Season 2, Episode 18: The Boundaries of Trust with Kaitlyn McCarty

In this final episode of the season, Karrie Garcia reflects on the journey of the HonestPod, emphasizing the importance of taking time for self-reflection and healing. She discusses the complexities of grief and trauma, highlighting that healing is not a linear process. Karrie encourages listeners to engage in experiential learning as a means to foster healing and personal growth. She also shares insights on the significance of honesty in the healing journey and looks ahead to the next season's focus on biblically-sound, spirit-filled, trauma-informed practices.Karrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

The Boundaries of Trust with Kaitlyn McCartyDo you find yourself trusting too easily? Do you have a hard time trusting anyone? In Episode 19, Karrie and Kaitlyn McCarty reveal that even though they found themselves at opposite ends of the trust spectrum, they both longed for the same thing; an inner circle where they could be vulnerable and loved as their true self. Kaitlyn, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Freedom Movement Facilitator, shares her insight on practical ways to begin to create an inner circle of trust, as well as set boundaries for people outside of that inner circle. Kaitlyn reflects on how she often found herself working hard to feel loved by people and to make herself “fit” into systems. She believed her open vulnerability could build safe spaces for everyone and that it would allow her to control the outcome of a relationship. Something changed when Kaitlyn found herself fighting a system she could not allow herself to fit into and it led her on a journey to finding a true inner circle. It required her to put boundaries in place for herself and redefined what it meant to trust as a more whole and integrated person.Kaitlyn is also the creator of Peace Practices, a four-week journey designed to help you explore the rhythms of your body and emotions. Through a blend of education, spiritual truth, and somatic practices, you’ll learn how your nervous system works, how God designed your body, and how to honor your emotions without needing to “fix” them. Learn more about Peace Practices here: https://www.wearefm.org/offers/azjSLCUF/checkout Schedule a session with Kaitlyn here: https://www.wearefm.org/KaitlynKarrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

Rebuilding Trust: The Gateway Between Fear and FaithFaith is a key component of living fully free. But what if our faith has wavered in the aftermath of pain or betrayal? How do we get to a place of trusting when our brain senses danger? In Episode 17, Karrie explains the biological and spiritual reasons that betrayal and pain in our story affect our ability to trust.  The brain has systems in place that exist to keep us safe. When we are hurt, the brain creates pathways that will remind us of that specific danger. When trust is broken over and over again, our threat systems are on high alert constantly. This hyper-vigilance becomes disruptive to daily life and our ability to thrive is taken away.  How do we rewire the brain to begin to trust? Through the process of healing the wounds in our story, we can begin to find goodness. When we have grieved and repented, we see more clearly the ways we can trust God, self and others. Karrie explains that the rebuilding of trust takes time and she encourages listeners to find consistent, safe spaces where we can share vulnerably.  Reflection:Where in your story did trust first break?How has your body learned to distrust?Can you name one act of trust today?Karrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

What Is Your Calling? with Tori HeinTori Hein rejoins Karrie in Episode 16 to continue the discussion of restoration leading to calling. Tori shares that her definition of calling has shifted as she experiences deeper levels of healing within her own story. What she had thought was her calling was actually a use of her gifts to chase productivity and success. Raised in the church community, Tori had to untangle what Jesus asks of us from what the world demands from us. What she found through the process of story work and her personal connection with God, was that her unique gifts were going to be used to steward instead of providing a service. In addition to being the Director of Marketing and Strategy for Freedom Movement and Freedom Coach, Tori is also the creator and author of Work from Worth, a twelve week online mentorship program for women who desire to heal the dysfunctional behavior patterns in their lives to approach their work with secured  worth  and wholeness. To learn more about Work From Worth visit: https://www.wearefm.org/work-from-worthTo schedule a coaching session with Tori visit:https://www.wearefm.org/toriKarrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

Restoration Is Coupled With Our “Go”“I am working hard at healing my story but where is it leading me?” Karrie explains in Episode 15, that healing work brings us to our place of “go”. When we have allowed ourselves to experience the steps of healing and truly process our story, our calling begins to be revealed.Karrie shares how her story shaped her calling: connecting people to God, self and others so that they may experience freedom from wounds that keep them bound. The vehicle through which she shares her calling is Freedom Movement. Karrie explains that your calling can be lived out in any job you hold. What is the difference between gifting and calling? This episode is full of examples of gifting vs calling and Karrie points to scripture with the story of Paul. Paul’s gifts of communication, leadership and conviction are revealed early on; however, when he meets Jesus his true calling is revealed and the vehicle he uses changes. Reflection:What makes me come alive? Where do I say “I don’t want anyone to experience _________?”Karrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

In Episode 14, guest Abby Call, Freedom Movement Coach and Facilitator, shares with us her struggle to forgive and how she overcame it.Karrie and Abby discuss how the act of forgiveness carries a lot of weight in the Christian community. If the ultimate goal is just to forgive those who have hurt us, what happens when we can’t? The inability to will ourselves to forgive ends up bringing us more shame and feelings of not being faithful enough. Abby reveals a candid look into her journey through Freedom Academy and how old wounds were sometimes messy to deal with. What is it like to sit in anger and rage, and also try to forgive at the same time? Abby shares that Freedom Academy allowed her to put forgiveness in its place. Abby was given the space she needed to walk through the steps of healing and then come to forgiveness as a more authentic release.To learn more about Abby or to schedule a coaching session:https://www.wearefm.org/abbyKarrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

