TLP513: The Leadership Cost of Isolation with Nick Black

Murshed Chowdhury is the founder of Tech Duels, a communication and training platform redefining how individuals and organizations develop critical thinking and decision-making skills through structured debate. Murshed believes debate is one of the most underused leadership development tools available today. Not because it teaches people how to win arguments, but because it teaches them how to truly think, listen intently, and openly engage with ideas they disagree with. In this conversation, he explains why structured debate builds communication skills faster than most traditional training programs, how competition can strengthen learning without turning every discussion into a fight, and why live interaction is becoming more valuable as AI makes information increasingly accessible. He also shares why the future belongs to people who can combine technology with strong human judgment. Whether you're leading a team, developing talent, or navigating disagreement, this conversation makes a compelling case for why communication remains a distinctly human advantage. Find episode 515 on The Leadership Podcast, on YouTube, channel @theleadershippodcast, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Murshed Chowdhury on Why Structured Debate Is a Leadership Superpower https://bit.ly/TLP-515 Key Moments [03:43] Why Murshed built Tech Duels after seeing brilliant engineers fail due to poor communication [06:51] Why structure and competition matter more than traditional training approaches [08:08] Why emotional intelligence and social IQ are the real competitive edge [09:56] How AI is reshaping the challenge [12:04] The downside of leaning too heavily on AI tools [14:33] How competitive format teaches people to listen, ask questions, and reach understanding instead of winning [17:26] The 'holy wars' problem: How to get tech leaders unstuck from their chosen platforms [20:42] The Veterans Technology Conference: Connecting military talent to tech careers [22:32] Reinvention at any age: The core skills that let people pivot careers [27:20] Helping people who process slowly [30:16] Murshad's take on AI uncertainty Memorable Quotes "Networking is not predicated on your personality. It's a set of skills. If you can learn it, you can be an expert." "Public speaking is the number one fear in the United States above death." "You judge a person by their question, not by their answers." — Voltaire "With AI and deepfakes coming, live events, interaction, understanding, emotional intelligence, social IQ—that's going to be really important moving forward." "Critical thinking skills are something you need in every facet of life, personally and professionally." "Half of our conflicts come down to one side not hearing what the other side was trying to say." "You have two ears and one mouth. Listen twice as much as you speak." "There's some really cool stuff on the other side. If you just listen to the other side, you'll be shocked at how much alignment there might be." "Core skill sets like discipline, ambition, eagerness, curiosity, and the willingness to learn—these let you reinvent yourself at any age." "The time thing is supposed to give you guardrails so you don't talk endlessly. But when you have structured thinking, even two or three minutes is plenty of time." "People are listening to you, they're speaking to you. If you can really own that, you can do amazing things." "We're all learning AI as we go. Stay curious, keep learning, and focus on what you can control right now." "It is better to debate a question without settling it than to settle a question without debating it." - Joseph Joubert Explore the full archive at www.theleadershippodcast.com or wherever you get your podcasts! Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Murshed Chowdhury Website | www.techduels.com Murshed Chowdhury LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/murshedchowdhury

Karen Doll is a licensed psychologist, author of "Building Psychological Fitness: How High Performers Achieve with Ease," a partner at Psynet Group and chairs the Flourishing at Work initiative under Harvard's Flourishing Program. Most leaders know how to push through stress. Far fewer know how to recover from it. Karen argues that the difference matters more than most people realize. In this conversation, she explains why psychological fitness is not a personality trait but a trainable skill. She breaks down the difference between the stress that helps you grow and the stress that slowly wears you down, why resilience is more about recharging than enduring, and what leaders can do to support mental health at work without trying to become therapists. For leaders who feel constantly on, stretched thin, or responsible for the wellbeing of their teams, this episode offers a practical framework for building resilience that lasts. Find episode 514 on The Leadership Podcast, on YouTube, channel @theleadershippodcast, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | https://youtu.be/S54CwTMZY0Q https://bit.ly/TLP-514 Key Moments [03:33] What separates psychologically fit leaders from those who struggle [05:37] Why mental strength is trainable and what that actually looks like [08:19] Top-down vs. bottom-up strategies for managing stress and the mental health continuum [13:22] Shared accountability: what leaders owe their teams on mental health [15:23] The victim mindset problem and what leaders can do about it [21:00] Why there's no magic test that predicts leadership success [24:48] The two biggest derailers Karen sees in executive assessment [28:12] The sweet spot between healthy ambition and burnout [31:45] Why clarity on your values is the shortcut nobody takes [33:23] Why the victim mindset is the silent career killer [35:54] When Karen's own psychological fitness was tested and what changed [39:34] Closing thoughts: the one thing every leader can do starting today Memorable Quotes "Resilience is about recharging. It isn't about powering through." "Between the stimulus and the response, there is a space. In that space lies our power to choose." "Defensiveness is the one thing I will not give feedback on. You tell someone they're defensive and they defend themselves. It's a dead end." "The goalpost keeps moving — and people are left feeling it's never enough. That is unnecessary distress." "Those that can spend the time recovering tend to struggle less." "Having social support and a multi-dimensional life — that's probably number one in terms of buffers against stress." "We do all have some agency in how we manage our mental health and how we move towards flourishing." "When something upsets us, sometimes that thinking pattern is not serving us and it's not necessarily factual." "If you move the body, it can settle the mind." "Leaders don't need to be their team's therapist." "Being a victim or having a victim mindset is not going to work out well for anybody — and that's never going to be good for mental health." "Self care is selfish — that was the core belief I had to break." "Small acts of kindness for people who are struggling — think of what a difference that can make. And that's accessible to all of us." "Just being a little more intentional — it doesn't cost anything. It doesn't need budget." "Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal. Nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude." — Thomas Jefferson Explore the full archive at www.theleadershippodcast.com or wherever you get your podcasts! These are the books mentioned in this episode Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Karen Doll Website | https://psynetgroup.com/ LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/learning/improving-your-mental-health-at-work Karen Doll LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/karendecesaredoll

Nick Black is the founder and CEO of GoodUnited, a former Army officer, co-founder of Stop Soldier Suicide, a Presidential Leadership Scholar, and a UNC Distinguished Alumnus. Nick focuses on a cost most leaders refuse to calculate: isolation. What happens to your people when no one is checking on them? After deploying 27 months in combat with the 173rd Airborne, Nick watched one of his soldiers survive war and then lose his life weeks after returning home. That experience reshaped how he thinks about leadership, connection, and responsibility. In this conversation, Nick explains why isolation is the common thread behind many of the losses he has seen, both in combat units and inside organizations, and why the peer group surrounding people is not a culture perk but a lifeline. He also shares what it took to carry mission driven urgency from the battlefield into the nonprofit world and then into a scaling company. For leaders who want to protect their people and not just manage them, this episode offers a more honest standard for what leadership actually requires and what it costs when it is missing. Find episode 513 on The Leadership Podcast, on YouTube, channel @theleadershippodcast, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Nick Black on The Leadership Cost of Isolation https://bit.ly/TLP-513 Key Moments [05:43] How 9/11 changed everything for Nick [10:54] The moment that led to Stop Soldier Suicide [15:01] What every leader needs to know about mental health [16:34] The balance between reflection and dangerous isolation [19:27] Leading people vs. taking care of people [20:49] The biggest leadership lesson learned outside the military [22:43] Bringing military training discipline into business [24:04] Why onboarding is where most companies fail [26:15] What "taking the hard road" actually looks like on a resume [27:14] Why offensive linemen make better leaders [29:07] How a lifetime of service shapes who you become [32:35] Closing thoughts on leadership and mental health Memorable Quotes "When in doubt, lead the way. That has yet to steer me wrong." "Isolation is your enemy. Never allow yourself to sit in a room with your thoughts." "Give that friend a call — your strongest friend, your quietest friend. Let them know you're still in their corner." "I have no idea what to do, but I seemingly have a PhD in what not to do." "Mission first, people always — and the only way you get the mission is through your people." "Find ten people that can do the work of a hundred." "You don't need to go be an Army Ranger. Show me how you got out of your comfort zone, took something on, and didn't quit. It could be anything." "Go find your passion and then go serve it." "If you can't laugh at yourself, you're not being honest with yourself — and I don't think many people are going to follow you." "The secret is not to give up hope. It's very hard not to, because if you're really doing something worthwhile, I think you'll be pushed to the brink of hopelessness before you come through the other side." — George Lucas Explore the full archive at www.theleadershippodcast.com or wherever you get your podcasts! Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Good United Website | goodunited.io Nick Black LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/nick-black-7658ab37

