://www.thetelepathytapes.com Donate and support her work here: http://spot.fund/fbxl4rsc _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here.⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter!  Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Nicola Clinch is a Master Maturation Facilitator and Teacher, Hay House author, and Shamanic Healer. She leads people from all over the world through profound life-changing processes, allowing them to heal from the root, become free of their past, and come home to who they truly are. A leading expert in the field of ontology, human behavior, the human condition, trauma, and energetic intelligence, Nicky is ruthlessly committed to being a space for human beings to evolve beyond their childhood patterns, traumas, and generational stories, in order to mature, access higher states of consciousness, and discover their infinite potential. She founded and leads The Alchemy of Being: Academy of Maturation Coaching and has trained hundreds of people globally to become professional maturation coaches. With her pioneering teachings and practices of the BodyMind Maturation Method™, she integrates ancient wisdom, Zen mastery, and the future of human evolution. In this chat, Nicky emphasizes the importance of becoming conscious of the design and structure of the human condition and recognizing the blind spots that color our perception of reality. The conversation also touches on the power of choice, the impact of our past on our present, and the ripple effect of personal transformation on relationships and communication, i.e., the purpose of relationships is for spiritual evolution, not to make each other happy. Check out her website: https://nickyclinch.com Follow her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch Follow her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation  Find her on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Letting Go 05:00 Describing Personal and Professional Background 08:08 The Power of Learning and Blaming 09:51 Being More Oneself and Returning to Authentic Essence 12:07 Mining for Diamonds: Uncovering Authentic Essence 15:42 Rewiring Neural Pathways and the Power of Choice 19:04 Being with Emotions and Dissolving Frozen Moments 21:36 The Confusion of Past and Present 24:56 Becoming Conscious and Aware of Human Design 30:04 The Impact of Blind Spots on Relationships 34:03 The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth 38:09 Taking Responsibility for Healing and Growth 38:58 Moving Beyond Blame and Drama 41:18 The Power of Boredom and Presence 45:33 Challenges of Personal Growth and Addiction to Survival Patterns 52:26 Finding the Doorway to Healing and Transformation Keywords: maturation, childhood trauma, human behavior, ontology, blind spots, perception, choice, past and present, relationships, communication, relationships, spiritual evolution, intimate mirrors, growth, blame, drama, responsibility, healing, boredom, creativity, self-evolution industry, mental health, collective perspective _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? ⁠⁠⁠Click here.⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter!  Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Dr Pamela Douglas is an Australian GP, researcher, author, and an international leader in caring for parents and babies, with a special interest in perinatal mental health and breastfeeding medicine. Over the past 20 years, Pam has published the evidence base to the programs known as Neuroprotective Developmental Care (NDC, or 'The Possums Programs'), translating the research into education programs offering a paradigm shift in the way we help families who face breastfeeding, baby sleep, and cry-fuss challenges. Her groundbreaking work is detailed in 30 international research publications and her best-selling book, The Discontented Little Baby Book. In this conversation, we discuss how to optimize infant development, parental well-being, and grow joy in early life. Pam emphasizes the importance of experimentation and frequent, flexible breastfeeding in the early days and also discusses the Gestalt method of fit and hold. In terms of sleep, Pam acknowledges the polarizing nature of the sleep training debate and highlights the need for individualized approaches to sleep based on the unique needs of the baby and family. We also discuss the importance of understanding the biological needs of babies when it comes to sleep, emphasizing that sleep distress in our society is often caused by societal and health system-induced beliefs and practices that are not evidence-based. Pam highlights the variability in babies' sleep needs and advocates for a more evolutionary and intuitive approach to parenting that focuses on meeting babies' sensory