Checking in two years later

On a whim, we decided to think out loud together about how our eightness is showing up after two years of living out some of the things we learned on our Enneagram journey. In some ways we’re not who we were. In other ways, we’ll never change.

These two highlight how well 8s and 3s can team up in a leadership/work environment.

8s IN RELATIONSHIP ● We've heard you all have a lot of trouble with 2s. This is an example of how awesome they can be in friendship. They are the soft landing we rarely get.

8s IN RELATIONSHIP ● We found a 1 we like!!!! Kate's mom, Jan, talks about raising an 8 and why she often felt like she lost every battle. But, she also shares that her 8 daughter was/is her greatest encouragement as well.

8s IN RELATIONSHIP ● Jo's little sister is a type 9, and she's SO grateful for that. Jo always knew what to do, and said so. Katie (type 9): "I kinda like being told what to do." Enough said right there.

8s IN RELATIONSHIP ● Jo lost her very best 8-friend when her mom died seven years ago, but now she's gained a handful of 8 bestfriends/siblings through this community. Thomas (from episode #30) has become an extra brother to Jo at this point. Hear why it's a natural fit to do life with other (healthy) 8s.

8s IN RELATIONSHIP ● Friends Eryn (with a y) and Erin (with an i) reflect on the high energy, high joy relationship they share, and how the safe and gentle "push" of an 8 helped a hurting 7 stop to take care of her tattered wings.

8s IN RELATIONSHIP ● Lifelong friends Eryn and Julia firm up her type, and then chat about the ways both Eryn and Julia's type-8 husband compliment and contrast with Julia's 6ness.

8s IN RELATIONSHIPS ● This one's for you 8 parents out there trying to raise a 5 kiddo and feeling like the more you try to move towards them the less accessible they become. This episode will teach you what not to do when raising a type 5. But it'll also encourage you that, in the end, our 5s would choose us every time. They love sheltering under our wing, so to speak, and riding off our powerful up-draft. Meanwhile, our 5s make us better thinkers and wiser decision makers.

I guarantee you've had this happen to you. You're having a nice chat with someone and suddenly they learn you are an enneagram 8 and they exclaim in surprise "No way! I never would have guessed." And you're left wondering what they think an 8 even is, because you're just being you. This season, maybe we'll find out. In this episode, we take an educated guess as to what each type thinks we 8s get right and what we get wrong.