Kevin Rice is the former co-founder and president of Hathaway, a digital consultancy acquired by Bounteous in 2021. He is now an angel investor at Theorem One Capital and host of the CEOs and ABCs podcast. Kevin focuses on a gap most leaders don't want to look at. The difference between who you are at work and who you are at home. At work, the metrics are clear. You perform, you grow, you win. At home, none of that works. The scoreboard is different, and most leaders realize that too late. He describes how years of operating in "CEO mode" made him effective in business but distant in the one place it mattered most. The same habits that drove results at work were quietly breaking connections at home. Kevin explains why the real currency at home is not revenue or growth, but connection, and why one hour of full presence beats a full day of being half there. He also shares what it looked like to lead a company while raising young kids on his own and the moment he could no longer ignore the gap. For leaders who are winning professionally but feel something slipping personally, this episode puts language to the cost and makes it clear what it takes to close that gap. Find episode 511 on The Leadership Podcast, on YouTube, channel @theleadershippodcast, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Kevin Rice on Winning at Work, Losing at Home https://bit.ly/TLP-512 Key Moments [03:39] Kevin describes his early leadership style as "a bull in a china shop" — all forward motion, little humanity. Parenting taught him that accountability and dignity are not opposites. [06:25] Jan introduces the Hippocratic framing: leaders should first do no harm. Kevin's version: have enough gas in the tank when you come home. For 13 years, his family got the scraps. [09:37] Kevin's crucible — single father, global pandemic, 100+ hires, pending acquisition — all at once. His coping mechanism was robot mode: high performance, zero feeling. When the deal closed, he felt nothing. [14:26] Kevin says one hour of full presence beats eight hours of distracted availability. Kids only live in the present moment — and they know when you're not there. [17:18] Kevin believes AI's real gift to leaders is buying back time. The question is what you do with that time once you have it. [22:54] Kevin's message to the next generation: don't wait for a breaking point. As Tony Robbins says, success without fulfillment is failure. Structure your life before the crisis forces you to. [28:59] Kevin did the inner work after the exit — therapy, journaling, parenting coaching. That's what reconnected him to joy, not the money. [32:34] The oxygen mask principle applies at home too. You can't lead your family from empty. Sleep, exercise, breath work, meditation — these aren't luxuries. They're the foundation. [34:49] And remember… "Family is not an important thing. It's everything." — Michael J. Fox Memorable Quotes "Career is your passion. Your kids are your purpose. Don't confuse the two." "One hour of full presence is worth more than eight hours of distracted availability." "Success without fulfillment is failure." "I was physically there, but mentally rehearsing the next meeting. I thought I'd cracked the code. I was just losing my kids." "The victory was hollow — and that's when I knew everything needed to change." "The currency at home is connection. It's not sales, revenue, or EBITDA." "You can't get those moments back. You can't pay that back in arrears." "80% of the time you spend with your kids is before they leave the house." "It's hard to be good at work if things aren't good at home — and vice versa." Explore the full archive at www.theleadershippodcast.com or wherever you get your podcasts! Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Kevin Rice Website | www.ceosandabcs.com/ Kevin Rice YouTube | www.youtube.com/@CEOsandABCs Kevin Rice LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/kmrice Instagram | www.instagram.com/kevinrice_ceosandabcs

What happens when you spend 10 years interviewing some of the world's top leaders? After 500 interviews with CEOs, generals, founders, bestselling authors, athletes, and elite performers, Jim Vaselopulos and Jan Rutherford discovered a surprising pattern. The most successful leaders were NOT the most polished, they were the most self-aware, adaptable, and relentlessly committed to growth. In this special milestone episode of The Leadership Podcast, Jim and Jan pull back the curtain on a decade of conversations with world-class leaders and reveal the biggest lessons, myths, failures, sacrifices, and leadership truths that emerged across 500 episodes. Topics discussed The leadership myth they are glad to have challenged Why great leaders rarely have a "perfect" career path The dangerous difference between style and substance The hidden sacrifices behind elite success Why adaptability