and motor needs. Check out her website: https://www.pameladouglas.com.au Learn more about Neuroprotective Developmental Care: https://www.pameladouglas.com.au/programs Learn more about the Possums Program: https://possumssleepprogram.com/   Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drpameladouglas Chapters 00:00  Context 07:21  Dr. Pamela Douglas' Background and Expertise 13:53  The Challenges of Research in Parenting 18:35  Understanding Neuroprotective Developmental Care 20:53  Experimentation and Finding What Works 24:48  The Gestalt Method of Fit and Hold in Breastfeeding 32:00 Preventing Sleep Distress 46:04 The Polarizing Topic of Sleep Training 50:01 Understanding the Biological Needs of Baby Sleep 54:20 Challenging Traditional Sleep Training Methods 1:01:32 Focusing on Sensory Motor Needs for Better Sleep 1:05:47 Dispelling Misconceptions About Baby Sleep 1:11:31 Following Intuition and Evidence-Based Strategies for Optimal Sleep 1:38:47 The Importance of Responsive Parenting 1:39:17 Navigating Infant Sleep Patterns 1:39:46 Creating a Safe Sleep Environment Keywords: Parenting industry, Neuroprotective Developmental Care, NDC, Possums Program, breastfeeding, sleeping, crying babies, fit and hold, frequent flexible feeds, letdown, milk ejection reflex, sleep training, baby sleep, sleep distress, evidence-based, biological needs, disruptors of sleep, burping, holding upright, nappy changes, wrapping, swaddling, evolutionary parenting, sensory and motor needs _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Tully O'Connor is a coach who supports people in cultivating confident leadership and thriving family units and relationships. He is where healing work meets high-performance living, guiding people into a life filled with more freedom, fulfillment, and connection. In this conversation, we discuss the challenges and obstacles that men face when becoming fathers, including the struggle to connect with the baby and the shift in intimacy within the relationship. Tully emphasizes the importance of embracing the burden of fatherhood and finding ways to thrive amidst the challenges by suggesting we redefine freedom and find moments of joy and presence in everyday life. Communication and compassion between partners are also highlighted as essential for navigating the changes and resentments that may arise.  We also discuss the need for mutual appreciation to create a buffer for frustration and the importance of building a support network outside of the relationship and prioritizing self-care. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, flexibility, and self-care in navigating the challenges of parenthood. Check out his website: https://www.tullyoconnor.com Follow his Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tullyoconnor Get his free relationship masterclass: https://www.tullyoconnor.com/4pillars Read his Substack: https://liberatinglove.substack.com/p/invitations-for-you-from-tully-oconnor Listen to his Thriving in Fatherhood podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/thriving-in-fatherhood/id1553734482 Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background06:37 Exploring Fatherhood and Thriving10:24 From Burden to Thriving in Fatherhood15:05 Redefining Freedom in Fatherhood18:03 The Power of Playfulness and Presence24:09 Common Issues in Fatherhood36:24 The Power of Appreciation and Acknowledgement44:09 Navigating Intimacy and Connection47:01 Managing Capacity and Negotiating Responsibilities52:39 Preserving Individual Hobbies and Interests59:32 The Importance of Mutual Support and Community Keywords: fatherhood, challenges, obstacles, connection, intimacy, burden, thriving, freedom, presence, communication, compassion, relationship, emotions, appreciation, validation, resentment, frustration, support network, self-care, hobbies, communication, flexibility, parenthood _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Dr. Lyndsey Hookway is a pediatric nurse, researcher, author, lactation consultant, and advocate for gentle parenting practices. Lyndsey believes that sleep is an art and a science influenced by various factors such as relationships, stress, and social interaction. She challenges the cultural trend of actively managing sleep through non-responsive approaches like cry-it-out methods, emphasizing the importance of communication and responsiveness in parenting. The amount of sleep a newborn needs can vary greatly, from 8 to 18 hours a day, so it is important for parents to understand their baby's individual sleep needs and cues. Lyndsey encourages parents to focus on the present relationship with their child and make informed choices. Check out her website: https://lyndseyhookway.com Follow her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyndsey_hookway