The Release That HealsWhat does it mean to truly forgive? In Episode 13, Karrie walks us through the act of forgiveness and reveals God's plan for bringing freedom to us through this often  misunderstood step in healing. We learn that forgiveness is not a quick transaction. When we offer forgiveness to others we aren’t erasing the wrongs they have done to us. And when others forgive us, the pain we’ve caused isn’t magically forgotten. True forgiveness is part of a longer process of healing. A total heart transformation that comes through the steps of naming, grieving, repenting and finding gratitude, and from that process flows a supernatural forgiveness from within us and re-anchors us to God. It is in the deepening of our relationship with God that we begin to know and feel His love for us and His forgiveness for us, and in turn we become free to forgive others. Karrie explains true forgiveness breaks the ongoing power that an action had over us and brings to light our own sinful acts so that we can now begin to see with a more compassionate perspective. Karrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

Growing Goodness and Gratitude From Within - with Tanya GodseyKarrie welcomes Freedom Movement Director of Spiritual Formation, writer and artist, Tanya Godsey to continue the discussion of goodness and gratitude. Tanya shares some of her personal journey with grief and how her relationship with God was key to her regaining hope during a time of despair. Tanya explains that we have a choice of how deeply we step into our relationship with God and our commitment to that relationship is the foundation for cultivating goodness and gratitude. Tanya gives practical advice for how to continue to keep goodness growing and a few questions to ask yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed by the world we live in. -Is my time and attention moving further from God? -Am I feeling an unhealthy longing or hyper-vigilance about having more information? -Where am I being too easily tempted to fall into unhealthy patterns?Tanya and Karrie end the episode with two simple things anyone can do to begin building intimacy with God and ultimately bring goodness and gratitude to the heart:Set aside 10 minutes of stillnessIf you had ten minutes with God what would you want to tell him? Befriending God by Tanya Godseyhttps://a.co/d/9bCtj0ZTo learn more about Tanya visit https://tanyagodsey.com/homeTanya’s music can be found on Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/artist/4h3MTNgpLd9G3Yly2HJtnO?si=eRG3Ka-qQvKQ8X4wId8JmwKarrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsey

Goodness and Gratitude “There is something about supernatural gratitude, where you have been met in the depths of your story and your heart, and His love has held you, and someone else’s face stayed with you…. It creates something within you that you aren’t able to do on your own.” -Karrie GarciaKarrie explores the topic of goodness and gratitude in Episode 11 of the Honest Pod. Do we misuse gratitude when we bypass pain and go straight to the good? Why is gratitude such an integral part of restoring shalom? Karrie reminds us that true gratitude is the fruit of an honest conversation. When our story has been met with love, from God and others, and we are welcomed instead of dismissed, we are more clearly able to see goodness and hope. To help illustrate what this looks like, Karrie shares a personal story of finding goodness during a difficult time. It was though the process of moving through the steps of shalom restored that Karrie was able to look back and find gratitude. Once we are able to move toward gratitude, Karrie reminds us of all the ways we are healed from within. Benefits of GratitudeReleases dopamine and serotoninRegulates nervous systemDecreases symptoms of depression and anxietyBrings contentment Cultivates empathy Creates capacity to forgiveKarrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsay

Have you ever told yourself, I will never again show my sadness? Have you ever told yourself, I will never again allow myself to be vulnerable? Our guest this week uncovers the areas that we define as “never again” are also the areas we are invited to “turn around”. The Honest Pod is honored to have Adam Young join us on Episode 10 as he and Karrie continue the discussion of repentance. The Greek definition of repentance is “to change one’s mind” or “to turn around and go in another direction”. Adam and Karrie discuss the despair that it often takes for a person to reach a point of “turning around”. They both share instances of being exposed in their own grief and longing which then ultimately led them to repentance. How do we begin the process of repenting once we have acknowledged the grief of our story? Adam suggests first notice your body. Look at those areas where you feel dysregulated during the course of the day. And next, be kind and curious about the events that led to that feeling in your body. What was happening? What was my body reacting to? By starting to engage in those feelings we find the areas that need attention and eventually repentance. This redirection can feel really risky and unsettling, but Adam reminds us that the gift of repentance is that we get to rest in God by becoming more of who we were meant to be, and we begin to let go of the “never again” we were bound to. Make Sense of Your Story by Adam Younghttps://a.co/d/5Z2g2EvTo learn more about Adam Young visit:https://adamyoungcounseling.comKarrie's Instagram: @karriescottgarciaKarrie’s Website: karriegarcia.comFreedom Movement Instagram: @freedom_movementFreedom Movement Website: wearefm.orgSign up for Freedom Movement Trainings: https://www.wearefm.org/trainingsFind Story Work Retreat info & sign-ups:https://www.karriegarcia.com/work-with-karriePurchase Karrie's book Free & Fully Alive!https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310366445?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_A6200T1AKD7FS2PZ8VA1Book Karrie for Speaking Engagements:https://www.karriegarcia.com/book-karrie Music by Tanya Godsay