matters more than efficiency Guests who completely changed their thinking How leadership has evolved in the age of AI Why "leaders are learners" became one of the defining themes of the show The one leadership question they still haven't fully answered after 500 episodes This is more than a reflection on podcasting, it's a masterclass built from 10 years of conversations with some of the world's most accomplished leaders. Whether you lead a company, a team, a family, or simply yourself, this episode will challenge how you think about growth, influence, success, and leadership. Watch this Episode on YouTube | Jim and Jan on What 500 Top Leaders Taught Us — And Why It's Not What You Think Find episode 511 on The Leadership Podcast, on YouTube, channel @theleadershippodcast, or wherever you get your podcasts! Key Moments [00:00] The brutal truth 500 leaders revealed [05:11] Did they ever think they'd reach 500 episodes? [10:10] Guests who left them speechless [13:58] Conversations that changed their minds [18:05] The biggest leadership myth they busted [23:10] When the podcast became more than interviews [32:32] How the podcast changed them as leaders [35:25] The 5 episodes every leader should hear [41:23] The leadership question they still can't answer Memorable Quotes "You can't hit the ball if you don't go to the plate." "The market will tell you what it values and it isn't always what it should." "Adaptability must accompany efficiency, or you will not survive." "Behind every great leader is a great support system." "Sell the problem, not the solution." "If you want to be great at something, you are going to have to make sacrifices. There is no hack. There is no shortcut." "You don't get any dumber talking to smart people." "Leadership is not a destination. It is a state you have to manage and it never ends." "Don't judge a book by its cover. Hold your assumptions lightly." "Self-reliant leaders, at the end of the day, make others better." "Be interested. Care about people. Be nice. You can have a huge influence on other people's lives and it really is that simple." Explore the full archive at www.theleadershippodcast.com or wherever you get your podcasts! Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Jan Rutherford LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/janrutherford Jan Rutherford X | @JanRutherford Jim Vaselopulos LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/jimvaselopulos Jim Vaselopulos X | @jim_va

Maria Brinck is the Founder & President of Zynergy International and author of "The Leadership We Need: A New Mindset for a Brighter Future." In this episode, Maria argues that the leadership crisis most organizations face isn't a skills gap — it's a flawed model. The qualities we've long rewarded in leaders — confidence, decisiveness, and control — were effective in a different era. But in today's environment, those same traits can actually become liabilities. She challenges leaders to examine what they have never been asked to question: the unconscious bias shaping who gets selected, who gets developed, and whose voice gets heard. She also makes the case that the most important thing a leader can unlearn is the need to have all the answers, because that single habit is what keeps collaboration from ever becoming real. If you have ever wondered why your organization keeps producing the same results no matter how much it changes, this episode is worth your time. Find episode 510 on The Leadership Podcast, on YouTube, channel @theleadershippodcast, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Maria Brinck on Why Your Organization Keeps Getting the Same Results (No Matter What You Change) https://bit.ly/TLP-510 Key Takeaways [03:36] Maria says the fastest path from command-and-control to collaboration is genuinely knowing your people's strengths and values. [05:54] Maria draws a line between happiness and meaning. [09:24] Maria describes leaving a pharmaceutical career where she was in the top 2% nationally. The titles and money were real. The meaning was not. [12:06] Maria names the blind spot most leaders never examine. A deeply ingrained bias toward traits that once protected a tribe but now limit an organization. [14:31] Maria says our bias toward alpha, hyper-masculine leaders isn't a choice — it's an evolutionary hangover that no longer serves us. [18:09] Maria connects human leadership patterns to what she observed in Cameroon. The species that chose collaboration survived peacefully. The one that chose dominance did not. [23:07] Maria names the one thing most leaders need to unlearn. [25:21] Maria introduces the open 360. It measures behaviors like trust and psychological safety over time and ties them directly to performance reviews. [30:29] Maria on the internal voice that signals something needs to change. Everyone has it. Most people have been trained to ignore it. [33:33] Maria offers one starting question for anyone who wants to create rather than find their purpose. When do you feel most alive? [36:07] And remember... "Our problems are mainly a consequence of a lack of holistic understanding of the man-made system in which we are entwined." — Helena Norberg-Hodge Quotable Quotes "Purpose doesn't show up under a rock that someone else put there. You have to create it." "No one is as smart as all of us." "We want one