Follow her Twitter: https://x.com/FeedSleepBond Check out her resources: https://lyndseyhookway.com/downloadable-resources Read her book, Holisitic Sleep Coaching: https://lyndseyhookway.com/product/holistic-sleep-coaching-signed-copy Read her book, Let's Talk About Your New Family's Sleep: https://lyndseyhookway.com/product/lets-talk-about-your-new-familys-sleep Keywords: Pediatric nursing, lactation consultant, gentle parenting, sleep, art and science of sleep, non-responsive sleep training, cry-it-out method, communication, responsiveness, parenting, sleep training, newborns, sleep needs, genetics, upbringing, temperament, sleep studies, sample exclusion, safety, sleep pressure, tiredness, dysregulation, responsive sleep, non-responsive sleep Chapters00:00  Introduction and Dr. Hookway's Background06:01  The Art and Science of Holistic Sleep12:54  Challenging Non-Responsive Sleep Training20:09  The Importance of Parental Choice in Sleep27:19  Prioritizing the Parent-Child Relationship for Sleep35:28  The Limitations of Sleep Training Studies36:59  Understanding Individual Sleep Needs41:20  The Drawbacks of Prescriptive Wake Window Charts44:10  The Importance of a Responsive Approach to Sleep51:36  Creating a Supportive Sleep Environment56:05  Dysregulation: A Key Factor in Overtiredness1:00:56  Exploring Gentle Parenting Practices1:01:50  The Benefits and Challenges of Breastfeeding1:02:19  Emotional Connection and Attachment in Parenting _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

In this bonus conversation, Whapio Diane Bartlett, a birth expert with over 40 years of experience, joins my partner, Kendra Adachi, and me to discuss our upcoming birthing experience. Whapio discusses the need for deeply connected women who can provide support and reassurance without interfering in the birthing process. She also highlights the shift towards women and families wanting their own birth experience and the desire for mentoring rather than management. The conversation explores the importance of honoring the natural process of birth and the role of the father as an advocate and supporter. It underscores the sacredness and wisdom of the birthing experience and the need to trust the body's instincts, touching on the emotional challenges and doubts that arise during pregnancy. Overall, this chat provides reassurance, wisdom, and guidance for our upcoming birth and initiation into parenthood. Whapio has been an independent midwife and educator since 1985. In 2001, she founded The Matrona, an online portal providing entry-level holistic education for midwives, doulas, and birth attendants. The focus and curriculum are centered on melding the intuitive with the academic and the mystical with the intelligent. Check out her website, The Matrona: ⁠https://www.thematrona.com⁠ The Illuminated Wise Woman: ⁠https://www.thematrona.com/the-illuminated-wise-woman⁠ The Holistic Doula Program: ⁠https://www.thematrona.com/holistic-doula-program⁠ Follow Whapio on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/whapio_and_thematrona Chapters 0:00 The Matrona: The Presence of Reassurance and Support in Birth 7:14 The Shift in Birth Culture: Seeking Sovereignty 11:56 The Importance of a Supportive Birth Team 24:18 Birth as an Altered State: Trust and Reassurance 38:04 Honoring the Transformative Experience of Birth 39:17 The Father's Role as the Perfect Intimate Advocate 43:49 Trusting Your Instincts and Embracing the Quietude 59:51 Waiting to Push: The Significance of Feeling the Baby's Head Keywords: birth, consciousness, support, reassurance, mentoring, trust, instincts, partner's role, creation of family, birth, natural birth, intervention, sacredness, wisdom, father's role, advocate, instincts, doubts, overwhelm, emotional purge, quietude phase _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Whapio Diane Bartlett has been an independent midwife and educator since 1985. In 2001, she founded The Matrona, an online portal providing entry-level holistic education for midwives, doulas, and birth attendants. The focus and curriculum are centered on melding the intuitive with the academic and the mystical with the intelligent. In this conversation, Whapio shares her perspective on birthing and the changes she has seen over the years, emphasizing the importance of mentoring rather than managing women during birth, the shift towards women and families making their own choices, tapping into instinctual responses, and building trust. Whapio also discusses the stages of birth, from the foothills to the portal, and the importance of creating a supportive environment for women during labor, including the need to trust the body's instincts and the role of fathers as support persons during