thing, and we need a very different thing. We need to evolve." "Creating purpose now empowers you. You empower your inner author." "Finding purpose versus creating purpose. That is the difference." "In nature, no one exists alone." "Our poly crisis reality is a direct consequence of the monopoly we have seen in leadership." These are the books mentioned in this episode Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Maria Brinck Website | www.mariabrinck.com Maria Brinck LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/mariabrinck Maria Brinck Medium article Aug 21st, 2025 | https://medium.com/authority-magazine/the-new-portrait-of-leadership-maria-brinck-of-zynergy-international-on-which-legacy-ideas-about-bca18c3bea89 Maria Brinck Forbes article Oct 23rd, 2025 | https://www.forbes.com/sites/nelldebevoise/2025/10/23/the-leadership-we-need-why-knowing-all-the-answers-is-costing-us-88-trillion/

Dr. Bill Kline is a professor of business ethics and the Executive Director of the Academy on Capitalism. He argues that capitalism and ethics aren't separate conversations. They're the same system. Without ethics, there are no property rights, no enforceable contracts, and no functioning markets. Strip that away and you don't get capitalism. You get chaos with a price tag. In this conversation, Bill discusses the difference between socialism's ideals and capitalism's outcomes. He also breaks down what leaders must do to rebuild trust with younger workers, and why one simple question keeps getting ignored: Do we actually understand what capitalism is? If your organization is struggling to articulate why business and markets matter or you're watching younger talent disengage from the mission, this episode gives you a clearer way to think about what's really at stake. Find episode 509 on The Leadership Podcast, YouTube @theleadershippodcast, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Dr. Bill Kline on Capitalism Without Ethics Is Just Chaos https://bit.ly/TLP-509 Key Takeaways [01:59] Bill shares he studied Austrian economics at Grove City, speaks Hungarian, and plays Bob Dylan at open mic nights. [02:04] Bill explains the Academy on Capitalism exists because universities are hostile to capitalism and students are paying the price. [04:59] Bill traces anti-capitalism sentiment in universities back decades, but argues the tone became more politically aggressive around the early 2000s. [07:32] Bill argues capitalism cannot exist without ethics, property rights and enforceable contracts are not optional, they are the foundation. [09:03] Bill reveals how his thinking shifted: he now decouples free market conversations from welfare state debates entirely to open more ears. [12:40] Bill explains why people always compare socialism's ideals to capitalism's realities. We know every flaw of the system we live in, and none of the others. [18:51] Bill says leaders cannot badmouth capitalism and expect anyone to believe in it. Optimism about markets is a leadership responsibility. [20:53] Bill pushes back on the single-answer approach to propose different companies, different missions, and markets thrive on that multiplicity. [23:54] Bill describes the campus atmosphere where faculty whisper support for capitalism and why ideological stridency creates intellectual silence. [27:23] Bill outlines what's lost when students comply instead of engaging in anger, cynicism, and eroding respect for the institutions that protect freedom. [30:12] Bill asks the one question leaders avoid — do we actually know what capitalism is — and argues humility is the starting point for any honest conversation. [32:03] And remember…"I was guilty of judging capitalism by its operations and socialism by its hopes and aspirations, capitalism by its works and socialism by its literature." Sydney Hook Quotable Quotes "Capitalism does not exist without ethics." "You can't badmouth the system and then expect anybody else to like it." "It's not just to have and be a person of integrity — it's to explain why, so that people can see it." "Have fun with ideas — because as soon as you stop having fun with them, everything gets grumpy and awful." "To have markets, period, you have to have ethics." "If you want a better company culture, if you want people who work towards productivity, then some kind of positive stance towards capitalism is incumbent on leaders." "Maybe we should learn more about what this thing really is — rather than just assuming from the get-go and now it's just proving we're right about it." "The people who don't agree stay out — so you end up with an echo chamber, and that tends to become a very stable equilibrium." "Simply because you don't agree with my economic system doesn't say anything about me as a person." Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Dr. Bill Kline Website | www.academyoncapitalism.org Dr. Bill Kline YouTube | www.youtube.com/@TheAcademyonCapitalismTV Dr. Bill Kline LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/williamekline

Matt Cavanaugh is a retired U.S. Army Lieutenant Colonel, PhD, former Army Athlete of the Year, and author of "Best Scar Wins: How You Can Be More Than You Were Before." Leaders often treat failures, setbacks, and scars as liabilities to hide. Matt Cavanaugh argues the opposite — that the scars you've earned, physical and emotional are the most honest measure of growth you have. The question isn't how to avoid them. It's how to use them. In this conversation, Matt reframes what a scar really is: not a mark of defeat, but evidence of where you've grown. He explains why the outcomes of any serious effort are never just win or lose — they're win, learn, or die — and why leaders who avoid failure miss the chance to build real judgment. He also makes the case that the strongest motivation isn't personal ambition, but a mission that serves something bigger than yourself. For any leader who's been knocked flat by a failed plan, a difficult season, or a decision they regret — this episode reframes what those moments are actually worth. Find episode 508 on The Leadership Podcast, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Matt Cavanaugh on Your Scars Are Your Resume https://bit.ly/TLP-508 Key Takeaways [04:37] Matt describes a scar as proof you've healed and grown. He sees scars as what connect us. It's the one thing every human shares. [10:24] Matt explains that urgency comes from scale and proximity. When the threat is close, you act right away. He learned this in the Namib Desert with a pack much heavier than the others. [14:58] Matt says leaders need skin in the game. You need one signal you can actually feel. Start by observing and understanding before you act. [16:47] Matt breaks it into two modes. The war of the knife and the war of the map. One is emotional. The other is strategic. Good leaders know when to step back. [22:07] Matt reframes kidney donation as something gained. Not something lost. He found purpose in it. And the real gift was being useful to someone else. [29:11] Matt believes endurance matters more than courage. Courage is short. Endurance stays. Most missions are lost first in the leader's mind. [32:41] Matt shares that kidney donors often show higher empathy. But endurance is something anyone can build. Leaders can grow their capacity over time. [34:41] Matt talks about the pushback at home. His wife was against the decision. He weighed the risks and trained hard. Walking away was not an option for him. [39:18] Matt says find a real mission with real stakes. Do it with others and for others. That's how you create scars that matter. [41:01] And remember..."Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek." - Mario Andretti Quotable Quotes "A scar is the spot where you've grown more than others." "It's not win, lose, or draw. It's win, learn, or die." "There's nothing you can't do if you're doing it with and for others." "More often than not, holding on a little bit longer turns out right." "Make good scars. You'll never regret it. The rest is just Netflix on Tuesday." "Urgency lives at the intersection of scale and proximity of threat." "When danger is close, you act in the moment." "Courage is momentary. Endurance is what carries you." These are the books mentioned in this episode Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Matt Cavanaugh Website | mlcavanaugh.com Matt Cavanaugh X | @cavanaughforco Matt Cavanaugh Facebook | www.facebook.com/mlcavanaugh1 Matt Cavanaugh Instagram | @cavanaughforco

Patrick Leddin is an army veteran, entrepreneur, and NYT and WSJ Bestselling Author. He is the co-author, with James Patterson, of "Disrupt Everything—and Win: Take Control of Your Future." Most leaders treat disruption as something to survive. Patrick argues that's exactly the wrong frame. The gap between leaders who thrive in uncertainty and those who get buried by it isn't talent or timing — it's mindset. And that can be learned. In this conversation, Patrick explains why disruption doesn't always mean blowing things up. Sometimes it means doubling down when everyone else pivots. He breaks down the five roles people play in change and shares a practical way to assess the odds before you commit. For any leader feeling overwhelmed by the pace of change, this episode offers a more honest and more useful way to think about what's actually in front of you. Find episode 507 on The Leadership Podcast, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Patrick Leddin on Disrupt or Be Buried: The Mindset That Changes Everything https://bit.ly/TLP-507 Key Takeaways [02:08] Patrick reveals he failed out of junior college before the Army changed everything. [03:50] Patrick explains how a COVID-era Vanderbilt crisis leadership course — and a guest lecture from James Patterson — planted the seed for the book. [08:06] Patrick reframes disruption as opportunity, not threat — and why hitting pause before reacting is the move most leaders skip. [12:50] Patrick shares the KPMG story where saying "just get me to lunch" turned into a $12 million project. [15:29] Jan asks Patrick which of the book's five roles he was playing in that moment — Trailblazer, then Torchbearer as the team grew. [16:35] Jim asks Patrick how timing plays a role in disruption and whether being too early kills commercial success. [19:31] Patrick walks through the back-of-envelope math he used with Vanderbilt's Chancellor to turn a 15% shot at co-authoring with Patterson into a 50% one. [25:08] Patrick outlines how to tell the difference between fear that signals danger and discomfort that signals growth. [28:51] Patrick confirms that everyone is wired for disruption — and offers the single smallest first step to prove