birth. Check out her website, The Matrona: https://www.thematrona.com The Illuminated Wise Woman: https://www.thematrona.com/the-illuminated-wise-woman The Holistic Doula Program: https://www.thematrona.com/holistic-doula-program Follow Whapio on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whapio_and_thematrona Keywords: midwifery, birthing, mentoring, quantum birthing, altered state, instinct, trust, stages of birth, supportive environment, labor, transition phase, act of will, trust the body, support person, fathers, holding the charge, protecting the baby, quantum midwifery Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Whapio and her Approach to Birthing 02:58 The Shift from Managing to Mentoring Women During Birth 06:15 Embracing a Quantum Perspective on Birthing 11:22 Guiding Women into an Altered State During Birth 18:37 Understanding the Stages of Birth 25:11 The Veil as the Threshold of the Portal 30:23 Creating a Supportive Environment for Women During Labor 31:50 Supporting Women in the Transition Phase of Labor 43:02 The Power of Making an Act of Will in Labor 43:32 The Role of Fathers as Support Persons 48:28 Holding the Charge: Fathers' Responsibility in Birth 59:05 Protecting the Baby: Fathers' Role in Baby Care 01:01:26 Exploring Quantum Midwifery _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Dr. Emma Svanberg has worked with parents and families for over 20 years. She qualified as a Clinical Psychologist in 2009 and specializes in the perinatal period - the time around pregnancy, birth, and the early years of parenthood. She has a particular interest in attachment, trauma, and the intergenerational roots of our problems. Emma founded The Psychology Co-operative in 2019 (then The Psychology Collective) and co-founded Make Birth Better CIC in 2018, working to reduce the impact of birth trauma on families. Read her book, Parenting for Humans: How to Parent the Child You Have, As the Person You Are, here: ⁠⁠https://amzn.to/3SQn1a3⁠ Check out her website: ⁠https://dremmasvanberg.com⁠ Follow her Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/mumologist⁠ Subscribe to her Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@emmasvanberg⁠ Keywords: parenting, uncertainty, disruption, self-reflection, emotional connection, communication, collaboration, training, support, community, support, reassurance, village, community, parenting, memories, childhood, generational cycles Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Parenting Disruptor 05:47 Disrupting Mainstream Narratives 12:25 Embracing Uncertainty in Parenting 16:15 The Need for Training and Support 20:33 Building a Community of Support 26:42 Honoring Individuality in Parenting 31:17 Seeking Support and Building a Community 35:15 Parenting as a Journey of Self-Discovery and Personal Growth 38:21 Allowing Children to Be Themselves 45:13 Bending the Cycle of Generational Patterns 49:19 Compassion for Ourselves and Our Parents 57:34 Introduction to Dr. Emma Spanberg and 'Parenting for Humans' 58:33 Building a Compassionate Collective in Parenting Takeaways Parenting is a journey of uncertainty and constant change, and parents need to embrace this uncertainty and navigate it with grace and compassion. Mainstream parenting narratives often create narrow expectations and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and frustration. It is important to disrupt these narratives and find parenting approaches that align with individual values and circumstances. Open communication and collaboration between partners are crucial in parenting. It is important to have conversations about expectations, roles, and values before a baby's arrival to avoid conflicts and resentment. Western cultures lack adequate training and support for parents, leading to feelings of isolation and overwhelm. Building a community-based approach to parenting can provide the necessary support and guidance for new parents. Babies are highly sensitive to their caregivers' emotional states, and tuning into their needs and emotions can create a strong and nurturing parent-child bond. New parents need support and reassurance from a community or village-like network. Seeking support and validation from others is important to counteract the narrative that parents should cope independently. Breaking generational cycles is a process that involves bending the cycle rather than completely breaking it. _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Mia Dyson is a multiple ARIA-nominated and award-winning artist from Melbourne. Her powerful grit, gravel voice, and guitar-playing prowess have earned her a spot among the top 25 Australian guitarists of all time. She's released six critically acclaimed albums and toured the world with the likes of