it. [34:14] Patrick challenges every listener to identify one relationship that's gone sideways and disrupt it — for good. [36:08] And remember…"The reason why it is so difficult for existing firms to capitalize on disruptive innovations is that their processes and their business model that make them good at the existing business actually make them bad at competing for disruption." - Clayton M. Christensen Quotable Quotes "A disruption is anything that causes you to pause and consider — knocks you out of your normal routine." "Sometimes you disrupt something by choosing to double down on what you're already committed to — even when everyone else says go the other way." "We say disrupt everything. We don't say change everything." "Anybody who tells you they know where AI is going to be next year is either lying or just foolish." "The status quo is deceptive. Things aren't going to stay that way. But that's okay — because you're wired to handle it." "Sometimes you gotta bet on yourself. Sometimes you gotta step back and do some math." "You won't make any shots you don't take." "Don't wait until after the meeting to tell your friend the vibe is wrong. Say it in the room." "We live in a sea of relationships — and relationships shouldn't just be transactional." These are the books mentioned in this episode Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Patrick Leddin Website | patrickleddin.com Patrick Leddin Podcast | patrickleddin.com/podcast Patrick Leddin LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/patrickleddin Patrick Leddin Instagram | @patrickleddin

Steve Cadigan is a global talent strategist, author of "Workquake: Embracing the Aftershocks of COVID-19 to Create a Better Model of Working," and LinkedIn's founding Chief HR Officer. Steve believes the world of work is going through a "workquake" — a fundamental shift that's breaking the old employer-employee contract. At the core of it is a false premise: the idea of long-term loyalty that neither side can reliably keep. In this conversation, Steve explains why many of the world's most successful companies have surprisingly short employee tenure, why the workforce isn't disloyal but loyal to growth, and why leaders should focus less on retention and more on creating meaningful development while people are with them. For leaders navigating turnover and rapid change, this episode offers a more honest way to think about talent and what it actually takes to build teams that perform. Find episode 506 on The Leadership Podcast, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts! Watch this Episode on YouTube | Steve Cadigan on Retention Is Dead: The Workquake Reshaping Talent https://bit.ly/TLP-506 Key Takeaways [03:40] Steve defines a workquake as any shift so fundamental it renders the existing architecture of work obsolete. [04:46] Steve argues that most employer-employee relationships begin on a false premise — and that dishonesty is where the breakdown starts. [06:42] Steve reframes retention: instead of demanding loyalty, commit to making the employee's time with you the most growth-oriented chapter of their career. [09:12] Steve uses Chick-fil-A as a model for honest talent strategy — celebrating alumni, not just retaining them. [17:42] Steve explains how LinkedIn turned its recruiting struggle into a competitive advantage by aligning the employee experience with the product promise. [26:26] Steve warns that over-indexing on experience and ignoring transferable talent is one of the most costly mistakes leaders make today. [30:36] Steve makes the case that learning must be designed into work itself — not treated as a perk or a line item that gets cut first. [33:53] Steve challenges leaders to ask honestly which companies today are actually building for 100 years — and why so few are. [38:14] Steve argues that AI is being misused as a cost-cutting tool when its real power is making people more capable, not replacing them. [41:13] Steve leaves leaders with one directive: stop waiting for a benchmark that doesn't exist — and be willing to become one. [42:58] And remember..."Nonetheless, the only place success comes before work is in the dictionary." - Vince Lombardi. Quotable Quotes "If you want people here because they want to be here, you're running a company. If you don't, you're running a prison." "The workforce is incredibly loyal — just not to you. They're loyal to growth." "If your talent strategy is not changing as fast as the outside world, your employee relationship is near its end." "If the outside world is changing faster than the inside, the end is near." "You can't have a job today that takes someone five years to figure out." "We have so over-indexed on experience and so overlooked talent." "There is no benchmarking for this moment — you're going to have to be the benchmark." "People want to be on teams that are going somewhere." These are the books mentioned in this episode Resources Mentioned The Leadership Podcast | theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by | www.darley.com Rafti Advisors. LLC | www.raftiadvisors.com Self-Reliant Leadership. LLC | selfreliantleadership.com Steve Cadigan X | @SteveCadigan Steve Cadigan Facebook | www.facebook.com/thestevecadigan Steve Cadigan LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/cadigan Steve Cadigan Instagram | @stevecad