Stevie Nicks, Bonnie Raitt, and Eric Clapton. Just a brief heads up: this conversation delves into the philosophical and existential aspects of life, death, and the pursuit of meaning. We also cover Mia Dyson's career as a musician, her near-death experience during an earthquake, and the impact of that experience on her outlook on life, her shift in ambition, pursuit of success, the nature of purpose, and the significance of relationships. Oh, and Mia shares her insights on the creative process, being free from external validation, and the joy of following the muse. It's a big chat! Mia also discusses her new album 'Tender Heart' and the creative process behind it, sharing insights about embracing uncertainty, separating the art from the artist, and the impact of her music on listeners. Here's her website: https://www.miadyson.com Listen to her on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5QSZl73T85ZpZGAHSDIED6?si=7jgN_AVMQuS5qx06PLWjDg Mia's new song, Dare: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fl-leJwhQlg Shop her merchandise and buy her albums: https://sound-merch.com.au/collections/mia-dyson Watch When the Moment Comes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKFNx6go0SE Learn more about Vipassana meditation: https://www.dhamma.org Keywords: music, creativity, near-death experience, purpose, ambition, success, relationships, existentialism, philosophy, Mia Dyson, Tender Heart, creative process, uncertainty, art, artist, pacemaker Chapters 00:00 Reconnecting and Reflecting on the Past 08:17 The Near-Death Experience and Its Aftermath 38:11 The Creative Process and Freedom from External Validation 44:00 Embracing Uncertainty in Creativity 48:24 Separating Art from the Artist 49:28 The Impact of Music on Listeners 1:12:04 Technological Advancements in Medical Devices _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support

Zoë Bossiere (they/she) is a writer from Tucson, Arizona. They are the managing editor of Brevity: A Journal of Concise Literary Nonfiction. as well as the co-editor of two anthologies: ⁠The Best of Brevity⁠ (Rose Metal Press, 2020) and ⁠The Lyric Essay as Resistance: Truth from the Margins⁠ (Wayne State UP, 2023). Bossiere's debut, ⁠Cactus Country: A Boyhood Memoir⁠ (Abrams Books, 2024), chronicles their experiences growing up as a trans boy in a Tucson, Arizona trailer park. The conversation delves into their childhood, gender exploration, and the challenges of pregnancy as a non-binary individual. Zoë's skepticism and resilience in navigating societal norms and healthcare experiences are highlighted. We also discuss the significance of embracing one's past and identity, the impact of their book on readers, the challenges faced by trans individuals, and the importance of storytelling and representation. Zoë also addresses the issue of book bans and the value of diverse literature in libraries. Keywords: gender identity, parenthood, pregnancy, non-binary, skepticism, societal norms, healthcare experiences, identity, gender, trans, storytelling, representation, book bans, diversity, libraries Takeaways: Zoë's journey of gender exploration and identity is a deeply personal and evolving experience. The challenges of pregnancy as a non-binary individual highlight the need for inclusive and supportive healthcare practices. Skepticism and resilience play a significant role in navigating societal norms embracing one's past and identity is essential for self-acceptance and confidence. The challenges trans individuals face, including the impact of legislative actions and the importance of representation, are significant. Storytelling and diverse literature are crucial in providing visibility and understanding for marginalized communities. The issue of book bans in libraries highlights the need for access to diverse literature and the impact of censorship on readers. Chapters 02:57 - Exploring Gender Fluidity and Parenthood 05:59 - The Impact of Parenthood on Personal Identity 08:55 - Summary of Zoë's Memoir: Cactus Country 13:03 - Navigating Puberty and Identity Exploration 35:48 - Embracing Identity and Past Experiences 53:25 - The Value of Diverse Literature in Libraries⁠⁠⁠ _______________________________________ Want to work with Jeremy? Click here to learn more about life coaching: ⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/11-coaching⁠⁠ Follow Jeremy on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Sign up for Jeremy's weekly newsletter! Each week, he shares a personal story and his favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of Jeremy's favorite books here, including HIS BOOK, and many his guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of Jeremy's favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/support